Metaphysical Law: Bless What You Want and Need to Manifest Goal.

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Bless Your Heart.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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My mother signed every card she sent me with “Bless you.” Sometimes, it was even “God bless you.” As a young psychologist, I did not like her religious tones and words. I threw her blessings into the trash in my Center City, Philadelphia home with irritation and disapproval.

As an older, wiser, holistic psychologist I write “Bless you.” and “Bless your heart” at the end of some of my emails. My 86-year-old mother has heard me say many times to her in the last decade, “Thank you mother for blessing me all those years. It finally paid off!”

“Mother, I am so grateful for your blessings. You are so smart. How did you know blessing me was the thing to do?” Mother gently replies, “I don’t know, I just knew to bless you and all that I love.”

Indeed. How wise my mother was and is. She still blesses me in each phone call and encounter we have. It is one of the many things I will miss when she passes. Her ever presence love and blessings will be sorely missed.

Huna psychology from Hawaii also teaches the power of blessing. Whatever you bless increases. This increase occurs because you give positive energy to that which you bless. There may be some other metaphysics magic that occurs that I do not know about, but I know for sure blessing something empowers me and that which I bless.

Try it yourself. If you want more money, bless those that are rich. Bless money in any and all forms. Bless paper money, real estate, stocks, and gold. Bless money to get more money. Notice if you judge and curse the rich. Cursing simply means that good old fashion disapproval I blasted upon my mother’s blessings.

I used to also curse money and the rich. My disapproval of money blocked me from having a good relationship with money. Finally, after years of rejecting money, I am close and loving with money. What a shift and what a joy to be in harmony with money!

Bless anything you want to receive. Bless healthy people to become healthy. Bless loving couples to become more loving. Thanksgiving is a wonderful holiday to remind you to use the power of blessing. Bless all that you love and want.

Start by blessing the Native American people for giving life and food to white man when he landed upon their shores.

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How to Achieve Emotional Health and Maturity? Breathe and Feel.

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Breathe and Feel.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com
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Here is an emotional health question I received from an Indian woman:

“I’m a published writer and a thinker. Thus, I’m intellectually and physically mature, but emotionally, a child.

There could be a few reasons why I stayed a child emotionally. No amount of self-knowledge seems to help, as I still react like a naive schoolgirl to situations where the emotions are involved, although I’m a reasonably happy person, generally.

My question is whatever the reason for the delay, how do I now cross over from girlhood to womanhood emotionally?”

This Indian woman is well ahead of most people because she knows she is not emotionally mature. Unfortunately, many people think they are emotionally mature and they are not. If you control and manage your emotions you may think you are mature. But are you?

This intellectual Indian woman knows she reacts like a naive showgirl. Do you notice when you react like a spoilt brat? Or victim? Or self-righteous know-it-all? If not, begin to notice any knee jerk reactions that do not go through your body and heart before being expressed.

Anytime you react immediately to anything in your life, you are having a reaction. A reaction is a conditioned response. If you feel like you must immediately answer that email, return that phone call or set someone straight-beware! You are reacting.

If you get an upsetting email, phone call or you think someone is attacking you, what do you do? If you think something “bad” is happening, slow down. You are reacting. Reactions occur when you are being controlled by your past learning history.

Reactions are the opposite of emotional maturity. Reactions make you weak and ineffective in relationships. You feel insecure and unloved. Emotional maturity feels good all over! You feel secure and self-confident with yourself and others.

How can you become emotionally healthy and mature?

When anything what-so-ever happens in your life. Take a deep breath and feel your emotions. “Breathe and feel” is the mantra I use throughout the “Opening the Heart” audio because that is how I noticed and reduced my defensive reactions.

“Breathe and feel” really works. As you exhale, let go of your breath and let go of control. Invite your authentic emotions into your awareness when you say to yourself, “feel.”

The emotionally mature response in all situations is to feel your authentic emotions. Feeling your emotions takes you to a different place. Or to many different places. You could have strong, intense emotions that go in opposite directions. Most of us do!

All you have to do is feel your emotions. Accept them. Enjoy them. They are colorful clouds of matter. When you feel your emotions instead of reacting, you are secure and self-confident.
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Mental Health Advice: Learn to Read Body Language

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Read body language.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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Several years ago, my mother was preparing her famous southern scallop potatoes for Thanksgiving dinner when I noticed she severely tightened up her lips as she was pouring the potatoes into the baking dish.

