How to Enjoy Life and Say Goodbye to Your Ego

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Be True to Yourself.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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Thanks for the wise comments and questions about the psychology article on ambivalence. Catch it here if you missed it: http://thevibrantmoment.com/2016/06/17/how-to-make-good-decisions

A reader wants me to go deeper into the ambivalence state of mind for more personal growth help:

“I think it would be helpful to speak on the reason behind the ambivalence, because that is what is so frustrating.”

Indeed, you are correct. The reason behind your ambivalence is the conflict between your ego and your authentic self. You do not know what you really need and want because you are conditioned and controlled so successfully that you only know what you “should do” and “should not do.” You are not able to find and fearlessly follow your authentic self.

Instead, you are listening to your brain tell you the shoulds and should nots of the situation. To break free from your conditioning, you need to become aware of this everyday struggle between your ego energy and your authentic self energy. This is the major work of all personal growth and transformation. To be happy and satisfied you must not allow your ego to win these frequent conflicts that put you in the ambivalence state of mind. Or in the lose-lose state of mind which is another favorite of the Almighty, Reigning Ego.

The goal is to move away from your conditioned self and move toward a reality state that is free, responsible, and joyful. When you are in reality is when you automatically have a vibrant moment or two. When you are in the moment, you have successfully traveled the long distance from your controlling brain into your loving heart.

You are letting go of your brainwashing and literally dropping down into your heart so you access your authentic self. Your authentic emotional self has been wounded. This is the reason you have trouble finding, accepting, and following your little girl or boy into bliss. You are rejecting yourself because you learned to reject your true self. You were never good enough. Thus, as an adult you are afraid to listen to yourself because when you do, you experience a great deal of anxiety about doing so.

To win your everyday battles between your ego and authentic self, you must reduce your anxiety, slowly, step by step as you live your life. The home study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally leads you successfully through this reconditioning process. You must learn how to listen to your authentic fear from your emotional self and not listen to your irrational anxiety from your brain, your conditioned self.

Take the time to learn how to successfully reduce your anxiety and you will be healthier and happier. Good mental health is directly related to knowing what you really need and want and being able to manifest your desires and needs without letting your ego ruin your life.

Several readers also want to know how to deal with the unpleasant ambivalence that occurs in relationships. Oy vey! Relationships are a hard, complicated issue. However, we will take a shot at helping you with relationship ambivalence for the month of August.

In the mean time read the free psychology articles in the holistic psychology library at http://www.drjeanette.com/ to help you find your strengths and be at peace — no matter what!

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Self Help: How to Use Feelings to Make Good Decisions

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Don’t Fret.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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You could stay home tonight or go to an event you want to attend. You do not know which one to do. Ambivalence occurs. You go back and forth, weighting the pros and cons. What DO you do?

Everyone has trouble making decisions in some area of their life. I can quickly decide to take a trip to India with Jean Houston. Yet, spent years deciding where to put the new washroom. Where, when, and how do you become ambivalent?

Some decisions are more important than others. The color you paint the outside of your house has to be tolerated for years. The event you want to see may leave town and never return. On the other hand, there could be a terrible accident about to occur and if you stay home you avoid it. Seriously.

My, my, all sorts of factors affect our decisions. No wonder the gall bladder gets upset. In Chinese Medicine, the gall bladder is the Little General in relationship to the liver, the Big General. The gall bladder gets agitated when you have trouble making all those daily decisions human beings are required to make. What paper towels to buy?

Early in my career I had trouble helping people when they were ambivalent about big decisions. To go back to school or not? I did not know how to guide them into the right decision. Finally, I began to see the Bigger Picture of what was going on. In most cases, it does not matter what you do or do not do. There is no right answer.

What matters is how you feel about your decision. It is your feelings, not your choice that matters most. As long as you feel good about your decision, it is a good one. This is wonderful news. You can relax, stop worrying, and trust your feelings.

Try on different decisions as if you are shopping for a new hat. How does it feel tonight if you stay home? How does it feel if you go out and play? Which one is the best fit? If something feels good, it is a good decision.

This means you have to know what you feel in order to make good decisions. This is the reason it is so important to have a close, loving relationship with your emotional self. No one else knows what is best for you. No one else knows how you feel.

You must find and follow your emotional self if you want to feel good and make good decisions. Learn to trust your feelings and use them to manifest the vibrant moments you want and need.
Feel free to contact me if I can be helpful to you. Visit the free holistic psychology library at drjeanette.com/library.html for anxiety, depression and relationship help.

