How to Flourish During a Pandemic and Psyche Attack

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Lathe Thyself With Love.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Transformational Teacher and Mentor
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“Lathe thyself with love.”

At a Jean Houston workshop in NYC in 1983, Jean shared a story about
Margret Mead. Jean was close to Margaret at the time and overheard
her talking to herself in her room as she woke up in the morning. It
sounded as if Margaret was moving and stretching as she talked to
herself. I cannot remember the exact words, but it was something
along the lines of, “I am so happy with myself. I am so glad to be
me. It is oh, so, delightful to just be me.”

This was a rare story of someone who was not only comfortable talking
to herself, but was also at ease being sincerely pleased with herself.
Unfortunately, self-love is not easy for most of us to enjoy, experience
and sustain over time. This is because loving yourself is forbidden
and even considered a sin by some religions. As a result, it is hard
to be tender with yourself without hearing judgments in your head.

If others love you, it is ok—for a bit. However, you should not love
yourself. If you do, your Inner Critic calls you selfish, narcissistic and
crazy. Tis Strange— when you really step back and look at it, isn’t it?
Very peculiar.

After all, self-love is the heart of what any good therapist, coach
or mentor teaches you. Step by step, they lead you to the pot of gold
at the end of the rainbow that lives in your heart. When you sense
your inner truths, loving energy is always present. As soon as you
feel the reality of the universal loving energy that lives in your
heart, self-love is possible.

It took me a few years after hearing this story about Margaret Mead,
to make a conscious choice that I was indeed worthy of being loved.
And it was a conscious choice. For 35 years the negative judgments I
had learned about the real me were dominant in my psyche. One by
one, as they hit me, I lay the nasty comments about the lazy, relaxed,
disorganized, selfish, creative, colorful, crazy me, dead at my feet.

My therapy, workshops and self-care were growing corn. Finally, to
myself, and in my own mind—I decided that I was indeed, good enough
as a person, that it was all right for me to let go of control and
love who I really was. Profound. I knew for sure that I could trust
my heart and follow it. My heart was wise and I would do no harm. All
I needed to do was be responsible for my actions.

Do not confuse self-praise with self-love. Praising yourself for
something is an act of the ego. You can be pleased with yourself if
you make a lot of money, have a lot of friends, have a lover, get a
degree or job and so on. This is not self-love. Self-love is
accepting who you really are inside, without having to do anything.

If you listen to your heart, you discover that you are inherently a
good person. This knowledge is the turning point. I could never go
backward after knowing that I was born lovable. From my conscious
choice forward— I was glad to be me. However, life did not stop
throwing new judgments at me.

It appears the Inner Critic does not die a permanent death. Our ego
seems to be like a virus that is out of control for a while and kills
a lot of people. Eventually, you become stronger than the virus.
However, the virus does not completely disappear, even after we get a
vaccine and medication! Antibiotics can kill the bubonic plague, yet
it is still lurking around with all the other viruses!

Thus said, you can tame your ego but cannot destroy it. The moment
you choose to love your true self, you become much stronger.
Self-love gives you a healthy immune system and lots of vibrant
moments. But you must make this choice over and over again. So, the
next time you feel down in the dumps, look around for your ego. It is
attacking you. You could choose to shift out of self-judgment and
lathe thyself with love!

Notice how much and how often you truly love yourself this week.
Notice how much and how often you judge yourself this week and for
what.

If you need help in feeling the energy difference between your sneaky
ego and your real self, study the Opening the Heart audio. In the first
thirty minutes you get a lesson you never forget.

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How to Deal with Frustration and Helplessness

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Bend with the Wind.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
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Major worldwide events, one after another, are adding more and more
stress every day to your nervous system. How to cope? What can you
do? Are you riding the ups and downs so you are moving forward?
Or are you stuck in denial?

External stress is triggering our chronic and acute anxieties. When
you cannot control the events in your world, it is normal to feel
helpless. Helplessness is our current worldwide human feeling. An
unhealthy, ineffective way to deal with helplessness is to become
frustrated. When you are frustrated you often become hostile. When
you are hostile you often act out your feelings on others or objects.
Such as— rape, physical abuse and looting.

Instead of acting out how you feel, which is not effective, you could
feel how you feel and do nothing. Strong emotions and feelings give
you information about external and internal realities. Information needs
to be absorbed and processed. It does not need to be reacted to with
knee jerk responses. Reactions are not effective. You could receive,
accept and use information to move out of helplessness into
assertiveness.

