How to Use Your Body for Feedback about Reality and Denial

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Your Body Knows.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
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A friend was telling me about her experience with diarrhea and
stomach problems so severe she rushed to the emergency room. The
physicians used all their tests, looking for medical problems and
could not find anything. I asked, “Was it anxiety?” She looked me
straight in the face and said, “But I am not anxious.”

I have been thinking a lot about denial. What is it really and how
can we tell when we are denying something really important that
we need to know. Sigmund Freud, first described “denial as refusing
to acknowledge upsetting facts about external events and internal
ones, including memories, thoughts, and feelings.”

It always amazes me when I discover that I have been denying something.
How could I be so unaware of what my body is saying? Diarrhea is a loud
message.

The more I ponder and explore denial it seems to me that some of us
deny facts that are pleasant and enjoyable as well as upsetting ones.
If this is correct, we use denial to keep ourselves feeling bad,
helpless and victimized by life events. Wow, that victim mentality
can really creep up on you.

The next time someone says something to you that you think is not
true, pause. You could be denying something that you need to know to
stop hurting yourself. Or you could be denying how wonderful your
life really is! After the pause, breathe and feel your body. Receive
the obvious information in your body that would help you feel better,
stronger and happier.

Listen carefully, deeply and often to what your body is expressing.
The body does not lie; it tells you the truth if you are willing to
listen to it.

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How to Get True Love that is Sincere and Real

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Receive Love.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
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“It don’t mean a thing, if it ain’t got that swing
Doo-ah, doo-ah, doo-ah, doo-ah, doo-ah, doo-ah, doo-ah, doo-ah“
Duke Ellington

How much genuine love do you give and receive?

Saying “I love you” does not necessarily give anyone sincere love.
Nope, many times, it does not. Love is not a thought, belief or words
put together to be polite. Notice the empty words often used by the
egos of the world, including yours. The words are automatically
delivered, without feeling or pause.

The pause is important, both in giving and receiving. “The Swing” is
the real, genuine energy. It is in the pause that “The Swing” occurs.
It takes time for physical and emotional energy to enter your heart,
have an effect and transform energy before a response is even
possible. When you have a quick response you are uncomfortable,
afraid and anxious.

Lately, I have noticed that sometimes when I feel someone saying
something nice to me, I start to thank them. My thank you falls on
top of their words. It never occurred to me that my quick response
and words could be my way of not fully receiving their love into my
heart. However, as I become more conscious of my unconscious, my
anxious words block their love so I do not fully receive or benefit
from the genuine love given. Wow.

How could it be that receiving love makes me anxious? In order to
receive love you must be open. In order to be open, you must relax
your body and let go of control. This is the hard part. Instead of
being open and relaxed, we are often tense. Notice how afraid you are
of fully surrendering to love. When you surrender to love it is
terrifying because love becomes the boss, not you. Love moves you.
You do not move love. Love is a wave much bigger than you.

Love humbles you and destroys all your identities. Nevertheless, the
feeling of being loved is so fantastic, I am practicing staying open
and receiving love without saying a word. I feel uncomfortable,
vulnerable and small as the love enters my heart. And you will too,
when you use the key to your heart and open it so others can enter.

Your True Self and heart will become so big, happy and fulfilled you
will dance a jig as you radiate out love to all of humanity. Doo-ah,
doo-ah, doo-ah, doo-ah, doo-ah, doo-ah, doo-ah, doo-ah!

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503 S. 21 St.
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215-732-6197

Mentor and author of Opening the Heart

How to Stop Overthinking and Prevent Mental Illness and Stomach Aches

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Do Not Waste Energy.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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How many ways do you waste your precious energy?

As I age, I am re-learning many things. A-amazing how you forget some
of the effective tools you used before. Yesterday, while reading through
some old notes, I was reminded of one of the many ways I waste energy.
I know thinking about something I cannot change is a waste of energy.
Alas, we know something is hurting us and we do not know how to stop it.

To change something that is hurting you, the first step is to become
aware of something you are doing that you are not aware of. Diving
deep and re-surfacing is the pathway to transformation and more
vibrant moments. It really helps to spend time alone so you can get
in touch with reality. Virginia Wolf’s book, A Room of Ones’ Own is a
classic if you have not read about the power of having your own
space. If you do not have the luxury of a whole house or room, use
separate time and outdoor space to find your true self.

