Self Confidence Tip: Choose Power and Forget Control

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Choose Power.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach


When I first noticed I was nervous before a certain client arrived for our session, I became very curious as to the reason I would experience anxiety with her and not any of my other clients. My client always dressed perfectly, had lots of money, a good job, and had no problem except for losing her partner.

Exploring the reason I was nervous about meeting with this client lead to one of my first major breakthroughs as a young psychologist. I discovered the physical difference between control and power. Most people, and many psychologists, are fooled by the man or woman who exhibits a great deal of control.

In some circles, controlling your behavior is highly praised and valued in the USA and Europe. In my early psychotherapy groups, I often had to deal with some members putting the controlled person in the group up on a pedestal. As a result, they felt “inferior” to the person who was in control.

Many highly controlled people are functional in the world because they are rewarded and reinforced for being “in control.” Even current psychological treatments in 2014 focus on controlling your anger, having to be positive, and thinking your way to happiness.

However, since I was using relaxation therapy and desensitization therapy back in the late 1970’s to reduce anxiety in sexual situations as a sex therapist, I knew that control was never functional in the bedroom and in matters of the heart. Control of any sort immediately kills emotional intimacy and delicious lovemaking.

As I felt my anxiety about the client who was about to arrive in my office, I suddenly realized my client was in control. She put herself on a pedestal, she was perfect. As a result, she was unpleasant to be around. I was not looking forward to seeing her.

When I realized she was in control, I knew she was highly anxious. Knowing she was anxious make it easy to be compassion toward her so I could then help her relax her body so she could feel more comfortable being herself.

The bottom-line is, the more anxious you are, the more controlling you are. The more relaxed you are, the more powerful you are.

Reading body language is extremely helpful. A tense body is different from a relaxed body. Power and control cannot exist in your body at the same time. You are either in a state of power or control. One physical state blocks out the other.

You get to choose power or control every moment of your life.

Real power is the healthy energy that is measured by physicists as voltage. The more voltage, the more power. When you are in a state of power you radiate good energy around you and your resistance to disease is high.

Power is the vital energy that gives you vibrant moments. Notice what, when, where, and how you control yourself. Then, choose to be powerful by loving yourself as you are in the moment. Give up seeking to be in control.


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Transformation or Therapy? Try the New, Holistic Psychology Way

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Change Your Matter.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach


Therapy or Transformation?
Which one do you choose?

One of the major differences between the current, traditional psychology and the new, holistic psychology is its primary goal and purpose.

Traditional psychology often aims to help you adjust your behavior so that you do not make others uncomfortable. This is the medical, psychotherapy model. Every time the new psychiatric diagnosis manual comes out more and more normal behaviors are being labeled as mental illness.

For example, grieving the loss of a loved one. The new psychiatric manual gives you six months to grieve a close, loving relationship before you get a mental illness label. Once you get a mental illness label, medication is usually recommended to stop you from experiencing your naturally occurring feelings and emotions.

In sharp contrast, the New, Holistic Psychology aims to help you achieve emotional, physical, and mental health and wellness. Any good psychologist knows that normal, healthy grieving takes approximately two years before you can think about your loved one without crying and feeling hurt and pain.

Do you want to control your behavior using the medical, psychotherapy model? Or do you want to transform your energy, matter, and problem so you can relax and be yourself?

The Holistic Psychology Way uses the transformation model. This means you let go of control and allow the natural health and wellness process of life to change your ineffective behaviors into effective behaviors.

Mother Earth is the expert when it comes to achieving the healthy flow of energy that naturally leads to holistic health and wellness. This is the reason I started doing transformational workshops outdoors in nature 25 years ago. As the Philadelphia Inquirer noted, “Mother Nature is Dr. Jeanette’s co-therapist.”

Being close, attached, and connected to Mother Earth keeps you safe and sane. The goal and purpose of a nature workshop is to show you how to transform your unhealthy energy, tense matter, and real problems into effective solutions that are safe, effective, and enjoyable.

Change your matter, not just your mind.