This simple, basic choice is yours at any moment of the day or night.
You feel helpless, like a child. You feel helpless, like a woman. You
feel helpless, like a black man. You encounter “city hall,” as I like
to call it. You hit the rigid structures of your government, society
and parents. You hit energy that will not bend, move or adjust. Rigid
structures are everywhere in our world.

It is not helpful for you to be rigid and join this unhealthy,
ineffective energy. Instead, choose to bend with the wind. You can
move out of helplessness into assertiveness. First, you need to take
responsibility for how you feel. No matter what you feel, own it. The
healthy way to deal with your feelings is to be kind and understanding
with yourself. Knowing you feel helpless alerts you to the fact that you
need to change or learn something new in order to become effective.

You can let go of your rigid behaviors and become flexible. You can
let go of your obsessive thoughts and learn new ways to do things. I
know, letting go of control is not easy. It is scary. Probably the
scariest thing you will ever have to do. However, the consequences of
holding on to your rigid ego are much worse than the benefits you
gain from learning new skills and ways to cope and get through the
stressful day.

The two new skills you need to learn, relearn or improve are:

  1. Being assertive
  2. Reducing anxiety naturally

To feel more of your personal power, learn to be effective when you
feel helpless, even if being effective means being in touch with your
feelings and emotions and doing nothing. Usually when you are kind
with yourself your inner strengths, intuition, and creativity pop up
to help you. Sit still and listen to the wisdom that comes into your
conscious mind that guides you into the next vibrant moment.

Maybe some of the rigid world structures are falling apart. I am
trusting this is true. Do your part and get rid of your rigidity to
help the forward movement keep going. Rigid human behaviors must
be replaced with creative, flexible behaviors. Then humans will be back
in balance with Mother Earth and have excellent mental health.

Be safe and sane.

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“Thank you Dr. Jeanette for your Assertiveness Training home study course, I
loved it. I learned that I was often being aggressive or passive or
passive-aggressive rather than being assertive. Now I know the
difference. The difference is huge, both in regard to my actions and
the results I get.”  Kevin from the UK

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How to Ride Out of Control, Crazy Energy

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Hold on Tight!
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Hold on tight to energy that is real. Let go of all other energies. Disharmony is killing our species. 

Do you feel like you are on a wild bronco? Most of the human family is riding a wild bronco because we are face to face with human insanity. Out of control energy, fighting and fussing, is everywhere in reality. This crazy energy is also inside of you because you learned it from outside sources— once upon a time!

Makes me sick to my stomach when I watch the news. Who to trust? What is the truth? I am reminded of what creates mental illness in children— crazy parents or other adults! Irrational people are either out of control or controlled. Neither energy is harmonious. Feeling the difference between disharmony and harmony will help you stay safe and sane as we move through this worldwide real event.

Reality is harmonious even though it has its ups and downs. After all, what happens when you fall off the bronco? You get grounded— immediately! Yes, hitting the ground brings you back into gravity where sanity lives.  

Suddenly, you are in harmony with your surroundings, even if you are hurt. Happens every time you fall. 

Falling pulls you into gravity and harmony but it does not keep you there. After you fall, strong winds and storms of emotional distress and self-doubt swirl around you. What is the real voice in your head saying? When is your ego lying to you? Are these words from your parents? Your teachers? How do you survive a real health crisis?  

It is helpful to remember you become disharmonious when you get stuck in irrational thoughts. Blind spots exist. We have more of them than we know about! This means you need an outside reality to hold on to. There must be someone or something you trust and allow to question your mind, perception and thoughts. Be flexible and welcome being challenged and questioned.

What you think is often incorrect. There is much psychological research to support this simple statement. Becoming stronger means being comfortable with the reality that you are wrong. Your own perception is not accurate enough to bring you back into harmony. Your brain is too easy to condition and your ego too dependent on mass consciousness for you to trust. Your brain and ego are so clever with their words they confuse you and mislead you. 

You need to hold on tight to something or someone you trust. Yes, I hate to say it, but some thing outside of you must be there to help you. As we ride our wild broncos we are facing our deepest fears. You cannot trust what you think or know from the past. Now is a new reality. In this moment, you must make choices using your instincts and intuition. You must stay connected to the whole and hold on to reality as you move through your fears to the other side. On the other side you enjoy freedom and joy. 

Some of my clients hold on to me like a rock. They know I care and will do my best to empower their true self instead of their thoughts and ego. They trust me to tell them the truth, knowing I will not always be nice and try to please them. I hold on to my trees, invisible energy, gravity and therapist.

