Give Yourself Love for Valentine’s Day

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Love Has No Strings.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Human Energy Teacher, Mentor
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Are you seeking love? Or are you afraid of love?

Love is spontaneous energy that rises up and radiates outward from
your heart like a natural spring of delicious water. You cannot make
yourself love something your heart does not love. You cannot make
someone love you who does not love you.

Your heart does not complain, blame or criticize. Neither does real
love want to control you or define you. Unfortunately, this is the
problem with “love” as most of us have experienced it. Love is often
associated with someone trying to control you. This means, if you are
afraid to surrender to love, there is a good chance you have not
separated from your parents. Love for you means being controlled and
defined by other people.

If you are seeking love, you need to unlearn the control issues that
you learned to associate with love. These control issues are the
usual problems that come up in relationships after a few years.
Instead of love flowing between you and your beloved, disharmony
and distrust surface and interfere with the flow of love. It is ego to
ego. Instead of heart to heart.

The only way out of your ego is to continue to unlearn the unhealthy
relationships behaviors you learned from your parents and other
sources. Instead of pleasing others or expecting others to please
you, you must learn to take care of yourself and stand on your own
two feet. This means self-love must increase and become so secure
that you are not dependent on someone else to love you.

Not easy to accomplish, since most of us were taught to feel guilt if
we liked ourselves! Your Inner and Outer Critics will be eager to call
you selfish, narcissistic and crazy. So, let me give you permission
to love yourself. You must love yourself in order to reduce the
problems in your relationships and life. Poor mental health and poor
physical health are caused by a lack of self-love.

I would go so far as to say all the problems in the world today are
caused by a lack of self-love. To help clean up the world, start by
loving yourself. Embrace the Greek love, Philautia, which means love
of the self. Then your heart will be free to love.

Love feels good to all your cells. Enjoy as much love energy as you can.

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1.  Feelings. the challenge of our species.
2.  Fear. the pathway to freedom and joy.
3.  When You’re Hurting…

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Feel Reality Instead of Reacting to Fake Ideas

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Feel Reality Instead of Reacting to it.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Human Energy Teacher, Mentor

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A reader wants to know more about what I mean when I say, “You are acting out your fear, instead of feeling it.”

There are many real fears everyone must face as we go through the process of living our life. Real fears can be overcome in life-affirming ways, making us stronger and more secure. Facing your fears is the pathway that consistently leads to successful personal growth. The results of personal growth are effectiveness, holistic health and happiness.

Having the courage to become more of who you are is scary, exciting, fun and empowering. Your real fears do not go away because you deny them or exaggerate them. They live in your unconscious doing much harm until you bring them out of the darkness. With conscious awareness you can take an honest, sincere look at your fears and address your real concerns.

Anxiety is not a real fear. Anxiety is a maladaptive response. Being anxious is irrational because there is really nothing to be afraid of. Anxiety is Chicken Little screaming, “The sky is falling. The sky is falling.” When you are anxious, this means you have been conditioned to response in certain ways to certain stimuli and you do so automatically. You can unlearn anxiety responses.

Anxiety is never helpful because it shows up as static in your nervous system, tension in your body and interference in your energy field. When you are anxious, you react to situations, as in– a knee jerk response. Anxiety bypasses your genuine feelings and goes straight into an automatic reaction. Reactions are learned. They are of your ego and not helpful.

The effective way to deal with real fear is to feel it. The effective way to deal with irrational anxiety is to feel it. When you feel your physical and emotional realities, you do not react. When you react to realty instead of feeling it, you often create exactly what you are afraid of. You make your real fears and irrational anxieties come true by behaving in ways that make them come true.

For example, you are afraid your girlfriend is cheating on you. If you do not feel your fear and deal with it directly and sincerely you will act your fear out. You act your fear out by behaving in jealous, possessive ways that push your girlfriend away. As a result of your acting out behavior, your girlfriend may leave you or cheat on you.

