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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Find Your True Self
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

A man who has been suffering from a life experience, which left him
traumatized, requested an answer from me on Quora. So far, therapy
has not helped him. “Is there any reason to go to therapy if you
cannot be fixed.”

Unfortunately, he has the belief that he is broken and cannot be
fixed. Fortunately, I had an epiphany after a few years of helping
people who had been severely sexually and physically abused. Sitting
on the floor showing a client how to feel her emotions, body and
energy I suddenly realized that there was no bottomless pit inside of
her that could not be fixed. This awareness dramatically changed my
behavior; and thus, therapeutic results.

As I kept my attention on my new awareness that a person was not
permanently sentenced to a life of being damaged goods, I began to
relate to them differently without even knowing it. My intuitive self
began to relate more and more to their innate, real self instead of
to their wounded self.

I knew the difference between a conditioned response and a person’s
true nature because I had studied and used learning research for
years. Now, in addition to showing my clients how a conditioned
response is learned behavior, I showed them that their innate
strengths were different. Their true self was intact and ready to be
used as needed to help heal wounds.

Mother Nature made sure that nothing could destroy our real self,
which includes our intuitive self, instincts, heart, energy and inner
core. What a difference my shift in consciousness made in our
therapeutic success. There was a dramatic forward movement into
faster, stronger positive results. Thus said, here is the answer I
wrote for this man who asked if he could be fixed.

“So, the best news in the world is: You are not broken. You are not
permanently damaged. Let this reality soak into your cells and heart.
No matter what has happened to you, you can unlearn unhealthy
conditioning and heal real life trauma.

Your Inner Core, True Nature is waiting for you. Your Real Self is
undamaged and intact. Your job is to find, accept and follow your
True Self back into wholeness. This is the journey for everyone. All
of us are wounded.

Seek out teachers who show you the difference between your
Conditioned Self and your Real Self. When you learn how to recognize
your unloving ego, you have the power to make better choices in the
moments of your life. Learning to read body language and energy
rapidly increases your learning.”

Learn the difference in the energy between a conditioned response and
your Real Self. The first thirty minutes of the Opening the Heart audio
series teaches you how to feel this energy difference.

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GET HELP FEELING REAL SELF: The first thirty minutes of the
three-hour Opening the Heart audio series teaches you the difference
between your real self and your fake, ego self. The next thirty
minutes helps you discover your true emotional self so you are not as
easily fooled by your ego. Learn to be more compassionate toward
yourself. Just the sounds of my voice are healing, relaxing and
comforting to your heart and soul. 100% guaranteed. $97.00.

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Email me if you have trouble with your order.

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Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.

Author of Opening the Heart and 14 other self help products.

How to Feel Better: Take Personal Responsibility for Your Experience

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Be Responsible
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Author
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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When was the last time you felt really bad. Heavy? Weak, tired and
unhappy. I was dragging myself around for my daily walk. “What is
going on with me” I pondered. “It is spring time and I love spring.”
It is so hard to be grumpy when spring is expressing itself all over
the land. Tiny little flowers popping up everywhere. These bright
colors normally create a smile in every cell so I feel good all over.
Not today, no tingles for me.

My energy is definitely not resonating with the energy of spring. I
am like molasses— dark and slow. “Wonder if I taste as good as
molasses?” I thought. At least, I have not completely lost my sense
of humor! A tiny smile occurred to help me shift out of my heavy
energy and observe how I am creating such slow energy. Too much
thinking, that is for sure. I have learned over the years that my
Inner Critic depletes my energy quicker than anything else. So, I
looked at my thoughts. Sure enough, that Inner Monster was hitting
me with some nasty, scary thoughts.

The next thing I did was dig deeper into how I felt. Yes, sure enough,
Old Man River, came to mind. “I’m tired of living and scared of dying,”
was singing in my heart. It is important to discover how you really
feel, not just what you are thinking. I was feeling helpless. Things
were not going as I wished. I felt trapped and did not know what to do.
You may have trouble admitting you feel helpless but it quickly
empowers you if you do. Once you know you feel helpless, then you
take responsibility for yourself. Being responsible is an effective,
wise action to take in all situations.

Taking personal responsibility immediately removes you from the
mental illness category. When you are responsible for your
experience, you have the power. This is extremely important.
Otherwise, your unconscious is the one with the upper hand. Effective
personal growth brings up from the dark what you are doing to create
your experience to your conscious mind. There are many real life
events where feeling bad is what we really need to feel, for example,
in times of great loss such as many of us have been forced to deal
with during the pandemic. Grieving is a good feeling bad.