What and who do you trust? Hold on to reality. Be wrong. Fall off your bronco. Get back in the flow. Reality is sincere, modest and full of love. Thank the Goddesses! 

Let go of control. You will feel safe and sane in the real, vibrant moment. No matter what.

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How to Stay Sane During Crisis

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Stay the Course.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
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Just because you feel something does not mean you have to do
something! Yelp, there were many times I wanted to run away from
Baylor graduate school in Texas in 1974 and travel the USA in my VW
van, Sunshine. But I did not take that action even though I had that
strong runaway feeling numerous times.

Your feelings often change as soon as you feel them. They rearrange
and keep going, if you let them. Allowing yourself to flow with your
feelings produces peak experiences called vibrant moments. Then at
other times your feelings stay the course. This is when you know that
what you are doing is the best course of action for you.

You can also have many feelings at the same time about the same thing
from different points of view. For example, you love and hate him. You
love his true self and cherish every hair on his body. In contrast, a
minute later, his controlling Ego drives you crazy. Girl, with this stay
at home time, you sure can get on each other’s nerves!

Given how confusing feelings can be, do you trust your feelings and
use them to help you? If not, you are missing out on one of the most
powerful inner strengths you possess. The truth is you can always trust
your feelings because they give you feedback about reality. Feelings
report internal and external realities. That’s it. No more or no less.

What you feel in the moment has nothing to do with the appropriate
action you need to take. If you react immediately to a feeling you
are not giving yourself time to absorb, process and take in reality.
The natural process of transformation means that you do not react to
anything. When you react you are being controlled by your past
conditioning. If you want to be self-confident, free and happy, you
must give up knee-jerk reactions.

To be safe and sane, you must experience reality as it is happening.
Reality is energy and changes in the moment as you live your life.
How you respond to reality is your power or lack of power. How you
respond reflects your self-confidence. You can react, which makes you
weaker. Or you can respond to reality as a responsible person. When
you are responsible, you use your feelings as feedback to make good
choices.

Just like in graduate school, I feel like running away from this
current worldwide experience of the monster virus. I know world
history. In 1848, the missionaries gave the Hawaiian people measles,
killing off a quarter of the population. I know there is real danger
out there if my body encounters that virus. I also know I have inner
strengths to help me. My knowledge base includes the fact that
staying open and receptive keeps my immune system at a healthy level.

So, even though, I feel like running away, I am not going to
run away. Instead, I am staying the course. Feeling all my intense,
different feelings and not reacting to them. Instead, I keep
breathing. Making myself absorb and process my external reality which
is out of control and chaotic. I am staying with my inner reality,
which is full of real fear, irrational anxiety and a great deal of
common sense.

May this newsletter encourage you to go deeper and find your truths
so you stay in touch with what is real. The real world is the earth,
your surroundings, body, emotions, energy, light, vibrations and
feelings.

Know that you are loved. Love yourself—no matter what. Comfort
yourself at all times–no matter what.

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How to Feel Real Fear and Keep Safe

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Look Inward.
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“Getting to know you, getting to know all about you.” These words
from the musical “The King and I” are playing though my mind. Long
ago, the Greek temples encouraged people to look inward with the
words “Know Thyself.” Perhaps getting to know who you really are and
letting others get closer to you will produce positive results that
occur from our current scary world reality. 

You are being forced to slow down. You could distract yourself or you 
could look inward. Becoming more intimate with yourself and with 
others will empower you and make you stronger. You will face
your real fears and reduce your irrational anxieties. Then, you will
increase your ability to relax and become more comfortable in your 
body on the blue planet and soar! 

With so many real fears and irrational anxieties around us, we need
all the help we can get. One of the most important scientific,
energetic facts you need to know is the difference between real fear,
panic and denial. If you do not know this information, you do not
possess the means to take good care of yourself. You will over or
under react to real fears and put yourself in danger.

Naturally, you will sometimes panic; you will be secure and you will
deny. This is normal. However, you must have the ability to come back
to center so you are feeling your real fears without panic or denial.
If you need help in knowing the difference in the energy between
these important states, study and use the Overcome Anxiety Naturally
home study course that includes the Opening the Heart audio. To know
how to take care of yourself, you must take one step at a time
through the real fears until you reach the place where you are not
afraid. 

