How to Take Care of Yourself and Stop Pleasing Others

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Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher

Do you find yourself caught up in other people’s energy without
noticing it?

All of a sudden you are talking so much your food is not being chewed
properly for a happy landing in your stomach. Drinking too much when
with friends create self-destructive behavior. Spending too much money
makes you weak and insecure. How much energy are you wasting on things
that do not feed or nourish you?

Unfortunately, it is effortless to go along with the crowd. It is
easy to get caught up in other people’s energy without being aware
you have left your authentic self behind. Automatically pleasing
others is how you were probably conditioned to be as a child. You
could also be pleasing your own Inner Critic so much that you do not
even recognize your true self when she shows up. Your emotional self
could be hiding in the closet, eager to come out and play if you
would only love her and set her free.

The reality of resonating with one’s environment explains the reason
dictators excite the crowds with their energy so much people get
caught up in the furor of their irrational energy. The Law of
Resonate is universal and applies to The Emperor without Clothes. The
Emperor is alive due to his energetic use of propaganda and your
inability to be true to yourself. The crowd goes along with the lies
and insanity without checking in with their heart.

STOP. Take a breath. Feel your body. Move out of automatic knee jerk
reactions.

Stop being pulled into the energy of others. Their energy could be
irrational. To be a self-confident person you need to check in with
what you feel or think every minute of the day. With AI now making it
even more difficult to know the truth, you need to get skillful at
stopping your defensive reactions to anything in your world. If you
don’t, you become an automaton. Democracy only works if people are
true to their hearts and souls.

If you are easily lead astray, you are being controlled by others. If
humans don’t get a strong movement going toward sanity and truth, Mother
Earth will have no reason to keep us alive. Get grounded, stay close
to Mother Earth and be true to your self.

Seek integrity at all costs.

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 into a stronger relationship with your body so you relax into
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and stay grounded. When you are grounded, you cannot be
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 Breathing and body exercises strengthen your ability to
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 conditioned responses from your nervous system so you relax
and 
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503 S. 21 St.
Philadelphia, PA 19146
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215-732-6197

Mentor and author of Opening the Heart

How to Stop Judging Yourself and Others for Better Mental Health

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Care and Change.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com
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Here is an excellent holistic psychology question I got this week
from a client. She asks, “How do I stop hating myself— as in judging
myself —when I make a mess and so many mistakes over and over again.
I can’t stand it.”

This client is learning how to be responsible for all her behaviors,
thoughts and feelings without being mean to herself. Being
responsible for yourself without judging yourself is what I call the
“First Trick in Transformation.” When you master this, you move to
the wonderful place on planet earth beyond judgment. This is the
place the poet Rumi loved to write about.

When my client makes a mess, she apologizes and thinks that is all
she has to do. However, the messes continue and add up over time
because she is not learning how to be a more responsible person with
the people in her life. She is still avoiding, instead of owning and
facing her mess. You know you are still being defensive if you cannot
admit and talk about the mistakes you make with ease again and again
over time. No buttons or triggers will be there when you are
emotionally secure.

Like most people in the world, my client does not want to be
responsible because if she admits she made a mess, her Inner Critic
beats her to death, just like the flagellation that was used for
punishment by the Romans. In 2023, you may not be physically
punishing yourself but you sure are beating yourself up creating as
much emotional and physical pain as if you were!

Sometimes, my client wants to kill herself to escape this pain. The
racing, mean, nasty thoughts hitting her emotional self makes her
want to run away and hide. If these thoughts are often enough,
terrible enough, people do kill themselves, as the brilliant author
Virginia Woolf did by putting rocks in her pockets and walking into
the Ouse river behind her home.

Therefore, learning how to stand up to your Inner Critic is essential
for personal growth. The lower brain needs to unlearn this nasty behavior
from the Middle Ages of attacking ourselves when we make a mess.
Making a mess and making mistakes are part of the natural process of
transformation that occurs when we self-actualize and become our true
selves.

When you make a mess you must clean it up. If you are not making a
mess, then you are not becoming a better person, you are stuck in
your ego. This means you want to make a mess, be responsible for your
mess, be compassionate toward yourself and stop making the same mess
over and over again. In other words, CHANGE YOUR BEHAVIOR! Anxiety is
usually the reason you make a mess in the fist place, so learn to
reduce your anxiety, be responsible and make better choices.

The fastest way I know to be successful learning how to stop whipping
yourself, is to FEEL how much you are hurting your little girl when you
attack her and make her bad and wrong. Feeling solves the problem for
me. Once I feel how much I am hurting myself or someone else, I
immediately want to stop being insensitive, mean or heartless.

My open heart cares and quickly stops the abuse. If you know of a
faster way to do this, please share it with me and our readers.
Caring is the result of opening your heart and solar plexus. Open
your heart to help yourself and humanity move forward.

