Falling in Love, Relationship Advice: Use Body Language to Notice Fear, Anxiety


The Vibrant Moment – Remember:  Use Body Language

Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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A reporter sent me a series of questions to answer on the
physical effects of falling in and out of love for an article
she was writing.

One of her questions was, “What exactly causes the
“butterflies” and “sweaty palms” when people fall in love?
Is that real or not?”

My answer:

“Yes, these physical experiences are real. Your body reacts
to everything that is going on inside and outside of you all
the time. Your body is the best barometer you have for knowing
what is really happening in physical reality.”

For example, “butterflies” and “sweaty palms” occur when you
are anxious.  These physical effects often happen to you before
you give a speech, when you are in a new situation, when you are
in an airplane and so on.

What you need to know is the feeling of love is not causing your
physical reactions of anxiety.  It is most important to sort out
the difference between love and the fear of love.

It is your fear of love that causes you to have butterflies in
your stomach.

Your fears of intimacy cause you to experience sweaty palms.
You may feel insecure about the possibility of falling in love.
Perhaps you are afraid of being vulnerable and open.

You are thinking thoughts like this:
“Does she like me as much as I like her?”
“Oh no! I will get hurt if I fall in love.”
“I can’t let him know how much I like him. He will run away.”

When you are in love your body reacts very differently.

You are feeling love and not thinking anything. Your body is
relaxed, open and soft when it is in the energy of love.

Real love makes you feel secure, accepted and calm. You are glad
to have a person to love and be loved by.

If you are afraid of love, now is the time to learn how to face
your fears and overcome your anxiety.   It will be good for your
mental health, emotional health and physical health to learn how
to spend more time in the physical state of love.

PROFESSIONALS:  If you are not using body awareness and its
physical truths in your work, you are not using the most powerful
tools you have to help your clients transform their fear and anxiety
energy into love energy.  Engage in continuing education to learn
how to include the body and its truths in your psychological work.

PARENTS:  Make sure you get back in your own body so you can model
healthy loving behaviors for your children instead of anxious,
fearful behaviors.  Help your children keep their body self-esteem
as they grow up by allowing them to play freely with their whole
body and spend lots of time outdoors every day.


GET STARTED, TAKE ACTION: The best place to start facing
your fears and overcoming your anxiety is with the “Overcome
Anxiety Naturally” online course.  It teaches you the physical
awareness you need to tell the difference between your body in
love, in fear and in anxiety.  It also gives you the body exercises
and physical tools you need to use in your daily life when you
are anxious so that you can unlearn your fears of intimacy. Fully
guaranteed. 10 written lessons and five hours of audio, $149.97.

BONUS:  Order the “Overcome Anxiety Naturally” online course before
Monday, Jan 16 and receive an audio worth $29.97, “Hear Your Body
Talking.” Remember to tell me in the check out box that you are a
Vibrant Moment reader.

Read about the personal growth power tool:
“Hear Your Body Talking”:


ALREADY TAKEN THE ANXIETY COURSE? The next step is mentoring and
coaching. Get the support and specific help you need to become more
aware of how you are stuck in fear and anxiety.  Mentoring makes sure
your personal growth and self-improvement is successful. You will
reach your New Year’s Resolutions and more.

For professional and personal growth join the Holistic Psychology
Mentoring Program:

For private coaching email me about your interest. I will be in
Glenwood Springs, CO for private in-person energy sessions
until Feb. 13.

Questions?  Email me at drjeanette@drjeanette.com
Or call 215-732-6197.


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