How to Live in Process and Relax into Stress

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Trust Your Process
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Human Energy Teacher, Mentor
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Spiritual teachers and person growth coaches often talk about process.
What comes to your mind when you ponder the word process?

Abstract concepts are not easy to define because the whole idea of
process moves and changes in real time. Your process is your reality
in action. I am concerned about the younger generation because so
many appear to be living outside of process. They constantly turn to
their little machines, which is a way to avoid living in the moment.
Your computer is not reality.

I am living in a mess. My office is shut down due to a much-needed
repair of water damage. Living in a historic neighborhood in Center
City Philadelphia my house is more than 130 years old. Alas, once the
damaged ceiling was removed there were two more major problems
exposed. The black roof of the balcony above was literally coming
through the ceiling because the wood had disintegrated. Also, a live
electric wire was frozen in plaster, which is a serious fire hazard.

The process of getting my office back in shape came to a sudden stop.
Two experts have to be called in and they are not easy to find with
all the booming construction going on in Philly right now. All of my
office contents are spread throughout the rest of my house.

In addition, the refrigerator died and we had to throw away all our
food. Finding a small one to fit the space is difficult. Also, I just
found a huge puddle of water in the basement, again. My body is
tight, especially my jaw. I can tolerate a high degree of chaos.
However, this reality is getting on my nerves. I am not sleeping well
and feeling very grumpy when awake.

I am not trusting my process. The Oxford Dictionary states that:
Process is a “A natural series of changes.” You cannot control any
natural series of changes needed to complete any task. You cannot
control reality no matter how much you try to make it “behave.”

I miss how good I feel when I am relaxed. Therefore, I need to take
my own advice and trust my unique process. I know if I let go, the
process will naturally lead to a positive conclusion. You could be in
the middle of several processes at once.

I am currently in the process of:
1.  Repairing the water damage in my office.
2.  Getting a new refrigerator.
3;  Grieving the loss of my mother two years ago.
4.  Grieving the loss of my fifty-eight-year young brother this past
winter.
5.  Growing older and adjusting to new physical limitations.
6.  Finding and stopping the water from entering my basement, again.
7.  Publishing a book. This has been a very long process due to stopping
the process repeatedly.

Each one of these processes has a natural series of changes that need
to occur. Chaos is one of the natural states that always occurs in any
process. The more I get out of the way, the faster these necessary
changes will occur. The more anxious you are, the less you are in
process because you inhibit the moment of the natural changes that
must occur in order to move forward.

Living in process means you are in the moment, experiencing the
changes that are naturally occurring. This is another way of saying
that you are living “in the flow.” When you let go of control and
live in the flow, life is sweet, relaxing and fun. You also get
through stress with more ease and sleep.

How to Get Back into your Flow:

1. Stop. Stop right where you are and breathe.
2. Get back in your body so you feel your whole body.
3. Get your feet plugged into Mother Earth and do not let yourself
drift away from gravity.

Now you are grounded.

If you need help getting grounded take the home study course,
Overcome Anxiety Naturally or come to my Nature Workshop
this fall, October 21, 2017. Being grounded helps but it is not enough.

You must also keep breathing and stay relaxed until you become
comfortable with where and who you are. I am in the middle of a mess
that makes me anxious. There is a man coming and going out of my
second floor office using a loud drill and hammer as I write. Kitchen
chairs are on the left, a half packed suitcase is on my right. Piles
of papers on top of books and back up disks are in my office chair.

Yea, Gads. My mind is worried, “Will I get a swim in today?” “When
can I have some fun?”

This next step toward living in process is:

You must relax into the moment that is so uncomfortable until you are
comfortable. My Post-Doc supervisor, Dr. Joseph Wolpe, would say this
is desensitization. And indeed it is. Current psychology has forgotten
how to use the solid psychological research from the last century.

No matter what is happening in reality, you do not have to continue
to be anxious. The sky is not falling; my house is a mess. The
natural process of fixing my office will be completed if I accept the
series of necessary changes and allow them to occur.

Finally, I got a good night sleep last night and looked forward to
getting up and finishing this newsletter. I will let the next natural
change occur and move forward on my tasks. One step at a time
leads to completion and happiness.

Trust your processes and feel better immediately.

