Stress Management Tip: Become Emotionally Healthy by Feeling Your Feelings

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Handle Stress Effectively.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

====================

Do you want to handle stress with more ease and grace?

Tina Gilbertson, says in her book, Constructive Wallowing, “For all of us, how we deal with our feelings has an impact on how quickly we’re able to bounce back from setbacks large and small.” Sometimes life throws us difficult events. Whether it is a wet basement, fleas on your pets, or a mother nearing the end of her life, you handle these events much more effectively when you handle your feelings in an emotionally healthy fashion.

What is an emotionally healthy fashion?

When you allow yourself to feel your feelings instead of making them wrong or bad, you become emotionally healthy. So, no matter what you feel, “Feel, baby feel!” This emotional health fact, is one of the major reasons Talk Therapy is so limited.

Stress happens often to everyone. When you do not feel good, you do not need to talk about your feelings. Instead, you need someone to teach you how to feel your feelings so you move forward toward the light at the end of the tunnel.

You need to learn how to move through the realities of life without being overwhelmed by the energy of stress. This will help you feel better, and you become an emotionally healthy role model for your children, relatives, and friends.

Therefore, the best use of your time, energy, and money is to learn how to feel your body feelings and emotional feelings as they occur. Do not put your emotional needs on the back burner. Feeling your feelings is the successful way out of any stressful event.

Here is a list of things you can do to help you feel your feelings.

1. Write out your feelings without censorship.
2. Dance how you feel.
3. Take boxing lessons.
4. Take an acting class.
5. Draw how you feel.
6. Listen to music, especially opera.
7. Dress up for Halloween as needed.

It does not matter what you feel, what matters is admitting the truth about HOW you feel. You may feel like the Wicked Witch of the West or the Fairy God Mother. Whether you are the Tin Man without a heart or the Lion without courage, admit the raw truth of how you feel deep down inside.

Let your body tell you the truth about how you feel. Your body knows the truth, it cannot lie. If you stop your bully brain from controlling you, your body automatically reveals how you feel. Let go of control and allow your body to express how you truly feel.

When you admit the truth of how weak you feel deep down inside, a marvelous event occurs. You gain more strength, courage, and emotional health. Tis true. Mother Nature is not a fool.

You must fall down into the deep unconscious of your truths, to rise up to the wonderful person you are.  Try being the person you hate the most for a day and own this part of you. Start planning your Halloween costume based on the part of you, you find distasteful.

What happens when you admit unconscious truths?

You suddenly handle stress more effectively. You do not get stuck in the mess of your own mental judgments making you a bad person. You heal some past wounds. You reach the light at the end of the darkness.

Breaking free, you join the human race. You are no longer better or worse than another.

====================================

BODY FEELINGS: Move forward and become more self-confident. Your body knows how you feel. All you have to do is hear what your body is screaming at you. For better physical, mental, and emotional health stop rejecting and blaming your body. Instead, love your body and let it tell you the truth about how you feel. Study the one-hour audio, “3 Reasons You Have a Body: Hear Your Body Talking.” CD or mp3, $29.97, Money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/hearyourbody.html

=====================================

BECOME EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY! Assertiveness Training is often misunderstood. It is an excellent way to feel your feelings and learn how to express your feelings in healthy ways that are not passive or aggressive. Take the home study course, “Stop the World From Pushing You Around: Six Weeks to Solid Self-Confidence.” A 31-page manual PLUS over 8 hours of audio coaching with real people and real problems.

Read more and order your Assertiveness Training Course:
http://www.drjeanette.com/assertivenesstrainingcourse.html

=========================================

Feel and Express Love for a Healthy Heart and Loving Relationships

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Feel and Express Love.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

====================

Perhaps you are beginning to feel the difference between your healthy, authentic emotions and an unhelpful conditioned response after last weeks’ The Vibrant Moment. If you missed it, I defined and differentiated feelings, emotions, thoughts, and conditioned responses from each other: http://thevibrantmoment.com/2014/08/27/emotional-health-advice-learn-the-difference-between-thoughts-feelings-and-emotions/

Something you learned is very different from something you did not learn.

A conditioned response is something you learned. An authentic emotion is something you did not learn. An example of an authentic emotion is love. You did not learn to love, you were born loving. And a matter of fact, I would say you were born TO love. If your heart feels love for something or someone you feel love and that is that.

The reason you were a bundle of joy as a little baby is because you felt and expressed so much love. Now, as an adult, you feel the energy of love bubbling up in your heart from time to time. This feeling happens organically in your heart and solar plexus, without any thoughts or reason.

Once your heart is full of love, this energy naturally radiates outward away from you. This powerful energy is exactly what you need to be healthy in heart, mind, and body. Love is what you need to be happy and effective. Love connects us to each other and makes life worth living.

Of course, you can deny, repress, stop, and block your authentic feelings of love. Unfortunately, this is exactly what a large number of human beings do. In addition, you may love someone and something and cannot fully express the love you feel. Therefore, millions of people have learned to inhibit their natural feelings of love. When you inhibit your natural feelings of love, you feel lonely, isolated, sad, and unloved.

In this painful reality, your unhelpful conditioned response is how you learned to deny, repress, stop, and block your authentic feelings of love. Begin to notice what behaviors you do that control and inhibit your natural loving feelings. Notice what muscles tighten up and what happens in your nervous system. What are you squeezing and hurting when you inhibit the energy of love?