However, feeling bad because your unconscious is controlling you is
quite different. This type of feeling bad is totally unnecessary and
wasteful. We all get stuck in mass consciousness and powerful people
take the time to get unstuck. Take responsibly and tell your Inner
Critic to get in the back seat because you are the one in charge; you
are the driver. Take responsibility and get the help you need to
solve your real problems. Yes, get help from many sources.

Breathe, notice your thoughts, feel your feelings and take
responsibility. Soon, you feel better, much better. The next day,
you’ll feel even better, and wiser.

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GET HELP FEELING YOUR POWER: The first thirty minutes of the
three-hour Opening the Heart audio series teaches you the difference
between your powerful self and your fake, ego self. The next thirty
minutes helps you discover your true emotional self so you are not as
easily fooled by your Inner Critic. Learn to be more compassionate
toward yourself. Just the sounds of my voice are healing, relaxing
and comforting to your heart and soul. 100% guaranteed. $97.00.

Read more and order Opening the Heart:
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Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.

Author of Opening the Heart and 15 other self empowering products.

Look Up for Better Mental Health and Conscious Living

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Look Up.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

How often do you take the time to look up? At the sky? Clouds?
Buildings? Others?

I was walking in a beautiful scene of nature. As I was returning to my
abode, I looked up at the blue sky above me. Three eagles were flying
around and around above me as they rode the wind currents of the
moment. We were one, together in the whole. Wow, a vibrant moment
of being alive in the cosmos. Eagles are the highest flying of all birds.
If I had not looked up at that moment, I would not have seen and
experienced this rich moment of being alive.

Is your head stuck in a computer, book, phone or tv? Imagine how it
would feel to make genuine, long, heart-felt eye contact with those
you live with? Or talk on zoom with. Or your physical surroundings? I
often recommend looking inward to get to know yourself. It is equally
important to look up at what is high in the sky and to take in the
physical space around you with your senses.

When you are not experiencing vibrant moments, the culprit is anxiety.
Anxiety interferes with the quality of life so much so that you may
not even notice you are lacking joy and passion. Do not let your
anxiety push you too fast or slow you down too much. Enjoy the lovely
scenery around you. When time is rushing it is easy to rush with it.
Best not to let time or anyone else make you move faster than your
natural rhythm of energy.

This morning, I paused and drank my glass of water. I paused again
and looked outdoors at the sunlight. Pauses help. Taking deep breaths
help. Give yourself the luxury and gift of pausing and breathing so
you are in the magical moment more often. Allow yourself to fully
experience whatever it is you are doing. Washing the dishes is just
as full of vibrant moments, joy and happiness as any other moment.

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savor the moment if you remove more of the static in your nervous
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and conscious breathing. The body exercises keep you physical so
enjoy better mental health. Five hours of audio including the Opening
the Heart series are included. Order your home study course,
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How to Accept Your Failures and Love Being Human

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Accept Your Failures.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

“Learn from the mistakes of others. You can’t live long enough to
make them all yourself.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

Two bits of wisdom show up in Eleanor’s quote:

1. Learning from others is the only way to advance in life.

2. Making mistakes is truly human and unavoidable.

At a seminar years ago the speaker held up a small bag “There is one
real diamond in this bag with hundreds of fake ones. If anyone can
find the real diamond, it’s yours,” he said as he threw the bag into
the crowd. After a pregnant pause, he continued, “How can you find
the real diamond? You must find the one with a flaw in it. Real
diamonds, like real people, have flaws.”

“Wow”, I thought, “how wonderful and true. Mother Nature is the best
teacher in the world.” From then on, I was much kinder to myself when
I made a mistake. I used to beat myself up for at least two weeks if
I let my strawberries get too old to eat in the refrigerator.

What do you do when you make a mistake? Does your Inner Critic beat
you up and punish you to death? After years of standing up to my
Inner Critic, it is much easier to shift out of self-judgment into
self-compassion when I make a mistake. Taking three deep breaths,
feeling my body and feeling my emotions, I make a conscious decision
that I would rather be human than fake.

Give self-acceptance a try this week. See if you can remember and use
these two bits of wisdom everyday. You are sure to feel better and be
stronger in body and mind. Notice how wonderful it is to accept the
reality of being human. Being imperfect is truly human and you are
worthy of compassion as you make your way through this lifetime.
Allow yourself to ask for help as often as needed. Receive help with
gratitude as you move forward toward more freedom and vibrant
moments.

