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How to Stop Addictive Behaviors

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Have fun!
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

After studying the psychological dynamics causing addictive behavior
since 1976, I suspect that the root cause has been found. If you want
to lose weight, stop impulsive buying, no longer need legal or
illegal drugs, the solution is to have more fun. Yes, it appears that
people become addicted to “treating” themselves to unhealthy
behaviors because they are not allowing themselves to experience
enough pleasure in everyday life.

Wow, isn’t that wonderful? How delightful it is to give yourself
permission to add more genuine fun and pleasure to each day so that
you do not need to sneak your fun and pleasure in the back door. When
you feel deprived because your Inner Critic is making you wrong for
not working all the time, you become addicted to unhealthy things,
like food, drugs and gambling. Sex addiction would also be included
because sex addicts do not really enjoy the fantastic pleasure that
true lovemaking gives your whole body and soul.

So, my dear readers, please make sure you give yourself enough fun
and pleasure each day. Your emotional self needs fun; your body needs
pleasure. Create a holistic healthy practice each morning before you
get out of bed. Check in with what your emotional self and body need
to make you happy and satisfied.

If you do not have a loving relationship with your emotional self,
the Opening the Heart audio series is an effective guide. If you do
not have a loving relationship with your body, the Overcome Anxiety
Naturally home study course guides you into a physical reality that
reduces anxiety and depression.

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STAND UP TO YOUR INNER CRITIC: Learn to listen to your emotional self
with the first hour of the Opening the Heart audio series called “Feelings.
The challenge of our species.” Practice sensing your true colorful
vibrations as you receive guidance on how to recognize your Inner Critic
energy. This knowledge is also very helpful in getting along with
other people. Three hours of audio on feelings, fear and hurt. Recorded
in a sound studio so my voice has healing, calming vibrations to resonate
with over and over again for better holistic health. $97.00, money-back
guarantee.

Read more and order:
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The three-hour Opening the Heart audio is included in the home study
course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally. Ten written lessons guide you
into a stronger relationship with your body. Breathing and body
exercises strengthen your ability to remove conditioned responses so
you are assertive. $199.00, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
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Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.
503 S. 21 St.
Philadelphia, PA 19146
http://www.drjeanette.com
215-732-6197

Mentor and author of Opening the Heart

How to Open Your Heart and Let Love in

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Receive Love.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher

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Love energy exists outside of you in many forms. Consider the
possibility that you are actively blocking this sweet nectar so it
does not penetrate your heart. How much love do you allow into your
heart? Probably not nearly as much as you could. Could it be that
your ego is stopping you from receiving love?

One of my large social networks is a center city, Philadelphia
outdoor olympic size pool club where I have been a member since 1980.
Being half a block from my home, I go and come all day long. I enjoy
coffee in the morning, a swim in the afternoon and dinner looking out
over the cityscape. Due to the pandemic, The Lombard Swim Club was
not able to open last year.

Five hundred of us own the club and it is a heart-warming story of
how the community saved this precious outdoor space from being
developed into townhouses. As we cautiously gather this year, my
socks keep getting knocked off at how much love energy is coming
toward me. I feel like a bag of bones, withered and weak. Like I have
aged a decade. Curiously, the comments from others do not match my
perception. As I creeped across the pool deck yesterday with lower
back pain, a new member that I do not even know said, “You look
fantastic!” Gee, what is going on?

People are seeing something that I do not feel. Could I be projecting
my judgment of myself onto others and not even know it? Probably.
Always allow yourself to notice and question your perception. If you do,
you become more grounded and realistic. It is often the case, that
others are more loving of you than you are of yourself. So, it pays to be
present enough with yourself and others to experience what is really
going on in physical and emotional reality. This is the reason it is so
important to be able to read body language.

When we only listen to the thoughts in our head, it is easy to forget
that reality is full of love. My Judgmental Self does not receive love
from others. Or give it to others! My True Self takes in it and keeps
it forever in my heart. My True Self freely gives love as a way of life.
Open your heart and allow love to come and go without your Ego
acting as the suspicious guard.

It feels wonderful to feel loved and to know that you are loved. You
deserve this feeling often. Love is knocking on your door. Open your
heart and let it in. To open your heart learn to recognize your Ego
when it is getting in your way.

