Holistic Psychology Solutions To Being Impatient, Irritable and Frustrated

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Become powerful.
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Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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I trust you are looking forward to the third holistic psychology newsletter article about how to deal with impatience and irritability. If you missed the reversal of reality information about impatience read it here: http://thevibrantmoment.com/?p=1348
If you missed the description of exactly what impatient energy is read this:   http://thevibrantmoment.com/?p=1354

Solutions to being impatient and irritable.

To move from impatience to patience, the first thing you need to do is pay careful attention to your thoughts. If you have not been in effective therapy or taken personal growth courses that help you reveal your unconscious thoughts, you may not be aware of your nasty thoughts.

However, if you have been in successful therapy, you know you have mean thoughts stuffed in the dark recesses of your unconscious mind. If you do not know exactly what your nasty thoughts are saying to you, take the home study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally to find these buggers and expose them to the light of the conscious mind.

Last week I told you about my racing, out of control thoughts that were attacking me when I got my hand stuck in a very tight yellow glove. When you are impatient, your irrational thoughts are always making you wrong, rushing you to do something different and complaining about the results you are getting.

It is these attacking, irrational thoughts that affect your body, heart, and automatic nervous system. First you experience anxiety in your nervous system, then your anxiety creates feelings of impatience and irritability. Note that being irritable is what causes irritable bowel syndrome and other unpleasant physical diseases.

It stands to reason, if you catch your irrational thoughts making you anxious, you have an excellent chance to tame them. If the problem is inside your head, not outside in the world, you can certainly be effective. All you have to do is learn what, when, where, and how to tame your thoughts.

Yes, I know, sometimes other people really do attack you. In this case, you may think other people are causing you to be impatient. In some ways, they are! However, if you do not agree with what they are saying, they cannot continue to be the source of your anxiety and impatience. This is the secret to how you can become powerful and effective.

Thus, the way to stop your impatience and irritability is to take responsibility for your own nasty thoughts. Taking responsibility for your thoughts is not the same thing as changing your negative thoughts to positive thoughts, which is what Cognitive Behavior Therapy teaches you to do.

Taking responsibility is a bigger, more inclusive way to become effective and powerful. When you take responsibility, you have the power to change your impatience to patience. Taking responsibility puts you in the drivers’ seat.

If someone else is attacking you, you do not, and never will have the power to stop him or her. However, if you are the one attacking you, you can stop when you learn how and decide to stop. When you take responsibility you move from being a victim to being master of the situation.

Back to my burning hand stuck in the tight yellow glove with bleach inside of it. Do not compare yourself to my response, which is based on 32 years of practice being patient with myself. Instead, learn from my example how your default can move from patience to impatience with enough practice.

Looking at the sight of my hand stuck in the yellow mess, all tangled up and wet, I suddenly laughed at myself. “Yelp,” I said to myself, “This is just like me.” The right glove was much tighter, at least a size smaller than the other glove when I put it on. The right glove was probability packaged incorrectly. But that had not stopped me from struggling to put it on in the first place.

Now, I was stuck in a bleached filled glove due to my own undoing. Seeing the humor in the situation, I quickly shifted my point of view bringing newfound energy. Without thinking about it, I yanked the glove off and was free. Relief!

Ah, I returned to my default of being loving and patient with myself. Patience is self-love and self-acceptance. Not only does it feel better to accept all my mistakes, accidents, and foibles, it makes me stronger and more effective!

It was learning to be patient with myself so many years ago that allowed me to enter my first vibrant moment as an adult. The whole world changes when you become patient with yourself. You drop down in the moment, clean up your mess, and continue onward and upward

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Mental Health Advice: Notice and Admit Your Impatience

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Admit You are Impatient.
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How often do you get impatient? And with whom?
How often to you get irritable? And with whom?

Here is part two of the answer to the question from a reader about how to deal with impatience and irritability. Last week I exposed the fact that sometimes you think you are impatient and you are not. If you missed this reversal of reality holistic psychology information please read it here: Mental Health Relationship Advice.

Ok, I was just impatient and irritable. For real. Right this moment, before I sat down to write.

I had to bleach clothes that had e coli on them in the washing machine. As a highly sensitive person, I hate bleach, it burns my eyes. Even wearing a pair of yellow rubber gloves I was concerned I could get the toxic chemicals on my shirt or pants. But I was being very, very careful.

After diluting the bleach in the water so it would not totally ruin my clothes, some of the e coli clothes I put in floated up to the top of the water. While pushing the yucky clothes back down into the bleached water, some of the heavily bleached water in the machine got on my right sleeve and dripped down into my right glove. Yee, gads!