As you make your way through the real fears, you need to look inward
to your innate strengths and look outward to the love that is always
all around you. Your inner strengths are always there. You need to
trust them, feel, and use them. They help you succeed. Love is always
there. Most of the time you block this powerful energy out and do not
receive it. Or trust it. Or feel it. 

Right now, you need to know that you are loved and feel loving energy 
to help you get through these rough times. Reach out to all the love
around you and receive it in your heart. Love will charge you, your 
body and energy field with strong, radiate energy.

When your authentic self is in charge, you feel love coming and going 
between you and others. When you love and accept yourself as you 
really are, you feel good. When your ego is in charge, you do not feel 
love coming and going between you and your world. When you 
disapprove of yourself or others, you feel bad.

Love yourself as you are. You are not perfect, you make mistakes. Let 
go of control and allow what you need to come to you. Ask for help 
as needed. When you are sincere and modest, the cosmos and other 
human beings are there to help you.  

You know you are in the flow when you get what you want and need
without effort. 

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Breathing? Breathe to Be Alive

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Breathe and Feel
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Take a deep breath. Hold it. Then let go of your breath and feel what
is real. Do this right now. Seriously. Your breath is a power tool that
you can use anytime, anywhere to become stronger, happier and more
self-confident. Use it. Make yourself take a deep breath no matter what
is worrying you or making you feel bad.

Breathing is a cheap medicine that works. Take a deep breath, let go
and feel what your body feels like. Feel what your genuine emotions
are. Keep breathing, letting go and feeling. Users of the “Opening
the Heart” audio know that my motto on the audio is “breathe and
feel.” I am relearning this amazingly effective lesson right this
moment.

Yes, no matter what you know, you often need to be reminded of what
you know. This is true of learned education as well as your inner
knowings. This week I worked with a new energy healing teacher who
said to me, “Breathe and feel.” I was shocked to hear those words
come out of someone else’s mouth! Breathe and feel was exactly what
I needed to hear and do.

You are a teacher and student at different times about different
things. As a teacher, you teach what you need to know. Then boom, a
life lesson brings you down to your knees. When this happens, you are
reminded that receptivity is essential for holistic health. So, I am
reminding myself and you of how important it is to receive, receive,
receive. Be like a cup and receive the energy of the cosmos. Use the
cup imagery in your creative meditation every day for a week and let
me know what happens.

If you want more vibrant moments in your life, breathe and feel.
Become a conscious breather. Every hour on the hour, notice. “Am I
breathing?” Sit in silence and breathe. Become aware of what is going
on in your body. Be body-ful. What colorful emotions are hanging out
around you? What color do you need to feel better?

Enjoy becoming more alive.

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How to Achieve New Year’s Resolutions and Self Esteem

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Self-Confidence is Body-ful.
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What is the best way to enjoy the holidays with your family and friends? Become more body-ful! During the holidays people often get anxious because they are listening to the ego’s should nots and shoulds. When you get anxious you take on the point of view of your ego instead of being open and loving. 

Back in September, I wrote about how true breakthroughs occur when there is a physical change in your body and coined a new word, body-ful. You can always visit www.thevibrantmoment.com to read past issues of The Vibrant Moment if you missed an issue.

Since we have been exploring how to become more self-confident for the last two months, your body must re-enter the scene. When you can read body language you know when someone has genuine self-esteem and when they are faking it. This is because genuine self-confidence is a physical reality. It is not a mental state or even an emotional state. Self-confidence is flexible and fluid.

Your degree of self-confidence is based on how present you are in space at any given moment. Naturally, we all come and go, moment by moment. This means your self-confidence can become stronger or weaker instantaneously. Depending on who you are with and what you are thinking. You get a cold shoulder from someone or feel their judgment. Suddenly, you become smaller.

You are a mass of undulating energy that is held together by your physical form. Therefore, anything you do that makes you stronger physically is going to increase your self-esteem. And an added perk is: Becoming more body aware is the way to improve all of your relationships. Make your New Year’s Resolutions around these suggestions.  

Ways to Increase Self-Esteem

  1. Use any of the marital arts.
  2. Visit a good body worker.
  3. Take a class in body awareness.
  4. Get regular massages.
  5. Move more with awareness.
  6. Enjoy loving sensual activities.

Use any of the above alone or with others. They are extremely effective in helping you become more body-ful. Do not go to bed without your body or wake up without including your body. Slip out of bed letting your body lead the way. Be present for your life. Stand up for yourself. Literally.