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A GUIDE TO OPEN YOUR HEART: Learn to recognize your Ego when it
shuts your heart. The Opening the Heart audio series teaches you the
energy difference between your True Self and your Egos. Once you
know the difference, you heal your emotional wounds by choosing self-
acceptance in stead of self- judgment. Your heart receives and gives
love with confidence after you heal your emotional wounds from the
past. Three hours of audio on Feelings, Fear and Hurt.
Money-back guarantee. $97.00

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LEARN TO READ BODY LANGUAGE: Perceive reality by questioning your
perception often. This audio was made for therapists. It is now
available at a reduced fee for all Vibrant Moment readers:
Introduction to Body Language: Authentic Communication. Instead of
$47.00, you pay $29.99. Money-back guarantee.

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Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.
503 S. 21 St.
Philadelphia, PA 19146
http://www.drjeanette.com

Author of Opening the Heart and 14 other self-care products.

You are Not Broken and Do Not Need to be Fixed

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Find Your True Self
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

A man who has been suffering from a life experience, which left him
traumatized, requested an answer from me on Quora. So far, therapy
has not helped him. “Is there any reason to go to therapy if you
cannot be fixed.”

Unfortunately, he has the belief that he is broken and cannot be
fixed. Fortunately, I had an epiphany after a few years of helping
people who had been severely sexually and physically abused. Sitting
on the floor showing a client how to feel her emotions, body and
energy I suddenly realized that there was no bottomless pit inside of
her that could not be fixed. This awareness dramatically changed my
behavior; and thus, therapeutic results.

As I kept my attention on my new awareness that a person was not
permanently sentenced to a life of being damaged goods, I began to
relate to them differently without even knowing it. My intuitive self
began to relate more and more to their innate, real self instead of
to their wounded self.

I knew the difference between a conditioned response and a person’s
true nature because I had studied and used learning research for
years. Now, in addition to showing my clients how a conditioned
response is learned behavior, I showed them that their innate
strengths were different. Their true self was intact and ready to be
used as needed to help heal wounds.

Mother Nature made sure that nothing could destroy our real self,
which includes our intuitive self, instincts, heart, energy and inner
core. What a difference my shift in consciousness made in our
therapeutic success. There was a dramatic forward movement into
faster, stronger positive results. Thus said, here is the answer I
wrote for this man who asked if he could be fixed.

“So, the best news in the world is: You are not broken. You are not
permanently damaged. Let this reality soak into your cells and heart.
No matter what has happened to you, you can unlearn unhealthy
conditioning and heal real life trauma.

Your Inner Core, True Nature is waiting for you. Your Real Self is
undamaged and intact. Your job is to find, accept and follow your
True Self back into wholeness. This is the journey for everyone. All
of us are wounded.

Seek out teachers who show you the difference between your
Conditioned Self and your Real Self. When you learn how to recognize
your unloving ego, you have the power to make better choices in the
moments of your life. Learning to read body language and energy
rapidly increases your learning.”

Learn the difference in the energy between a conditioned response and
your Real Self. The first thirty minutes of the Opening the Heart audio
series teaches you how to feel this energy difference.

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GET HELP FEELING REAL SELF: The first thirty minutes of the
three-hour Opening the Heart audio series teaches you the difference
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minutes helps you discover your true emotional self so you are not as
easily fooled by your ego. Learn to be more compassionate toward
yourself. Just the sounds of my voice are healing, relaxing and
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Email me if you have trouble with your order.

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Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.

Author of Opening the Heart and 14 other self help products.

How to Be Happy and Full of Joy

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Bring Back Your Joy.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Human Energy Teacher, Mentor
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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Last month I shared how to relax into stress by trusting yourself and your natural processes. Read about how to transform overwhelming energy if you missed it: https://thevibrantmoment.com/2017/07/19/how-to-live-in-process-and-relax-into-stress/

Thank the cosmos, I was able to follow my own advice. For the last two weeks, I have been able to enjoy my daily swim and relax in the shade afterwards, while looking up at the beautiful blue sky. What a joy!

I was stuck in a defensive response to stress. Nothing kills joy faster than defensive energy. This is the reason I am highly motivated to get rid of defensive energy as fast as possible. How often do you get stuck in a defensive reaction?

“No one understands me. No one cares about me,” my client said after the end of a story about how an unkind person related to him. He didn’t say it, but I could feel that he included me in with all the rest of the people in his life. He did not think that I understood or cared about him either.