It is quite interesting that western medicine finds that the thymus on most adults has atrophied. Yes, this means your thymus may have dried up and stopped working properly. Could this be because your heart was not allowed to fully feel the love it feels? Consider the possibility.

It has been well established by western medical research that the thymus regulates the immune system. According to eastern medicine, the thymus regulates the heart charka. The research in applied kinesiology, which uses the strength of your muscles to determine if something is healthy for you or not, reveals that an alive thymus does indeed improve your immune system and immediately makes your whole energy field stronger.

So, it is true that a few thumps on the thymus immediately makes your muscles stronger and thus, healthier. This is the reason I use and teach my students and clients the Thymus Thump! Get to know your thymus and bring it back to life with physical touch and emotional love.

Inhibiting love is a conditioned response; unlearn this unhelpful behavior as quickly as you can.

Love is an authentic emotion; let it flow, so you glow!

====================================

FEEL YOUR FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS: Discover for yourself how thoughts, feelings, emotions, and conditioned responses are different when you listen to the “Opening the Heart” audio. Become more lovable by sorting through the different energies in yourself so you learn to live without knee jerk responses. Feel the love in your heart so you can express this love to yourself and others. 3 hours of comforting, relaxing, educational audio on feelings, fear, and hurt. $97.00, eBook also available for $19.97, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order “Opening the Heart”:
http://www.drjeanette.com/emotionalhealthaudio.html

=================================

NEED HELP ADDING LOVE TO SEX? Take the home study course, “For Men: How to Become a Better Lover.” Being emotional is often harder for men than women and as a result your sex life may suffer. Let your heart feel and express the love you feel for your beloved. The sweetness and pleasure you feel is worth the investment in yourself. Learn to relax your body, get in the sensuous moment, and feel your emotions. The “Opening the Heart” audio is included PLUS 10 written lessons and 5 more hours of audio. $199.97, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order for yourself or partner:
http://www.drjeanette.com/becomeabetterlover.html

 

Emotional Health Advice: Learn the Difference Between Thoughts, Feelings and Emotions

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Feel Your Feelings.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

====================

I received an interesting question this week from an international seeker of truth. By that I mean, someone who is interested in exploring inner and outer realities by developing his human potential. Even though he has listened to many popular teachers’ audios and read their books, he did not discover the difference between thoughts, feelings, and emotions.

This is an important question because so many teachers, authors, and researchers do not know the difference. They do not understand how conditioned responses and mental judgments create emotional distress. Therefore, they lump thoughts, feelings, and emotions all together with conditioned responses and confuse their data and information.

Emotional distress is not the same experience as emotional health.

To understand emotional health, you must experience your own emotions and allow these colorful energies to take you to a new and different place. It is like traveling to a place you have never been before. You open up to new experiences so you discover how your vital, emotional energy naturally leads to holistic health and wellness.

To become emotionally healthy, you must recognize, thoughts from feelings, and emotions from conditioned responses. Knowing these different states is necessary because you need to act differently when you experience them in order to achieve better results. Emotional health knowledge plus positive actions moves you successfully through the maze of confusion into clarity.

Theory, words, and books do not transform emotional distress into healthy energy. The only way to transform unhealthy energy into healthy energy is by directly experiencing these different states within yourself and behaving differently when they occur.

This is the reason my private sessions, workshops, and home study courses show you how to directly experience your own energy. When you feel the different energies in your own body, you know when you are experiencing a thought, feeling, emotion, or conditioned response. They feel very different from each other.

Thoughts

A thought originates in your brain and/or mind. Your brain and mind are not the same instrument. Your brain is the organ in your body. Your mind is the bigger, governing mental master behind your thoughts, and thus, your identity.

Thoughts can be composed of low vibrations or high vibrations. Thoughts can be rational or irrational. Irrational thoughts create the symptoms of all mental illnesses from anxiety, to depression, to bi-polar, to psychosis.

Energy follows thoughts so you create your reality with your thoughts. This means your reality could be based on false beliefs, misinformation, or on outside facts and valid information. This is the reason you need to engage in personal growth, with outside feedback, so you unlearn your false beliefs and replace them with reality-based facts.

Feelings

Feelings occur in your heart, guts, whole body, and energy field via vibrations. Feelings are sensations that you experience which give you feedback about inner and outer realities. Your body feels what is happening all the time. All you have to do is pay attention to your feelings. Your feelings are an effective way to know the truth and experience the truth.

You can feel cold and hot, love and fear, nonverbal communication and danger. You can feel gross energy and subtle energy. Thus, you have the ability to feel thoughts, emotions, and conditioned responses. Knowing what you feel and acting appropriately on your feelings leads to self protection and survival.

When you trust your feelings, you know what is going on inside of you and outside of you. When you act on your feelings you have a better chance of being safe and sane. This is the reason a Highly Sensitive Person has many advantages over someone who is highly insensitive. If you are a HSP, you pick up and perceive data that is in your environment before others do.

Unfortunately, most people do not trust their feelings. If you want to live a happy, healthy, effective life, a good investment is an education in learning how to feel, trust, and act appropriately on your feelings.

Emotions

Emotions originate in your heart and solar plexus. Energetically, they hang out in your emotional body about a foot and a half away from your body. Emotions are energy in motion. They are colorful, quick, flowing, and expressive. Emotions cannot be negative, positive, or toxic. They simple are … they exist, change, and rearrange continuously.

If you do not inhibit your emotions, they change instantly from one colorful emotion into another colorful emotion. Even anger is experienced quickly and changes into something else if you do not stop yourself from feeling anger when it first comes up. Or stop your child from feeling her anger with it first occurs.