I took a month retreat to be by myself alone with “me, myself and I,”
as Joan Armatrading loves to sing. Being alone is also good because
there is no one else to blame or project your judgements on. I began by
paying close attention to what I was thinking; during the day, at night
and while eating by candlelight; with my cup of ginger tea, with my
eyes closed and open and while cleaning house.

The result? Experiencing my thoughts and what I am doing with them is
driving me crazy. Yes, it is your thoughts that drive you crazy. My thoughts
are interesting thoughts, not boring thoughts. My thoughts are
positive thoughts, not negative thoughts. Wow, these thoughts are still
driving me crazy. Yes, positive thoughts can hurt you just as much as
negative ones. It is the energy of thinking that is so controlling and
inhibiting.

When you stop to think, you stop your healthy energy flow. Seriously.
“The Thinker,” Rodin’s statue here in Philadelphia is stuck and does
not flow. Take this physical fact to heart, thinking is the way you control
yourself and inhibit yourself. Repetitive thoughts take on a physical
form, becoming a mass of energy. This energy is called a Thought
Form. When thoughts become physical, they become beliefs. Beliefs are
extremely controlling. Good beliefs are as harmful as bad ones. There
are no right and wrongs in the real world. All of man’s judgments, good
or bad are outside of reality and are harmful to your mental and physical
health.

When I finally felt the mental energy I was stuck in, I felt sick to
my stomach. So sick, I wanted to throw up. Yuck, get this nasty stuff
out of me was my body’s reaction. Wonderful. Now I cannot deny how I
am hurting myself and my body. (This is how I quit smoking way back,
read about it in the free library at drjeanette.com.) I preach all
the time to you: To empower yourself you must get in your body and
stay there. Pay attention to your physical reality and accept what
you find with compassion. Do not blame yourself or others. Reality is
reality is reality.

Bringing yucky stuff up from your unconscious and feeling what you
are doing to yourself is usually enough to get you to stop hurting
yourself. At least it is for me. I love myself enough to stop hurting
myself when I am face to face with reality. Before my retreat, my
acupuncturist told me my stomach and spleen were screaming when he
read my pulse. He was not sure how serious it was, but they were
upset. Now, I feel what he was feeling in my pulse. My stomach is
screaming. Physical feedback wakes you up to reality.

Now I notice when my thoughts upset my stomach and stop as soon as I
can. To help me stay on track when my stomach is not screaming, I pay
attention to anything I think or do that wastes energy. When I notice I
am wasting energy I begin to change what I am thinking and the actions
based on my thoughts. This helps keep the screams from developing in
the first place.

Wow, reality is sobering. I am re-listening to my audio, Tame Your
Thoughts for help.
When you stop thinking so much you stop wasting
your precious energy. When you stop wasting your energy, you get
different results. A more relaxed stomach feels better.

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Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.
503 S. 21 St.
Philadelphia, PA 19146
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215-732-6197

Author of Opening the Heart and 14 other self-care products

What to Do When You are Afraid, Anxious or Worried

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Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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Regular readers of The Vibrant Moment know how important it is to distinguish the difference between your real fears and your irrational thoughts. Your irrational thoughts scare you to death and do not go away until you expose them and learn how to stop them from controlling you. Irrational energy is what makes you anxious and unpleasant to be around. 

Your real fears exist to keep you safe. However, if you avoid them, your real fears also control you. To be self-confident you must do what Mary Renault, the author of numerous books on Alexander the Great, said he did. You must “face your biggest fear and lay it dead at your feet.” Alexander is a great model for how to be brave, honest and strong. 

I am writing a free special report for my new website about what to do when you are anxious, afraid and worried. If anyone would like to read it and give me feedback, email me and I will send you a copy. 

Here is an excerpt from the report, “What to do When You feel Anxious, Worried or Afraid:”

“There are many real fears, from a fear that you need to get a job to support yourself, to the fact that someone could break into your home and hurt you. These real fears are based on the amount of stress you have in your life and the actual things that happen to people, houses and money. Even if you have money and health, you can lose them. Even if you have a home, the weather can destroy it. Trust me, there are many real events that are scary and could happen to you; not the least of which is being abandoned by a loved one by death or design.

Here are some effective ways to deal with real fear:

1.  Find out the facts about what is going on.
2.  Face your fears and do not make reality worse than it is. 
3.  Give yourself reassurance and get it from others.
4.  Educate yourself about how to handle the problem.
5.  Take direct actions that make you safer and address your fears.
6.  Give yourself comfort and get it from others as you go through the hard time. 