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OPEN YOUR SOLAR PLEXUS: Learn to tell the difference between your
true self and ego in the first hour of the Opening the Heart audio
series called “Feelings: The challenge of our species.” Practice
sensing your colorful vibrations as you receive guidance on how to
recognize your rigid ego energy. You are empowered as soon as you
accept your true self. Three hours of audio on feelings, fear and hurt,
recorded in a sound studio so my voice delivers healing, calming
vibrations to resonate with over and over again for better mental
health. $97.00, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/emotionalhealthaudio.html

The three-hour Opening the Heart audio is included in the home study
course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally. Ten written lessons guide you
into a stronger relationship with your body so you relax into your skin
and stay grounded. When you are grounded, you cannot be anxious.
Breathing and body exercises strengthen your ability to remove
conditioned responses from your nervous system so you relax and
feel more self-confident. $197.00, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/anxietyonlinecourse.html

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Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.
503 S. 21 St.
Philadelphia, PA 19146
http://www.drjeanette.com
215-732-6197

Mentor and author of Opening the Heart

How to Tell the Difference Between The Truth and A Lie?

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Look Inward for Answers.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
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A client who was conditioned to please others was having a hard time
paying attention to her own needs and desires. As a result, this
mother of three suffered from extreme anxiety and insecurity.
Unfortunately, her schoolteacher mother successfully taught her to
look to her mother, schools, books and experts for answers.

Early on, she learned to distrust herself and looked outward for all
her answers. She learned to become insecure and unsure of her own
inner knowings so successfully that she acted dumb around others and
they believed she was dumb and labeled her such. Psychologists and
teachers sometimes do great harm to our self-esteem.

The first time I met this mother of three I knew she was not dumb, it was
easy to sense her smarts. I also could feel her wonderful heart, full of love.
Take note dear ones of what you have learned that is not true about you. Take
three deep breaths and reset your truth barometer so you can tell the
truths from the lies. You can learn to feel the huge difference between
a lie and the truth. There are lots of false beliefs outside of you. You may
have learned to believe some of them about yourself and others.

In the last session I had with my smart and loving client, she
started to ask me questions at the end of the session. I had to
remind her that I did not have her answers. She pressured me and I
said, “NO ONE HAS YOUR ANSWERS! THERE ARE NO ANSWERS! THIS IS
THE BIG JOKE ON HUMANS. THERE ARE NO ANSWERS! Anyone who acts
like they have THE ANWER does not live in reality. No one has our answers.
Sometimes, we don’t even have our own answers because there are no
answers.”

She “got it’ and told me to write about “no answers” in The Vibrant
Moment, so I did. All power is within. All answers are within. Look
inward and connect with Mother Earth and the Cosmos for the vibration
of truth.

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FEEL THE DIFFERENCE: Learn to feel the energy difference between a
lie and the truth by trusting your senses and paying attention to the
biofeedback from your physical body. The first half hour of the
three-hour Opening the Heart audio teaches you how to feel the
difference between out of control energy, controlled energy and
healthy flowing energy. Reading energy is an essential skill that
empowers you so you quickly become more secure and self-confident.
The first hour audio is “Feelings. The challenge of our species.”
Order all three hours of Opening the Heart for $97.00. Or order
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How to Open Your Heart and Follow Your Bliss

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Be Present.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
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Do you know the difference between your super responsible ego energy
that is dictated by the “shoulds” your brain insists you must do AND
the glow of warmth living in your heart that calls out to you to
follow and express?

Many people have the belief that when they grow up they must be
responsible by being polite, good and right. This kind of
responsibility is heavy on your shoulders and does not lead to
vibrant moments. Ego energy is flat, heavy, rigid and makes you
anxious and insecure.

Even though my clients learn that it is their ego that makes them
anxious, they are afraid of letting go of their Perfect Selves. They
are sure they will be out of control and do the wrong thing if they
relax and stop taking care of others. Are you afraid of letting go of
control? Do you think you need your super responsible ego energy to
make you do the right thing?

If you want to experience freedom, joy and vibrant moments, you need
to challenge this false belief everyday. Even though I know my
defensive ego, Dr. Tight-ass, is what makes me unhappy, anxious and
helpless, I sometimes get fooled by her loud, bully voice in my head.
Every morning when I wake up I explore what is in my consciousness.
Shifting out of any ego energy hanging around me into my real
feelings immediately improves the knot in my stomach.

In the real, physical world you can trust your heart. Your heart is
tender, loving and kind. Its energy is like the sun, it radiates
energy outward and makes you strong, secure and sturdy. Your heart is
amazingly wise because it is connected to your body, Mother Earth and
the Cosmos. When you follow your heart, it leads you to freedom, joy
and a responsibility that is far more effective than that of your
ego.

Your heart does not blame, like your brain. When you follow your ego
you blame yourself and others. When you follow your heart you are
responsible for what you are experiencing. Compassion pours out of
you toward people and things. You do not deliver harsh judgments to
yourself or others. You stand in the batter’s box and show up —no
matter what.