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How to Improve Your Self Esteem and Self Confidence

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Self-Confidence is Sincere
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We are continuing our search for genuine self-confidence. If you did not read last month’s article on self-esteem here it is: http://thevibrantmoment.com/2019/10/23/how-to-improve-your-self-confidence-and-self-esteem/

The Self-Esteem Enhancer Exercise I gave you last month was to help you become more realistic about yourself. Being realistic automatically helps you feel more self-confident. This is because being realistic is the opposite of being defensive.

When you are defensive, you are insecure and weak. You are not accepting some truth about yourself! Therefore, being defensive is a waste of energy. Defensive energy reveals your low self-esteem and does not improve it. It is much wiser to accept your unpleasant qualities and improve them, than it is to defend against them. Or deny them. Or make excuses!

The Self-Esteem Enhancer Exercise:
Being honest, name three positive qualities you possess. Write them down.
Being honest, name three unpleasant qualities about yourself. Write them down.

The facts that you write down will help you achieve genuine self-confidence. Take a look at how comfortable you are with your strengths. They may be as hard, if not harder, to own than your weaknesses. Imagine how good it would feel to accept your True Self with compassion and understanding.

Take a good honest look at what you think of yourself. The qualities you like about yourself could be ego or True Self qualities. For example, you could think highly of yourself about an ego quality that you are always nice to people. On the other hand, you could think you are a bad person because you are assertive with people telling them the truth, which is a True Self quality.

How you think about yourself is based on mental judgments you learned from others. Judgments can be good or bad, or right or wrong. Being “good” is just as unhealthy as being “bad.” Being a “good girl” was the way I tried to achieve self-confidence for the first thirty years of my life. It was quite a wake up to realize my self-confidence was so low because it was based on a “good girl” image and not reality.

To improve your self-confidence, the first thing you need to do is stop being judgmental of yourself. It does not matter whether your qualities are ego or authentic, you need to stop hurting yourself. Remind yourself that you are human and have faults. Of course, you are not always true to yourself. Of course, it takes time to discover and unlearn all the unhealthy stuff you learned from others.

Put your energy into reducing mental judgments against yourself or anyone else.

Notice how often you think you are right or wrong, or good or bad. See if you can stop judging yourself. If not, get help from the Overcome Anxiety Naturally home study course, which teaches you how to shift out of self-judgments into self-acceptance in a realistic step-by-step fashion.

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MANIFEST SELF-CONFIDENCE: Your mental judgments made you anxious so it feels wonderful to reduce them so you relax and have more fun. Ten written lessons show you how to shift out of self-judgment into self-acceptance. The Overcome Anxiety Naturally home study course also includes the three-hour audio series, Opening the Heart, worth $97.00, which helps you love yourself and your emotions. $199.97, money-back guarantee.

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How to Improve Your Self Confidence and Self Esteem

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Self-Confidence is Sincere
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Transformational Coach, Mentor

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I was discussing with some of my family members recently what self-confidence is and how to get more of it. So I thought I would put into writing what I have learned about self-esteem.

Self-confidence is based in reality. This means you cannot fake it. You can try to fake it, but those in the know are not fooled for long. The reason you cannot fake self-confidence is because your body simply does not have the ability to lie. So, no matter what you do to hide the truth, your physical form reveals the truth about how you feel about yourself.

Sure, you can puff out your chest and act self-confident. However, anyone who reads body language and feels energy knows you are acting superior. Also, if you have studied psychology, you know that arrogant behavior is due to low self-esteem. Low self-esteem is the reason people act arrogant and helpless. “Act” is the key word here.

In the physical world outside of you, you are not better or worse than another. Your ego tries to convince you that you are special or worthless. This is inaccurate. To be special or worthless you have to be separate from reality. Your true self is not a separate identity hanging out in space, disconnected from Mother Earth, your body and the cosmos. To be separate is to be crazy.

If you believe the mental delusions that you are special or worthless, you create mental diseases. Mental diseases are delusions about the true self. Neither superior or inferior ego states are authentic aspects of your true self. Self-confidence cannot be achieved by being inauthentic.

Self-confidence is based on real facts and solid matter. Your feet must be standing on solid ground with gravity pulling down on your physical form to anchor you into the earth. You must be sincere and honest about who you really are. You are born with plenty of self-confidence but the adults in your world quickly conditioned your good feelings about yourself into bad feelings about yourself.

Therefore, all of us have to unlearn the negative things we learned about ourselves from outside sources. Then we have to relearn the truth about ourselves. We do this by feeling and trusting that which is real. To help you get more in touch with reality, name three positive qualities that you possess. Then name three unpleasant qualities about yourself.