Be a real human being.

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GET HELP FEELING REALITY: The first thirty minutes of the three-hour
Opening the Heart audio series teaches you the difference between
your real self and your fake self. You find your true emotional self
in the second half hour so you are not as easily fooled by your ego.
Then you can be more compassionate toward yourself. Just the sounds
of my voice are healing, relaxing and comforting to your heart and
soul. 100% guaranteed. $97.00.

Read more and order Opening the Heart:
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Email me if you have trouble with your order.

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How to Feel Your Feelings and Feel Better

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Accept Your Feelings.

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It is the end of 2020, a rough year for most of us. This means feeling bad is normal, healthy and sane. Many have lost loved ones. All of us have lost something precious and dear to us. Have you lost your health, wealth, job, friend, pet, travel? If you give yourself the luxury of grieving before the start of the New Year, it will improve your holistic health.

Grieving takes time, patience and self-love. 

Accepting your feelings, no matter what you feel, is an act of self-love. Whenever you are in touch with your emotional self, you know how you feel. When you are not in touch with your emotional self, you do not know how you feel. This means the first step is to find and listen to your emotional self so you know what you feel. The goal for excellent emotional health is to know what you feel twenty-four hours a day.

Here is a Body-Emotional-Energy Exercise to help you discover what you feel:

Stop everything and sit down. Do not move until you know how you sincerely feel inside. Give yourself time to stop thinking and start feeling. Touch your body anywhere you feel tight and tense. Breathe into this physical area. Take a deep breath and exhale. As you exhale, let go and feel what you feel. Slowly keep breathing deep breaths. Feel what you feel as you exhale. If you stay with yourself, some sort of fear or hurt will bubble up inside of you. After you acknowledge what you feel, sit with your feelings as long as you can and accept your emotional reality. Keep breathing and go about your day with more awareness of your inside and outside realities.

The purpose of feeling your feelings is to feel better and be more alive. It is not to get stuck in depression or anxiety. Once you know how you feel, it is helpful to stay with your emotions and allow them to move and resolve. Natural, healthy grieving comes and goes in waves. Be a surfer and ride your emotions to shore. Sometimes you ride smoothly and sometimes you fall off. Be kind with yourself.

The exciting news is that as soon as you feel a genuine emotion, its energy changes into another color and off you go into completely new territory. To help you stay in this colorful flow, write. Psychological research shows that writing is an effective way to process your feelings and keep the energy moving so that you feel so much better afterwards. 

To help you process your emotions, do this writing exercise: 

Pick up a pen or your computer and write about how you feel for 15-20 minutes. Just write, do not judge, edit or stop the words from flowing. After you finish, put your writing away and go about your day. You can come back later and read what you wrote or not. What is important is that you are expressing your feelings instead of controlling them. Write for at least four days in a row to get great results. 

If you get stuck in depressed or anxious energy, then you need to make an active conscious effort to get up and move. I call it the ACE. Walk, dance, sing, do the laundry, wash the dishes. Any physical activity will help you stay out of the deadly mental states. When you experience depression or anxiety you are stuck in a rigid mental state, you are not feeling your emotions. After an ACE, come back and write about your emotions once again. 

Let my people grieve. Could be a Broadway show. Let my people grieve to free themselves from anxiety and depression. Keep breathing and feeling.

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GET HELP FEELING AND BREATHING: The Opening the Heart audio series is a guide into your emotions and feelings. You find your emotional self on the first audio called Feelings. You learn the difference between real fear and anxiety in the second hour, Fear. The last hour, When You’re Hurting helps you stay in your hurt so it becomes less and less of a problem. Just the sounds of my voice are healing, relaxing and comforting to your heart and soul. 100% guaranteed. $97.00. 

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Use Your Common Sense to Stay Safe and Achieve Mental Health

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Use Your Common Sense.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

When I lost my sense of smell and taste a few years ago, many of the
small pleasures in life disappeared. My body seemed to be going
through a cleansing and soon, my taste buds and magnificent nose
returned. Now, these small pleasures of smelling, eating and drinking
are the great joys of my life. As I go to bed at night on my heavenly
cloud, I look forward to the smell of delicious coffee in the morning
as I brew it like the French.