With an open heart, you live in reality, instead of your thoughts
about reality. What this means is that you are aware of your body,
earth and cosmos as real energies that you interact with. When you
are in your thoughts, beliefs and ego, your body awareness is absent.
Use your body awareness was a reliable test to know if your ego is
present or not!

With an open heart and body awareness you accept and adjust to what
exists. You do not have expectations of how things should be. You
dive into your unconscious and come up with yucky stuff to transform.
No matter what society judges you about, the amount of
self-confidence you gain from living with an open heart is profoundly
comforting.

The bottomline is that the more you avoid letting go of your
controlling ego, the more you experience helplessness, anxiety and
victimhood. So, step up to the plate and get ready to hit the ball.
It does not matter if you hit a home run or strike out, either is
just fine. You did your best. Whatever you do is good enough when
your heart is in charge.

Love yourself as you are right now in this moment. Reap the rewards
of being physically strong, relaxed and self-confident by putting
your heart in charge. The next time you feel down in the dumps, let
go of your defensive ego energy and see what happens. Email me your
results. I love to get feedback about your explorations of becoming
more self-aware.

FIND YOUR INNER STRENGTHS: Learn to tell the difference between your
true self and ego in the first hour of the Opening the Heart audio
series called “Feelings: The challenge of our species.” Practice
sensing your colorful vibrations as you receive guidance on how to
recognize your blaming ego energy. You are empowered as soon as you
accept yourself. Three hours of audio on feelings, fear and hurt,
recorded in a sound studio so my voice delivers healing, calming
vibrations to resonate with over and over again for better holistic
health. $97.00, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/emotionalhealthaudio.html

The three-hour Opening the Heart audio is included in the home study
course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally. Ten written lessons guide you
into a stronger relationship with your body so you can relax into it
and stay grounded. When you are grounded, you cannot be anxious.
Breathing and body exercises strengthen your ability to remove
conditioned responses from your nervous system so you can relax and
be self-confident. $197.00, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/anxietyonlinecourse.html

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colleagues. It comes to you from Dr. Doris Jeanette, with over
forty-five years of experience teaching people how to read and use
energy to unlock and use their human potential. Sign up at:
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Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.

Mentor and author of Opening the Heart
503 S. 21 St.
Philadelphia, PA 19146
http://www.drjeanette.com

How to Stop Addictive Behaviors

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Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
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After studying the psychological dynamics causing addictive behavior
since 1976, I suspect that the root cause has been found. If you want
to lose weight, stop impulsive buying, no longer need legal or
illegal drugs, the solution is to have more fun. Yes, it appears that
people become addicted to “treating” themselves to unhealthy
behaviors because they are not allowing themselves to experience
enough pleasure in everyday life.

Wow, isn’t that wonderful? How delightful it is to give yourself
permission to add more genuine fun and pleasure to each day so that
you do not need to sneak your fun and pleasure in the back door. When
you feel deprived because your Inner Critic is making you wrong for
not working all the time, you become addicted to unhealthy things,
like food, drugs and gambling. Sex addiction would also be included
because sex addicts do not really enjoy the fantastic pleasure that
true lovemaking gives your whole body and soul.

So, my dear readers, please make sure you give yourself enough fun
and pleasure each day. Your emotional self needs fun; your body needs
pleasure. Create a holistic healthy practice each morning before you
get out of bed. Check in with what your emotional self and body need
to make you happy and satisfied.

If you do not have a loving relationship with your emotional self,
the Opening the Heart audio series is an effective guide. If you do
not have a loving relationship with your body, the Overcome Anxiety
Naturally home study course guides you into a physical reality that
reduces anxiety and depression.

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STAND UP TO YOUR INNER CRITIC: Learn to listen to your emotional self
with the first hour of the Opening the Heart audio series called “Feelings.
The challenge of our species.” Practice sensing your true colorful
vibrations as you receive guidance on how to recognize your Inner Critic
energy. This knowledge is also very helpful in getting along with
other people. Three hours of audio on feelings, fear and hurt. Recorded
in a sound studio so my voice has healing, calming vibrations to resonate
with over and over again for better holistic health. $97.00, money-back
guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/emotionalhealthaudio.html

The three-hour Opening the Heart audio is included in the home study
course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally. Ten written lessons guide you
into a stronger relationship with your body. Breathing and body
exercises strengthen your ability to remove conditioned responses so
you are assertive. $199.00, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/anxietyonlinecourse.html

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unlock and use their human potential. Sign up at:
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Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.
503 S. 21 St.
Philadelphia, PA 19146
http://www.drjeanette.com
215-732-6197

Mentor and author of Opening the Heart

How to Use Your Body for Feedback about Reality and Denial

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Your Body Knows.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
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A friend was telling me about her experience with diarrhea and
stomach problems so severe she rushed to the emergency room. The
physicians used all their tests, looking for medical problems and
could not find anything. I asked, “Was it anxiety?” She looked me
straight in the face and said, “But I am not anxious.”

I have been thinking a lot about denial. What is it really and how
can we tell when we are denying something really important that
we need to know. Sigmund Freud, first described “denial as refusing
to acknowledge upsetting facts about external events and internal
ones, including memories, thoughts, and feelings.”