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How to Use Patience to Enter the NOW

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Be Patient.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychologist, Mentor, Coach
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In my new Center City house, at the age of 33, I sat in total frustration on the floor surrounded by a mess of fabric, wood, and dozens of tiny nails. My attempts to cover the ugly pink and green striped wallpaper in my hallway with the beautiful black and red flowered fabric I had bought in the fabric district was failing.

The professional look I was guaranteed by the designer magazine did not manifest. What was I to do? The unsightly stripes had to removed. I could not afford to pay someone else to do it. This meant another long, irritating walk back to the lumberyard on Washington Avenue. This would be my third.

Feeling my feelings, suddenly, my disgust with my efforts turned into patience and understanding. It occurred to me that there was no hurry to get this project completed. I had all the time in the world to walk back and forth to the lumber store on Washington as many times as needed to get whatever supplies it took to keep the fabric on the wall and make it look great.

The only person rushing me was me. I decided to give myself the luxury of taking as long as I needed to make the wall look beautiful. I could relax and enjoy the process instead of feeling rushed. Wonderful. This was my first act of being patient with myself.

The moment I decided to be patient with myself, was the moment I dropped down into a newfound sense of self-love and self-acceptance. Visualize how, when, and where you could use patience to become more effective and happier. Patience is a long way from anxious.

After this break through, I read that Edgar Cayce, the sleeping prophet, said, “Time, space, and patience are those channels through which man as a finite mind may become aware of the infinite.” What this means is that you enter the reality of the infinite universe when you are patient with yourself instead of critical of yourself. Wow!

Patience takes you into a place far away from your brain and thoughts. Your thoughts are the problem. It is your critical thoughts about yourself that cause you to feel frustrated and unhappy. An old Dutch proverb says, “A handful of patience is worth more than a bushel of brains.” Indeed.

Patience is power in its purest form. It is not passive, it is acceptance of that which is. Patience works magic on the moment. Try being patient with yourself and see what results you get. Take Patience for a walk, she is good company.

Let me know the results you get. I bet you quickly get a smile on your face because you are more relaxed and happier.

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Amazing Emotional Energy Factors that Stop Your Grieving

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Breathe.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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I am stuck in the grieving process. My mother died over a year ago. I was moving and grooving smoothly along in the grieving process, experiencing waves of sadness that crashed against the shoreline and moved onward and upward.

My joy and energy was coming back from time to time. I was so much more grounded after my fall Nature Workshop and magical trip to Yellowstone National Park. Was finishing up my book over the winter in Colorado, getting it ready for publication, and BANG.

No more. It appears I was dead wrong. I thought just feeling the sadness when I felt sad was enough to move me successfully through the grief process. Feeling sad when you feel sad is not all there is to letting go of a loved one when they physically die.

The body does not lie. Nope, you gotta listen and learn from your physical self every step of the way, especially for us highly sensitive ones who are also empathic. My body is screaming and I am listening with all my ears and cells to discover what my beloved body needs to return to relaxation, safety, and peace.

Here is list of factors I am discovering, which determine the process of letting go of loved ones during the grief process.

Factors that affect and effect the grief process:
1. How close you were to the loved one
2. How much you loved them, note closeness is not love
3. How much she or he loved you.
4. How effectively you expressed love toward her or him.
5. How separated you were from them
6. How many unhealthy attachments you did not resolve
7. What false beliefs you have about death
8. Unhealthy attachments that resurface after the loss
9. How successful your loved one was in letting go of you

Wow. If you think relationships don’t matter, you are in for a shock. How you relate to your parents, family, yourself, and everyone you meet during your lifetime — affect and effect your matter. Your body and energy field reflects the health and unhealthy impact of your relationships.

It does not matter if you loved them or rejected them; you still have an attachment. In addition, you cannot get away from anyone just because they die. Now is the time to unlearn your unhealthy attachments to your parents so you enjoy life more abundantly.

When you read the list of factors that affect the grief process notice that closeness is not the same energy as love. This is where the unhealthy attachments come into play. Often people feel close to each other in unhealthy ways, such as through judgments, guilt, and pity.

For example, take a look at your family through the centuries. Are there common judgments and false beliefs your family hold dear? Does your family think they are better than others because they are good and do the “right” thing? Do you believe you get gold stars for suffering?

Whatever is true or not true, when you get stuck, go back to the basics and breathe. Bringing back my breath helps me become conscious of what I am not conscious of, that I need to be conscious of, in order to get unstuck. Breathing will work for you, too.