Unfortunately, the entire human race has been conditioned into repressing, denying, and inhibiting their emotions. This self hate of our emotions has been taking place over the last two millennium. Consequently, it is rare for anyone to be emotionally healthy. You have been brainwashed into thinking your emotions are dangerous and out of control, when they are not.

As a holistic psychologist, with over 36 years of clinical experience, I am convinced that the major cause of premature mental and physical disease is inhibited emotions. Therefore, the best use of your time, energy, and money is to seek out teachers who show you how to feel your emotions. Allowing your vital energy to flow creates a healthy mind-body and gives you lots of fun, vibrant moments to boot!

Conditioned Responses

A conditioned response is something you learned. It is not an authentic part of you. Emotions are not learned, they are a naturally occurring part of you, like your automatic nervous system. Do not confuse a conditioned response with an authentic emotion.

What you learned could be helpful or unhelpful.

Knee jerk responses are often unhelpful. They occur when you are conditioned to react defensively to a certain stimulus. For example, someone gives you feedback and you hear it as criticism based on your past learning experience with your critical mother or father. The feedback is object and factual, you hear the message as negative, terrible, and against you.

This is because you learned to response to all feedback as if it was criticism of you. When you hear feedback as criticism, you react in inappropriate ways to your boss and lose your job. Or block out the love your partner is sending when she is helping you develop a more realistic view of yourself.

Defensive reactions are often called “an emotional reaction.” Nevertheless, when you are defensive you are not allowing your emotions to change and rearrange. Your body is tight, tense, and rigid. Your energy is dark, dense, black, and grey. You are unpleasant to be around.

When you react with a conditioned response you are avoiding your authentic emotions, instead of feeling your emotions. As a matter of fact, if you felt your emotions you would not be defensive and unpleasant. You would be open and approachable.

An emotionally healthy person is a joy to be around.

You express yourself, love yourself, and others. Move toward more healthy emotional expression every single day and make planet Earth a safe, joyful place to live.

====================================

FEEL YOUR FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS: Discover how thoughts, feelings, emotions, and conditioned responses are different when you listen to the “Opening the Heart” audio. Become more self-confident and emotionally healthy by sorting through the different energies in yourself so you learn to live without knee jerk responses. Feel the difference in yourself so you cannot be confused by denial and psychobabble. Learn that guilt and feeling sorry for yourself are not authentic emotions so you get rid of them. 3 hours of comforting, relaxing, educational audio on feelings, fear, and hurt. $97.00, money-back guarantee. eBook also available for $19.97

Read more and order “Opening the Heart”:
http://www.drjeanette.com/emotionalhealthaudio.html

=================================

TRUST YOUR HIGHLY SENSITIVE SELF: Move into feeling, trusting, and using the vibrational data you pick up. Discover that being sensitive is an asset, not a liability. Study the psychological dynamics of being sensitive so you stop judging yourself about being too sensitive and take the “7 Steps to Success as a Highly Sensitive Person.” A special report, 31 pages, PDF file, $19.97, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/HSP2.html

==============================

Please share this emotional health article and the holistic psychology information at http://www.drjeanette.com with anyone who is interested in learning to be happy, healthy, and effective.

Holistic Heart Health Treatment: Open Your Heart by Healing Emotional Distress

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Open Your Heart.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

====================

How does an open heart chakra feel?

A closed heart, does not feel. It blocks all emotions and feelings. Read last week’s The Vibrant Moment about how anxiety affects your nervous system and heart physically: http://thevibrantmoment.com/?p=1253 This week we are looking at how a closed heart chakra affects the health of your heart.

A chakra is a place on your body where more energy goes and comes than in other places on your body. Think of a chakra as a pathway, a door, vortex, or hole. It is an energy center; where energy is suppose to move in and out of your body naturally and normally to maintain good holistic health.

A closed heart is one that inhibits the natural flow and blocks the energy from coming in or from going out of your body. An open heart allows energy to freely move in and out without being stopped. Unfortunately, you cannot choose the energy that comes in and out.

This means that whatever type of energy that is occurring outside of you at any moment in time comes in. Thus, the anxiety your parents experienced came into your open heart as a child, without either you or them knowing this was occurring. As a child, you were not equipped with the psychological tools needed to deal with your parents’ anxiety.

Anxiety is unpleasant, naturally you wanted to move away from it. Consequently, as a child, you closed your energy centers whenever someone’s anxiety hurt and wounded you. This occurred automatically over time. You were unconsciously opening and closing your energy centers because you were trying to protect yourself from being hurt.

The stimuli that made you close your heart could be your mother hurting your feelings or your father throwing you against the wall. Little and big, emotional and physical hurts, all create the same result: a closed heart chakra. Usually, the more you were hurt, the more you close your energy centers and the harder it is to open them.

I group the solar plexus, which is right underneath your breasts, with the heart chakra. These two energy centers work together to help you become a more loving, caring, sensitive, emotionally healthy person. If you want to be happy and healthy, you must re-open your energy centers so healthy energy can move in and out of you.

This is because closed energy centers create stagnate energy. Stagnant energy is the source of disease and disharmony. When energy is blocked, you become a cesspool of nasty, unhealthy energy. This stagnant energy is what fundamentally makes you mentally and physically sick.

Therefore, if you want to be healthy, you must return to a more open, healthy flow of energy so your cells get the vital energy they need to be strong and vibrant. This is the reason opening your solar plexus and heart can dramatically, and quickly, improve your mental and physical health.