It always amazes me when I discover that I have been denying something.
How could I be so unaware of what my body is saying? Diarrhea is a loud
message.

The more I ponder and explore denial it seems to me that some of us
deny facts that are pleasant and enjoyable as well as upsetting ones.
If this is correct, we use denial to keep ourselves feeling bad,
helpless and victimized by life events. Wow, that victim mentality
can really creep up on you.

The next time someone says something to you that you think is not
true, pause. You could be denying something that you need to know to
stop hurting yourself. Or you could be denying how wonderful your
life really is! After the pause, breathe and feel your body. Receive
the obvious information in your body that would help you feel better,
stronger and happier.

Listen carefully, deeply and often to what your body is expressing.
The body does not lie; it tells you the truth if you are willing to
listen to it.

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NEED HELP LISTENING? “3 Reasons You Have a Body, Hear Your Body
Talking” audio gives you the valuable information you need to get
closer to your truth so denial does not continue to hurt you. Your
body is a marvel. Improve your relationship to it by listening and
loving it. One-hour audio, $29.97, money-back guarantee.

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Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.
503 S. 21 St.
Philadelphia, PA 19146
215-732-6197

How to Open Your Heart and Let Love in

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Receive Love.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher

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Love energy exists outside of you in many forms. Consider the
possibility that you are actively blocking this sweet nectar so it
does not penetrate your heart. How much love do you allow into your
heart? Probably not nearly as much as you could. Could it be that
your ego is stopping you from receiving love?

One of my large social networks is a center city, Philadelphia
outdoor olympic size pool club where I have been a member since 1980.
Being half a block from my home, I go and come all day long. I enjoy
coffee in the morning, a swim in the afternoon and dinner looking out
over the cityscape. Due to the pandemic, The Lombard Swim Club was
not able to open last year.

Five hundred of us own the club and it is a heart-warming story of
how the community saved this precious outdoor space from being
developed into townhouses. As we cautiously gather this year, my
socks keep getting knocked off at how much love energy is coming
toward me. I feel like a bag of bones, withered and weak. Like I have
aged a decade. Curiously, the comments from others do not match my
perception. As I creeped across the pool deck yesterday with lower
back pain, a new member that I do not even know said, “You look
fantastic!” Gee, what is going on?

People are seeing something that I do not feel. Could I be projecting
my judgment of myself onto others and not even know it? Probably.
Always allow yourself to notice and question your perception. If you do,
you become more grounded and realistic. It is often the case, that
others are more loving of you than you are of yourself. So, it pays to be
present enough with yourself and others to experience what is really
going on in physical and emotional reality. This is the reason it is so
important to be able to read body language.

When we only listen to the thoughts in our head, it is easy to forget
that reality is full of love. My Judgmental Self does not receive love
from others. Or give it to others! My True Self takes in it and keeps
it forever in my heart. My True Self freely gives love as a way of life.
Open your heart and allow love to come and go without your Ego
acting as the suspicious guard.

It feels wonderful to feel loved and to know that you are loved. You
deserve this feeling often. Love is knocking on your door. Open your
heart and let it in. To open your heart learn to recognize your Ego
when it is getting in your way.

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A GUIDE TO OPEN YOUR HEART: Learn to recognize your Ego when it
shuts your heart. The Opening the Heart audio series teaches you the
energy difference between your True Self and your Egos. Once you
know the difference, you heal your emotional wounds by choosing self-
acceptance in stead of self- judgment. Your heart receives and gives
love with confidence after you heal your emotional wounds from the
past. Three hours of audio on Feelings, Fear and Hurt.
Money-back guarantee. $97.00

Read more and order Opening the Heart:
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LEARN TO READ BODY LANGUAGE: Perceive reality by questioning your
perception often. This audio was made for therapists. It is now
available at a reduced fee for all Vibrant Moment readers:
Introduction to Body Language: Authentic Communication. Instead of
$47.00, you pay $29.99. Money-back guarantee.

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Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.
503 S. 21 St.
Philadelphia, PA 19146
http://www.drjeanette.com

Author of Opening the Heart and 14 other self-care products.

You are Not Broken and Do Not Need to be Fixed

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Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
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A man who has been suffering from a life experience, which left him
traumatized, requested an answer from me on Quora. So far, therapy
has not helped him. “Is there any reason to go to therapy if you
cannot be fixed.”

Unfortunately, he has the belief that he is broken and cannot be
fixed. Fortunately, I had an epiphany after a few years of helping
people who had been severely sexually and physically abused. Sitting
on the floor showing a client how to feel her emotions, body and
energy I suddenly realized that there was no bottomless pit inside of
her that could not be fixed. This awareness dramatically changed my
behavior; and thus, therapeutic results.

As I kept my attention on my new awareness that a person was not
permanently sentenced to a life of being damaged goods, I began to
relate to them differently without even knowing it. My intuitive self
began to relate more and more to their innate, real self instead of
to their wounded self.