As soon as I saw the body language of my mother I realized where I learned to tighten my lips. Not only did I see myself in her, I realized her tight lips were trying to control the outcome of her potatoes! Never had I thought about control being a factor when cooking.

In the 1970’s I received referrals from the Beck Institute at the University of Pennsylvania. While looking for new ways to help people who did not benefit from psychotherapy or CBT, I begin to actively use body language and body awareness with my new referrals. This is when I discovered the difference between control and power. Read last week’s The Vibrant Moment for the definition and difference between control and power:  Relationship Advice: Choose Power, not Control

When I taught my clients to notice their body, face, lips, feet, stomach, and what their physical form was doing at any point in time, they were much more likely to give up their denial, exaggeration, and defensive behaviors quickly without resistance. Noticing when they controlled themselves and when they did not was much more effective that trying to change their negative thoughts into positive thoughts.

This is because the tension in your body gives you the feedback that you are in control and not in your power. You can learn to feel how control feels in your body. You may or may not notice when your body is tense. Many people do not. This is the reason taking body language classes, workshops, and home study courses help you become more body conscious.

Also, use mirrors and photographs. Mirrors and photographs help you become more aware if you slow down and look. Do not throw away the photos you do not like. For example, recently a stranger was using my Nikon camera to photograph a family holiday card for me. I was directing her as she was taking the photo. At first, I did not think she was clicking all the way through because the light did not flash.

When I looked at the photos I could see she had indeed taken them correctly. I could also see how I looked when I did not think she was taking them correctly! You should see my face. Unattractive, screwed up and tense. And tight, especially my lips. Yes, of course, my lips.

So, my control showed up for me to see once again. Did my tight face help make the photos better? Did my mother’s tight lips make her potatoes taste better. Nope. Control never makes anything better.

Remembering how I looked in control sure reminds me to relax my lips more often throughout the day.

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Self Confidence Tip: Choose Power and Forget Control

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Choose Power.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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When I first noticed I was nervous before a certain client arrived for our session, I became very curious as to the reason I would experience anxiety with her and not any of my other clients. My client always dressed perfectly, had lots of money, a good job, and had no problem except for losing her partner.

Exploring the reason I was nervous about meeting with this client lead to one of my first major breakthroughs as a young psychologist. I discovered the physical difference between control and power. Most people, and many psychologists, are fooled by the man or woman who exhibits a great deal of control.

In some circles, controlling your behavior is highly praised and valued in the USA and Europe. In my early psychotherapy groups, I often had to deal with some members putting the controlled person in the group up on a pedestal. As a result, they felt “inferior” to the person who was in control.

Many highly controlled people are functional in the world because they are rewarded and reinforced for being “in control.” Even current psychological treatments in 2014 focus on controlling your anger, having to be positive, and thinking your way to happiness.

However, since I was using relaxation therapy and desensitization therapy back in the late 1970’s to reduce anxiety in sexual situations as a sex therapist, I knew that control was never functional in the bedroom and in matters of the heart. Control of any sort immediately kills emotional intimacy and delicious lovemaking.

As I felt my anxiety about the client who was about to arrive in my office, I suddenly realized my client was in control. She put herself on a pedestal, she was perfect. As a result, she was unpleasant to be around. I was not looking forward to seeing her.

When I realized she was in control, I knew she was highly anxious. Knowing she was anxious make it easy to be compassion toward her so I could then help her relax her body so she could feel more comfortable being herself.

The bottom-line is, the more anxious you are, the more controlling you are. The more relaxed you are, the more powerful you are.

Reading body language is extremely helpful. A tense body is different from a relaxed body. Power and control cannot exist in your body at the same time. You are either in a state of power or control. One physical state blocks out the other.

You get to choose power or control every moment of your life.

Real power is the healthy energy that is measured by physicists as voltage. The more voltage, the more power. When you are in a state of power you radiate good energy around you and your resistance to disease is high.

Power is the vital energy that gives you vibrant moments. Notice what, when, where, and how you control yourself. Then, choose to be powerful by loving yourself as you are in the moment. Give up seeking to be in control.

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Transformation or Therapy? Try the New, Holistic Psychology Way

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Change Your Matter.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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Therapy or Transformation?
Which one do you choose?

One of the major differences between the current, traditional psychology and the new, holistic psychology is its primary goal and purpose.

Traditional psychology often aims to help you adjust your behavior so that you do not make others uncomfortable. This is the medical, psychotherapy model. Every time the new psychiatric diagnosis manual comes out more and more normal behaviors are being labeled as mental illness.