After forty years of experience working with defensive energy, I know that when someone is defensive, they do not trust me. I also know that when someone does not trust me, there is nothing I can do to help them. Therefore, if I cannot find a way to help my client return to his senses so he can trust me again, he is on his own.

This means he will stay stuck in his false beliefs, reacting as if they are true, when in reality they are false. This is the emotional health dynamic when many people end an important relationship with their friend, family or psychologist. You can currently see millions of people all over the world acting as if their irrational thoughts about reality are true, when they are false.

This is an excellent definition of mental illness. When you, or someone you know and love, is stuck in a false belief that no one understands you, you are out of touch with reality. Of course, it is true that people are sometimes unkind, mean and attacking. Yes, the person in my clients’ story was unkind.

However, it is also true that my client is being unkind to his friend and himself. The bottom line is, when you stop being unkind to yourself is when unkindness stops hurting you. When I stopped criticizing myself, I stopped being defensive about all my problems. Once I was kind and loving toward myself, my pleasure in living returned.

The next time this emotional health dynamic occurs in your life, you could transform your defensive energy into flowing healthy, energy. Instead of making yourself or the other person wrong, you could return to your senses. If you feel, instead of think, you return to your body and reality. Common sense, reality and truth are the ingredients needed to cultivate joy and vibrant moments.

Bring back your joy by being kind to yourself—no matter what is going on in your life.

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How to Enjoy Life and Say Goodbye to Your Ego

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Be True to Yourself.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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Thanks for the wise comments and questions about the psychology article on ambivalence. Catch it here if you missed it: https://thevibrantmoment.com/2016/06/17/how-to-make-good-decisions

A reader wants me to go deeper into the ambivalence state of mind for more personal growth help:

“I think it would be helpful to speak on the reason behind the ambivalence, because that is what is so frustrating.”

Indeed, you are correct. The reason behind your ambivalence is the conflict between your ego and your authentic self. You do not know what you really need and want because you are conditioned and controlled so successfully that you only know what you “should do” and “should not do.” You are not able to find and fearlessly follow your authentic self.

Instead, you are listening to your brain tell you the shoulds and should nots of the situation. To break free from your conditioning, you need to become aware of this everyday struggle between your ego energy and your authentic self energy. This is the major work of all personal growth and transformation. To be happy and satisfied you must not allow your ego to win these frequent conflicts that put you in the ambivalence state of mind. Or in the lose-lose state of mind which is another favorite of the Almighty, Reigning Ego.

The goal is to move away from your conditioned self and move toward a reality state that is free, responsible, and joyful. When you are in reality is when you automatically have a vibrant moment or two. When you are in the moment, you have successfully traveled the long distance from your controlling brain into your loving heart.

You are letting go of your brainwashing and literally dropping down into your heart so you access your authentic self. Your authentic emotional self has been wounded. This is the reason you have trouble finding, accepting, and following your little girl or boy into bliss. You are rejecting yourself because you learned to reject your true self. You were never good enough. Thus, as an adult you are afraid to listen to yourself because when you do, you experience a great deal of anxiety about doing so.

To win your everyday battles between your ego and authentic self, you must reduce your anxiety, slowly, step by step as you live your life. The home study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally leads you successfully through this reconditioning process. You must learn how to listen to your authentic fear from your emotional self and not listen to your irrational anxiety from your brain, your conditioned self.

Take the time to learn how to successfully reduce your anxiety and you will be healthier and happier. Good mental health is directly related to knowing what you really need and want and being able to manifest your desires and needs without letting your ego ruin your life.

Several readers also want to know how to deal with the unpleasant ambivalence that occurs in relationships. Oy vey! Relationships are a hard, complicated issue. However, we will take a shot at helping you with relationship ambivalence for the month of August.

In the mean time read the free psychology articles in the holistic psychology library at http://www.drjeanette.com/ to help you find your strengths and be at peace — no matter what!

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REDUCE YOUR ANXIETY: Imagine: By the end of the summer you are making better decisions and feeling relaxed, secure, and happy. These are some of the benefits of knowing and getting what you really want. Learn how to find, accept, and follow your emotional self by moving past your controlling ego. Take the home study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally to reduce your anxiety about being true to yourself. The home study course guides you step-by-step out of your ego into your body where you have the strength to know the difference between real dangers and irrational thoughts. Five hours of audio and ten written lessons for $199.97 with a money-back guarantee.

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Questions? Problems? Email Dr. Doris Jeanette.