Being honest with both answers helps you become less defensive and more realistic. This is the beginning of genuine self-confidence. Next, you need to become less judgmental of the real you. So take note of any snide remarks against yourself what come to your conscious mind.

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What is a Breakthrough? A Bodyful Experience!

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Breakthroughs are Bodyful.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Transformational Coach, Mentor
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When was the last time you had a breakthrough?

I am long overdue for one. Therefore, I have been carefully studying
my clients as they enjoy theirs. For example, a regular coaching
client just had a delightful breakthrough this week during her phone
session. She could feel it, so could I. Her energy shifted. She got
it! More of her became present.

Breakthroughs are far beyond insights. A quantum leap occurs when
you directly experience a full-bodied awareness of how you are keeping
yourself in chains and know in your heart you cannot continue to allow
this to happen to you—no matter what! Once freedom is experienced
in the body, it is difficult for the mental judgments to take you prisoner
again.

My client has a hard time doing anything if her family members
disapprove of her. Since her family is rigid, controlling and
self-righteous that makes it difficult for her to do what she needs
to do to be happy and free. Eating out of anxiety is one of the
behaviors she has not been able to transform. Since she has been
conditioned to eat what she should, not eat what she should not AND
finish her plate, she eats too fast and over eats. Starving children
come to haunt her…

I asked her to feel the part of her that controls her. The image was
her critical mother who she still answers to, even though my client
owns the company. For successful transformation, you must take full
responsibility for your ego that pleases mother and your ego that
resists mother. Notice your stubbornness, it is your worse enemy.
Your rebellious self does not listen to what is being communicated.
It acts as if the other person is wrong and bad, projecting false
beliefs outward.

My client’s awareness of both ego states has not been enough for her
to experience freedom. So, I asked her to feel the part of her that
cannot speak her truth. For example, “I am not keeping my ‘seat in
the butt’ working all day because I need to go walking to exercise.”
As we explored her real self who cannot speak up, the bottom line
real fear was: “I will lose mother’s love.” Next we helped her little
girl realize that approval is not love.

The breakthrough occurred when I asked her to feel her stomach. As a
result of being controlled by her family, my client’s natural
response of feeling when her stomach is full had been destroyed.
Therefore, my client does not feel her stomach. Instead, she listens
to her mental judgments of should and should nots for guidance. The
reality of not feeling her stomach brought her face to face with her
denial.

Look at your behaviors and see how many of them are due to the same
problem. When does your brain override your physical sensations so
that you do not directly experience reality? How often during the day
do you block your feelings? In what areas in your life are you
unconscious of your authentic sensations? Do you feel your feet and
notice you are not grounded? Do you hear your intuitive self when it
talks to you?

You are NOT who you think you are. Who are you? Your body knows.
However, your ego is invested in keeping you unconscious of how it is
controlling you, defining you and using you. This means your body is
the battleground where your false beliefs thrive, blocking the
gateway to reality. Therefore, you must be silent and listen. Your
body is the place to spend lots of time sensing and feeling reality.
If you need help, listen to the audio, “Hear Your Body Talking.”

Be bodyful. Be present for your life; do not let it slip away into
ordinary, mundaneness. Be bold, paint the canvas of your life brightly
with colors.

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FIND YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE: Your body is the home of your
self-confidence, inner strengths and truths. Get to know your body
and enjoy the benefits of freedom and joy. Order “3 Reasons You Have
a Body: Hear Your Body Talking” a one-hour tele-seminar on body
health and body awareness. $29.97, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order: Hear Your Body Talking: http://www.drjeanette.com/hearyourbody.html

OVERCOME YOUR RESISTANCE: Learn to feel the energy of your
pleasing self, rebellious self and real self in the first thirty minutes of
the Opening the Heart audio, which is included in the home study
course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally. In addition you get ten written
lessons that show you how to stop your brain from overriding your
body by teaching you how to return to your physical sensations.
When you touch your body you stop your obsessive, crazy thoughts
from driving you crazy! $199.97, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order: How to Overcome Anxiety Naturally
http://www.drjeanette.com/anxietyonlinecourse.html

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If you enjoy The Vibrant Moment, please share with friends and
colleagues. It comes to you from Dr. Doris Jeanette, with over forty
years of experience teaching people how to read and use energy to
unlock and use their human potential. Sign up at:
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