For example, grieving the loss of a loved one. The new psychiatric manual gives you six months to grieve a close, loving relationship before you get a mental illness label. Once you get a mental illness label, medication is usually recommended to stop you from experiencing your naturally occurring feelings and emotions.

In sharp contrast, the New, Holistic Psychology aims to help you achieve emotional, physical, and mental health and wellness. Any good psychologist knows that normal, healthy grieving takes approximately two years before you can think about your loved one without crying and feeling hurt and pain.

Do you want to control your behavior using the medical, psychotherapy model? Or do you want to transform your energy, matter, and problem so you can relax and be yourself?

The Holistic Psychology Way uses the transformation model. This means you let go of control and allow the natural health and wellness process of life to change your ineffective behaviors into effective behaviors.

Mother Earth is the expert when it comes to achieving the healthy flow of energy that naturally leads to holistic health and wellness. This is the reason I started doing transformational workshops outdoors in nature 25 years ago. As the Philadelphia Inquirer noted, “Mother Nature is Dr. Jeanette’s co-therapist.”

Being close, attached, and connected to Mother Earth keeps you safe and sane. The goal and purpose of a nature workshop is to show you how to transform your unhealthy energy, tense matter, and real problems into effective solutions that are safe, effective, and enjoyable.

Change your matter, not just your mind.

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Depression, SAD, Seasonal Affective Disorders Treatment: Winterize Your Habits

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Winterize Your Habits.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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With the light in the north hemisphere decreasing, it is time to bring in effective ways to avoid depression, keep SAD (Seasonal affective disorders), and the blues away. With less external light you need to change your habits and routines to beef up the positive, uplifting energy in your daily life.

Here are three ways to deal with depression and SAD the Holistic Psychology Way:

1.  Warm up your feet and hands with body work and body awareness.

Any martial arts that attracts you and sounds like fun is excellent. I prefer the energy aspects of Aikido. Look for body awareness classes in your neighborhood that your body is eager to enjoy. Consider Alexandria and Feldenkrais classes.

You notice immediate benefits as soon as you start to live in your body instead of living in your thoughts. Soon, more blood will be flowing through your feet and hands on a regular basis and the cold winter will not seem so cold and depressing.

2.  Give yourself more rest, relaxation, and sleep.

Your winter needs are very different from your summer needs. Feel like a bear. Let the cooler weather change your habits and do what feels good. I sleep more in the winter and spend more time resting and doing nothing.

If you are a person who does not let yourself take naps, reconsider. Naps are not bad, they are good for the body and soul. Naps have always been an integral part of my insomnia program. Naps feel so good anytime of the day or night.

3.  Bring in more sunlight.

When I was teaching in Sweden in 1999 at the University for Global Well Being, I suffered from SAD (Seasonal affective disorders) due to the continuous cloudy days of Northern Europe. As soon as the sun would finally peep out, after days and days of clouds, all the teachers and students ran out of the buildings and stood outdoors. As a group we stood tall and soaked up the brief sunlight as if it was the most precious energy in the world! And it was.

Therefore, I created a light exercise to help myself and the students bring in more light. You can also use the power tool of your imagination and visualization. Stand outside and imagine the sun, which is right behind the clouds, shining its strong, intense, sunny rays on your face and body. Feel it as if it is really happening. Imagining the sunlight makes it happen. You can also use your imagination inside as needed.

If you put into action all three of the Holistic Psychology suggestions for avoiding SAD, I am sure your winter be not be as depressing as last winter. Your behavior needs to change with the seasons if you want to enjoy good emotional, physical and mental health.

Let me know if you try any of these depression and SAD busters. Give me feedback about what helps you get through the winter without getting stuck in the blues and winter depression.

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Self Esteem Tip: Say Something Nice to Yourself

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Say kind words out loud.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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You are important and you matter.

How many times a day do you say something kind, warm, and encouraging to yourself? Most of you did not learn to say loving, positive, supportive words to yourself because your parents did not model self-loving behavior for you.

You learn how to relate to yourself based on how your parents related to themselves. Even if your parents did their best to be kind to you, you learned to relate to yourself based on the behavior they modeled for you.

My mother was kind to me. However, she yelled mean, nasty things to herself whenever she made a mistake. As a result, I learned to yell mean, nasty things to myself when I made a mistake.

What did you learn from your mother? Father? Teachers?