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How to Avoid Hostile Defensive Road Rage? Allow Anger to Move

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Feel Angry, Not Defensive.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Human Energy Teacher, Mentor
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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I walked seven blocks uptown to my bank carrying a bulky, heavy bag
of coins, alternating the weight from side to side to ease the load.
TD Bank has always had a coin machine that turned my coins into cash.
Once there, I was told that they had permanently shut down their
customer friendly machine and I would have to walk to the Republic
Bank just a block away. I felt angry and annoyed because my back hurt
and the bag was heavy.

It was either go back home or continue onward. I walked the extra
block to be told by another bank, not Republic, that I would have to
walk five more blocks to get to the Republic Bank. Even more angry
and annoyed due to the incorrect information, I did not choose to go
home with my heavy bag. After walking five more blocks, I was told by
yet another bank that I would have to walk two more blocks to get to
the only change machine bank in Center City, Philadelphia.

My anger grew and I allowed myself to feel its energy rushing through
my body as I pounded the pavement through the noisy, crowded city.
My neighborhood is quiet and green. Reaching the new, smaller bank,
I was delighted to see the familiar change machine and friendly faces.
A woman helped me transform my change into cash. As I expressed
my anger to the woman helping me, I decided to open a new account
with Republic Bank. I had a big deposit all ready for my old bank which
had “deposit only” written on the checks, so they could be used for my
new bank. I got $20.00 for opening an account and was happy to be
back with helpful, friendly folks.

Anger is good and healthy. You do not need anger management or
anger control. You need to feel your anger and express its red energy
in healthy life affirming ways. Anger gives you the fuel you need to
take action against that which hurts you or others.

Do not confuse anger with hostility or road rage. Attacking, blaming
energy is defensive; therefore, hostile. You can feel the barbs. In
contrast, anger is a genuine emotion that moves outward and away
from you if you allow its potent energy to move without inhibiting it.
Genuine anger motivates you to take positive actions against
injustices and attacks from others. Anger is assertive.

Healthy ways to express your anger:
1. Write down what you feel without censorship.
2. Speak out loud how you feel to yourself and emotionally safe people.
3. Dramatize what you feel. Take on an angry character for an hour or
day.
4. Draw what you feel. Use space and color freely.
5. Physically express your feelings by boxing, hitting the air, shedding
paper.

Never hurt yourself or others. Take back your life with your sincere
anger. Be assertive.

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Being angry empowers you to stop people from hurting you and taking
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YOUR BODY DOES NOT LIE: Reading body language allows you to know
for sure when you are being angry and when you are being hostile.
Learning body language is fun, exciting and enormously helpful in
everyday life. Therapists and teachers must know how to read physical
data so they can be more effective. Get started with “The
Introduction to Body Language.” I do not sell this audio as a
product. It is usually only available to my students. However, if you
order the “Hear Your Talking” audio below, you get this one-hour body
language audio for free.

SPECIAL FOR YOUR BODY EDUCATION: Order “Hear Your Body Talking”
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How to Know What You Really Want to Do

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Feel to Know. 

You think you want to go out tonight with friends and have some fun. Yet, you are not sure. Maybe you really feel like staying home with heart-warming music, or write in your journal or read a good book. Or, all of the above.

Listen to who is talking to you. Are you listening to your Ego or True Self? Which part of you do you identify with most of the time? Your answer to these two questions determines the results you are sure to get. If you identify with your ego, you go toward heavy, dark energy and the “fun” you have will not be fulfilling. If you identify with your True Self, you go toward light, love energy, and you are sure to relax and enjoy your moments of being alive no matter what you do.

It really does not matter “What you do.” What matters is being true to your needs and desires in the moment. This is the reason it is essential to get to know your egos. Does your ego look slick, smart and well organized? Dr. Tight-ass is one of my self-images. Or does your ego look weak, hopeless and helpless? Poor little Country Girl is another of my false selves.

The more you get to know your egos, the more power you have to stop their unhealthy energy from making you sick, anxious and depressed. As long as your false selves stay hidden in the dark of your unconscious, hanging out in your body, the more harm your Inner Critics can do to your self-esteem and holistic health.

What you do not know can kill you.

Seriously. Ignorance is not bliss. Denial is the most damaging of all mental health diseases. See yourself realistically. Work with teachers who help you gain insight about how others see you. Take a look at how busy you stay. Explore how much time you spent sitting still without reading or looking. How frequently do you let your body move naturally and do what it wants to do without posturing it via yoga or other brain commands.