Rushing up my steep Center City basement stairs to wash off the bleach, I tripped at the top of the stairs. Back on my feet, I reached the kitchen sink. Pulling at the right glove, to get it off as fast as I could, it would not come off. Yanking at it, pulling and pulling with all my might, I could not get the glove off my hand.

My hand was stuck in the glove with bleach inside and outside of it. This is the moment it happened. Never having gotten my hand stuck in a very, very tight yellow rubber glove before I did not know what to do. My eyes were burning, my hand began to burn due to a cut on my finger. I was trapped. I experienced helplessness.

So, the conditions for impatience, frustration, and irritability are:

1. Something does not go right or turn out like it is suppose to. Your expectations of the outcome are not the results.
2. Your actions to change the results and make them do as you want do not work. You are not being effective.

There you have it. When these conditions exist, you are ripe for getting impatient.

So, you need to notice and admit to yourself that you are impatient. It is you and you alone. No one else is to blame.  If you are blaming someone else for your impatient energy, stop blaming them or any other outside factors. You are the one with the impatient energy and that is that!

Notice your body and how tight it is. What do you feel? What are you experiencing? Notice your thoughts and how fast they are moving and what they are saying to you. Do you want to make any sounds?

I growl, “Erg, Erg, Erg,” clinch my teeth and experience being overwhelmed. My racing thoughts are attacking me, making me wrong, rushing me to do something different and complaining about the results I am getting.

Oops! Sorry, this answer is now too long so you must wait until next week to get the solutions to being impatient and irritable! If you feel impatient as a result, please notice.

Do take note this week of when you are impatient and the factors that make you irritable. Awareness is the first step toward positive change.

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Relationship Advice: Learn to Read Energy and Look Deeper into Your Heart

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Look Deeper.
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I received a question this week from a reader about how to deal with impatience and irritability.

How often do you get impatient? And with whom?
How often to you get irritable? And with whom?

It is always helpful to notice the energy of what you are experiencing first before you take action steps to change the energy. Using energy as a feedback tool is what sets the New Psychology apart from all the other psychological approaches. If you want to know more about who you are and what you are experiencing you must become more aware of your energy.

Are you really impatient or do you just think you are impatient?

Sometimes, the sneaky ego tells you that you are impatient and you are not. I notice this quite often with my clients. For example, this is what I hear, “Please, help me today with my meanness. I was so impatient with my mother this week.”

Because I read energy, even on the phone, I immediately distrusted my clients view of herself being “mean.” My client is highly sensitive, so, I asked her to tell me more details about what happened and what she did that was so unkind to her mother.

Sure enough, after I heard the whole story, it was clear she had not been impatient and mean with her mother. She was reserving reality. Her mother had been insensitive to her.

It is conceivable that you have the same misperception about your behavior. Perhaps you do not really feel impatient but think that you do. Maybe you are not behaving in an irritable way with people. Instead of impatience, you may feel resentment, anger, fear, or hurt.

Maybe something really important is going on underneath the energy you call impatience. Perchance your irritability is a sign you are not taking care of yourself. Could it be you need to be more assertive?

So, the first thing you need to do is notice the energy of what you are experiencing. It is mental or physical? Or emotional? Is it too fast, too slow? Is it weak, strong? Dark or light? Notice the weight, color, and texture. Are you in your ego or in your heart?

Learning to read energy is an essential skill for a holistic psychologist, therapist, coach, parent, and successful person. Ok, you are paying attention to your energy. Now what?

Next, you must look underneath the surface energy. Look deep into your heart. You want to see, hear, smell, taste, feel what is going on with your emotional self. You do not want to accept what your head and brain tell you without getting the concrete data you need to know your truth.

You want to feel the authentic energy directly so you know what is really going on inside of you. You could be upset about something that is really occurring. What if you became aware of an unhealthy relationship dynamic that you need to do something about?

That was the case with my client who thought she was mean to her mother. Underneath her perception that she was being mean to her mother was a mother who was judgmental toward her daughter’s new, healthy, assertive behaviors.

When you look under the surface you find your inner truths. Also, you learn how you are defined, controlled, confused, and manipulated by others. Most people and parents do not consciously define, control, confuse, and manipulate you. They are just passing on what they learned from their parents.

Nevertheless, it certainly empowers you if you know you are letting others define, control, confuse, and manipulate you! Then, you can learn to be assertive which results in healthier relationships and increased self-confidence. Next week, I will talk more about how to deal with impatience if you are really being impatient.

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The Power of Thank You, A Natural Law and Universal Truth

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Thank the Universe.
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Sometimes, I ask for directions on the street. After, I get the answer, I have been known to walk away without thanking the person. Sometimes, I ask the universe to send me something I need. After, I get what I need, I do not always remember to thank the universe for sending me what I need.