Let’s look at the scientific research on the Broken Heart Syndrome. Even though most physicians who treat the heart do not pay attention to the emotional health of their patients, you can educate yourself about heart research. Researchers have directly observed the fact that emotional distress immediately leads to physical damage to the heart.

Emotional distress occurs when you inhibit your authentic emotions. Therefore, the solution is to become emotionally healthy so you do not damage your physical heart. Since emotional distress leads directly to physical damage to the heart, your emotional wounds must be healed, just as physical wounds must be healed.

If you want to be healthy in mind and body, heal your current and past emotional wounds so you do not experience emotional distress. Healing your emotional wounds is what automatically opens your solar plexus and heart chakras.

To Open Your Heart:
1. Feel your authentic emotions and feelings.
2. Learn to love yourself.
3. Learn to love others.

When you feel your authentic emotions, vital energy is released, which automatically nourishes the cells in your body. When you learn to love yourself, instead of reject yourself, this opens your solar plexus. When you learn to love others, instead of reject others, your heart opens.

An open heart and solar plexus allows healthy, harmonious energy into your heart and breasts. This flow of vital energy creates holistic health and wellness.

Open your heart so it can be the True Master that it is!

========================================

OPEN YOUR HEART: Use the “Opening the Heart” audio day and night to learn how to feel your authentic emotions and feelings. Learn the difference between thoughts, feelings, emotions, and conditioned responses. Learn to love yourself and your emotions. Three hours on feelings, fear, and hurt. Use over and over again to learn emotional information, receive comfort, and get the guidance you need to relax and open up your heart. Three-hour audio, $97.00, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/emotionalhealthaudio.html

=====================================

NEED HELP WITH ANXIETY? Take the original, mind-body approach, “Overcome Anxiety Naturally” home study course. 10 lessons guide you step by step into body awareness so you reduce the static energy in your nervous system. Learn to breathe properly, relax, and enjoy being calm. Improves mental and physical health. 10 written lessons, 5 hours of self-help audio, including “Break the Grip of Anxiety: An Overview” and the best selling “Opening the Heart” audio series. $149.97, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/anxietyonlinecourse.html

FREE BONUS: Order before Monday, August 25 and receive the writing for emotional health audio with Emily Hanlon, best selling author of Petersburg. Emily and Doris enjoy each other as they teach you about writing and your Inner Critic. “De-fang Your Inner Critic to Find Your Voice” one hour, CD or mp3, cost, $29.97. http://www.drjeanette.com/emily.html

==================================

Please share the holistic psychology information at http://www.drjeanette.com with anyone who is interested in learning to be happy, healthy, and effective.

Heart Health Advice: Use Holistic Health Approach and Reduce Anxiety

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Heal Your Whole Body.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

====================

Do you notice your physical heart during the day?
Do you know what an open heart chakra feels like?

The health of your heart, out of all your organs, is the one most closely related to your emotional health. Since my mother was diagnosed with atrial fibrillation in the winter I have been paying much more attention to the physical heart and how it malfunctions.

Most physicians miss the bigger picture of what is going on in your body, and therefore, with your health. When one part of your body is having trouble the holistic point of view looks at your whole body, not just the troubled spot. The holistic approach makes sure you have the opportunity to prevent disease before physical damage is done. It also gets to the source of the physical problem for a more effective whole-body treatment once the damage is done.

For example, numerous research studies reveal that people who have been diagnosed with anxiety are two to three times more likely to die from a heart attack. This is a diagnosed, labeled anxiety disorder by a psychiatrist. These statistics do not include the low-grade anxiety all of us have. Every human has some degree of always-there anxiety in their body that comes from childhood conditioning which flares up under stress.

Anxiety is one of the major factors that cause heart disease and it could be the source of arial fibrillation. Your nervous system sends signals to your heart so it beats with the proper rhythm. This occurs automatically via the automatic nervous system so you do not need to think about making your heart beat correctly.

When you are anxious your nervous system becomes very upset. As a result, this static energy, which is called anxiety, sends erratic signals to your heart, instead of harmonious signals. Your heart can become so upset it cannot pump blood fully to all the proper places. This malfunction can occur for a moment in time or become chronic.

Anxiety does not kill you directly, it does so indirectly. Another example is acid reflux, which is not serious in and of itself. However, over time acid reflux can seriously damage your heart and scar your esophagus. When you are anxious, the acid build up in your stomach pushes the acid rapidly up your tense tube. Each time the acid flies up into your mouth, it pushes against your heart. Over time, the chronic bangs to your heart can result in a heart attack.

Even though the scientific research on anxiety has been well established physicians do not pay attention to the emotional health of their patients. They do not refer you to a holistic psychologist to help you reduce your anxiety naturally. Neither do they explain to you about how one part of your body is affected by the other. They treat the heart directly with medication and surgery, ignoring the dramatic reality that is taking place in your whole mind-body.

However, you can discover what upsets you by paying attention to your body during the day. You can begin to notice how much anxiety interferes with how your heart beats and keeps you alive. Anxiety affects your whole body, not just your heart, so pay attention to your stomach, colon, and other organs.

Anxiety can be just a little nervousness or a full-blown panic attack. Anxiety can be chronic, completely paralyzing, or occasional flare-ups under stress. Anxiety is any time you are thinking, not breathing correctly and your body is tight or not in your awareness. You could be one of the lucky ones because you are aware of your anxiety. Or you could be completely unconscious of your anxiety even though the people who sit beside you see your leg jumping up and down, notice your clinched jaw, and hear your high-pitched voice.