The only way to win the battle with your ego is to bring your false beliefs up to your conscious mind and expose them to the light. Then, if you can read body language and feel energy, it is easy to recognize the difference between your real needs versus your egos’ everlasting control.

How to Know Your Ego.

Your Ego:
1. Controls you.
2. Blames
3. Feels superior or inferior to others
4. Has heavy, dense, dark energy
5. Has scattered, out of control or controlled energy
6. Is aggressive or passive

How to Know Your True Self.

Your True Self:
1. Frees you.
2. Takes Responsibility
3. Feels equal to others
4. Has light, flowing, buoyancy energy
5. Is spontaneous and sincere
6. Is assertive

When you feel instead of think, you know the difference between your ego and True Self. Next, you must learn how to de-program and unlearn your ego responses. Unlearning unhealthy responses takes patience and practice.

To eliminate your ego, use your common sense and stay in your body, not your brain. Learn to read body language so you see the physical truth in yourself and others. Study and listen to the “Hear Your Body Talking” holistic psychology audio and “The Introduction to Body Language” to get started. Sign up for local body awareness classes and my Fall Nature Workshop in October.

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LEARN BODY LANGUAGE: Reading body language is seeing what is in front of you instead of seeing what you are thinking and projecting. Learning body language is fun, exciting and enormously helpful in everyday life. Therapists and teachers must know how to read physical data so they can be more effective. Get started with “The Introduction to Body Language.” I do not sell this audio as a product. It is usually only available to my students. However, if you order the “Hear Your Talking” audio below, you get this one-hour body language audio for free.

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How to Get Rid of Your Nasty Thoughts? Feel Your Body Feelings!

The Vibrant Moment – Remember:  Feel Reality.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Human Energy Coach, Mentor
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As many readers of The Vibrant Moment know, after my mother’s death two years ago, I experienced physical problems as I grieved. I had expected to feel a huge loss emotionally but I had not expected to suffer physically. Nevertheless, I did.

Your body records reality. Sometimes physical reality hangs on to unhealthy energy, false beliefs and maladaptive conditioned responses for a very long time. Therefore, it is wise to pay attention to every little pain, discomfort and signal you get from your body.

Just as it is imperative to listen to your emotional self when you have emotional feelings, it is imperative to listen to your physical self when you have body feelings. Take a deep breath and feel your body now. What is going on inside of it? Outside of it?

Your Feelings Connect You to Reality.

When you do not feel, you become mentally ill, emotionally distraught and physically sick. Therefore, getting in touch with your genuine feelings is the solution to anxiety, depression, pity, helplessness, misery and low self-esteem.

Yes, of course, when you first feel, you feel something you do not like, such as hurt. This is the reality you have been avoiding and the reason you stopped feeling in the first place. Welcome the hurt, pain and sorrow for it leads you to truth, freedom and vibrant moments.

Feeling reality is a whole lot more pleasant than feeling the crazy, nasty attacking energy of your irrational, mean thoughts! When grieving or going through any difficult period of life you need to trust your natural process. This means you must let go of control to get to the light at the end of the tunnel.

When you let go of control, you are letting go of your ego so you access more of your True Self. I feel like I am getting out of prison. The prison was my unconscious, which was full of yet more guilt, pity, hopelessness, fears and false beliefs.

Take a deep breath and feel your reality. For help feeling your emotions, study and work with the Opening the Heart audio. For help feeling your body, do the body exercises in the Overcome Anxiety Naturally home study course. The course includes the Opening the Heart Audio.

Leave your irrational thoughts behind and feel the a-mazing comfort of reality.

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FEEL YOUR BODY AND EMOTIONAL FEELINGS: Learn the steps needed to get out of your irrational thoughts and stop scaring yourself to death. Get the help you need to get into reality where you are safe and sane. Take the home study course, “Overcome Anxiety Naturally.” Ten written lessons and five hours of audio that includes the comforting, relaxing “Opening the Heart” audio series on how to feel what is real. Order now and enjoy receiving the help given. $199.97 money-back guarantee.

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NEED HELP FEELING YOUR TRUE SELF? Listen to the “Opening the Heart” audio as it guides you into finding your real self and saying goodbye to your ego. A comforting, loving voice guides you into finding, healing and loving your emotional self. Your emotional self always knows exactly how you feel, what you need and what you want. Three hours of comforting, relaxing audio to listen to over and over again. $97.97 money-back guarantee.