Stress is real. Empathy helps. Often, once you see a clear path about how to handle a problem, you are no longer afraid or anxious. This is the first thing I recommend you do to handle your stress and become more relaxed. Get help from reliable sources about what you need to do to protect yourself and what actions you need to take to solve your problem. Always ask for help and use it. Do not be a fool and think you know it all.

My real fears diminish as soon as I:

1.  Know what to do. 
2.  Get a rational explanation of what is really going on.
3.  Realize I am wrong! What a relief, I am wrong. Thank goodness.
4.  Learn there is nothing else I can do about the situation.
5.  Admit I am not the smartest person and that is ok. Just don’t rub it in.

If you take the above actions, you are facing your fears. As a result, you feel more relaxed and self-confident. Please pause and enjoy the pleasure of finding and using more of your inner strengths. This relaxed, self confident state is the place you want to return to again and again.”

Life is a process, enjoy being alive in each moment.

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How to Fulfill Your Personal Growth Goals and New Year’s Resolutions

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Discover Your Denial.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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If you are having a hard time keeping your New Year’s Resolutions, it is helpful to take a long look in the mirror. Spending some time, each day in silence, looking inward and outward, will speed up your personal growth. Even three minutes is better than none.

Most of you know you have blind spots in your eyes and in your lives. So, how often do you pay attention to yours? Denial is one of the most self-destructive things you can do to yourself. Yet, it is one of the hardest things to notice in yourself. This is one of the major reasons you need lots of people in your life. Some of us even pay others to show us our blind spots! Great coaches, mentors, teachers and therapists are worth the investment in yourself. This is because others help you discover your blind spots.

Denial is not that complicated. If you react and get defensive, this means someone has triggered your button. Your button is a tender spot from your past that has been activated. This is not a harmful event. Your reaction is an ineffective conditioned response. Your defensiveness tells you that you need to do some serious emotional healing. Noticing when you react and how you really feel inside will lead to a permanent healing of your tender spot. Once you heal your tender spot, instead of reacting, you are relaxed and open because you feel emotionally secure.  

Unfortunately, many people avoid people who push their buttons. Avoidance is not helpful. You need people in your life who trigger your buttons. If you are unsure if you are reacting, you need to learn to read energy. Reading energy is the most reliable way to be sure of anything. You can learn to feel the energy difference between a closed, knee jerk response and an open, receptive response. 

So, spend time in silence. Notice when you are reacting. One step forward is enough. Heal your buttons permanently and enjoy your New Year more than you did 2021. Be patient and loving with yourself. There is no rush.

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How to Overcome SAD, Depression and Anxiety in 2022

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Receive Light.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
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How many shades of light are you aware of?

If you are a visual artist, you probably notice light more than the
rest of us. This is the season we celebrate light and need more light
to feel good and be healthy. You could be proactive this winter and
keep the low energy of SAD and depression away from you. Let there
be light. The lights of Hanukkah and Christmas are glorious to behold
and feel so good in your whole body.

Researchers have found a white paint that is so white that if you use
it on your house, even in hot places, you do not need air conditioners.
Wow, that brings home the difference in shades of white light. If you
look up white, house paint, there are a mind-blogging variety of colors.
I picked the whitest paint I have ever seen for my office. It reminds
me of the white buildings on Santorini. White with no yellow or blue
or red. The whole island of Santorini is painted white with black
sand and a black volcano just off its coast. Glorious sunlight bounces
all around, reflecting off the sparkling, everlasting water.

I have a friend who can sense the dramatic difference in the winter
light as opposed to summer light. I cannot—yet. The first place I
traveled that I did notice a different light was Katmandu, Nepal. The
light in the Himalayas was definitely different. I still cannot put
my finger on how it was different. However, I could see it and
feel it. When in the Rockies and other mountains in the US, I do not
sense the same light as I experienced in Febbruary 1983 in Katmandu.

I am excited to be tuning up my sensor to become more aware of light
this season. Winter Solstice is coming and the light will be
increasing for you to enjoy and receive. Notice light around you.
Take a moment, to make the moment, more vibrant, by being still and
receiving more of what is outside of you. Breathe in the light and
see where it goes in your body. Breathe out the light and see if the
color has changed. Light is full of different colors, shades and
weight!

Walking in my neighborhood today in Center City, Philadelphia, I saw
bright yellow irises in full bloom. Wow! December 13. Their light is
getting to my head as I write this, so I have more energy and am
happier to be alive. May you find more energy and increased happiness
as you tune into the lights on this planet and inside of yourself.