Next week, I will address your heart health by paying attention to your heart chakra. You will learn how an open heart improves your physical, mental, and emotional health. In the meantime, become more aware of your anxiety. Notice how anxiety is different from fear so you can successfully reduce the unhealthy static energy in your nervous system.

My mother is an older woman at the end of her long life. I am very sad as I deal with her declining health. Making her comfortable, keeping her safe, and loving her are my major concerns. However, everyday, I remind her to relax, take a deep breath, and breathe fully into that “Ticker” as she calls it, so more oxygen and love can comfort her heart.

Please, relax, take a deep breath and breathe fully into your heart. Take the time to feel your heart everyday and love your ticker by reducing your anxiety.

======================

REDUCE ANXIETY FOR BETTER HEART HEALTH: Take the original, well-crafted “Overcome Anxiety Naturally” home study course. Learn how anxiety is different from fear. 10 lessons guide you step by step into body awareness so you reduce the static energy in your nervous system. Learn to breathe properly, relax, and enjoy being calm. Improves physical health. 10 written lessons, 5 hours of self-help audio, including “Break the Grip of Anxiety: An Overview” and the best selling “Opening the Heart” audio series. $149.97, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/anxietyonlinecourse.html

FREE BONUS: Get guidance on how to use writing for personal growth and permission to slay your Inner Critic’s voice so you can find your own. Emily Hanlon, best-selling author of Petersburg and Dr. Jeanette enjoy each other as they teach you about writing and your Inner Critic. “De-fang Your Inner Critic to Find Your Voice” one hour, CD or mp3, cost, $29.97. http://www.drjeanette.com/emily.html

============================

NEED HELP WITH ANXIETY? “Break the Grip of Anxiety: An Overview,” gives you holistic psychology information about how you learned to be anxious and how to unlearn this unhealthy nervous reaction. One hour, $29.97, money-back guarantee.

http://www.drjeanette.com/anxietyaudio.html

=================

Physical and Mental Health Advice: Move for Joy

photoFollow Dr. Jeanette on Twitter!

 

 

 

Ani on her new tricycle, Ruby.

 

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Move for the Joy of it.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

====================

Thank you readers for responding to last week’s newsletter with so many personal stories.  When I reminded you to get up and move for better physical and mental health, you resonated. For those who did not read The Vibrant Moment last week here it is: http://thevibrantmoment.com/?p=1240

Some of you gave me permission to share your personal stories with others.  So here are a few examples from fellow readers who might inspire you to move even more this week than you did last week.

From a Cat Lover: “Thanks. I am frequently criticized for the number of pets I have (not a hoarding situation), but they get me up in the morning and walking them, cleaning up after them,…keeps me moving. Otherwise, I would be parked in front of the TV.”

From Austin, Texas: “My son bought me a trike for Christmas.  He was very excited that he’d really found a great present and YES it is.  I could name the many ways…but what Doris writes about in her newsletter is another way of describing what I feel…it is movement, not just exercise, seeing more of my neighborhood and by chance other folks.  People love my trike: named Ruby. I get asked about it all the time.  Just tonight again at a community deal at a nearby bar.  Drinks on the Frost Band.  I love my Ruby Rides…in my body is the joy of those times on a trike as a girl who wanted to express and get away from the conventions and conditioning of the early1940’s. And what a ride live is.”

From Afar: “Dear Dr. Doris Jeanette~ Hello. It has been about four years since the atrial fibrillation diagnosis.  About a year ago was when the back pack + the morning walk around the block began.  It allowed opportunity to meditate while up moving and to give thanks that I am not homeless and having to use that back pack for a pillow in all types of weather. Gratitude!  A recent sonogram revealed the heart problem has improved so that it went from 30% to 50%.”

From NYC: YES..absolutely true!!!  I discovered this during a vacation where I was doing a lot of exercise and I had an epiphany, which was exactly what you stated below.  It was during  a Qi Gong session that I realized I could get the same or better results with this than the `exercise classes.’ The anxiety produced by those classes works ironically against the body creating more stress and thereby having a worse effect.  There should be a flow where everything works together harmoniously not in opposition of each other, especially if you don’t like exercising and are forcing yourself to do it. One doesn’t needed to even do a lot of it.  Just 10 minutes of Tai Chi or Qi Gong is sufficient.  Thanks!”

What About You?

Did you move more this week? If not, notice the reasons, excuses and resistances. Best to overcome your psychological blocks to movement before your health declines and depression settles into being your new normal.

Move for the JOY of it!

========================================

What Does Your Body Need? There are three primary reasons you have a physical body. The most important one is to ground your human energy to keep you safe and sane. When you are grounded, you do not have anxiety, depression or bipolar problems. Learn the other two reasons you have a body in the one hour self-help audio, “Hear Your Body Talking.” You must honor and listen to your body if you want to feel better and enjoy life more. One hour, self- help audio, $29.97, money back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/hearyourbody.html

=====================================

DEPRESSION HELP: Movement is essential in overcoming depression. Learn how  learned helplessness depresses your vital energy in the educational audio, “Depression:  How to Unlearn Your Unhealthy Conditioning and Break Free!” It reveals the secret solution Dr. Jeanette discovered many years ago for depression. She calls it, The ACE. Use the Active Conscious Effort, to permanently eliminate your depressed energy. Order, “Depression:  How to Unlearn Your Unhealthy Conditioning and Break Free!” One hour, $29.97, money back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/depressionaudio.html

“I found exactly what I needed to help my depressed client half way through “Depression:  How to Unlearn Your Unhealthy Conditioning and Break Free!” Peter Shepard, French psychologist

================================

FEEL GUILT WHEN YOU ENJOY LIFE? Judgement and guilt are often the reasons you resist moving with joy and doing what you want to do. Get the help you need in living a guilt free life. Order the one hour self-help audio, “Find Peace Beyond Judgment and Guilt” for only $29.97, money back guarantee.