I knew the difference between a conditioned response and a person’s
true nature because I had studied and used learning research for
years. Now, in addition to showing my clients how a conditioned
response is learned behavior, I showed them that their innate
strengths were different. Their true self was intact and ready to be
used as needed to help heal wounds.

Mother Nature made sure that nothing could destroy our real self,
which includes our intuitive self, instincts, heart, energy and inner
core. What a difference my shift in consciousness made in our
therapeutic success. There was a dramatic forward movement into
faster, stronger positive results. Thus said, here is the answer I
wrote for this man who asked if he could be fixed.

“So, the best news in the world is: You are not broken. You are not
permanently damaged. Let this reality soak into your cells and heart.
No matter what has happened to you, you can unlearn unhealthy
conditioning and heal real life trauma.

Your Inner Core, True Nature is waiting for you. Your Real Self is
undamaged and intact. Your job is to find, accept and follow your
True Self back into wholeness. This is the journey for everyone. All
of us are wounded.

Seek out teachers who show you the difference between your
Conditioned Self and your Real Self. When you learn how to recognize
your unloving ego, you have the power to make better choices in the
moments of your life. Learning to read body language and energy
rapidly increases your learning.”

Learn the difference in the energy between a conditioned response and
your Real Self. The first thirty minutes of the Opening the Heart audio
series teaches you how to feel this energy difference.

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GET HELP FEELING REAL SELF: The first thirty minutes of the
three-hour Opening the Heart audio series teaches you the difference
between your real self and your fake, ego self. The next thirty
minutes helps you discover your true emotional self so you are not as
easily fooled by your ego. Learn to be more compassionate toward
yourself. Just the sounds of my voice are healing, relaxing and
comforting to your heart and soul. 100% guaranteed. $97.00.

Read more and order Opening the Heart:
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Email me if you have trouble with your order.

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Author of Opening the Heart and 14 other self help products.

How to Cope with Stress and Anxiety

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Get Grounded.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
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Out of nowhere the rain drops buckets of heavy water upon you. What
do you do? No protection, far away from home…

Wow, we are facing more and more events coming at us, faster than
ever before. Is time speeding up? Is the Earth speeding up? Are we
speeding up to keep up? Alas, I am not sure.

It is as if we are always traveling and never at home. I am at home
and things are not the way I want them or like them to be. Home used
to be my haven from all the storms of life. No matter where I
traveled, I was always glad to get back to my safe, secure, clean
bed. No more is this true.

What I do know is that we are being forced to be flexible and bend
with reality as it changes and rearranges around us. If we do not
become a willow tree, we become more rigid, controlled and weaker. I
also know that when you let go of any amount of ego energy, which is
defensive energy, in your body, there is a period of time in this
natural process where it feels like your whole body is changing and
rearranging.

This feeling and period of time in the natural process of
transformation is both thrilling and scary simultaneously. The
natural process of letting go of frozen energy in your body is
explained in more detail in my audio, “Fear. The pathway to
freedom and joy.”

Since I am familiar with this feeling, I wonder if we are in the
middle of a major transformation of the planet as it is healing
itself from human abuse. If so, I suspect that our own bodies,
physical and energetic, are also in the middle of adjusting and
rearranging as we adapt in order to stay alive. Evolution is an
ongoing process. It is not just the animals that could go extinct.

If this is true, then one of the best ways to handle all the rapid
changes is to stay grounded in your body so you stay connected to
gravity and Mother Earth. Otherwise, you will be tossed around and
experience massive anxiety. The degree of anxiety will depend on how
much and how often you are securely in your body. No one is grounded
all the time so do not expect perfection.

However, when you are grounded, you go with the flow and accept the
changes that are going on inside of you and outside of you. Grounded
means your body is in the field of gravity and your feet are plugged
into the electrical system of the planet. This allows your nervous
system to function at its best.

I am always exploring more ways to get grounded and stay grounded. So
if you use other ways to stay sane and grounded, please share them with
me. I will share your suggestions in the next Vibrant Moment.

YOUR BODY GROUNDS YOU: “3 Reasons You Have a Body: Hear Your Body
Talking” is a Holistic Psychology tele-seminar that helps you live
more fully in your body. Your autonomic nervous system cannot relax
until you are grounded. Your physical body is reality, live in
reality. One hour, $29.97, money-back guarantee.

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TRANSFORM EGO ENERGY: Study “Fear. The pathway to freedom and joy.”
Learn to feel energy so you know what is going on inside of you and
outside of you. Learn to transform ego energy into more of your
strong and sturdy self. This is one of three hour-long comforting
experiences in the Opening the Heart emotional healing series. The
other two are “Feelings: The challenge of our species” and “When
You’re Hurting…” $97.00, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order Opening the Heart audio:
http://www.drjeanette.com/emotionalhealthaudio.html

The three-hour Opening the Heart audio is included in the home
study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally. Ten written lessons guide
you into a stronger relationship with your body so you relax into
your skin and stay grounded. When you are grounded, you cannot be
anxious. $199.00, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
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If you have any trouble email me back or call 215-732-6197.