Acting in is the opposite of acing out. It is when you turn inward, against yourself with an automatic reaction. The bottom line is your reactive behaviors manifest your fears and anxieties. This appears to be a natural law, not a theory. If you do NOT feel your fears and overcome them in reality, they are manifested as reality by your own behavior.

Take a look at your life and notice when, where and how you may have acted your fears out instead of facing them. When you feel your fear and anxiety, you can tell the difference between your real fears and irrational thoughts. You could take responsibility for your irrational thoughts and stop projecting them on others. If you use learning research to help you, you can unlearn your anxiety response. If you take an Assertiveness Training course you can “lay your fears dead at your feet,” like a brave warrior.

Fear is an energy you can ride toward freedom and joy. With successful personal growth, you become closer to your girlfriend and get real about what she feels and who she is. You are honest about what you feel and who you are. You become more secure and self-confident so you are happy with or without your girlfriend.

When you use your feeling ability to know the truth, you are grounded and enjoy more vibrant moments. For more self-empowerment, feel reality instead of reacting to it.

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LEARN HOW TO FEEL REALITY: You become more self-confident as soon as you learn how to feel what is real and expose your irrational thoughts and anxiety. Fear is an energy you ride toward freedom and joy. Learn how to get grounded and enjoy more vibrant moments instead of letting your brain criticize you. Order the anxiety help package that includes what you need, the home study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally.

The home study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally includes:
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2. The audio “Fear is the pathway to freedom and joy,” in the three-hour “Opening the Heart” series
3. The audio “Tame Your Thoughts” and “Break Free From Anxiety”

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How to Transform Obsessive Thinking with Education, Not Medication

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Transform Obsessive Thoughts.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Human Energy Teacher, Mentor
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A reader is interested in learning more about obsessive thinking.
Overthinking is connected to anxiety, depression, eating issues, low
self esteem, poor relationships, sexual dysfunctions, insomnia and
not reaching your goals in life.

What is obsessive thinking?

My rule of thumb is a bit strict. However, I use this Obsessive
Thinking Test to drive home the seriousness of your overthinking
problem. If you think the same thought for more than three times, you
are obsessing. Yes, we all obsess sometimes! Mine come and get me in
the middle of the night.

Nevertheless, anytime you obsess, you are stuck. This means your
energy is not freely moving so you are in a healthy and alive state.
Just think of all the rotten thoughts hanging out in your head. Yuck,
they smell bad. These decaying thoughts need to be thrown away as
soon as possible because they make you sick in mind and body.

What is the reason for your obsessive thinking?

In terms of learning research, obsessive thinking is an avoidance
response. This means you are using your repetitive thoughts to avoid
your authentic feelings. Therefore, the way to get your energy moving
in a healthy direction is to stop avoiding the feelings that are
really inside of you. It is to your advantage to go ahead and admit
you are scared and anxious. There may be other feelings hiding inside
of you but certainly fear and anxiety are lurking underneath your
obsessive thoughts.

Once you stop denying the nervousness in your nervous system, you
can get the help you need to calm your whole body down. You can
learn effective ways to deal with anxiety and fear so you stop going in
circles. To help you get started, the next time you are obsessing, write
down all of your thoughts on a piece of paper. Your thoughts may be
positive or negative. Many people obsess about positive things to avoid
their feelings of low self esteem. This is the reason the approaches
that teach you to change your thoughts from negative to positive, such
as Cognitive Behavior Therapy, Affirmations and Mindfulness are not
always successful.

Let your thoughts sit for twenty-four hours on a piece of paper. Then
come back and take a good look at each one. Your thoughts tell you
about your beliefs. Your task is to find out which thoughts are false and
which ones have merit. Having a good coach is helpful if they know
how to sort through your thoughts so you identify the false beliefs you
learned from your past. Again, a false belief can be positive, such as
“I am better than other people because I am good, smart, rich and so
on.”

Dump any false belief as soon as you find it. Unfortunately, many of
the things we learned as children are really hard to dump. If seeing
that a belief is false is not enough to dump it, you must deprogram
your false belief over time in real life. To be successful unlearning
beliefs, you need an education that is based on learning research and
teaches you how to increase awareness of your body and emotional
feelings.