Read and more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/guiltbuster.html

============================

 

Want Better Physical and Mental Health? Get Up and Move!

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Move.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

====================

I leave the tissue box across the room, away from all the places to sit. My sensitive nose responses to various stimuli that others do not seem to be bothered by. Often, out of the blue, a tissue is needed due to my rapid firing nerves cells producing a sneezing attack.

So, why would I purposefully leave the tissue box across the room? Since I have to get up in order to get a tissue to blow my nose, deliberately placing them far away from me, helps me get up and move more often. It is so easy to stay at the computer writing for way too long.

Moving is essential for holistic health.

Of all the research studies on physical health and depression, the one outstanding factor that is repeatedly proven to improve physical and mental health is physical movement. Many people think of exercise when they think of physical movement. However, exercising is not always helpful.

For example, if you exercise with anxiety, you are not doing yourself any favors. Anxious exercising is the reason many people who engage in routine exercise programs do not end up with excellent holistic health. In order for your body to benefit, your exercise must be conducted in a relaxed and natural manner. Reduce your anxiety to get better results with any exercise program.

Exercise must be harmonious with your body and personality to be effective. It is the movement of your body that is important, not the exercise. How you move indicates whether you are relaxed or anxious. If you want to get the best health results, let your relaxed body lead the way with authentic movements that naturally make it stronger and healthier.

A natural event like getting up from the computer to get a needed tissue helps me move more often during my day. Think of ways you can help yourself move more often during the day. Do not make everything easy and comfortable. Get up and move. When you move, enjoy moving.

The goal is to move, while breathing and feeling your body, so you enjoy the movement. This is the physical feeling that produces more vibrant moments. Being alive in your body is a delicious feeling that is very, very healthy for you. Move.

========================================
NEED HELP REDUCING ANXIETY? Take the Overcome Anxiety Naturally home study course. 10 written lessons and 5 hours of audio lead you step by step into breathing while feeling your body. Learn how to tame your inner critic, reap better results from your exercise program, live in your body, and have more fun! $149.97, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/anxietyonlinecourse.html

Summer Special: Get $30.00 off the $149.97 cost if you order Overcome Anxiety Naturally before August 1. Put HEART in the coupon box and enjoy improving your health this summer.

=====================================

DEPRESSION HELP: Movement is essential in overcoming depression. Learn about the cause of your depression, which is learned helplessness. Then learn how body movements permanently eliminate depression. Order, “Depression: How to Unlearn Your Unhealthy Conditioning and Break Free!” a one-hour self-help audio. $29.97, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/depressionaudio.html

*************************************
“I found exactly what I needed to help my depressed client half way through ‘Depression: How to Unlearn Your Unhealthy Conditioning and Break Free!’” Peter Shepard, French psychologist
================================

HIGHLY SENSITIVE NOSE? If you are a highly sensitive person, the special report “7 Steps to Success” helps you feel good about yourself and use your sensitive nature to your advantage. PDF file, 31 pages, 19.97, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/HSP2.html

============================

Self-confidence and Self-esteem Tip: Stop Negative Self-Judgments!

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Be Effective.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

====================

I am constantly exploring the factors that lead to solid self-confidence and better self-esteem. One of the major ways I learn new information is to observe myself. Recently, I noticed I was being very judgmental of myself because I was not being effective in accomplishing what I wanted to accomplish.

I felt helpless in some situations and in other situations the actions I had taken were not bearing fruit. My constant nasty judgments toward myself about not being effective in several endeavors made me feel really bad all over. This is when I relearned the fact that self-confidence is not that complicated or confusing.

The bottom-line that determines if you feel good about yourself depends on how you judge yourself. If you are judgmental of yourself, you feel bad. If you are self-accepting, you feel good. If you are so-so, then you feel so-so! Since, I have never been one to accept mundane and ordinary, feeling good all over is where I wanted to return.

The psychological truth is my own harsh mental judgments toward myself are all that matter. It does not matter what you think or someone else thinks. It is what I think about my ineffectiveness that destroys my good feelings, self-confidence, and keeps vibrant moments far, far away.

Since this is a psychological law, the solution is clear. I must stop being so judgmental toward myself for not being effective. The sooner I shift out of self-judgment, the sooner I return to feeling good and enjoying vibrant moments.

Do you judge yourself:
When you do not take action on something?
When you are not effective in the actions you take?

Obviously, judging yourself does not make you more effective either, no matter what you think. Your mental judgments make you feel bad so you get depressed and feel anxious. So, what can you do to be more effective and get better results?

I shifted into more effective problem solving. I resolved to get the help I needed instead of staying stuck in helplessness and self-judgment. I begin to share my sunscreen-spray-in the lungs-when-I-swim problem with many more people who could support me and help me at my swim club. I turned to experts, family members, and friends for advice and referrals for handymen.

Suddenly, the momentum of my ineffectiveness shifted into huge successes. The sunscreen spay was being limited by the manager quickly when other pool members had told me it would never be banned. Three handymen returned my call AND two showed up in one day!