The universe does respond to what you need if you ask and stay open to receiving what you need. Recently, I needed a person to hold me accountable for working on the final stages of my book manuscript. I could not think of anyone who was perfect.

Unexpectedly, while catching up with an old friend of mine … she became the person I needed to help me. We have always encouraged each other’s creativity. She is an artist who needed help getting around to her drawing each week. Bingo!

Perfect! Win-win. I am holding her accountable for drawing each week while she holds me accountable for working on my manuscript. Ok, so I got what I needed. Now what?

Have I thanked the universe? No, not yet and I better! If you do NOT thank the universe for sending you what you need, it will not send you anything else! I discovered this during my early professional years of being very successful and then wondering what happened to my success!

If you want success to continue, thank the universe for your success. Take some time each day during this Thanksgiving week, to give thanks for all that you have. Be grateful and give thanks.

Thank your reliable mailman. Thank the UPS woman who knows your schedule and where you are so well she makes sure you get your package. Thank your family and friends.

Notice how you feel when you give thanks. Notice the results you get when you thank the universe for all that you have. Notice how the universe engages with you.

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Metaphysical Law: Bless What You Want and Need to Manifest Goal.

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Bless Your Heart.
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My mother signed every card she sent me with “Bless you.” Sometimes, it was even “God bless you.” As a young psychologist, I did not like her religious tones and words. I threw her blessings into the trash in my Center City, Philadelphia home with irritation and disapproval.

As an older, wiser, holistic psychologist I write “Bless you.” and “Bless your heart” at the end of some of my emails. My 86-year-old mother has heard me say many times to her in the last decade, “Thank you mother for blessing me all those years. It finally paid off!”

“Mother, I am so grateful for your blessings. You are so smart. How did you know blessing me was the thing to do?” Mother gently replies, “I don’t know, I just knew to bless you and all that I love.”

Indeed. How wise my mother was and is. She still blesses me in each phone call and encounter we have. It is one of the many things I will miss when she passes. Her ever presence love and blessings will be sorely missed.

Huna psychology from Hawaii also teaches the power of blessing. Whatever you bless increases. This increase occurs because you give positive energy to that which you bless. There may be some other metaphysics magic that occurs that I do not know about, but I know for sure blessing something empowers me and that which I bless.

Try it yourself. If you want more money, bless those that are rich. Bless money in any and all forms. Bless paper money, real estate, stocks, and gold. Bless money to get more money. Notice if you judge and curse the rich. Cursing simply means that good old fashion disapproval I blasted upon my mother’s blessings.

I used to also curse money and the rich. My disapproval of money blocked me from having a good relationship with money. Finally, after years of rejecting money, I am close and loving with money. What a shift and what a joy to be in harmony with money!

Bless anything you want to receive. Bless healthy people to become healthy. Bless loving couples to become more loving. Thanksgiving is a wonderful holiday to remind you to use the power of blessing. Bless all that you love and want.

Start by blessing the Native American people for giving life and food to white man when he landed upon their shores.

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How to Achieve Emotional Health and Maturity? Breathe and Feel.

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Breathe and Feel.
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Here is an emotional health question I received from an Indian woman:

“I’m a published writer and a thinker. Thus, I’m intellectually and physically mature, but emotionally, a child.

There could be a few reasons why I stayed a child emotionally. No amount of self-knowledge seems to help, as I still react like a naive schoolgirl to situations where the emotions are involved, although I’m a reasonably happy person, generally.

My question is whatever the reason for the delay, how do I now cross over from girlhood to womanhood emotionally?”

This Indian woman is well ahead of most people because she knows she is not emotionally mature. Unfortunately, many people think they are emotionally mature and they are not. If you control and manage your emotions you may think you are mature. But are you?

This intellectual Indian woman knows she reacts like a naive showgirl. Do you notice when you react like a spoilt brat? Or victim? Or self-righteous know-it-all? If not, begin to notice any knee jerk reactions that do not go through your body and heart before being expressed.

Anytime you react immediately to anything in your life, you are having a reaction. A reaction is a conditioned response. If you feel like you must immediately answer that email, return that phone call or set someone straight-beware! You are reacting.

If you get an upsetting email, phone call or you think someone is attacking you, what do you do? If you think something “bad” is happening, slow down. You are reacting. Reactions occur when you are being controlled by your past learning history.

Reactions are the opposite of emotional maturity. Reactions make you weak and ineffective in relationships. You feel insecure and unloved. Emotional maturity feels good all over! You feel secure and self-confident with yourself and others.