Unfortunately, self-judgment, self- criticism and self-rejection are universal mental health problems. However, the good news is, since self-judgment is a learned behavior, you can unlearn this unhelpful behavior.

Early in my career, I noticed that I attacked myself viciously when I make a mistake in my professional practice. If I made a mistake about the time of an appointment, I would be mean to myself for over two weeks without any reprise. It was as if I had committed the ultimate sin of all sins and could not be forgiven!

As I brought this unconscious nasty behavior up to my conscious mind, I realized how unhelpful self-judgment was to my well-being, self-confidence, and mental health. Making myself miserable and destroying my self-confidence was not what I wanted to do to myself.

So, I put into practice what I was teaching my clients. I began to be kinder, more understanding and patient with myself when I made a mistake. The ultimate truth is, when you make a mistake, is when you desperately need love not judgment!

Besides, you get much better results when you are kind to yourself than you do when you are mean to yourself. When I was kinder to myself, I was less likely to make mistakes in general because I was more relaxed and comfortable. In addition, I was more fun to be around because I was not making other people wrong and bad all the time when they made a mistake.

Unkind words projected out on others are the natural outcome of self-judgment. If you are being unkind to others or think others are being unkind to you, notice how you are relating to yourself. Your nastiness is occurring in your own head or lurking in your unconscious!

Being unkind is not the same thing as being honest and assertive. Meanness has a very different energy from assertiveness. Highly sensitive people can feel the barbs that come with nasty, attacking energy. Attacks on yourself or others are never justified–no matter what.

So, notice the words you say to yourself.

Bring up your nasty comments to your conscious mind so they do not hurt you anymore. Own your meanness and stop projecting it out on others. Taking responsibility for your thoughts is the only way you can unlearn this unkind way of relating to yourself.

Next, shift into saying kind, positive, and loving words to yourself out loud. This quickly improves your mood, day, and self-confidence. Your cells smile and your whole mind body benefits.

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Stress Management Tip: Become Emotionally Healthy by Feeling Your Feelings

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Handle Stress Effectively.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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Do you want to handle stress with more ease and grace?

Tina Gilbertson, says in her book, Constructive Wallowing, “For all of us, how we deal with our feelings has an impact on how quickly we’re able to bounce back from setbacks large and small.” Sometimes life throws us difficult events. Whether it is a wet basement, fleas on your pets, or a mother nearing the end of her life, you handle these events much more effectively when you handle your feelings in an emotionally healthy fashion.

What is an emotionally healthy fashion?

When you allow yourself to feel your feelings instead of making them wrong or bad, you become emotionally healthy. So, no matter what you feel, “Feel, baby feel!” This emotional health fact, is one of the major reasons Talk Therapy is so limited.

Stress happens often to everyone. When you do not feel good, you do not need to talk about your feelings. Instead, you need someone to teach you how to feel your feelings so you move forward toward the light at the end of the tunnel.

You need to learn how to move through the realities of life without being overwhelmed by the energy of stress. This will help you feel better, and you become an emotionally healthy role model for your children, relatives, and friends.

Therefore, the best use of your time, energy, and money is to learn how to feel your body feelings and emotional feelings as they occur. Do not put your emotional needs on the back burner. Feeling your feelings is the successful way out of any stressful event.

Here is a list of things you can do to help you feel your feelings.

1. Write out your feelings without censorship.
2. Dance how you feel.
3. Take boxing lessons.
4. Take an acting class.
5. Draw how you feel.
6. Listen to music, especially opera.
7. Dress up for Halloween as needed.

It does not matter what you feel, what matters is admitting the truth about HOW you feel. You may feel like the Wicked Witch of the West or the Fairy God Mother. Whether you are the Tin Man without a heart or the Lion without courage, admit the raw truth of how you feel deep down inside.

Let your body tell you the truth about how you feel. Your body knows the truth, it cannot lie. If you stop your bully brain from controlling you, your body automatically reveals how you feel. Let go of control and allow your body to express how you truly feel.

When you admit the truth of how weak you feel deep down inside, a marvelous event occurs. You gain more strength, courage, and emotional health. Tis true. Mother Nature is not a fool.

You must fall down into the deep unconscious of your truths, to rise up to the wonderful person you are.  Try being the person you hate the most for a day and own this part of you. Start planning your Halloween costume based on the part of you, you find distasteful.

What happens when you admit unconscious truths?

You suddenly handle stress more effectively. You do not get stuck in the mess of your own mental judgments making you a bad person. You heal some past wounds. You reach the light at the end of the darkness.