Next time you find yourself obsessing, shift into effective, creative
thinking. If you cannot, you need to get back to work on
deprogramming your irrational anxieties. Stress and obsessive thinking
are facts of life. You can learn how to cope and flourish by saying no
to medication and yes to education.

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BREAK FREE FROM OBSESSIVE THINKING: Obsessive thinking drives
you crazy. Imagine how good you will feel you when you learn how to kick
back and relax. For your sanity, learn seven ways to stop your
obsessive thoughts on the Tame Your Thoughts audio. Get the
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WANT TO BE SUCCESSFUL? You become more self-confident as soon
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back home into your body. Learn how to get in your body and enjoy
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The Benefits of the home study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally:
1. It includes the audio Tame Your Thoughts above and
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3. Ten written lessons that lead you step-by-step out of thinking too
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Learn each week a new lesson in how to overcome your false beliefs.
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How to Be Happy? Play Everyday.

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Play Everyday.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Human Energy Teacher, Mentor
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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How many minutes a day do you play?
How free do you feel to just relax and be yourself?

Playshops were my first creative attempt at outdoor experiences in
the early 1980’s. My goal was to teach people how to let go of
control and trust their natural process. I knew play was the driving
force in a happy life. Working, with pushing and pulling at yourself,
did not make for a happy life.

In my early 30’s I was very successful with a waiting list, and
unhappy. A NYC workshop and trip to India with Jean Houston revealed
my problem. Dr. Tightass, my ego, was in charge of my daily
experience. As I slowly began to let go of Dr. Tightass, and become
my Real Self, the result was spontaneous play.

When I relaxed into being alive in my body, magic seemed to happen.
My state of consciousness was not ordinary and mundane anymore. I
was exuberant. Being free felt wonderful. Work was fun and vibrant
moments began to occur much more frequently.

When I stayed with my real fear, the frozen energy in my body
transformed into flowing energy. The result was freedom and joy. My
fears did not manifest. I DID get up on Monday morning and meet my
clients as needed. My work was more effective, not less. Play could
be a new way of living.

You can also trust your natural process of living in the moments of
your life. Let yourself play and stop pushing and pulling. Play
engages your body and emotional self. Play allows you to experience
the many pleasures that life on planet earth offers you. From humor
to sex, play brings you more vitality and better holistic health.

Do not go to sleep tonight before letting yourself play. Even for
five minutes. Just let go and be playful with something in your
environment. Move, dance, feel, look around and pick up an object
and talk to it. Dance with it.

Play a little more each day until you feel comfortable being instead
of doing. You will enjoy more vibrant moments and much better
mental and physical health.

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BREAK FREE FROM YOUR EGO. Being in your body instead of letting
your brain overreact is effective, powerful and fun. Learn how to
overcome your conditioned responses and become your Real Self.
Order Opening the Heart, three hours of emotional health audio.
You learn who to trust and who not to trust. Be alive and healthy by
feeling inside and outside realities. Order before the holidays
to enjoy yourself and your family more than ever before.

Below is a list of each audio in the Opening the Heart series.

Fear. the pathway to freedom and joy, Feelings. the source of
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Overcome Anxiety Naturally which includes the Opening the Heart
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How to Achieve Holistic Health? Be True to Your Feelings

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Be Yourself for Good Holistic Health.

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Remember my overwhelming June of this year? Almost all of my house problems have been solved. A daily, small, step-by-step approach to accomplishing the multitude of tasks before me, worked. I love my new refrigerator. My home is no longer in chaos; my new office is white and beautiful.

Thanks to all of you who wrote me and supported me through my difficult summer. Finally, I can relax and enjoy some vibrant moments. Here is a story I heard this week.

“One man came to Mozart and asked him how to write a symphony. Mozart replied, “You are too young to write a symphony.” The man said, “You were writing symphonies when you were ten years of age, and I am twenty-one.” Mozart said, “Yes, but I didn’t run around asking people how to do it.”