How can you become emotionally healthy and mature?

When anything what-so-ever happens in your life. Take a deep breath and feel your emotions. “Breathe and feel” is the mantra I use throughout the “Opening the Heart” audio because that is how I noticed and reduced my defensive reactions.

“Breathe and feel” really works. As you exhale, let go of your breath and let go of control. Invite your authentic emotions into your awareness when you say to yourself, “feel.”

The emotionally mature response in all situations is to feel your authentic emotions. Feeling your emotions takes you to a different place. Or to many different places. You could have strong, intense emotions that go in opposite directions. Most of us do!

All you have to do is feel your emotions. Accept them. Enjoy them. They are colorful clouds of matter. When you feel your emotions instead of reacting, you are secure and self-confident.
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Mental Health Advice: Learn to Read Body Language

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Read body language.
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Several years ago, my mother was preparing her famous southern scallop potatoes for Thanksgiving dinner when I noticed she severely tightened up her lips as she was pouring the potatoes into the baking dish.

As soon as I saw the body language of my mother I realized where I learned to tighten my lips. Not only did I see myself in her, I realized her tight lips were trying to control the outcome of her potatoes! Never had I thought about control being a factor when cooking.

In the 1970’s I received referrals from the Beck Institute at the University of Pennsylvania. While looking for new ways to help people who did not benefit from psychotherapy or CBT, I begin to actively use body language and body awareness with my new referrals. This is when I discovered the difference between control and power. Read last week’s The Vibrant Moment for the definition and difference between control and power:  Relationship Advice: Choose Power, not Control

When I taught my clients to notice their body, face, lips, feet, stomach, and what their physical form was doing at any point in time, they were much more likely to give up their denial, exaggeration, and defensive behaviors quickly without resistance. Noticing when they controlled themselves and when they did not was much more effective that trying to change their negative thoughts into positive thoughts.

This is because the tension in your body gives you the feedback that you are in control and not in your power. You can learn to feel how control feels in your body. You may or may not notice when your body is tense. Many people do not. This is the reason taking body language classes, workshops, and home study courses help you become more body conscious.

Also, use mirrors and photographs. Mirrors and photographs help you become more aware if you slow down and look. Do not throw away the photos you do not like. For example, recently a stranger was using my Nikon camera to photograph a family holiday card for me. I was directing her as she was taking the photo. At first, I did not think she was clicking all the way through because the light did not flash.

When I looked at the photos I could see she had indeed taken them correctly. I could also see how I looked when I did not think she was taking them correctly! You should see my face. Unattractive, screwed up and tense. And tight, especially my lips. Yes, of course, my lips.

So, my control showed up for me to see once again. Did my tight face help make the photos better? Did my mother’s tight lips make her potatoes taste better. Nope. Control never makes anything better.

Remembering how I looked in control sure reminds me to relax my lips more often throughout the day.

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Self Confidence Tip: Choose Power and Forget Control

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Choose Power.
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When I first noticed I was nervous before a certain client arrived for our session, I became very curious as to the reason I would experience anxiety with her and not any of my other clients. My client always dressed perfectly, had lots of money, a good job, and had no problem except for losing her partner.

Exploring the reason I was nervous about meeting with this client lead to one of my first major breakthroughs as a young psychologist. I discovered the physical difference between control and power. Most people, and many psychologists, are fooled by the man or woman who exhibits a great deal of control.

In some circles, controlling your behavior is highly praised and valued in the USA and Europe. In my early psychotherapy groups, I often had to deal with some members putting the controlled person in the group up on a pedestal. As a result, they felt “inferior” to the person who was in control.

Many highly controlled people are functional in the world because they are rewarded and reinforced for being “in control.” Even current psychological treatments in 2014 focus on controlling your anger, having to be positive, and thinking your way to happiness.

However, since I was using relaxation therapy and desensitization therapy back in the late 1970’s to reduce anxiety in sexual situations as a sex therapist, I knew that control was never functional in the bedroom and in matters of the heart. Control of any sort immediately kills emotional intimacy and delicious lovemaking.

As I felt my anxiety about the client who was about to arrive in my office, I suddenly realized my client was in control. She put herself on a pedestal, she was perfect. As a result, she was unpleasant to be around. I was not looking forward to seeing her.

When I realized she was in control, I knew she was highly anxious. Knowing she was anxious make it easy to be compassion toward her so I could then help her relax her body so she could feel more comfortable being herself.

The bottom-line is, the more anxious you are, the more controlling you are. The more relaxed you are, the more powerful you are.

