Is it Guilt or Anxiety? Bypass Your Symptom and Look at Process for Personal Growth


The Vibrant Moment – Remember:  Notice your natural process.
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Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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I received a question this week about childhood guilt in my
“Ask Dr. Jeanette” box.  You can also use this free
psychological resource at any time to ask me a question that
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This particular gentleman from the United Kingdom thought he
was experiencing guilt about something he had done in his past.
He continued to relive a certain childhood event over and over
in his head, making himself feel bad and wrong about what he
had done.

He thought guilt was his problem. Yet after reading his
question and sensing his energy, I was not sure that guilt was
his problem.

Here is my answer:

“There is no need to suffer and punish yourself anymore about
your childhood behavior.  As a matter of fact, you may or may
not be suffering from guilt. I would have to do a private
consultation with you to tell for sure.”

“However, from what I pick up, guilt is not your real problem.
In a situation like yours, it is not so much what happened, as
what you are doing with what happened.”

“Look at what you are doing with what happened.”

“Your current behavior has to do with your psychological state
which does not appear to be guilt.  Your current energy state
is obsessive.  You are obsessing about your behavior.  Your
obsessive behavior could be dramatically improved with more
knowledge, information, awareness and the appropriate mind-body

Apply this man’s situation to your personal growth.

You may think that guilt is your problem when it is not.

Look at your process to learn more about your bottom-line,
heart-line issue.

Your problem could also be how you are using what you have done
in the past.  Look  at your process to learn more about the
source cause of a problem. How are you using certain events
in your life.   Are you obsessing about them?

Obsessive behaviors in any form are the result of high anxiety.
Anxiety is what makes people repeat thoughts, events and

It does not matter what you obsess about, you need to reduce
your anxiety so you can relax and enjoy your life.

Professionals:  Are you paying attention to process instead of
symptoms, words, thoughts and behaviors? If not, learn more
about process and how it can help you help your clients.

Parents: Do you take your own behavior and your daughter’s
behavior at face value? Or do you look at the process of what
was happening before the defensive reaction occurred?  Look at
what happened before the unhelpful behavior occurred to find
long-lasting solutions to real problems.


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Reason New Year’s Resolutions Fail: Unconscious Motivation Stronger than Self Motivation


For those of you seeking the reason you were not successful
last year fulfilling your New Year’s Resolutions and heart’s
desires, look at your motivation.

Motivation is the energy that moves you forward and makes
sure you reach your goals.  All along the way you will bump
into blocks such as fear and anxiety.  These two monsters
are a given.

Therefore, you need to learn how to overcome anxiety and
face your real fears. These two skills must be in your
self-improvement toolbox for any personal growth and
professional success.

However, you also need to pay attention to your motivations.
You may have motivations that you are not aware of that are
seriously effecting your results.

Take a look at what really motivates you.

Are you motivated by:
• Money?
• Love?
• Relationships?
• Avoiding Pain?
• Candy?
• Success?
• Peace of Mind?
• God?
• Failure?
• Avoiding Conflict?
• Freedom?

All of these “goodies” can be used to get your human
energy moving in a stronger fashion.  Some of these
“goodies” will move you toward unfulfilling professional
goals and some will move you toward unfulfilling personal
growth goals.

I am not kidding.

Your motivation for avoiding pain could be stronger than
your motivation for success.  Your motivation for money
could be stronger than your motivation for love.  Your
motivation for candy could be stronger than your motivation
for peace of mind.

When you look at the results you are getting, know that your
motivation is definitely taking you to where you want to
go…consciously or unconsciously.

You do not have to let your unconscious take you to a goal
you do not desire.  All you need to do is become aware of
what really motivates you.

Expand your awareness and make better choices to get the
results that your heart desires instead of the results that
your ego desires.

Professionals:  Are you stuck in the same ole routine?
Overworked? Not enjoying your clients?  Regroup and get more
into your heart’s motivations and less into your ego’s
motivations.  Get the holistic psychology training, energy
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Parents: Do you find that you are more concerned about what
others think than you are about your child and what he or she
needs? Don’t let outside factors make you control, inhibit and
hurt your emotional, sensitive, loving child.  Let love for
your child motivate you to be strong enough to stand up for his
or her needs in this anxious, crazy, out-of-balance world.