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How to Overcome Anxiety to Get Your Moment Back

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Do Nothing Often.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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For over a decade this flyer took center stage on my refrigerator. It was given to me by one of my students at the Internal Women’s Writing Guild at Skidmore College where I taught body awareness classes outside on the Quad for 14 years. She knew I would love it.

“How beautiful it is to do nothing, and then rest afterward.”
Spanish Proverb

To one who seeks to enjoy life, this proverb needs to be taken to heart. I am in Mexico right now, alone, doing nothing. Resting. And doing nothing. I came here to snorkel but I find that the real reason I am here is that I need to reconnect with doing nothing and resting.

Often during the course of your life you need to relearn lessons you have learned before. It is so easy to get catch up in “doing” that your body has to give you a loud shout out to give you the message that you need to let go and be.

Being is the healthiest state you can live in. Psychological research says being in the present gives you the most happiness. Being is the only place where vibrant moments spontaneously occur. To reach a being state you must relax, receive, and replenish. This used to be a title of one of my speeches. Remember the 3 R’s.

Bad weather is often a gift because it helps you slow down and spend the day inside doing nothing. As I enjoy a Mexican thunderstorm from my beachfront villa I have time to learn how important it is for me to do nothing and rest afterwards.

Try it and see what happens to you. If your Puritan Ethics and “shoulds” get in the way, you could learn to relax by overcoming that Inner Critic of yours. Relaxing your body is the only way you can receive the precious energy of life into your cells and body to replenish much needed areas.

If you succeed in relaxing, you know immediately because you have more energy. You are excited and ready to do something you love!

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OVERCOME YOUR INNER CRITIC! To enjoy the many benefits of relaxing, including better mental and physical health, you must learn to get past your Inner Critic. Getting past your inhibitions is successful only when you become more aware of your body and let it lead the way. Your body adds the strength and security you need that your brain does not have. Step by step, learn to relax and take better care of yourself. Ten written lessons show you how to be effective taming your thoughts plus five hours of audio including the three-hour Opening the Heart series adds the emotional depth needed to make sure you are the victor. $199.97, money-back guarantee.

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INTERESTED IN TAKING A DO NOTHING TRIP WITH ME? If so, email me to let me know. I love snorkeling so it must be part of the trip. That means a blue water location.

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If you want to experience more emotional and body awareness and do not have local workshops available please email me. I will consider doing a workshop in your area if it is a fun place to visit and if you are able to gather ten people together for the workshop.

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How to Grieve and Avoid Depression and Anxiety

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Grieve When Sad.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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Have you lost a job, your youth, money, or lover?

A reader asks, “The one year anniversary of my mother’s passing is
coming up soon. What do I do?”

When you feel sad you need to grieve. You may have lost a pet, a
friend, or a house. If you do not grieve when you have feelings of
sadness, your emotional energy gets stuck in your body because you
are holding on to your unexpressed grief. When you hold on to your
unexpressed feelings you suffer much more misery than needed.

According to Chinese Medicine, your lungs take on the disease of your
unexpressed grief. Although, I am sure your grief could get stuck in
many other places in your body. Nevertheless, you need to do
everything you can to help yourself feel sad when you feel sad so
this energy does not take hold in your body.

Sounds simple. However, since you have been conditioned to stop
feeling your feelings and emotions as soon as they occur, you need to
notice the means by which you stop yourself from feeling sad. I am
sure you have a lot of clever, effective defense mechanisms to
overcome. Pay attention to distractions and thoughts.

To counter condition your inhibitions you must learn how to stay with
your body feelings and emotional feelings. Your feelings of sadness will
surface naturally as you go about your day. When sadness occurs, take
a breath and exhale. When you exhale, relax your body and allow
yourself to feel your emotions.

Sometimes your feelings will be stronger and more intense than at
other times. It is helpful to know that holidays, anniversaries, and
new adventures are often triggers for a renewed wave of feeling sad.

Rituals are wonderful ways to honor the loss of your mother,
especially on her death anniversary. You can create any ritual that
means something to you to mark the occasion. Simple silent times
alone as well as being with loved ones are both helpful.

Be creative and honor your mother in anyway that feels good to you.
The essential ingredient is helping yourself move through the sadness
so you avoid getting stuck in heavy, dense, depressed energy. Neither
do you want to act like you are all over your loss and it does not
bother you anymore, which is denial.