Use the approach offered in the Opening the Heart audio to help you feel your feelings and get back on track. “Breathe and feel.” Take a deep breath and slowly exhale. As you let go of your breath, feel your physical feelings and emotional feelings.

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How to Transform Never Satisfied to Win-Win Ways of Living

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Be Zen.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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A phone client, mother of three young sons, said during last week’s session, “Say that again. That made me feel really good. I get it. Like everything will be all right. A win-win. That no matter what happens life is beautiful and wonderful. Great, you should share this in your next newsletter.”

This, from a woman who has struggled for years with her ego, appropriately named, Ms. Never-Satisfied. Her Ms. Never-Satisfied puts her in lose-lose situations so successfully she has been diagnosed by traditional psychology as a bi-polar in need of constant medication. Her ego has the ongoing habit of killing the joy in her life.

However, her big heart and strong motivation to unlearn her conditioned responses are transforming her into a happier, healthier, and wiser self. Learning how to say “NO!” to the behavior she learned from her mother of never being satisfied is really paying off. She is transforming her lose-lose mindset into win-win ways of living.

Recently she was successful is creating a couple of big, wonderful money manifestations. Here is the message I was communicating to her as we discussed her feelings. A few weeks after these wonderful events, she was not getting what she wanted from another person.

“This is where you have to be very Zen. Life is one adventure after another. You never know how anything will turn out. Nothing is wrong or right. Anything that happens can turn into something better. Best to accept reality and let it move. Know that you are consciously making your life more and more the way you want it.”

Accepting what is happening in your life is often the secret trick to forward movement. Never make yourself and your situation right or wrong. Instead, let reality move.

What you think is so wonderful, may not be so wonderful. What you think is so bad, could have fantastic results. Be Zen.

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Relationship Advice: The Definition of a Healthy Relationship

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Relate With Awareness.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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A reader asks, “How do people in a healthy relationship relate?”

Fantastic relationship question. First, let me define a healthy relationship. It is NOT people who stay together for a long time. The length of time you have been together is no indication of radiant holistic health, vibrant moments, and solid self-esteem. Often, the longest relationships are full of low self-esteem, anxiety, and depression.

Being nice to the other person, as many traditional psychologists endorse, is not necessarily healthy. Pleasing the other person is often a way to avoid the essential conflict that leads to personal growth for both people. Constant conflict is not helpful either because there is not enough shared love to make the relationship worth the effort.

My definition of a healthy relationship is one in which you have the ability to grow and flourish as a self-actualized human being. Of course, even in a healthy relationship there will be times when the other person controls you. However, when you are controlled, you take the appropriate action steps that help you achieve the necessary personal growth so the other person no longer controls you.

Relationships help you grow stronger, happier, and wiser. In a healthy relationship you are committed to working on your past unhealthy learning experiences. You take responsibility for your projections and remove these false beliefs so you can see and relate to the other person instead of to your false beliefs.

Just saying you are sorry is not enough. You must also consciously work on unlearning your unhealthy past relationship patterns instead of continuing to repeat these ineffective conditioned responses over and over again. This means you are in a state of constantly learning new, different ways to relate which are more effective and empowering for you.

The bottom line is healthy people in healthy relationships relate equally to each other. The more often equal interactions occur, the healthier the relationship. In a healthy relationship you feel equal to the other person and he or she feels equal to you. You relate in an assertive way instead of controlling or care-taking the other person.

When you relate equally to the other person you automatically experience love energy moving back and forth between you. Contrast this assertive relationship model with the role models that your mother and father taught you. Most of us grew up with unhealthy care-taking role models where controlling behaviors existed instead of equality.

Take a look at all your relationships and see which ones are equal and which ones could use a major shift toward something new, exciting, and assertive.

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The Benefits of Using Color Therapy

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Use Color Therapy.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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What is your favorite color? Which colors do you avoid? Colors are emotions. Emotions and colors are around you and inside of you 24 hours a day affecting how you feel, think, and behave.

Your emotions and colors never stop existing. Other people’s emotions and colors do not cease to exist. Do you block out these intense vibrations with denial? Do you overreact to these potent vibrations with knee jerk responses? Good emotional and mental health is grounded in being aware of real vibrations.

If you are a Highly Sensitive Person you experience colors and emotions more intensively just as you experience the conditioned responses of guilt and anxiety more intensively. Even if you are a Highly Insensitive Person you can learn to become more sensitive to the world around you.

Being sensitive is a highly desirable survival skill that you may want to spend your time, energy, and money on cultivating. When you are aware of inner and outer realties you have the power to become more effective. For example, the more sensitive you are, the better your relationships at work or play. The more you notice existing vibrations, the more effectively you handle unexpected life events.