I laughed and laughed. I hope you laughed also. How much fun it is to laugh. How wonderful it is to give yourself a break and let yourself enjoy small pleasures through the day. Through hard times and good times, being true to yourself is the only pathway to health and sanity. If you are true to yourself through crisis, you come out stronger and happier.

So, the next time you are anxious, be anxious. When you are scared, be scared. Love all of your experiences as you make your way through your life. To run around trying to be someone else, just doesn’t work.

Of course, it is helpful to learn from mentors and teachers, this is wise indeed. However, never reject or betray your authentic emotions and feelings. Always let your behavior be a genuine expression of your natural gifts and intuitive self. Being true to your unpleasant experiences in life guarantees that you will become stronger and naturally return to your birthright—more joy and vibrant moments.

Feel free to ask me any question about your mental, emotional and physical health. I will answer it in a future newsletter. If you have a comment, please make it. If you have a request, please share it.

Take a deep breath and feel your feelings.

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FEEL YOUR FEELINGS. Being safe and sane instead of letting your brain overreact to anything is effective, powerful and fun. Enjoy overcoming your conditioned responses and feeling your real emotions. Opening the Heart, three hours of audio leads you out of thinking into feeling reality and enjoying the pleasures on earth.

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How to Be Safe in Hurricanes and Scary Situations

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Be Safe and Sane.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Transformation Coach, Holistic Psychology Mentor
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When I felt the energy of the three strong hurricane storms in the Atlantic last week, I felt fear. Pure, raw, fear. No anxiety, just plain terror. Hurricanes have more power than humans. Terror is what humans feel when we meet a force that is stronger and bigger. This human feeling is real, appropriate and helpful.

When you feel fear do you accept this reality and heed it’s warning? Or do you deny that you feel afraid, going on your unconscious way. Or perhaps, you exaggerate your genuine emotion into panic and scare yourself to death.

The only way to deal with energy that is truly stronger and bigger than you is to take a breath and meet it as an equal. This means you feel your authentic physical and emotional feelings. You must feel the reality of who you are and what you have encountered. Then, your real fear leads you into safe places, safe behaviors and sanity.

Without your fear you are living in your thoughts, thinking, instead of activating your fear response which automatically moves you into safety. When you do not feel your body and emotional feelings you create the symptoms of mental illness, anxiety, depression and dysfunctional behaviors.

Therefore, the most effective behavior is to feel your real fear and heed its warnings. When you feel your feelings you automatically take a rational pathway to safety because you stay in reality instead of jumping out of your body away from that which you need to experience. When you leave your body, you leave Mother Earth, gravity, sanity and safety.

Separating yourself from reality means you are vulnerable to all sorts of mental and physical problems. Stay safe and sane by feeling your fear, one breath at a time. If you have trouble feeling your fear listen to the audio “Fear. The pathway to freedom and joy” included in the Opening the Heart audio, over and over again until you feel your fear without denying it or exaggerating it.

Don’t be caught in a dangerous situation with panic or denial. Take action now to unlearn your unconscious reactions by learning to feel your feelings.
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FEEL YOUR FEELINGS. Being safe and sane instead of letting your brain overreact to real fear is effective, powerful and fun. Enjoy overcoming your conditioned responses and feeling your real emotions. Order Opening the Heart, three hours of audio leads you out of thinking into feeling reality and enjoying the pleasures on earth.

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How to Be Happy and Full of Joy

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Bring Back Your Joy.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Human Energy Teacher, Mentor
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Last month I shared how to relax into stress by trusting yourself and your natural processes. Read about how to transform overwhelming energy if you missed it: http://thevibrantmoment.com/2017/07/19/how-to-live-in-process-and-relax-into-stress/

Thank the cosmos, I was able to follow my own advice. For the last two weeks, I have been able to enjoy my daily swim and relax in the shade afterwards, while looking up at the beautiful blue sky. What a joy!

I was stuck in a defensive response to stress. Nothing kills joy faster than defensive energy. This is the reason I am highly motivated to get rid of defensive energy as fast as possible. How often do you get stuck in a defensive reaction?