Anytime you feel stuck in heavy energy sit down and put your hand on
the part of your body that feels tight. You also need to do this when
you are anxious and feel like you are in the spinning cycle of a
washing machine. Breathe into your tightness. When you exhale, let
go, and feel the emotion that is being held there.

When you feel your sadness you may cry and express your feeling in
some other fashion. Music, memories, photos, nature, and cooking help
me stay with myself in sadness. When I am cooking, I feel especially
close to mother. She is there with me as I slice a tomato, make a
delicious meal, or burn my finger.

Now that she has passed, the sadness of not having her to visit, in
the flesh, when I go to my North Carolina high school reunion this
spring is very, very sad.

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and stay with yourself as needed along the pathway of your life.
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not have local workshops available please email me. I will consider
doing a workshop in your area if it is a fun place to visit and if
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How to Improve Your Mental Health with Mind Body Therapy

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Words affect matter.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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We are rethinking the way psychologists use the word judgment and honoring the power of words.

A psychological study revealed that a shocking 90% of the thoughts in university student’s heads were attacking words against themselves. Just imagine if you do not already know, how many attacking thoughts live in your head!

Just as a beginning therapist must learn to listen to the words their clients say, you need to learn to listen to the words you say so you know where you are stuck. Your attacking thoughts are one of the primary factors that generate the static energy that becomes anxiety in your nervous system.

A Japanese researcher, Masaru Emoto, did hundreds of experiments where he photographed the damaging physical effects that nasty, mean words have on water and the beautiful effects that loving, kind words have on water. What do your words do to your nervous system and body?

Words are not magical, they affect matter because of the energy in, of, and around the words. Take this to heart, the words you say to yourself and others dramatically affects your matter and the matter around you.

To be happy and healthy, you need to be conscious of the words you think and say. The words you use can be against you or for you. If judgment is not the correct word to use for negative “shoulds” and “should nots,” what do we call the self-righteous, high and mighty thoughts you learned from your parents, religions, and governments?

Your parents used certain words to shame you. Guilt-trip you. Inhibit you. Make you “do the right thing.” These words are in your head now and you say them to yourself. These words of right and wrong, good and bad, bundled together, over time, became false beliefs.

Such as:
Work is better than play.
Suffering is superior to pleasure.
Jews are better than gentiles.
Baptists are better than sinners.
Men are superior women.
Whites are better than blacks.
Adults are wiser than children.

Words change, just like people. The word judgment lost it’s “e” during the course of my long career. This happened while psychologists were discovering how to help clients stop their brutal, constant self-judgments that make them nervous, ineffective, and anxious.

New words come into the language and old ones leave. What word can we use to describe these inner nasty words you use against yourself that are unconscious until you make them conscious?

If judgment is not the correct word, maybe it is time for a new word. The Beatles called nasty words the “Blue Meanies.” Let me know what you think and feel.

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WHAT YOU ARE THINKING? The people who already know the nasty words in their head are ahead of those still unconscious of this attacking energy, which makes you feel bad, anxious, and insecure. Become conscious of your thoughts so you get rid of all the nasty ones. The Overcome Anxiety Naturally home study course leads you into positive, self-talk so you move forward instead of staying stuck in negative self-talk. Ten written lessons, five hours of audio, $199.97, money-back guarantee.

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How to Open Your Mind for Better Relationships

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Open Your Mind.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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How often do you accept something new into your mind? An open mind is clear; therefore, effective. Clear thinking means you do not block out information or ideas that challenge you. You welcome a different point of view.

A reader of The Vibrant Moment sent me an interesting, humorous challenge to my constant psychological use of the word judgment. She even introduces a new concept piggybacking on an old one.

As you read her comments, think for yourself about the word judgment, how words control you, and the importance of logical, clear thinking.

Marcia Spires, an accomplished NYC editor, speaks for herself:

“I’m a long-time Doris fan and language arbiter who doesn’t want words (or ideas) to get muddled. (Here, I am advocating for the positive meanings of “judging.”)

“I’ve been meaning to write to you since your “judging the concrete” article. It’s taken me a while to sort out my thoughts and gut reactions. You were so down on yourself for “judging” the city concrete. And the PC (psychologically correct) stance these days seems to be that “judging,” or disliking, anything is forbidden. Why? To show that we’re open-minded, I gather. Or to prove that we’re loftily indifferent to whatever crosses our path, with no opinions, pro or con? That doesn’t sound so positive, put in that light. It almost hints of “dissociation,” doesn’t it? Or “loss of affect.” Both are big no-no’s, I thought.