Reading body language is extremely helpful. A tense body is different from a relaxed body. Power and control cannot exist in your body at the same time. You are either in a state of power or control. One physical state blocks out the other.

You get to choose power or control every moment of your life.

Real power is the healthy energy that is measured by physicists as voltage. The more voltage, the more power. When you are in a state of power you radiate good energy around you and your resistance to disease is high.

Power is the vital energy that gives you vibrant moments. Notice what, when, where, and how you control yourself. Then, choose to be powerful by loving yourself as you are in the moment. Give up seeking to be in control.

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Transformation or Therapy? Try the New, Holistic Psychology Way

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Change Your Matter.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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Therapy or Transformation?
Which one do you choose?

One of the major differences between the current, traditional psychology and the new, holistic psychology is its primary goal and purpose.

Traditional psychology often aims to help you adjust your behavior so that you do not make others uncomfortable. This is the medical, psychotherapy model. Every time the new psychiatric diagnosis manual comes out more and more normal behaviors are being labeled as mental illness.

For example, grieving the loss of a loved one. The new psychiatric manual gives you six months to grieve a close, loving relationship before you get a mental illness label. Once you get a mental illness label, medication is usually recommended to stop you from experiencing your naturally occurring feelings and emotions.

In sharp contrast, the New, Holistic Psychology aims to help you achieve emotional, physical, and mental health and wellness. Any good psychologist knows that normal, healthy grieving takes approximately two years before you can think about your loved one without crying and feeling hurt and pain.

Do you want to control your behavior using the medical, psychotherapy model? Or do you want to transform your energy, matter, and problem so you can relax and be yourself?

The Holistic Psychology Way uses the transformation model. This means you let go of control and allow the natural health and wellness process of life to change your ineffective behaviors into effective behaviors.

Mother Earth is the expert when it comes to achieving the healthy flow of energy that naturally leads to holistic health and wellness. This is the reason I started doing transformational workshops outdoors in nature 25 years ago. As the Philadelphia Inquirer noted, “Mother Nature is Dr. Jeanette’s co-therapist.”

Being close, attached, and connected to Mother Earth keeps you safe and sane. The goal and purpose of a nature workshop is to show you how to transform your unhealthy energy, tense matter, and real problems into effective solutions that are safe, effective, and enjoyable.

Change your matter, not just your mind.

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Depression, SAD, Seasonal Affective Disorders Treatment: Winterize Your Habits

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Winterize Your Habits.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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With the light in the north hemisphere decreasing, it is time to bring in effective ways to avoid depression, keep SAD (Seasonal affective disorders), and the blues away. With less external light you need to change your habits and routines to beef up the positive, uplifting energy in your daily life.

Here are three ways to deal with depression and SAD the Holistic Psychology Way:

1.  Warm up your feet and hands with body work and body awareness.

Any martial arts that attracts you and sounds like fun is excellent. I prefer the energy aspects of Aikido. Look for body awareness classes in your neighborhood that your body is eager to enjoy. Consider Alexandria and Feldenkrais classes.

You notice immediate benefits as soon as you start to live in your body instead of living in your thoughts. Soon, more blood will be flowing through your feet and hands on a regular basis and the cold winter will not seem so cold and depressing.

2.  Give yourself more rest, relaxation, and sleep.

Your winter needs are very different from your summer needs. Feel like a bear. Let the cooler weather change your habits and do what feels good. I sleep more in the winter and spend more time resting and doing nothing.

If you are a person who does not let yourself take naps, reconsider. Naps are not bad, they are good for the body and soul. Naps have always been an integral part of my insomnia program. Naps feel so good anytime of the day or night.

3.  Bring in more sunlight.

When I was teaching in Sweden in 1999 at the University for Global Well Being, I suffered from SAD (Seasonal affective disorders) due to the continuous cloudy days of Northern Europe. As soon as the sun would finally peep out, after days and days of clouds, all the teachers and students ran out of the buildings and stood outdoors. As a group we stood tall and soaked up the brief sunlight as if it was the most precious energy in the world! And it was.

Therefore, I created a light exercise to help myself and the students bring in more light. You can also use the power tool of your imagination and visualization. Stand outside and imagine the sun, which is right behind the clouds, shining its strong, intense, sunny rays on your face and body. Feel it as if it is really happening. Imagining the sunlight makes it happen. You can also use your imagination inside as needed.

If you put into action all three of the Holistic Psychology suggestions for avoiding SAD, I am sure your winter be not be as depressing as last winter. Your behavior needs to change with the seasons if you want to enjoy good emotional, physical and mental health.

Let me know if you try any of these depression and SAD busters. Give me feedback about what helps you get through the winter without getting stuck in the blues and winter depression.

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