“No one understands me. No one cares about me,” my client said after the end of a story about how an unkind person related to him. He didn’t say it, but I could feel that he included me in with all the rest of the people in his life. He did not think that I understood or cared about him either.

After forty years of experience working with defensive energy, I know that when someone is defensive, they do not trust me. I also know that when someone does not trust me, there is nothing I can do to help them. Therefore, if I cannot find a way to help my client return to his senses so he can trust me again, he is on his own.

This means he will stay stuck in his false beliefs, reacting as if they are true, when in reality they are false. This is the emotional health dynamic when many people end an important relationship with their friend, family or psychologist. You can currently see millions of people all over the world acting as if their irrational thoughts about reality are true, when they are false.

This is an excellent definition of mental illness. When you, or someone you know and love, is stuck in a false belief that no one understands you, you are out of touch with reality. Of course, it is true that people are sometimes unkind, mean and attacking. Yes, the person in my clients’ story was unkind.

However, it is also true that my client is being unkind to his friend and himself. The bottom line is, when you stop being unkind to yourself is when unkindness stops hurting you. When I stopped criticizing myself, I stopped being defensive about all my problems. Once I was kind and loving toward myself, my pleasure in living returned.

The next time this emotional health dynamic occurs in your life, you could transform your defensive energy into flowing healthy, energy. Instead of making yourself or the other person wrong, you could return to your senses. If you feel, instead of think, you return to your body and reality. Common sense, reality and truth are the ingredients needed to cultivate joy and vibrant moments.

Bring back your joy by being kind to yourself—no matter what is going on in your life.

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How to Live in Process and Relax into Stress

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Trust Your Process
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Human Energy Teacher, Mentor
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Spiritual teachers and person growth coaches often talk about process.
What comes to your mind when you ponder the word process?

Abstract concepts are not easy to define because the whole idea of
process moves and changes in real time. Your process is your reality
in action. I am concerned about the younger generation because so
many appear to be living outside of process. They constantly turn to
their little machines, which is a way to avoid living in the moment.
Your computer is not reality.

I am living in a mess. My office is shut down due to a much-needed
repair of water damage. Living in a historic neighborhood in Center
City Philadelphia my house is more than 130 years old. Alas, once the
damaged ceiling was removed there were two more major problems
exposed. The black roof of the balcony above was literally coming
through the ceiling because the wood had disintegrated. Also, a live
electric wire was frozen in plaster, which is a serious fire hazard.

The process of getting my office back in shape came to a sudden stop.
Two experts have to be called in and they are not easy to find with
all the booming construction going on in Philly right now. All of my
office contents are spread throughout the rest of my house.

In addition, the refrigerator died and we had to throw away all our
food. Finding a small one to fit the space is difficult. Also, I just
found a huge puddle of water in the basement, again. My body is
tight, especially my jaw. I can tolerate a high degree of chaos.
However, this reality is getting on my nerves. I am not sleeping well
and feeling very grumpy when awake.

I am not trusting my process. The Oxford Dictionary states that:
Process is a “A natural series of changes.” You cannot control any
natural series of changes needed to complete any task. You cannot
control reality no matter how much you try to make it “behave.”

I miss how good I feel when I am relaxed. Therefore, I need to take
my own advice and trust my unique process. I know if I let go, the
process will naturally lead to a positive conclusion. You could be in
the middle of several processes at once.

I am currently in the process of:
1.  Repairing the water damage in my office.
2.  Getting a new refrigerator.
3;  Grieving the loss of my mother two years ago.
4.  Grieving the loss of my fifty-eight-year young brother this past
winter.
5.  Growing older and adjusting to new physical limitations.
6.  Finding and stopping the water from entering my basement, again.
7.  Publishing a book. This has been a very long process due to stopping
the process repeatedly.

Each one of these processes has a natural series of changes that need
to occur. Chaos is one of the natural states that always occurs in any
process. The more I get out of the way, the faster these necessary
changes will occur. The more anxious you are, the less you are in
process because you inhibit the moment of the natural changes that
must occur in order to move forward.