Let your cells soak up the light so they radiate light into the world.

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“7 Steps to Success as a Highly Sensitive Person.” Did you know that
20% of the population is highly sensitive? Dr. Jeanette is a highly
sensitive person and resonates with people who “feel everything.”
This special report shows you how to use your HSP skills to your
advantage for more power and energy. 31-page PDF file, $19.97.

Read more and order:
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Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.
503 S. 21 St.
Philadelphia, PA 19146
Mentor and author of Opening the Heart and 14 other self care products.

How to Overcome Insomnia and Sleep without Worry

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Learn to Relax.
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CertaPet published a study that focuses on seasonal depression in
people & pets. The study, based on keyword searches, shows that
insomnia is the top mental health condition in every state for people
who use the Internet. Very interesting study. Let me share my bias
with you: I would have guessed anxiety would be the most searched
mental health concern. As a psychologist, I often forget that many
people do not know they are anxious, but they do know they cannot
sleep!

Sleep. Such a simple, natural, essential behavior as going to sleep
can be interrupted easily by anxiety, worry and fear. Fear is real.
Anxiety is irrational. Worry is useless. Therefore, the only time you
need to stay awake is when there is a real fear. Humans used to stay
awake to keep the fire burning. If the fire went out, there was
trouble in the land, clan and tribe. Some of you may still have deep
inside of you an old fear of “things in the night,” like our African
ancestors used to have.

If you are having trouble sleeping, it is essential to get the help
you need to deal with any real fears so you can rest easy at night.
After you have taken care of reality, then you need to get serious
about letting go of control and allowing your body and mind to relax.
Some people worry at night. Some people worry during the day. Some
people worry all the time.

To sleep better, notice when you are worrying and consciously shift
into relaxing your body and mind. If you focus on your breathing this
helps you stop worrying. You may have to pull your awareness away
from worry more than once. Focus on breathe in. Breathe out. Breathe
in. Keep at it. Let me know if you are successful; I love feedback.
Paying attention to nothing but my breathing allows me to go to sleep
when I use it correctly.

To stop worrying in general, you need to reduce your overall anxiety.
This means you must spend time unlearning your anxiety responses,
one step at a time. To break free, use your relaxation response in real
life to relax during stressful moments. When you relax, you have
vibrant moments. Vibrant moments are worth the effort it takes to get
back in your body so you enjoy the real world around you.

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503 S. 21 St.
Philadelphia, PA 19146
215-732-6197

How to Heal Repressed Trauma

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Do Not Talk.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher

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A person on the Quora website asked, “How can I access repressed
trauma from my past?”

Some of the Talk Therapist’s answers offered were not empathic or
helpful. Some therapists even challenged the fact that trauma can be
adequately recalled which could make a person’s trauma worse, not
better. When effective, loving answers are not available on Quora is
when I sometimes take the time to offer a more helpful point of view.

Since Freud’s brilliant clinical work with patients, we know many
ways to help people access their unconscious memories. Even though
psychoanalysis was called the “talking cure,” the therapists did not
do much talking. Instead, they encouraged their patients to access
the vital reality living in their dark, deep unconscious. They did
this by encouraging their patients to express anything that came to
their awareness via free association.

Here is my evidence-based answer to the question on Quora about how
to access repressed trauma:

“Wise therapists know that everyone has some repressed childhood
trauma. We have all been hurt. When we are hurt we repress unless we
express. Very few children live in an emotionally safe environment
where they can express their hurt. Repressing your hurt is the mental
health problem and this is the reason you need healing and love.

The best way to recall your repressed childhood trauma is by
listening to your body. Your body holds all of your trauma. Body
awareness must increase so that you cannot be fooled by words and
psychobabble. Psychobabble keeps you stuck forever. Words lie. Your
body cannot lie.

A therapeutic massage would be a safe place to begin. Do not talk.
Listen to your body when it is touched. Feel your emotions. You may
cry soon and the images of one of your traumas could flash into your
awareness. Do not talk. The images could also be of you being
unloving toward someone or yourself. Make sure your massage person
is comfortable allowing you to feel your emotions. Just breathe and
feel. Do not talk.

The reason Talk Therapy is limited is because talking interferes with
emotional expression. After you fully express your emotions in any way
that feels safe to you, you need to learn how to love your wounded
self and heal her wounds. An emotionally safe teacher or therapist
knows how to help you feel your emotions and express your hurt. She
also knows how to help you fully express your hurt so that it is no
longer repressed energy that is trapped in your body.”