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How to Get the Help You Need? Ask for Help!

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Ask for Help.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Human Energy Coach, Mentor
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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In 1984, I was alone in NYC taking an “Improve Your Vision” weekend workshop. A friend I met on my trip to India with Jean Houston let me stay in her apartment. It was close to where the workshop was being held at the south end of Central Park. But, she left town.

The first thing Friday night our instructor told us to do was remove our glasses and promise not to put them on all weekend. Scary, yes. I was considered legally blind without my glasses and had been since childhood. Imagine this, with no iPhone.

How was I going to get back to my unfamiliar NYC apartment and find my bed, which I knew was up in a loft? As I stood on Central Park West looking up at numbers and signs I could not read, I realized, I had to ask for help. I had no idea where I was or how to get back to the third floor apartment. It was dark and late.

Feeling vulnerable and helpless, this was the moment I realized that I believed I SHOULD NOT need to ask for help. I learned from my family that I was SUPPOSED to do everything by myself. Yes, to this day, I am still unlearning, “Doris does not need help.” I do need help.

What about you? How often do you ask for help? Do you feel comfortable asking for help? Do you receive the help other’s give you? Be honest. Do you ask for help from the cosmos?

That lonely and cold night, I asked for help from a kind soul walking on the almost empty street. With his help, I made my way back to my room for the weekend. My new awareness about asking for help was just the beginning of learning fantasizing things about myself and my poor vision.

Now, it is 2017 and I am learning anew the power of asking for help. If you are sincere and open when you ask for help, you get it. This is, thank the nature of the cosmos, universal law.

Next, it is up to you to receive the help and not reject this assisting energy. No matter when and how it comes to your aid, receive the help and say thank you. I have spent my life studying nature, parapsychology and physics. The world of the atom is real and you can learn to feel equal to this energy and interact with it for wonderful benefits.

Start by asking for help from me. Tell me what you need help with and I will write about it. Tell me what you need help with and I will direct you to solutions. I am one of many helpers. Ask for help whenever you need it. In reality, help is there. Do not let your ego negate reality.

Thus, it is also important while you are asking for help to actively work on de-programming your brainwashing that insists that you do not need help. You must unlearn this false ego belief and lay it dead at your feet. Taking the Overcome Anxiety Naturally home study course helps rid you of ego false beliefs.

You do need help. Just ask. Let me know what happens!

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NEED HELP FEELING YOUR TRUE SELF? Listen to the “Opening the Heart” audio as it guides you into finding your real self and saying goodbye to your ego. A comforting, loving voice guides you into finding, healing and loving your emotional self. Your emotional self always knows exactly how you feel, what you need and what you want. Three hours of comforting, relaxing audio to listen to over and over again. $97.97 money-back guarantee.

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What is Love?

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Let Your Heart Love.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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What is love?

Having spent a lifetime feeling love and pondering what true love
really is — here are my current conclusions.

To set the stage, let’s take a look at the Bigger Picture. The Greeks
experienced many different kinds of love:
Ludus, playful love
Agape, love for everyone
Philautia, love of the self
Philia, deep friendship
Eros, sexual passion

USA citizens rarely enjoy these different shades of love. Probably
because we were brainwashed by the Puritans. Puritans were not
loving. They killed the Native Americans Indians and shipped them
away so they could take away their land. Their greed and dishonesty
has yet to stop.

Scarlett letters and Puritan violence still sends shivers through
those of us who want to break free from our programming that White
and Male are superior. If we do not agree that everything that lives
on the planet is inferior to humans, we will be punished by God
forever and ever.

Therefore, your journey to true love must begin with a healthy dose
of de-programming. You must unlearn all the things you were taught to
hate about yourself and others. Once you have removed the thoughts,
words, and beliefs that you are inferior or superior, then and only
then, do you have a chance to feel true, genuine love.

Love is a natural, healthy, strong feeling that occurs in your heart
and body. Yelp, even though you have been taught that your body is
inferior to your brain and your emotions are inferior to your
thoughts. This is not true. Love is the strongest, most powerful
energy on the planet — by far!

Your body and emotions are equal to all the rest of you. Just like
the animals and plants are equal to humans. Humans are not mightier
than the rest of the cosmos. We are equal, and only when you feel
equal, to someone or something, do you feel love for it.