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215-732-6197

Bodyful, Notice How You are Moving: More Haste, Less Speed

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: More Haste, Less Speed.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

A British friend was getting some tea while I was getting some water.
We were standing close together at my local pool. Knowing her quite
well, I said, “You reject the Royalty and accept the tea.” She laughed
and said, “Yes, that could go on my tombstone!”

The Brit continued, “Another phase on my tombstone could be, “More
haste, less speed.” I paused and had her repeat the phase so I could
absorb what she was saying. She continued, “In Britain here is a big
difference in meaning between the two words, haste and speed. Haste
slows you down and you make a lot of mistakes.”

Thinking to myself, “That makes sense, anxiety always interferes with
being effective in the moment. So, haste is what you do when you are
anxious. I usually use the word rush.” As I was taking in what she was
saying, I connected our haste versus speed conversation to another
message I received from a friend the day before. Her message was:
“Slow down to speed up.”

Ah, I’m receiving this important message from the cosmos and giving
it to you.

Take note of how you are doing what you are doing. The rabbit and
turtle story also comes to mind as I am writing this. Take your Time.
Take baby steps, slowly, carefully—as you learn to do something new.
Or even not new! Being in the moment is the key to being successful.
Your baby steps work because you get to where you are going.

Taking small steps, that keep you on the ground, are successful in
overcoming anxiety naturally. Take the home study course, Overcome
Anxiety Naturally if you have not yet learned to take baby steps.

These same baby steps work for any long time dreams you may have.
Order here: http://www.drjeanette.com/anxietyonlinecourse.html

So, what’s on your tombstone?

Enjoy having fun and being playful as a way of life. This is your
life. Live it well.

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one is coming. Email me for help. I am very excited about the new
website! Stay posted. Oh, an alternative email is drjeanette2000@yahoo.com

OPEN YOUR HEART: When you open your solar plexus and heart, you feel
more vibrant and present in the moment. You relax and feel
self-acceptance. The Opening the Heart audio series teaches you the
energy difference between making haste energy and your healthy
flowing energy. Once you know the difference, you make better
decisions in the moment that lead to effective behaviors in life.
Three hours of audio on Feelings, Fear and Hurt. Money-back
guarantee. $97.00.

Read more and order Opening the Heart:
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LEARN TO READ BODY LANGUAGE: Perceive reality and question your
perception often. This audio was made for therapists. It is now
available at a reduced fee for all Vibrant Moment readers:
Introduction to Body Language: Authentic Communication. Instead of
$47.00, you pay $29.99. Money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
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503 S. 21 St.
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How to Feel Better Quickly

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Increase Flowing Energy.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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What is the fastest way to feel better in the moment?

Switch out of your Inner Critic energy and drop down into gravity and
Mother Earth’s energy. As soon as you drop down into gravity, you feel
your physical body, which is your connection to your true nature. Your
true nature is directly connected and plugged into Mother Earth and
the Cosmos.

This earth connection happens naturally when you let go of control,
which means you stop over thinking and worrying about anything. Some
people control themselves with positive thoughts about how superior
they are and how much better they are than the rest of us. Some
people control themselves with negative thoughts about how inferior
and worse off they are than the rest of us.

Both the superior and inferior person are out of touch with reality.
Alas, both of these mental states are false. When you are in this
false energy, you are not connected to your body and the cosmos.
Finding fault with yourself or others is the fastest way to feel bad
and miserable. Approving of yourself and others is the fastest way to
fool yourself into self-righteousness.

Yes, shutting off your Inner Critic is a skill you need to learn. And
you can learn it. It is not as hard as you think. Of course, once you
learn how to be assertive with your Inner critic and Inner Snob, you
have to keep an eye out to make sure they behave! Your Inner Snob is
harder to find and tame than your Inner Critic.

What this means is you need to practice everyday learning how read
the energy difference between your true nature and your positive and
negative egos. Study and use the guidance in the Opening the Heart
audio or Ebook; it is a great resource. Use quiet time, creative
mediation, body awareness, energy awareness and being in nature to
help you feel energy so you know what is happing to you in reality.

Once you know it is your Inner Snob that is blocking your healthy
energy flow, you can quickly switch out of your Inner Snob or Critic
into your natural, healthy, vibrant self. Immediately, you enjoy more
vibrant moments. The benefits and rewards of flowing energy for your
mental, emotional and physical health are remarkable. Flowing energy
keeps you safe and sane.

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Learn to Read Energy: In the future everyone will read energy, just
like we read books now. Get a head start by learning the difference
between egos and true selves. Study the first thirty minutes of audio
in the Opening the Heart series over and over again until you
recognize other peoples’ egos and yours as soon as they show up!
Money-back guarantee. Successfully used by hundreds to achieve
emotional health. $97.00

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How to Experience Heaven on Earth

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Slow Down and Savor.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
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My 10 commandments are quite different from the ones I learned in the
tiny country church where I was instructed on the Right Thing to do based
on the One authority that had all the answers—the Bible. I benefit
from many of the wise lessons in the Bible as well as all the other points
of view in the world.