Please be careful with how much you talk and the words you say.
Notice the energy and results. Just talking about your trauma
reinforces your experience and can make it worse. The expressive arts
can help you access your trauma. Accessing your trauma does not heal
you. You must fully express your genuine emotions to get rid of the
repressed energy that is held in your body tissue. When you are no
longer defending yourself by constricting your body, healthy, healing
energy begins to flow in the areas that you have allowed to relax.

When you feel healthy flowing energy in your body, you have fully let
go of your repressed trauma. Then and only then, are you free to be
yourself. Freedom is the end result of healing.

If you need guidance staying with your emotions through this healing
process, the Opening the Heart audio series is an effective companion.
You learn to “breathe and feel” as loving vibrations guide and support
you staying with your emotions as long as needed. You need weeks,
not minutes. Listen to the calming sounds often as you step by step
have the courage to remove defensive energy from your body.

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OPEN YOUR HEART: When you heal your emotional wounds from the
past, you feel more vibrant and present in the moment. You relax and
feel self-love—no matter what you think you have done wrong. The
Opening the Heart audio series teaches you the energy difference
between your True Self and your Defensive Self. Once you know the
difference, you make better decisions in the moment that lead to
self-love and self-acceptance. Three hours of audio on Feelings,
Fear and Hurt. Money-back guarantee. $97.00

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LEARN TO READ BODY LANGUAGE: If you are not getting the results
you want, learn to hear what your body is saying to you. It gets louder
as needed. This audio was made for therapists. It is now available at
a reduced fee for all Vibrant Moment readers: Introduction to Body
Language: Authentic Communication. Instead of $47.00, you
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How to Stop Defensive, Reactive Behavior From Hurting You

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Stop Reacting.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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Notice the difference between reacting to a real event and receiving
the real event. Reacting is a knee jerk response; it means you have
been conditioned to respond in a certain way. You get your back up.
Literally. Your tight back helps you become aware that you are
reacting. Your body is the key to awareness. The first step in
unlearning any unhealthy behavior is to be aware that you are doing
it!

So, how do you know you are reacting?

Reacting is full of anxiety. Anxiety is static in your nervous system.
As a result of anxiety, your body becomes tight and you become weak
and powerless. You enter a defensive state instead of a being in a
strong, secure state. Being defensive is the weakest state you can be in.
When you are in the middle of reacting and being defensive it is often
hard to know what is going on. Best to look around for some reliable
outside data.

Thank goodness, there is immediate data, which can prove to you what
is going on. When you are not breathing fully into your lungs, you
are unconscious. Not breathing often means that you are defensive.
Take a deep breath and see if you can keep breathing. If you keep
breathing you will become stronger and more secure. Check more data
by paying attention to your physical body. Your physical body reveals
the truth, it cannot lie. Are you able to feel your body? If you
cannot feel your body, you are reacting.

To stop reacting, keep breathing fully into your lungs and touch both
knees with both hands. Knees are easy to reach and socially acceptable
to touch. You can touch any part of your body to bring you back into
reality. When you are breathing and aware of your body, feel how much
stronger and more secure you feel.

You can unlearn your reactions to life and learn how to relax and
receive reality. Sometimes the reality you are receiving is another
person having a reaction! Notice what they are doing and keep
breathing. Say an inner “no” to their reaction and keep your breath and
body awareness. Go take care of yourself so you have a nice day.

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get you into your body so you stop letting your reactions control you.
These body exercises have helped thousands become less defensive
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LEARN TO READ ENERGY: Discover the difference between your
reactions and reality. The Opening the Heart audio series teaches you
the energy difference between your thoughts and healthy flowing body
energy. Once you know the difference you find, accept and love your
genuine emotional self so you become stronger in mind and body. Three
hours of audio on Feelings, Fear and Hurt. Money-back guarantee.
$97.00

Read more and order Opening the Heart:
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LEARN TO READ BODY LANGUAGE: Perceive reality and question your
perception often. This audio was made for therapists. It is now
available at a reduced fee for all Vibrant Moment readers:
Introduction to Body Language: Authentic Communication. Instead of
$47.00, you pay $29.99. Money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/bodylanguageaudio.html

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colleagues. It comes to you from Dr. Doris Jeanette, with over forty
years of experience teaching people how to read and use energy to
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Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.
Author of Opening the Heart and 15 other self care products.