A great way to begin your personal growth in becoming more sensitive is to observe the color or lack of color in your world. You can use Color Therapy in your daily life to become aware of the existing vibrations inside of you and outside of you.

To motivate you, here is a list of Color Therapy benefits:

1.  Adds vital, healthy energy to your brain and body
2.  Feels good, helps you feel better immediately
3.  Relieves emotional distress
4.  Reduces physical pain
5.  Increases serenity, peace of mind
6.  Immediately enhances wellness and mood
7.  Replaces depression and anxiety
8.  Helps you get unstuck
9.  No harmful side effects

Wow, I am going to use Color Therapy right now to help me with my body pain.

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How to Use Strong Energy to Become Healthy and Happy

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Use Available Energy.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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Once I saw a young boy in front of the ocean at Cape May, New Jersey. He was jumping up and down with all his might. His whole body was expressing the power of the energy around him. He jumped up and down for over five minutes with pure joy as the energy of Ocean Mother moved through him.

Years later when I walked to the edge of the Grand Canyon for the first time, I spontaneously jumped up and down for several minutes with all my might. My whole body was expressing the power of the energy around me. The Grand Canyon has strong, healthy energy like Ocean Mother.

When you are open, the energy around you is expressed freely throughout your body. This is the reason being open makes you so much stronger, healthier, and have more resistance. There is always plenty of good energy everywhere you go. You just have to find it and use it.

Do you feel the energy around you? The energy around you can vary from weak to strong, from healthy to unhealthy. In certain places energy is much stronger than others. There is an energy reason all three major religions lay their claim on the city of Jerusalem.

Did you know the Byzantine churches usurped ancient temples of Greece? The Byzantine Empire built their churches directly on top of the old temples instead of moving to new, fresh, unused places. The reason: strong available energy.

Pay attention to the energy around you. Certain places in your house have healthier energy than others. Certain places in your town have stronger energy than others. Certain people around you are more vital than others. The energy around you can take you up or down even if you do not notice.

It is powerful to notice the energy around you and use the available energy to your advantage. For example, those of you living in the strong, healthy energy of Spring, consider how you can use this joyful available energy to fuel your personal growth.

Take the bouncing, playful energy of Spring and consciously use it to manifest more of what you want in your life; be it health or happiness. Add a spring to your step and see how you feel.

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How to Open Up to Dating, Sex, and Love at Any Age

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Follow Your Heart.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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Here is additional information about how to open your heart so you can enjoy dating, sex, and love at any age. If you missed part one read it here: How to Open up to Dating, Sex, and Love at Any Age.

You need to know, and learn to trust, that your strengths are in your vulnerabilities. Never forget that this is also true for the people you want to play with and attract. She or he has the same anxieties and fears you have. Her strengths are in her vulnerabilities, just as yours are.

As a matter of fact, it is your vulnerability that attracts someone to you so they fall in love with you. As Leonard Cohen, sings, “There is a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in. That’s how the light gets in.” So, sing my song, “I am open and real, that’s how the love gets in. That’s how the love gets in.”

If you are not relaxed and being yourself, you attract a person who is not relaxed and being herself. See? That’s how reality works! When people talk about the law of attraction, it is a real law. However, there are so many other laws simultaneously affecting you, never assume there is only one law creating your results!

You must always look at the Bigger Story. This is the reason holistic psychology is the only approach that makes any sense. This is the reason, the best relationship advice in the whole world of possibilities is to relax and be yourself. Your real self. Not your ego, not a controlled posture, not a perfect self. Nope, just you, being you in the moment.

The Vibrant Moment inspires you to enter your moment and be true to yourself no matter what moment it is you are living. If you did your homework assignment from last week, you are more aware of your real fear and irrational anxiety. Your fear and anxiety energies are currently blocking you from enjoying a potential playmate, loving relationship, or more success in life.

To relax with another person you must deal effectively with these two very different energies in your body in the moment in real time with a real person. To become intimate with someone, you must have new, effective relaxation skills at your fingertips. Then you are prepared.

You will know when you feel scared and anxious with a potential playmate so you can relax and respond in a new, different way. If you are not working with a holistic psychologist who is teaching you the relaxation and relationship skills needed, take the home study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally.

Keep reminding yourself that when you are relaxed is when the love gets in.