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Falling in Love, Relationship Advice: Use Body Language to Notice Fear, Anxiety


The Vibrant Moment – Remember:  Use Body Language

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Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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A reporter sent me a series of questions to answer on the
physical effects of falling in and out of love for an article
she was writing.

One of her questions was, “What exactly causes the
“butterflies” and “sweaty palms” when people fall in love?
Is that real or not?”

My answer:

“Yes, these physical experiences are real. Your body reacts
to everything that is going on inside and outside of you all
the time. Your body is the best barometer you have for knowing
what is really happening in physical reality.”

For example, “butterflies” and “sweaty palms” occur when you
are anxious.  These physical effects often happen to you before
you give a speech, when you are in a new situation, when you are
in an airplane and so on.

What you need to know is the feeling of love is not causing your
physical reactions of anxiety.  It is most important to sort out
the difference between love and the fear of love.

It is your fear of love that causes you to have butterflies in
your stomach.

Your fears of intimacy cause you to experience sweaty palms.
You may feel insecure about the possibility of falling in love.
Perhaps you are afraid of being vulnerable and open.

You are thinking thoughts like this:
“Does she like me as much as I like her?”
“Oh no! I will get hurt if I fall in love.”
“I can’t let him know how much I like him. He will run away.”

When you are in love your body reacts very differently.

You are feeling love and not thinking anything. Your body is
relaxed, open and soft when it is in the energy of love.

Real love makes you feel secure, accepted and calm. You are glad
to have a person to love and be loved by.

If you are afraid of love, now is the time to learn how to face
your fears and overcome your anxiety.   It will be good for your
mental health, emotional health and physical health to learn how
to spend more time in the physical state of love.

PROFESSIONALS:  If you are not using body awareness and its
physical truths in your work, you are not using the most powerful
tools you have to help your clients transform their fear and anxiety
energy into love energy.  Engage in continuing education to learn
how to include the body and its truths in your psychological work.

PARENTS:  Make sure you get back in your own body so you can model
healthy loving behaviors for your children instead of anxious,
fearful behaviors.  Help your children keep their body self-esteem
as they grow up by allowing them to play freely with their whole
body and spend lots of time outdoors every day.


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New Year’s Resolutions: Take a Self Improvement Action for Success

exercise.jpgThe Vibrant Moment – Remember:  Take action.
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You have a fresh, new year to create the life you want.

You do not need to punish yourself if you did not reach your
New Year’s Resolutions or goals last year.  You can start
anew in 2012 with self-improvement and personal growth.

Just think, you could:

Exercise and lose weight.
Relax and lower your blood pressure.
Dance and enjoy moving your body.
Lose weight and be more sensual.
Make love more often.
Make more money.
Say goodbye to any unhealthy behaviors.

You are the boss. You get to choose and create your goals.
And you are the one who will determine the results you get.

Take a look at your fresh, new year and make a list.  Be
bold, realistic and smart.  Put in your intention to use
your intuition, natural strengths and creativity to make
2012 the best year ever in your personal and professional

If you did not reach your New Year’s Resolutions last year,
you probably did not learn something new and take action on
what you learned.  In other words, you did not do what you
had to do to reach your goals.

Doing nothing is a sure way not to be successful in
self-improvement and personal growth.

Instead of doing nothing, you could take the steps that
lead to your success.

There are always new skills you need to know in order to
reach your goals.  Self-improvement is an ongoing process
of learning new relationships skills, coping skills and
self-loving skills.

Therefore, continuing education is the best investment you
can make in yourself and your future. When you take courses
and listen to audio recordings, you learn new skills.
When you use your new skills you move forward.

In addition, if you choose good teachers, mentors and holistic
psychologists, you will definitely reach your goals.  There
is an energy magic that happens when you hook up with an
effective mentor.  With confidence, you follow through with
the steps that lead you to your New Year’s Resolutions.

Then you will have a great, big smile on your face at the end
of 2012 because you have successfully reached your personal
growth goals and fulfilled your New Year’s Resolutions.

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your performance with clients.  Seek out mentors and teachers
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future, psychology will not rely on talk therapy and

For Parents: Engage your children in personal growth and
self-improvement.  Let them be creative and show you how to
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and controlled they are likely to be. Children are never too
young to engage in behaviors that keep them–and you–open,
free and joyful.


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