What is a Mental Projection and How to Improve Your Mental Health

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Recognize Your Projections.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher

What is a projection? It is an energy you send out and place upon any
person or situation that is based on your thoughts. Your thoughts could
be negative or positive. There are good projections as well as bad
ones. Watch out, your positive projections could get you into a love
lationship that is hard to get out of! This happened to me once. After
all, your projections are not reality. However, your projections do
affect reality. Isn’t psychology interesting?

When I first read about projections in Freud’s books, in high school,
I got hooked into becoming a psychologist. Over the last forty years,
I have learned a great deal about energy and how it moves in, out and
between us. As a scientist, I love using energy instead of psychobabble
to help people achieve better mental health. When you learn to read
energy, you move beyond theory into a higher degree of certainty.

Consider the reality that psychological dynamics occur in the
physical world, not just in your head. You can learn to recognize
projections by paying attention to the energy inside of you, around
you and outside of you. How these realities interact with each other
inside of you and then are expressed outwardly determines the results
you get. The more you know what is happening in your mind, body and
energy field, the more you can be in the driver’s seat. Otherwise,
your ego, which is your conditioning, is in charge.

Effective therapists have always helped their clients discover when
they are projecting so they can stop projecting. When you bring back
your projections you dramatically improve your mental health and
interpersonal relationships. Convincing someone with talk therapy
that they are projecting is not as easy as showing them they are
projecting by teaching them to feel the energy difference between
reality and a mental projection of their own making.

When I first started supervising young therapists, my star student
disappointed me. The night before one of my early workshops in nature
my co- therapist said she could not show up for the workshop. I was
not only disappointed, but left holding the bag without the
assistance I needed. Hours of supervision and creative work was
worthless. Angry and confused, I wondered what happened. By this
time, I had learned that being a victim was not helpful.

Processing my feelings and judgment about how “irresponsible” my
best student was, lead me to discover that I had high expectations for
her performance. I expected her to be stellar. Disappointment was the
result. A light bulb went off! I was trying to be the perfect teacher and
expecting my intern to be the perfect student. I was projecting my high
standards, as expectations, onto my intern.

Amazingly, I discovered the energy of disappointment was quite
different from the energy of genuine emotions. Disappointment is the
result of a projection. My ego was trying to control the outcome so
it projected my expectations onto my student. Wow, disappointment is
a let down caused by a hyped up expectation. Expectations are created
by the ego to try to control the outcome. This means the energy of a
projection, expectation and disappointment can be recognized for what
they are— weak, controlling, mental energy.

The next time you feel disappointment, examine your expectations and
projections. Own your projections and stop them. If you bring back
your projected thoughts you can sense and feel reality as it is. The
real world will be quite different from your thoughts about reality.
Reality will not be perfect and you will not feel disappointment.
Feel how the energy of your true self is dramatically different.
Projections are false and feel false. Your true feelings and emotions
are strong and sturdy and produce radiant energy that matches that
reality.

You will feel better as soon as you stop criticizing yourself for
trying to control outcomes. Accept that you are human and make
mistakes. Without your projections, you feel emotions appropriate for
the situation. Feeling your sincere emotions makes you stronger,
smarter and happier. No matter what variety of emotions you feel,
they are real. Reality is more powerful than your thoughts.

Next month will address how your projections interact with reality
in ways that hurt you.

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LEARN TO READ ENERGY: Discover the difference between your
projections and reality. The Opening the Heart audio series teaches
you the energy difference between your thoughts and healthy flowing
energy. Once you know the difference you find, accept and love your
genuine emotional self so you become stronger in mind and body. Three
hours of audio on Feelings, Fear and Hurt. Money back guarantee.
$97.00

Read more and order Opening the Heart:
http://www.drjeanette.com/emotionalhealthaudio.html

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LEARN TO READ BODY LANGUAGE: Perceive reality and question your
perception often. This audio was made for therapists. It is now
available at a reduced fee for all Vibrant Moment readers:
Introduction to Body Language: Authentic Communication. Instead of
$47.00, you pay $29.99. Money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/bodylanguageaudio.html

=============================
If you enjoy The Vibrant Moment, please share it with friends and
colleagues. It comes to you from Dr. Doris Jeanette, with over forty
years of experience teaching people how to read and use energy to
unlock and use their human potential. Sign up at:
http://www.drjeanette.com

Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.
Author of Opening the Heart and 14 other self care products