Living in process means you are in the moment, experiencing the
changes that are naturally occurring. This is another way of saying
that you are living “in the flow.” When you let go of control and
live in the flow, life is sweet, relaxing and fun. You also get
through stress with more ease and sleep.

How to Get Back into your Flow:

1. Stop. Stop right where you are and breathe.
2. Get back in your body so you feel your whole body.
3. Get your feet plugged into Mother Earth and do not let yourself
drift away from gravity.

Now you are grounded.

If you need help getting grounded take the home study course,
Overcome Anxiety Naturally or come to my Nature Workshop
this fall, October 21, 2017. Being grounded helps but it is not enough.

You must also keep breathing and stay relaxed until you become
comfortable with where and who you are. I am in the middle of a mess
that makes me anxious. There is a man coming and going out of my
second floor office using a loud drill and hammer as I write. Kitchen
chairs are on the left, a half packed suitcase is on my right. Piles
of papers on top of books and back up disks are in my office chair.

Yea, Gads. My mind is worried, “Will I get a swim in today?” “When
can I have some fun?”

This next step toward living in process is:

You must relax into the moment that is so uncomfortable until you are
comfortable. My Post-Doc supervisor, Dr. Joseph Wolpe, would say this
is desensitization. And indeed it is. Current psychology has forgotten
how to use the solid psychological research from the last century.

No matter what is happening in reality, you do not have to continue
to be anxious. The sky is not falling; my house is a mess. The
natural process of fixing my office will be completed if I accept the
series of necessary changes and allow them to occur.

Finally, I got a good night sleep last night and looked forward to
getting up and finishing this newsletter. I will let the next natural
change occur and move forward on my tasks. One step at a time
leads to completion and happiness.

Trust your processes and feel better immediately.

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How to Avoid Hostile Defensive Road Rage? Allow Anger to Move

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Feel Angry, Not Defensive.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Human Energy Teacher, Mentor
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I walked seven blocks uptown to my bank carrying a bulky, heavy bag
of coins, alternating the weight from side to side to ease the load.
TD Bank has always had a coin machine that turned my coins into cash.
Once there, I was told that they had permanently shut down their
customer friendly machine and I would have to walk to the Republic
Bank just a block away. I felt angry and annoyed because my back hurt
and the bag was heavy.

It was either go back home or continue onward. I walked the extra
block to be told by another bank, not Republic, that I would have to
walk five more blocks to get to the Republic Bank. Even more angry
and annoyed due to the incorrect information, I did not choose to go
home with my heavy bag. After walking five more blocks, I was told by
yet another bank that I would have to walk two more blocks to get to
the only change machine bank in Center City, Philadelphia.

My anger grew and I allowed myself to feel its energy rushing through
my body as I pounded the pavement through the noisy, crowded city.
My neighborhood is quiet and green. Reaching the new, smaller bank,
I was delighted to see the familiar change machine and friendly faces.
A woman helped me transform my change into cash. As I expressed
my anger to the woman helping me, I decided to open a new account
with Republic Bank. I had a big deposit all ready for my old bank which
had “deposit only” written on the checks, so they could be used for my
new bank. I got $20.00 for opening an account and was happy to be
back with helpful, friendly folks.

Anger is good and healthy. You do not need anger management or
anger control. You need to feel your anger and express its red energy
in healthy life affirming ways. Anger gives you the fuel you need to
take action against that which hurts you or others.

Do not confuse anger with hostility or road rage. Attacking, blaming
energy is defensive; therefore, hostile. You can feel the barbs. In
contrast, anger is a genuine emotion that moves outward and away
from you if you allow its potent energy to move without inhibiting it.
Genuine anger motivates you to take positive actions against
injustices and attacks from others. Anger is assertive.

Healthy ways to express your anger:
1. Write down what you feel without censorship.
2. Speak out loud how you feel to yourself and emotionally safe people.
3. Dramatize what you feel. Take on an angry character for an hour or
day.
4. Draw what you feel. Use space and color freely.
5. Physically express your feelings by boxing, hitting the air, shedding
paper.