Here is my alternative, holistic psychology commandment: “Thy shalt
not rush.”

So many people rush through life looking for “the vibrant moment.”
They long for a peak experience, a new “high” and a wondrous moment
of joy. From drugs, to traveling, to staying busy; alas, they do not,
cannot find true happiness anywhere. Indeed, I do my share of looking
for the peak in trees: from fantastically seeking the peak of the red
trees in Vermont, like a mad woman in a rental car, to searching for
the peak cherry blooms in Philadelphia. I miss the moment.

This year, I just missed the glorious peak on the River Drive, bummer.
And, the peak in the Japanese Garden, terrible. And, due to weather
and a scheduled massage, it appears that I will miss the peak in my
Cherry Grove in Fairmount Park. So, taking myself to task, practicing
what I know— I let go of control and relaxed last night.

Boom, vibrant moments are all around me. I had a great night’s sleep,
yummy. I woke up early and am enjoying each moment as I move through
space and write my newsletter to you, my beloved readers. Thank you for
reading me, some of you, for many years. I turn 75 tomorrow and am
grateful I have enjoyed so many vibrant moments through out my life.

Bless you. The more you slow down and savor the moment you are living
in, the more vibrant moments you will have. Rush not through your life
looking for something. You will not be fulfilled. You enjoy the feeling
of being in “heaven on earth” when you stop looking outside yourself.
What you are doing in the moment, washing the dishes, is where you
find true happiness.

Letting go of control and relaxing your physical body is the key.
Become like melted butter becoming one with gravity and the cosmos.
Boom, you enter the giant flow of energy that feels wonderful, whole
and delicious.

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STOP RUSHING YOUR BODY!! Your body hears every thought you have and
responds. Your autonomic nervous system cannot relax your muscles if
you rush and scare it with thoughts of what you have to do. Study the
information in the tele-seminar, “Hear Your Body Talking,”
to become more relaxed and in the moment. Your physical body is
reality. One hour, $29.97, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order: http://www.drjeanette.com/hearyourbody.html

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REMOVE GUILT ENERGY: Learn how to say NO to guilt and judgment by
listening to this one-hour personal growth audio, “Find Peace Beyond
Guilt and Judgment.” Order mp3, only $29.97, money-back guarantee.

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503 S. 21 St.
Philadelphia, PA 19146
http://www.drjeanette.com
215-732-6197

Mentor and author of Opening the Heart

What is an Emotion? What is a Feeling? Use Energy to Know Truth

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Research Your Emotions.

Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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What is an emotion? What is a feeling?

The misinformation about emotional energy is abundant online. Many websites do not know the difference between a depressed mental state and a true emotion, like sadness. Because of this confusion, medical practitioners quickly give you medication to avoid the natural grief process. The natural grief process is essential for your mental health.

Unfortunately, I have also found incorrect information about emotional energy in research studies conducted by academic people for decades. Researchers do not know the difference, even though psychologist’s studies prove otherwise, that a conditioned response like guilt is learned. Guilt is not an emotion. Guilt is a conditioned response, often used to control you. When you feel guilty do you please others and create resentment? 

Emotions are not learned, they are innate. Yet, positive psychologists tell you that joy is a mind set. All you have to do is choose to be happy. Joy is not a mind set. Joy is an emotion. Emotions are physical. They are real, honest to goddess, energy in motion. Emotions are not rigid and still, they move as soon as you allow yourself to feel them. Research your own emotions and fall in love with your emotional self.

Your emotions have a “mind” of their own. You do not get to choose what you feel. You only get to choose whether or not to feel what is real. What you feel will be based on reality. When you are not in touch with reality, you become anxious. The more you avoid your emotions, the more anxious you become because your emotions are real.

Instead of trying to control your emotions and force them to behave as you want, let their colorful energy take you on exciting journeys into physical and metaphysical realities. Open your solar plexus and heart so you can experience the earth adventures your soul longs for. Allow yourself to experience the emotional energies on planet earth so you can relax and enjoy more vibrant moments.

All emotions are colorful. All colors are equal. All emotions are equal. All emotions are healthy. All colors and emotions are necessary for mental health and well-being. Your emotions operate on the laws of physics.

When you face your real fear of emotional energy, the natural process of transformation automatically takes you to freedom and joy. All you have to do is stop trying to control the outcome. The second hour of “Opening the Heart” is called, “Fear. The pathway to freedom and joy.” Your real fear keeps you safe and sets you free.

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RESEARCH YOUR EMOTIONS: Know the truth by learning how to feel the energy difference between your emotions and your learned, conditioned behavior. The Opening the Heart audio teaches you how to recognize these difference energies in the first half hour. Say no to guilt, judgments and mental states. Say yes to your authentic emotions, which lead you to your heart, body and soul energy. When you love your emotional self, vibrant moments are common experiences and bring you great joy, even in your sorrow. Experience heaven on earth as your soul longs to do in everyday life.