Anyway, I squish a bit internally (couldn’t find a better description) whenever I come across what seems like a misuse of a very useful word. What is “wrong” with noticing, assessing, and responding to something? That’s how I define “judging.” Personally, I don’t think it’s a law that we have to “like” everything we encounter. Or that it’s healthy to “accept” everything. (My, aren’t I the little rebel!) We get to pick and choose. And “judging” is the method we use.

Anyway, you got to the real nitty-gritty (no pun intended) when you differentiated between the gritty concrete under your feet (ugh) and the fine bridges and highways that make urban life feasible (smile). That’s what I call making realistic “judgments.” Assessing all factors.

In good humor,
Marcia Spires

Here is a link to The Vibrant Moment issue Marcia was referring to: “How to Get More by Blessing More with Universal Law”: https://thevibrantmoment.com/2015/11/25/how-to-get-more-by-blessing-more-with-universal-law/

Please share your responses to Marcia’s comments with me via email.

Words do matter. Words definitely control us. I am very picky about words and often help clients change how they talk to themselves to get different results. Pay attention to the words you say to yourself and how they affect you and effect you.

Marcia is correct about the first definition of judgment. Sound judgments are extremely important; they make your life easier and richer. Use your brain to make clear judgments that lead you to success. Be rational and logical so your mind is effective.

Next week I will discuss the type of judgments that hurt you and make you anxious, as well as the universal law I want you to understand so you can use it to your advantage.

This week, think new thoughts, keep your mind open, and be creative. Avoid obsessive thoughts, closed minds, and the ordinary. Disagree and let others disagree.

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How to Get More Vital Energy by Feeling Your Emotions

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Accept What is Real.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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Thank you, readers, for your feedback and questions. Keep them coming. Here is an important question about how to reach good mental health from a kind hearted reader who is stuck in confusion and intense mental anguish.

“I have enjoyed your emails for 5 years! Wow! Please write about how to learn to live in the HERE and NOW! And acceptance. I am a mom who is both blessed with two adult kids but I feel rejection about living here in North America … Them and my loving husband is what keeps me here. I am too attached to my past, because that’s what I know best and that is what made me “grow”! Somebody told me, your heart has to be in one place. What does it mean? I am from EU and live here more than half of my life!! I can’t either go back or stay. And the HERE and NOW is filled with tears and sadness … Unshared … because I am ashamed of not being able to enjoy the many blessings around me!”

For all of you, always remember that no matter what is going on inside of you there is a rational reason for what you feel. You have real problems that have real solutions. Your feelings and emotions are real. Never doubt reality.

Mother Nature knows what she is doing. Evolution knows what she is doing. As Einstein said, “God does not play with dice.” There is sanity in the universe; there is sanity inside of you. It is up to you to find your sanity!

Thank you for your question. Even though I may not hit the bullet mark with so little information about you, I know for sure that your feelings and emotions are not wrong or bad. It is only your thoughts about your feelings and emotions that are confused and irrational.

You are stuck in depression and dense energy because you tell yourself everyday that your feelings and emotions are WRONG and BAD. They are not. What you feel is what you feel. No more or less. Simple and profound. Feelings are real.

The reason you are stuck in such unpleasant, never-ending pain is because you are making your feelings and emotions wrong at every turn. Every day, all day long, your self-judgment is killing your heart, body, and soul. Your thoughts are irrational and unkind, creating your mental anguish.

You are hurting your real self every time you find fault with yourself. To feel better, you must stop finding fault with what is real. Instead of making your feelings and emotions wrong, accept them and let them move. The vital energy of your emotions is the potent energy that will move you forward into vibrant moments.

I assume you are too afraid to feel your strong emotions and feelings on your own. This is often the case because children are taught to control their feelings and emotions instead of feel them. Nevertheless, trying to control your feelings and emotions creates mental health problems.

Therefore, I recommend that you work with an emotionally safe professional who can help you unlearn your fear of your emotions so you can break free and enjoy life. If you do not have access to an emotionally safe professional you can receive emotional guidance and support by using the self-help “Opening the Heart” audio series.

The way to enter the Here and Now is to feel what you feel. Physical and emotional feelings put you squarely in the moment of that which is real. It does not matter what you feel. Just accept and love your real feelings and you enter the here and now.

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