Wow, results were easy and effective with a shift in my energy.

Tis true. You affect matter, other people and what is happening to you whether you are conscious of this physical fact or not. Even though it often seems like you are doing all that you can do to be effective, you are not. You are stuck in the negative energy that keeps you ineffective.

Shift out of negative, downward, self-judgmental energy into more self-accepting, effective problem solving if you want to be effective. In reality, effective help is all around you, all the time. Thank goodness for reality, once again!

========================================

BE MORE EFFECTIVE: Many effective actions take more courage and better communication skills. Get the help you need. Take the home study course, “Stop the World From Pushing You Around: Six Weeks to Solid Self-Confidence.” This is a high quality traditional Assertiveness Training course with the additional value of energy awareness, body language, non-verbal communication, and holistic psychology coaching by Dr. Jeanette. 47-page manual with six weeks of lessons and handouts PLUS more than eight hours of audio classes. $149.97

Read more and order.
http://www.drjeanette.com/assertivenesstrainingcourse.html

=====================================

GET HELP WITH SEXUAL HEALTH: “Say Goodbye to Premature Ejaculation: 7 Steps to a Better Sex Life.” Premature Ejaculation is a sexual problem that you and your partner do not have to suffer with for the rest of your life. PE can be cured. Learn how to stop premature ejaculation from ruining your sex life with the special report, “Say Goodbye to Premature Ejaculation: 7 Steps to a Better Sex Life.” The sex therapy information gives you the help you need to be effective in overcoming PE. 25 pages; $47.00; PDF format.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/prematureejaculation.html

================================

GET HELP WITH YOUR JUDGEMENTS: Learn about your mental judgments and how powerful they are in making you effective and ineffective. Study the eBook, “HOW TO HEAL A BROKEN HEART AND STOP THE HURT: Mend Your Relationship Heartache With Self-Love.” Buy at Amazon for $3.99 http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00AO7DU2E

Read more:
http://www.drjeanette.com/mendbrokenheart.html

====================================

Color Therapy: Use Color to Feel Better and Heal Your Aches and Pains

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Use Color.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

====================

Do you think about color during the day?
Do you notice how you feel during the day?

Color affects your emotional, mental and physical health constantly even if you are not paying attention to the colors in your environment. Consider amping up your holistic health by paying more attention to color and consciously using color to become healthier in mind and body.

Colors are real, physical vibrations that hit your cells, body, and nervous system constantly. The light waves of various colors can pierce through many levels and layers of unhealthy matter. Regular readers of The Vibrant Moment may recall the pink jail cell and pink prison clothes, which reduced crime for the Texas sheriff. If you missed the Power of Pink, here is the free psychology article: http://thevibrantmoment.com/2014/04/30/color-therapy-the-power-of-pink-for-personal-growth/

What color do you spend time in during your day? Consider the dramatically different results that are possible for you in the course of one day. For example, looking at my beautiful, Center City, turquoise blue swimming pool has a profoundly difference impact on me than looking at Philadelphia’s grey concrete sidewalks and black streets.

You can also use color to heal your body.

At one of my Nature Workshops, a woman had a severe pain in her right shoulder. Since you can use your intention and visualization to manifest color instantly, I asked the group members to help her reduce her pain. We created a circle around her and sent her green healing energy. After about a minute of sending color and a few minutes of silence feeling the affect of the color, her pain disappeared.

Group energy and working with a holistic psychologist are stronger and more powerful than just one person. Nevertheless, you can use color therapy on your own anytime you choose. So, the next time your shoulder or any other part of your body is hurting, try Color Therapy and see what happens.

Color Therapy Exercise

1. Take three deep breaths.
2. Relax your body so you can receive the color vibrations.
3. Intuit what color or colors you need.
4. See, imagine that color or colors flowing into the painful area.
5. Keep breathing and relaxing as you feel the color flowing in your body.
6. Keep breathing, relaxing, and feeling your emotions.
7. Let go and express any emotions that surface.
8. Be silent and still as you feel how the pain in your body changes.

The best way to know which color you need is to intuit it. Many of you may not trust your intuition but it is usually spot on! The way to tap into your intuition is to ask your body what color it needs. Wait for the answer to drop into your awareness. You may see the color, feel it, hear it, or just know it. Do not use deduction or thinking.

If you have not developed your intuition enough to trust it, you can always start out with white. White is safe and effective because it has all the color vibrations in it. The white may change automatically into the specific color you need during the color exercise.

You can also use the rainbow exercise where you use the six basic colors of red, orange, green, yellow, blue, and purple. When you hit the color that is most needed, you usually notice some shift in how you feel. Your body smiles and says, “Hey, I want more purple, that feels sooooo good!”

Take the time every day to notice color and use its healing vibrations to consciously feel better, think more clearly, and heal your aches and pains.

A colorful world is vibrant, healthy, and strong.

========================================

LEARN MORE ABOUT COLOR THERAPY: Develop your ability to sense the different color vibrations using the home study course, “Energize Your Mind-Body With Color And Sound.” The six primary colors are paired with simple sound and body movements to increase your energy in your body and energy field. Learn which colors you are avoiding and which ones you need. Color Therapy exercises are playful, fun and healing. Use alone, in Color Therapy groups, or with children. PDF format, 40 pages, $9.97.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/colorexercises.html

Special Free Bonus: Order the Color Therapy home study course, “Energize Your Mind-Body With Color And Sound” before Sunday, July 20 and get the special report, “7 Steps to Becoming Stronger After a Divorce or Break Up” for free.