Never hurt yourself or others. Take back your life with your sincere
anger. Be assertive.

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Being angry empowers you to stop people from hurting you and taking
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YOUR BODY DOES NOT LIE: Reading body language allows you to know
for sure when you are being angry and when you are being hostile.
Learning body language is fun, exciting and enormously helpful in
everyday life. Therapists and teachers must know how to read physical
data so they can be more effective. Get started with “The
Introduction to Body Language.” I do not sell this audio as a
product. It is usually only available to my students. However, if you
order the “Hear Your Talking” audio below, you get this one-hour body
language audio for free.

SPECIAL FOR YOUR BODY EDUCATION: Order “Hear Your Body Talking”
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How to Know What You Really Want to Do

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Feel to Know. 

You think you want to go out tonight with friends and have some fun. Yet, you are not sure. Maybe you really feel like staying home with heart-warming music, or write in your journal or read a good book. Or, all of the above.

Listen to who is talking to you. Are you listening to your Ego or True Self? Which part of you do you identify with most of the time? Your answer to these two questions determines the results you are sure to get. If you identify with your ego, you go toward heavy, dark energy and the “fun” you have will not be fulfilling. If you identify with your True Self, you go toward light, love energy, and you are sure to relax and enjoy your moments of being alive no matter what you do.

It really does not matter “What you do.” What matters is being true to your needs and desires in the moment. This is the reason it is essential to get to know your egos. Does your ego look slick, smart and well organized? Dr. Tight-ass is one of my self-images. Or does your ego look weak, hopeless and helpless? Poor little Country Girl is another of my false selves.

The more you get to know your egos, the more power you have to stop their unhealthy energy from making you sick, anxious and depressed. As long as your false selves stay hidden in the dark of your unconscious, hanging out in your body, the more harm your Inner Critics can do to your self-esteem and holistic health.

What you do not know can kill you.

Seriously. Ignorance is not bliss. Denial is the most damaging of all mental health diseases. See yourself realistically. Work with teachers who help you gain insight about how others see you. Take a look at how busy you stay. Explore how much time you spent sitting still without reading or looking. How frequently do you let your body move naturally and do what it wants to do without posturing it via yoga or other brain commands.

The only way to win the battle with your ego is to bring your false beliefs up to your conscious mind and expose them to the light. Then, if you can read body language and feel energy, it is easy to recognize the difference between your real needs versus your egos’ everlasting control.

How to Know Your Ego.

Your Ego:
1. Controls you.
2. Blames
3. Feels superior or inferior to others
4. Has heavy, dense, dark energy
5. Has scattered, out of control or controlled energy
6. Is aggressive or passive

How to Know Your True Self.

Your True Self:
1. Frees you.
2. Takes Responsibility
3. Feels equal to others
4. Has light, flowing, buoyancy energy
5. Is spontaneous and sincere
6. Is assertive

When you feel instead of think, you know the difference between your ego and True Self. Next, you must learn how to de-program and unlearn your ego responses. Unlearning unhealthy responses takes patience and practice.

To eliminate your ego, use your common sense and stay in your body, not your brain. Learn to read body language so you see the physical truth in yourself and others. Study and listen to the “Hear Your Body Talking” holistic psychology audio and “The Introduction to Body Language” to get started. Sign up for local body awareness classes and my Fall Nature Workshop in October.

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LEARN BODY LANGUAGE: Reading body language is seeing what is in front of you instead of seeing what you are thinking and projecting. Learning body language is fun, exciting and enormously helpful in everyday life. Therapists and teachers must know how to read physical data so they can be more effective. Get started with “The Introduction to Body Language.” I do not sell this audio as a product. It is usually only available to my students. However, if you order the “Hear Your Talking” audio below, you get this one-hour body language audio for free.

SPECIAL FOR YOUR BODY EDUCATION: Order “Hear Your Body Talking” before Sunday, May 21 for $29.97 and receive “The Introduction to Body Language,” worth $49.97 for free. Act now and learn how to read body language to become stronger than your ego!

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