So, if you want more love, get to know your ego that thinks it is
inferior or superior. If you do not recognize the energy of your ego
when it shows up, study the Opening the Heart audio to learn how to
feel the difference in your true self and your ego. This is very
helpful information if you want to immediately improve your
relationships.

To free yourself, you must say no to your ego and other’s ego. Once
you say no to your ego, then you need to find, love, and follow your
emotional self. She shows up as a little boy or girl inside of you.
Your emotional self has been hiding because you were taught to hate
this part of you. Your conditioning is the reason you experience your
true emotions as annoying and inconvenient, rather than precious and
adorable.

Once you love your true self, you are automatically closer to others.
Your true self loves their true self. Being closer to others means you
feel love energy moving back and forth between you and others
frequently. Yummy.

To be healthy and happy you must be in the energy of love enough to
get the benefits of love. We all tumble out of love and have to get
ourselves back in love as we go through our adventures in life.
That’s ok, we are, after all — only human.

Love yourself when you make mistakes. Get out of your ego and carry
on.

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DO EGOS HURT YOU? Egos hurt, confuse, and control. If you cannot tell for sure if your ego is talking to you, study the Opening the Heart audio It helps you learn how to read energy so you can tell the difference. The sounds in my voice are comforting and relaxing as I guide you into your inner strengths. Three hours on feeling, fear, and hurt. Order Opening the Heart audio for $97.00, worth every penny and can be used over and over again. Money-back guarantee.

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STAND UP TO EGOS: Learn the interpersonal skills you need so you
say no to that which hurts you. Then you do not go through life
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How to Permanently Lose Weight this Year

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Learn to Feel Your True Self.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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Here is a question from a Vibrant Moment reader:

“As you know I’m am emotional eater and have been since age five. How
do I change the energy in myself from being totally out of control and
eating emotionally? Can I break free? Do I need to know why I do it,
or is it good enough to simply know what needs to be done in the
present? Please help me to find a better way. It’s destroying my health,
self esteem, and life.”

You are so correct. Overeating, just like overthinking, drinking,
working, and reading are signs of out of control energy. Out of
control energy is all around you and inside of you. Controlled energy
is all around you and inside of you. Controlled and out of control
energy are indicators that you are in your ego. Your ego is your
conditioned self, which is the part of you that overeats.

Neither controlled nor out of control energy originates from your
real, true, authentic self. The energy of your True Self is
harmonious and connected to Mother Earth. Your True Self is like the
falling snow I am watching right now. Your True Self is natural,
rhythmic, and physical. Your True Self wants you to be your natural
healthy body and optimum weight.

Therefore, the pathway to losing weight and never gaining it back is
connecting to your True Self. Diets of any sort are a waste of time.
Controlling yourself never works with any type of self-improvement
and personal growth. Controlling your eating is just as ineffective
as being out of control with your eating.

Even though there is a world of difference between your ego and your
True Self, most people do not know the difference. The difference is
huge. Your ego is like cardboard, while your True Self is strong,
sturdy, and resilient. If you learn how to feel the different
energies, you have the necessary tools needed to stop your out of
control and controlled energy from ruining your life. When you do not
know the difference, you are stuck in helplessness and your
unconscious behaviors take over.

To claim your birthright, which is your power to be yourself, you
must learn how to feel these different energies in your physical body
so you have solid bio-feedback about reality. If you do not have a
therapist, coach, or mentor who is teaching you the difference
between your conditioned self and your real self, The Opening the
Heart audio series teaches you how to recognize and feel the
difference.

Moving toward your True Self is a process. This means permanent
weight loss does not happen all at once. Losing weight and
eliminating anxiety attacks happen one step at a time. To reach solid
self-esteem, better health, and a more enjoyable life, find and
follow your emotional self one step at a time toward more freedom
and joy.

Different people get stuck in different places. This is the reason
you need to trust your process. Your pathway to permanent weight loss
is unique to you and your learning experience. Unlearning your
overeating behavior or another unhealthy behavior is a fantastic
journey of self-discovery.

Emotional eating is a way to AVOID your authentic emotions.

What do you feel when you are hungry? Anxious? Definitely. Fearful?
Probably. When you connect with your authentic emotional self you
know exactly what you are feeling. Do you feel bad about yourself?
Insecure? Needy? Hurt? Highly likely. Keep breathing and feeling what
you really feel.