This report explains the steps you need to take to become emotionally healthy and secure. Helpful, even if you are still in a relationship. 13 pages, $9.97, PDF format.
http://www.drjeanette.com/divorcebreakupreport.html

=========================================

UNDERSTAND AND FEEL YOUR EMOTIONS: To learn more about your emotions and how powerful they are in making you healthy and sick, study the eBook, “HOW TO HEAL A BROKEN HEART AND STOP THE HURT: Mend Your Relationship Heartache With Self-Love.” Buy at Amazon for $3.99 http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00AO7DU2E

Read more:
http://www.drjeanette.com/mendbrokenheart.html

Feeling Guilty? Live a Guilt Free Life and Keep Loving, Healthy Relationships

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Say No To Guilt!
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

====================

How often do you find yourself in this situation?

I am using my client, J’s example of guilt, because it is such a typical and difficult situation. Here is the email question I received this morning:

“My cousin, I’ve been close with, married a man a few years ago that I really don’t vibe with. My husband feels similarly. I’m trying to stay close to her without being very involved with him. She also has a young daughter just 6 months younger than my toddler.

They just bought a house and are moving farther away. It’s about 2.5 hrs. They invited us to a housewarming/birthday party.” I declined as politely as possible … trying not to give much reason.

Now my aunt and cousin are dissatisfied and I can feel it strongly. I made the decision because – I don’t really want to go.
– There are many other things I’m trying to focus on.
– I was invited to a friend’s child bday party I want to go to.

I already went way out of my way to sit through the most horrible wedding I’ve ever been too … I don’t want to experience that again and neither does my husband. It’s hard to explain . . .

Now I feel they’re “not happy” with my feelings … and I feel like it’s a lose/lose. If I go I won’t be happy … if I don’t go I’ll feel bad. After all I think *these are family – the people most here for me when my mom was sick. I feel bad. I want them to know I care, but I also want to care about myself.

Give me your wonderful guidance and wisdom please. Already listening to the guilt audio, but I need more specific help.

Thank you!”

What would you do?

This is definitely a guilt trap. By that I mean my client will feel bad, no matter what choice she makes. It is a lose-lose situation. The energy of a guilt trap is sticky, pulls at you, and makes it almost impossible to get out.

J is no push over. She was able to be assertive and say, “No,” the first time around. She has taken the Assertiveness Training home study course, “Stop the World From Pushing You Around: Six Weeks to Solid Self-Confidence,” studied the self-help audio, “Find Peace Beyond Guilt and Judgment,” and has been working with me privately for over a year.

J is clear about her feelings, yet, she is still stuck in the guilt trap. This is what I wrote back: The goal is to get out of the guilt trap and follow your authentic feelings without being passive or aggressive toward the people involved.

Take three deep breaths and intent to be true to yourself. There is no right or wrong answer. There is only your way out of this guilt trap. You want your choice to be the best choice you can make given the situation. You must live with whatever you choose.

If I already had another invitation that I had accepted I would tell my cousin the truth. If it was too far to drive back and forth in a day or night with two small children, I could tell my cousin the truth. If I could set up a fun trip and stay overnight and include the housewarming without feeling resentful, I would.

You want to transform this guilt trap into a win-win by choosing the pathway that creates the least amount of resentment for you. You may feel bad about not pleasing your aunt. You may call yourself, “Selfish and unkind.” That you can live through and transform.

Resentment, on the other hand, eats at you and makes you physically sick. Resentment permanently destroys relationships. Therefore, you want to behave in ways that do not make you physically sick and maintains an honest relationship over the years with your aunt and cousin.

Good luck in following your heart. Be aware of your feelings and reactions as you feel your way through this difficult situation. You can learn what you need to know, so the next guilt trap might not imprison you at all!

========================================

STOP BUILDING UP RESENTMENT: Assertiveness Training is the most effective way to learn how to say no to resentment and requests that are not in your best interest. Take the home study course,“Stop the World From Pushing You Around: Six Weeks to Solid Self-Confidence.” You get a 46-page manual, PLUS six lessons, over eight hours of audio instruction and live coaching with students, $149.97, money back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/assertivenesstrainingcourse.html

“Thank you Dr. Jeanette for your Assertiveness Training course, I loved it. I learned I was often being aggressive rather than being assertive. The difference is huge, both in regard to my actions and the results I get.” — Kevin from the UK

FREE BONUS: Order the Assertiveness Training home study course above and get the one-hour self-help audio, “Find Peace Beyond Guilt and Judgment,” for free. Worth $29.97.
http://www.drjeanette.com/guiltbuster.html

=====================================

FEELING GUILTY? The guilt busting audio, “Find Peace Beyond Guilt and Judgment,” explains how learned mental judgments create guilt and deliver guilt to others. The session explains the energy of guilt and offers the listener healthy ways to replace guilty behavior with effective communication skills for more loving relationships. One-hour personal growth audio, $29.97. Money back guarantee.

Order the personal growth audio, “Find Peace Beyond Guilt and Judgment for $29.97, money back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/guiltbuster.html

=========================================

GET IN TOUCH WITH YOUR FEELINGS: Study the eBook, “HOW TO HEAL A BROKEN HEART AND STOP THE HURT: Mend Your Relationship Heartache With Self-Love.” Buy at Amazon for $3.99 http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00AO7DU2E

Read more:
http://www.drjeanette.com/mendbrokenheart.html

=====================================