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OVERCOME FEAR AND ANXIETY: Learn the difference between fear and anxiety and how differently they feel in your body. Get new, effective skills needed to unlearn your anxiety and approach your relationship fears realistically. You are correct and incorrect about many of your fears. The home study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally includes the Opening the Heart series, two additional hours of audio, PLUS ten written lessons that lead you step-by-step out of your anxiety into increasing comfort with intimacy. $199.99, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order the home study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally: http://www.drjeanette.com/anxietyonlinecourse.html

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NEED LOVE MAKING SKILLS? If you have never been able to make love for hours with a loved one so you feel the love energy between you build up and up, take the BECOME A BETTER LOVER home study course. It includes all the body awareness and relaxation exercises in the Overcome Anxiety Naturally home study course AND specifically addresses the sexual situation. Learn now to become a better lover of the whole body so your nervous system is turned on and your brain is turned off. Two additional hours of audio includes the Hear Your Body Talking below. Married people have benefited from taking the course together. Seven hours of audio and ten written lessons, $249.97. Money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
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LISTEN TO YOUR BODY: Your body is the home of your heart, inner knowing, and natural born lover. Get to know your body and benefit by having better holistic health and a lot more fun. Order “3 Reasons You Have a Body: Hear Your Body Talking” a one-hour tele-seminar on body health and body awareness. $29.97, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/hearyourbody.html

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If you want to experience more emotional and body awareness and do not have local workshops available please email me. I will consider doing a Nature Workshop in your area if it is a fun place to visit and if you are able to gather ten people together for the workshop.

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How to Follow Your Heart

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Follow Your Heart.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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The longest journey you will make in your life
is from your head to your heart.
— Sioux Legend

Grasp this truth. This is the ultimate challenge for our species. To be healthy and happy you must move out of thinking into feeling. To enjoy vibrant moments you must move out of control into an organic, natural flow of energy. When you reach your heart, you are in full-blown, physical reality instead of your left brain.

This brings me to the question I am answering this week about relationships. “I’ve been out of the dating game for a long while, with the exception of instant intimacy, and I’m finding it awkward getting back into dating again. I’m just finding my balance and flow. How can I open myself up again?”

Instant intimacy sounds like sex without love. Sex without love is not genuine intimacy; it is mechanic. I coined the term Mechanic Sex many years ago in my Sex and Love column written for Visions Magazine. Mechanic Sex usually makes you weaker, not stronger, because it attempts to bypass your fear of intimacy.

To open yourself up to a loving relationship means you must travel this long journey from your head to your heart. Your brain, head, and mind cannot make love. Love is a palpable, powerful energy. Your body, heart, and soul make love. With the exception of spinal cord injuries, any drug used in a sexual situation is an attempt to avoid getting in your body, heart, and soul.

If you do not want to avoid the pleasure, love, and joy that can be yours, the place to start opening up is to acknowledge the fear and anxiety that is currently blocking you from feeling secure and comfortable. We all suffer from this unpleasant combination of fear and anxiety. The more vulnerable the situation, the more you feel afraid and anxious. Opening up sexually to someone is the most vulnerable you will ever be.

This is when it is helpful to know, and remember often, that your “Strength is in your vulnerability.” My talk therapist is the first one who told me this because her therapist told her. Word of mouth is often the way valuable information is communicated. Take this lesson to heart. Your inner strengths are in your vulnerabilities. Thank goodness.

So, try this homework assignment. Become more aware of your real fear and irrational anxiety. Get to know how they feel in your body. To enjoy dating and opening up to a potential playmate or future partner, you must deal effectively with these two very different energies in your body in the moment.

If you have not listened to the Opening the Heart audio, this is a good place to begin. You learn the difference between fear and anxiety and meet your emotional self. Your emotional self is the one who feels insecure and needs some extra attention from you in order to feel more secure.

More next week about how to open up to dating and love at any age.

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FEAR AND ANXIETY HELP: Learn how fear and anxiety feel differently in your body. Get the tools needed to unlearn your anxiety and keep your real fear. Your real fear keeps you safe and sane at all times in all situations, never bypass this helpful energy. The home study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally includes the Opening the Heart series, two additional hours of audio PLUS ten written lessons that lead you step by step out of your irrational anxiety. $199.99, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order the home study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally: http://www.drjeanette.com/anxietyonlinecourse.html

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LISTEN TO YOUR BODY: Your body is the home of your heart, inner knowing, and natural born lover. Get to know your body and benefit by having better holistic health and a lot more fun. Order “3 Reasons You Have a Body: Hear Your Body Talking” a one-hour tele-seminar on body health and body awareness. $29.97, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/hearyourbody.html

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