When you feel your emotions you allow your emotional energy to move.
Once free, your colorful emotions naturally rearrange and move
forward. Thus, feeling bad quickly and suddenly shifts into feeling
better. Contrast feeling your emotions with how you feel when you
inhibit your emotions by overeating. Really notice the difference in
how you feel by using your body for accurate feedback about reality.

Watch out for your sneaky ego. This is the part of you that makes you
wrong or bad about feeling what you feel! This is the part of you that
wants you to overeat. Your ego loves to put you in lose-lose mental
states where you stay stuck in helplessness, anxiety, and depression.

Get unstuck by learning the difference in energy between your
lose-lose ego and your win-win True Self. The trick is to experience
your authentic emotions without denying or exaggerating them. When
you deny or exaggerate your emotions, your ego is back in charge of
you. You have lost your True Self.

The more consistently you say no to your ego and yes to your True
Self, the more you move forward toward your naturally, beautiful body
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How to Enjoy Your Family More During the Holidays

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Feel Good, Not Bad.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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Here is a question from a reader that most of us can identify with. If you give my suggestions a try, you may enjoy the Holiday session with your family more than usual:

***How can somebody erase the parental damage without spending their whole life “working” at the project, thus depriving themselves of hours and hours of time from their own “real” life?

***Then, Part Two, how to get over the anger at being saddled with this burden in the first place.

Pretty overwhelming, right?

Here’s where I quote “Marcia’s Conundrum.” “The problem is the problem.” If I didn’t have the problem, I wouldn’t be stuck in it. But I do have it, and I often fail to break free. It is fairly unsolvable. But I still have to deal with it. Or, stay stuck in chewing gum. No way out. It’s another version of Catch 22. “I could solve this problem if I didn’t have this problem.”

A shrug would be useful here. Or, I can pretend the problem doesn’t exist. Ignore it. Just keep going and look for guideposts along the way. Like YOU!”

Thank you, kindly. I am glad my pain renders some guideposts along the way. Being stuck in the exact, same place years ago: Being mad at my parents for brainwashing me. I discovered: You can unlearn your unhealthy conditioning from your family, (the problem) and enjoy the process of becoming free and happy, (life without the problem.)

I had a moment of enlightenment as I took my own advice of breathing and feeling on the exhalation. Eureka! I “realized” that being “resentful,” that I had The Problem that I inherited from my parents was keeping me stuck with The Problem forever and ever.

I thought of all the pollution on the earth. I could spend all my time, energy, and effort being upset and blaming all the people before me who messed up my planet. Or, I could start to clean up the place I live in so my time here would be more enjoyable.

Almost like magic, I found that when I gave up my resentment, which is a “defensive” anger, not an authentic anger, about having the problem, I could do what was necessary to solve the problem. The benefits of feeling free and happy were worth far more than any time, energy, or effort involved in taking responsibility for getting rid of the problem. Wow! I did not have to continue to be inadequate and unhappy, just because my parents where inadequate and unhappy!

Guilt is the catch-22 energy that keeps you stuck in chewing gum, tar, or molasses. Remove the lose-lose mental mindset that you have been conditioned with and put in its place a win-win emotional reality for yourself. When I stopped blaming myself OR my family for having the problem – viola, I was able to take care of myself in ways my parents could not. Thereby, solving the problem.

Feeling free and happy is worth whatever is required. I love vibrant moments. It does not matter that my family is not always happy with me because I am not riddled with judgment, blame, and guilt. I am.

They can follow me into a guilt free life or stay stuck in their nasty, old chewing gum energy of guilt. Without guilt, humans are not only free, but kind.

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BE YOURSELF WITH YOUR FAMILY! Learn to breathe and feel your feelings to become more self-accepting and self-loving. Listen to the Opening the Heart audio that guides you into finding, loving, and following your True Self. The sounds in my voice are comforting and relaxing as I guide you into the solutions that stop you from feeling bad. Three hours on feelings, fear, and hurt. Order Opening the Heart audio for $97.00, money-back guarantee.

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How to Reduce Your Anxiety About Trump Being President

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Know the Difference.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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Do you know who to trust and who to distrust? Do you know the part of you that speaks the truth and the part of you that denies and exaggerates?

It is essential to know the difference between that which is real and that which is false. You can only trust energy that is real. You cannot trust that which is false. Within you, there is your ego who cannot be trusted, and your True Self who can be trusted.