Breaking free, you join the human race. You are no longer better or worse than another.

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BODY FEELINGS: Move forward and become more self-confident. Your body knows how you feel. All you have to do is hear what your body is screaming at you. For better physical, mental, and emotional health stop rejecting and blaming your body. Instead, love your body and let it tell you the truth about how you feel. Study the one-hour audio, “3 Reasons You Have a Body: Hear Your Body Talking.” CD or mp3, $29.97, Money-back guarantee.

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Feel and Express Love for a Healthy Heart and Loving Relationships

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Feel and Express Love.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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Perhaps you are beginning to feel the difference between your healthy, authentic emotions and an unhelpful conditioned response after last weeks’ The Vibrant Moment. If you missed it, I defined and differentiated feelings, emotions, thoughts, and conditioned responses from each other: http://thevibrantmoment.com/2014/08/27/emotional-health-advice-learn-the-difference-between-thoughts-feelings-and-emotions/

Something you learned is very different from something you did not learn.

A conditioned response is something you learned. An authentic emotion is something you did not learn. An example of an authentic emotion is love. You did not learn to love, you were born loving. And a matter of fact, I would say you were born TO love. If your heart feels love for something or someone you feel love and that is that.

The reason you were a bundle of joy as a little baby is because you felt and expressed so much love. Now, as an adult, you feel the energy of love bubbling up in your heart from time to time. This feeling happens organically in your heart and solar plexus, without any thoughts or reason.

Once your heart is full of love, this energy naturally radiates outward away from you. This powerful energy is exactly what you need to be healthy in heart, mind, and body. Love is what you need to be happy and effective. Love connects us to each other and makes life worth living.

Of course, you can deny, repress, stop, and block your authentic feelings of love. Unfortunately, this is exactly what a large number of human beings do. In addition, you may love someone and something and cannot fully express the love you feel. Therefore, millions of people have learned to inhibit their natural feelings of love. When you inhibit your natural feelings of love, you feel lonely, isolated, sad, and unloved.

In this painful reality, your unhelpful conditioned response is how you learned to deny, repress, stop, and block your authentic feelings of love. Begin to notice what behaviors you do that control and inhibit your natural loving feelings. Notice what muscles tighten up and what happens in your nervous system. What are you squeezing and hurting when you inhibit the energy of love?

It is quite interesting that western medicine finds that the thymus on most adults has atrophied. Yes, this means your thymus may have dried up and stopped working properly. Could this be because your heart was not allowed to fully feel the love it feels? Consider the possibility.

It has been well established by western medical research that the thymus regulates the immune system. According to eastern medicine, the thymus regulates the heart charka. The research in applied kinesiology, which uses the strength of your muscles to determine if something is healthy for you or not, reveals that an alive thymus does indeed improve your immune system and immediately makes your whole energy field stronger.

So, it is true that a few thumps on the thymus immediately makes your muscles stronger and thus, healthier. This is the reason I use and teach my students and clients the Thymus Thump! Get to know your thymus and bring it back to life with physical touch and emotional love.

Inhibiting love is a conditioned response; unlearn this unhelpful behavior as quickly as you can.

Love is an authentic emotion; let it flow, so you glow!

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Emotional Health Advice: Learn the Difference Between Thoughts, Feelings and Emotions

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Feel Your Feelings.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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I received an interesting question this week from an international seeker of truth. By that I mean, someone who is interested in exploring inner and outer realities by developing his human potential. Even though he has listened to many popular teachers’ audios and read their books, he did not discover the difference between thoughts, feelings, and emotions.

This is an important question because so many teachers, authors, and researchers do not know the difference. They do not understand how conditioned responses and mental judgments create emotional distress. Therefore, they lump thoughts, feelings, and emotions all together with conditioned responses and confuse their data and information.

Emotional distress is not the same experience as emotional health.

To understand emotional health, you must experience your own emotions and allow these colorful energies to take you to a new and different place. It is like traveling to a place you have never been before. You open up to new experiences so you discover how your vital, emotional energy naturally leads to holistic health and wellness.

To become emotionally healthy, you must recognize, thoughts from feelings, and emotions from conditioned responses. Knowing these different states is necessary because you need to act differently when you experience them in order to achieve better results. Emotional health knowledge plus positive actions moves you successfully through the maze of confusion into clarity.