Read more and order, Opening the Heart audio: http://www.drjeanette.com/emotionalhealthaudio.html

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How to Improve Your Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Seek Love Energy.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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Do you run toward genuine love or away from it?

Here is a helpful question I learned to ask my clients during my
supervision with Dr. Joe Wolpe. “Tell me three things you like about
yourself.” Take time now to answer this question for yourself. Write
your answers down on a piece of paper and notice how you feel. Was it
easy or hard to come up with three things about you that you consider
worthy of loving?

I love my highly sensitive nature. After years of rejecting my
ability to feel the “pea underneath all the mattresses,” I love the
fact that I feel physical vibrations before many others can feel
them. My highly sensitive nature is helpful, cool, wondrous and
worthy of being loved. I no longer feel sorry for myself that I feel
“everything.” Instead, I reap the benefits of being more relaxed and
self-accepting.

Love energy not only feels good to you, it also makes you physically
stronger. This divine energy creates a physical body that is
healthier because of its radiant energy. Vital energy improves the
health of your cells and radiates outward off your body into the
space around you. Others can see, hear, taste, smell and feel your
glow because it is palpable. It is this whole body physical state
that gives you a vibrant moment which is a heavenly body experience
on the earth plane.

If it was not easy for you to name three things you love about
yourself, use your intention to become more self-accepting of your
true nature. It may take a few years to honestly accept some parts of
yourself that you find fault with now, but any effort you put into
improving your self-esteem is worth the effort. If you find yourself
running away from love and hiding in your ego energy, I encourage you
to be brave.

In order to receive love you must consciously and deliberately remove
your mental judgments against yourself and others. Judgments are
expressed as thoughts. Humans create thoughts and suffer because of them.
For good mental health, we need to live in physical reality instead of our
mental thoughts. Do not hesitate to invest in yourself to become braver
and more assertive.

The rewards of more love energy in your physical body are great. As
we age, we need strong, healthy energy even more than we did before!
Ain’t that the truth?

REMOVE SELF-JUDGMENT: Learn how to stop rejecting your true nature
with this one-hour personal growth audio, ”Find Peace Beyond Guilt
and Judgment.” $29.97, money-back guarantee.

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developing and using your natural gifts to your advantage. 31-page,
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215-732-6197

How to Relax, Achieve Emotional Health and Improve Self-Confidence

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Accepting is Powerful.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
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Getting my post-doc at Temple Medical School with Dr. Joe Wolpe, had
many perks. One of them was meeting famous psychologists in person
for a master seminar. Meeting Dr. Albert Elias, a tall thin, wiry man
who appeared to be quite anxious, even though he reassured us he was
very relaxed comes up in my mind as I write The Vibrant Moment for
this month. Dr. Elias was sure his Rational-Emotive Therapy could
cure any mental health problem and make you as happy as he.

As I remember him and his approach, is reminds me of the current
Positive Psychology approach. Dr. Martin Seligman started this
movement, which is also rational, and tells you that all you have to
do is made the choice to think positive and be positive. After over
45 years of exploring consciousness and looking for ways to empower
us to enjoy life more, I do not find either of these rational
approaches to be effective in living a relaxed-in-the-body life of
authenticity and integrity.

Shakespeare, the best psychologist I know, said it clearly, the
choice you have as a human being is “To be or not to be.” In the
flesh, you cannot change who you are. You were born a unique bundle
of joy and lo and behold, that is the energy you are working with in
this lifetime. The question is what are you doing with your innate
energy? Are you inhibiting your light or accepting your light?

Often we make ourselves wrong and call ourselves bad when we feel sad,
angry and afraid. Being sad, angry and afraid is normal and healthy if
you live in reality. When you are true to yourself, you are a part of
nature. Like nature, you wax and wane; you do not choose when to wax
and when to wane. Life events, like the weather, affect you and you
effect life events.

To enjoy more vibrant moments, relax and be yourself in the moments
of life’s up and downs. You can be present, feel grateful and be
loving toward yourself in any emotional or mental state. Hug yourself
and give yourself more love, no matter what you feel or what is
happening to you. Include others in this love vibration and you feel
good all over.

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ACCEPT YOURSELF: The first hour of the Opening the Heart audio
series called “Feelings: The challenge of our species,” teaches you
the energy difference between your ego energy and your true-self
energy. Learn how to accept your colorful emotions and enjoy your
unique vibrations. Also, you are guided into finding your emotional
self so you heal the parts of you that need to be healed. The other
two hours in the Opening the Heart series are on fear and hurt.
Recorded in a sound studio so my voice delivers healing, calming
vibrations to resonate with over and over again for better holistic
health. $97.00, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/emotionalhealthaudio.html

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forty-five years of experience teaching people how to read and use
energy to unlock and use their human potential. Sign up at:
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Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.
503 S. 21 St.
Philadelphia, PA 19146
215-732-6197