So the essential question is, “What is the energy difference between your ego and your True Self? It is the difference between night and day. Between truth and lies. Between colorful, vital energy and dark, grey, thin cardboard.

Controlled energy is always your ego or other’s ego. Out of control energy is always your ego or other’s ego. Only the steady, flow of harmonious energy humming through your nervous system is real, strong, and vibrant.

You gotta be able to feel the difference in controlled, out of control, and flowing energy in yourself and in others to know the truth. Thoughts and words often confuse you. Words are used by the ego to get you into a fight or make you feel helpless and hopeless. Watch the words you use to make yourself feel bad or make another person wrong.

As the world becomes more controlling and out of control you must go inward. Find your inner truths so you know the sane parts of yourself. You must hold on to your sanity, which perceives reality, because the waves of insanity are crashing against the shores of our outside world.

It is equally essential that you go outward and connect with that which is real. Go toward the vast sea of love and harmony that exists all around you. Open up and receive the humming energy of nature, the moon, other humans, plants, animals, trees, and invisible helpers.

On a daily basis, comfort your body and emotional self. Use your body to sense and connect with that which is real. Use your inner and outer senses to know that which can be trusted. If you do not feel a hum, which is a healthy vibration, it is not real.

Remove any static, which is anxiety, from your nervous system so you can feel the inner and outer hum. Connect with the humming energy inside and outside of you. Then ask for help and know that help will show up in many ways from the vast sea of love and harmony that exists in the cosmos.

If you hum often, you feel better, stronger, and more sure of yourself.

Let me know how I can help you.

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DO OTHER’S EGO HURT YOU? Egos hurt, confuse, and control. If you are unsure who is talking to you, study the Opening the Heart audio. It helps you learn how to read energy so you sort out the false from the truth. The sounds in my voice are comforting and relaxing as I guide you into your inner truths. Three hours on feeling, fear, and hurt. Order Opening the Heart audio for $97.00, money-back guarantee.

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How to Reach Freedom by Acting Out During Halloween

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Express Yourself!
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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Just got back from enjoying the multi-colored leaves in New England for two weeks. If you have never seen New England trees during peak, put this heavenly experience on your list of things to do before you die. Wow, Maine is my favorite. Could it be because of the lobsters and not the trees?

The color this year was expected to be lackluster due to our East Coast drought and hot temperatures. However, most of the trees were healthy and beautiful. Now, back at home in Philadelphia with two gallons of Maple Syrup and enough Cabot’s sharp cheese to last into late 2017, I am ready for winter.

If you go to Vermont, take time to experience Cabot’s creamery. It is owned and operated by farmers. Cabot’s is a great example of how all farmers need to be rewarded for their hard work and wonderful products.

Halloween is upon us. For fun and transformation, I highly recommend getting in touch with an aspect of your ego or someone else’s ego that you need to embrace and become. You could also become an aspect of your True Self if your intuition recommends it.

Either way, you will benefit from the freedom and joy that self-expression brings to you. Just must be sure you know the difference between your ego and your True Self. Ego energy is rigid, heavy, inharmonious, and weak. True Self energy is flowing, light, harmonious, and strong.

Even though it is hard for me, I have already become a rich, spoiled brat who is defiant and disrespectful. I can do it for a few minutes at a time. Not sure of my costume yet, but am enjoying not being a good girl for a change.

Both a brat and a good girl are conditioned, ego states. For better mental health, say no to your brat and other people’s brat. Say no to your good girl and other people’s good girl. Say yes to all aspects of your True Self and love other people when they are open and real.

I will be sending you a monthly newsletter for November. In the meantime, come up with a Halloween Persona to take out of the closet. Really get into your chosen identity and act the part. You will soon feel better and have more vibrant moments. Acting is often more effective than talk therapy in transforming your ego energy into healthy energy.

Please let me know if you have a question. Tell me what you want to know more about. Ask me for what you want and need.

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DOES YOUR EGO FOOL YOU? Your ego can be very sneaky and masquerade as your True Self. If you are unsure who is talking to you, study the Opening the Heart audio. It helps you learn how to read energy so you sort out your real fears from anxiety, your self-pity from your authentic feelings, your ego from your True Self; very helpful as well as comforting and relaxing. Three hours on feeling, fear, and hurt. Order Opening the Heart audio for $97.00, money-back guarantee.

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