Interesting that losing your sense of smell and taste is one of the
signs of being sick with the current monster virus. Anything that
attacks your senses permanently is to be avoided, so I trust you are
taking good care of yourself. Use your common sense to stay safe and
sound as you celebrate Thanksgiving. Common sense is lacking in many
people as they move unconsciously through their life. Step away from
any ordinary and mundane experience, into your senses— so you can
enjoy more vibrant moments.

Common sense is the end result of using all your senses to make
decisions. You have taste, smell, sight, hearing and touch. These are
the five senses most people talk about. There are others, we can
explore later. With the virus around you, touch yourself more often.
Hug yourself. Put two hands on your body to feel it, know it and
reassure it. This is one of the new body energy exercises I use in
the Overcoming Anxiety Naturally home study course. If you are aware
of your body and relaxed in your body—you do not experience anxiety.
Seriously, try it.

Make your Thanksgiving fun and enjoyable. Use your senses to add
color and flavor to everything you do. Touch your body and live in
it. Being body-ful not only reduces your anxiety, it also boosts your
immune system.

Use your common sense to enjoy this wild body trip on planet earth.
Being in the flesh during a pandemic. Wow!

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hours of audio help you feel your emotions and stay in touch. Take
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Full refund if you want it after the third lesson.

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Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.
Mentor and author of Opening the Heart

How to Use Your Imagination During a Pandemic

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Use Your Imagination.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Energy and Transformational Teacher
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

You may have heard that psychological research shows over and over
again that imagining something is as good as physically doing
something. Tis true. Sometimes, imagining something is even better
than actually doing it.

So, I have been saying to myself each morning, “I am on vacation.
What do I want to do today? Shall I drive to that park or this park?
Or shall I explore a new area I have never been before?”

Travel is not the best thing to be doing right now for most of us.
However, traveling in your imagination works wonders. What fun it is
to use your imagination to create a better experience for yourself. I
have been having a ball on my vacation. If you live in a place that
does not have much to offer, be creative and clever. Use your
imagination to improve your life in all regards.

Do not live in a fantasy, pretending the virus is not real or alive.
Instead, create a more appealing, safe reality for yourself. When I
am on vacation I allow myself to do what I want to do in the way and
time that I want to do it. I give myself more breaks from how much
does that cost and should I or should I not do this. This use of my
imagination creates an opportunity for more creativity, freedom and
fun to occur in each moment. As a result, more vibrant moments are
likely to occur. Most importantly, my priorities are in the proper
place. Petty things do not bother me.

Some Suggestions for How to Use Your Imagination:

Imagine yourself getting a massage
See yourself walking in the mountains, getting exercise
Visualize yourself at the beach swimming
Hear the sounds of the birds singing in the rainforest
Smell the roses at your favorite garden
Feel the wide-open spaces that are out west with your whole body
Imagine you are a bard who knows magic
Sink into bed and have fun imaging anything you desire

Make your visualizations as real and true as possible. Include
details. Add feelings and all your senses. Once in my youth, I
pitched my women’s softball team to a championship by practicing at
night on my pillow. I never pitched before! Visualizing something
really works. Enrich your life by seeing what you want and need.

If you imagine something, it becomes a physical reality. Tis,
one of the many wonders of our human species.

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How to Get Rid of Guilt and Feel Good About Yourself

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Say No to Guilt.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Energy and Transformational Teacher
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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I was in such a deep, heavenly sleep that I did not want to leave the sweet refrain. I knew I was asleep and also knew I was enjoying every moment. Then, my brain tells me that I need to get up and make the coffee so I can start writing before it gets too late. Guilt was the result of that single thought.

This sweet state of consciousness is the one Thomas Edison found to be most helpful to his creativity. He would put a pot on his head, sit in a chair and try to go to sleep. He did not want to go completely asleep, he wanted to stay in that delicious place between sleep and awake when he could find his next brilliant idea. The pot would fall and keep him from sleeping.

Guilt is a nasty energy that keeps us in a controlled state much of the time with, “You should not sleep late. You should get up and work.” Even if I happen to enjoy my work, my bully brain, my ego still wants to control me with the what, when and so forth. Guilt in any form, for any reason, is harmful to you. Always say no to guilt because it is one of the major ways your ego keeps you from being creative, intuitive and free.

You need to know that guilt is not needed to “make you do the right thing.” There is no right or wrong, only experiences to learn from. If you listen to your heart and your true self you are naturally loving, firm and assertive. So, the struggle is between your controlled, conditioned brain and your heart.