Theory, words, and books do not transform emotional distress into healthy energy. The only way to transform unhealthy energy into healthy energy is by directly experiencing these different states within yourself and behaving differently when they occur.

This is the reason my private sessions, workshops, and home study courses show you how to directly experience your own energy. When you feel the different energies in your own body, you know when you are experiencing a thought, feeling, emotion, or conditioned response. They feel very different from each other.

Thoughts

A thought originates in your brain and/or mind. Your brain and mind are not the same instrument. Your brain is the organ in your body. Your mind is the bigger, governing mental master behind your thoughts, and thus, your identity.

Thoughts can be composed of low vibrations or high vibrations. Thoughts can be rational or irrational. Irrational thoughts create the symptoms of all mental illnesses from anxiety, to depression, to bi-polar, to psychosis.

Energy follows thoughts so you create your reality with your thoughts. This means your reality could be based on false beliefs, misinformation, or on outside facts and valid information. This is the reason you need to engage in personal growth, with outside feedback, so you unlearn your false beliefs and replace them with reality-based facts.

Feelings

Feelings occur in your heart, guts, whole body, and energy field via vibrations. Feelings are sensations that you experience which give you feedback about inner and outer realities. Your body feels what is happening all the time. All you have to do is pay attention to your feelings. Your feelings are an effective way to know the truth and experience the truth.

You can feel cold and hot, love and fear, nonverbal communication and danger. You can feel gross energy and subtle energy. Thus, you have the ability to feel thoughts, emotions, and conditioned responses. Knowing what you feel and acting appropriately on your feelings leads to self protection and survival.

When you trust your feelings, you know what is going on inside of you and outside of you. When you act on your feelings you have a better chance of being safe and sane. This is the reason a Highly Sensitive Person has many advantages over someone who is highly insensitive. If you are a HSP, you pick up and perceive data that is in your environment before others do.

Unfortunately, most people do not trust their feelings. If you want to live a happy, healthy, effective life, a good investment is an education in learning how to feel, trust, and act appropriately on your feelings.

Emotions

Emotions originate in your heart and solar plexus. Energetically, they hang out in your emotional body about a foot and a half away from your body. Emotions are energy in motion. They are colorful, quick, flowing, and expressive. Emotions cannot be negative, positive, or toxic. They simple are … they exist, change, and rearrange continuously.

If you do not inhibit your emotions, they change instantly from one colorful emotion into another colorful emotion. Even anger is experienced quickly and changes into something else if you do not stop yourself from feeling anger when it first comes up. Or stop your child from feeling her anger with it first occurs.

Unfortunately, the entire human race has been conditioned into repressing, denying, and inhibiting their emotions. This self hate of our emotions has been taking place over the last two millennium. Consequently, it is rare for anyone to be emotionally healthy. You have been brainwashed into thinking your emotions are dangerous and out of control, when they are not.

As a holistic psychologist, with over 36 years of clinical experience, I am convinced that the major cause of premature mental and physical disease is inhibited emotions. Therefore, the best use of your time, energy, and money is to seek out teachers who show you how to feel your emotions. Allowing your vital energy to flow creates a healthy mind-body and gives you lots of fun, vibrant moments to boot!

Conditioned Responses

A conditioned response is something you learned. It is not an authentic part of you. Emotions are not learned, they are a naturally occurring part of you, like your automatic nervous system. Do not confuse a conditioned response with an authentic emotion.

What you learned could be helpful or unhelpful.

Knee jerk responses are often unhelpful. They occur when you are conditioned to react defensively to a certain stimulus. For example, someone gives you feedback and you hear it as criticism based on your past learning experience with your critical mother or father. The feedback is object and factual, you hear the message as negative, terrible, and against you.

This is because you learned to response to all feedback as if it was criticism of you. When you hear feedback as criticism, you react in inappropriate ways to your boss and lose your job. Or block out the love your partner is sending when she is helping you develop a more realistic view of yourself.

Defensive reactions are often called “an emotional reaction.” Nevertheless, when you are defensive you are not allowing your emotions to change and rearrange. Your body is tight, tense, and rigid. Your energy is dark, dense, black, and grey. You are unpleasant to be around.

When you react with a conditioned response you are avoiding your authentic emotions, instead of feeling your emotions. As a matter of fact, if you felt your emotions you would not be defensive and unpleasant. You would be open and approachable.

An emotionally healthy person is a joy to be around.

You express yourself, love yourself, and others. Move toward more healthy emotional expression every single day and make planet Earth a safe, joyful place to live.

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