If you choose to live a life without guilt, you are creative, intuitive and free. If you want good mental health you say no to guilt as often as needed to stay sane, strong and safe. When you follow your heart more vibrant moments pop into your experience on earth. Vibrant moments are what I enjoy.

How to get rid of guilt?

  1. Become conscious of your judgments against yourself or others.

Making someone else wrong is the same vibration as making yourself wrong. Mental judgments have a heavier, denser energy that you can learn to feel and sense. Notice them as soon as you can.

  1. Say “No, no, no” to your judgments as soon as you notice them.

I used to throw mine in the air and shoot them with an imaginary gun. Create some physical activity to help you get rid of them. If you include the body and movement, it accelerates the unlearning process. You can also get rid of dense mental energy by throwing it on the ground. Find your own way, be creative.

Choose to live a guilt free life for the earth children. Show them the way to avoid mental illness and suicide.

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    How to Flourish During a Pandemic and Psyche Attack

    The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Lathe Thyself With Love.
    Tools from the Center for New Psychology
    Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Transformational Teacher and Mentor
    Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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    “Lathe thyself with love.”

    At a Jean Houston workshop in NYC in 1983, Jean shared a story about
    Margret Mead. Jean was close to Margaret at the time and overheard
    her talking to herself in her room as she woke up in the morning. It
    sounded as if Margaret was moving and stretching as she talked to
    herself. I cannot remember the exact words, but it was something
    along the lines of, “I am so happy with myself. I am so glad to be
    me. It is oh, so, delightful to just be me.”

    This was a rare story of someone who was not only comfortable talking
    to herself, but was also at ease being sincerely pleased with herself.
    Unfortunately, self-love is not easy for most of us to enjoy, experience
    and sustain over time. This is because loving yourself is forbidden
    and even considered a sin by some religions. As a result, it is hard
    to be tender with yourself without hearing judgments in your head.

    If others love you, it is ok—for a bit. However, you should not love
    yourself. If you do, your Inner Critic calls you selfish, narcissistic and
    crazy. Tis Strange— when you really step back and look at it, isn’t it?
    Very peculiar.

    After all, self-love is the heart of what any good therapist, coach
    or mentor teaches you. Step by step, they lead you to the pot of gold
    at the end of the rainbow that lives in your heart. When you sense
    your inner truths, loving energy is always present. As soon as you
    feel the reality of the universal loving energy that lives in your
    heart, self-love is possible.

    It took me a few years after hearing this story about Margaret Mead,
    to make a conscious choice that I was indeed worthy of being loved.
    And it was a conscious choice. For 35 years the negative judgments I
    had learned about the real me were dominant in my psyche. One by
    one, as they hit me, I lay the nasty comments about the lazy, relaxed,
    disorganized, selfish, creative, colorful, crazy me, dead at my feet.

    My therapy, workshops and self-care were growing corn. Finally, to
    myself, and in my own mind—I decided that I was indeed, good enough
    as a person, that it was all right for me to let go of control and
    love who I really was. Profound. I knew for sure that I could trust
    my heart and follow it. My heart was wise and I would do no harm. All
    I needed to do was be responsible for my actions.

    Do not confuse self-praise with self-love. Praising yourself for
    something is an act of the ego. You can be pleased with yourself if
    you make a lot of money, have a lot of friends, have a lover, get a
    degree or job and so on. This is not self-love. Self-love is
    accepting who you really are inside, without having to do anything.

    If you listen to your heart, you discover that you are inherently a
    good person. This knowledge is the turning point. I could never go
    backward after knowing that I was born lovable. From my conscious
    choice forward— I was glad to be me. However, life did not stop
    throwing new judgments at me.

    It appears the Inner Critic does not die a permanent death. Our ego
    seems to be like a virus that is out of control for a while and kills
    a lot of people. Eventually, you become stronger than the virus.
    However, the virus does not completely disappear, even after we get a
    vaccine and medication! Antibiotics can kill the bubonic plague, yet
    it is still lurking around with all the other viruses!

    Thus said, you can tame your ego but cannot destroy it. The moment
    you choose to love your true self, you become much stronger.
    Self-love gives you a healthy immune system and lots of vibrant
    moments. But you must make this choice over and over again. So, the
    next time you feel down in the dumps, look around for your ego. It is
    attacking you. You could choose to shift out of self-judgment and
    lathe thyself with love!

    Notice how much and how often you truly love yourself this week.
    Notice how much and how often you judge yourself this week and for
    what.

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