Depression, SAD, Seasonal Affective Disorders Treatment: Winterize Your Habits

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Winterize Your Habits.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach


With the light in the north hemisphere decreasing, it is time to bring in effective ways to avoid depression, keep SAD (Seasonal affective disorders), and the blues away. With less external light you need to change your habits and routines to beef up the positive, uplifting energy in your daily life.

Here are three ways to deal with depression and SAD the Holistic Psychology Way:

1.  Warm up your feet and hands with body work and body awareness.

Any martial arts that attracts you and sounds like fun is excellent. I prefer the energy aspects of Aikido. Look for body awareness classes in your neighborhood that your body is eager to enjoy. Consider Alexandria and Feldenkrais classes.

You notice immediate benefits as soon as you start to live in your body instead of living in your thoughts. Soon, more blood will be flowing through your feet and hands on a regular basis and the cold winter will not seem so cold and depressing.

2.  Give yourself more rest, relaxation, and sleep.

Your winter needs are very different from your summer needs. Feel like a bear. Let the cooler weather change your habits and do what feels good. I sleep more in the winter and spend more time resting and doing nothing.

If you are a person who does not let yourself take naps, reconsider. Naps are not bad, they are good for the body and soul. Naps have always been an integral part of my insomnia program. Naps feel so good anytime of the day or night.

3.  Bring in more sunlight.

When I was teaching in Sweden in 1999 at the University for Global Well Being, I suffered from SAD (Seasonal affective disorders) due to the continuous cloudy days of Northern Europe. As soon as the sun would finally peep out, after days and days of clouds, all the teachers and students ran out of the buildings and stood outdoors. As a group we stood tall and soaked up the brief sunlight as if it was the most precious energy in the world! And it was.

Therefore, I created a light exercise to help myself and the students bring in more light. You can also use the power tool of your imagination and visualization. Stand outside and imagine the sun, which is right behind the clouds, shining its strong, intense, sunny rays on your face and body. Feel it as if it is really happening. Imagining the sunlight makes it happen. You can also use your imagination inside as needed.

If you put into action all three of the Holistic Psychology suggestions for avoiding SAD, I am sure your winter be not be as depressing as last winter. Your behavior needs to change with the seasons if you want to enjoy good emotional, physical and mental health.

Let me know if you try any of these depression and SAD busters. Give me feedback about what helps you get through the winter without getting stuck in the blues and winter depression.


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Self Esteem Tip: Say Something Nice to Yourself

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Say kind words out loud.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach


You are important and you matter.

How many times a day do you say something kind, warm, and encouraging to yourself? Most of you did not learn to say loving, positive, supportive words to yourself because your parents did not model self-loving behavior for you.

You learn how to relate to yourself based on how your parents related to themselves. Even if your parents did their best to be kind to you, you learned to relate to yourself based on the behavior they modeled for you.

My mother was kind to me. However, she yelled mean, nasty things to herself whenever she made a mistake. As a result, I learned to yell mean, nasty things to myself when I made a mistake.

What did you learn from your mother? Father? Teachers?

Unfortunately, self-judgment, self- criticism and self-rejection are universal mental health problems. However, the good news is, since self-judgment is a learned behavior, you can unlearn this unhelpful behavior.

Early in my career, I noticed that I attacked myself viciously when I make a mistake in my professional practice. If I made a mistake about the time of an appointment, I would be mean to myself for over two weeks without any reprise. It was as if I had committed the ultimate sin of all sins and could not be forgiven!

As I brought this unconscious nasty behavior up to my conscious mind, I realized how unhelpful self-judgment was to my well-being, self-confidence, and mental health. Making myself miserable and destroying my self-confidence was not what I wanted to do to myself.

So, I put into practice what I was teaching my clients. I began to be kinder, more understanding and patient with myself when I made a mistake. The ultimate truth is, when you make a mistake, is when you desperately need love not judgment!

Besides, you get much better results when you are kind to yourself than you do when you are mean to yourself. When I was kinder to myself, I was less likely to make mistakes in general because I was more relaxed and comfortable. In addition, I was more fun to be around because I was not making other people wrong and bad all the time when they made a mistake.

Unkind words projected out on others are the natural outcome of self-judgment. If you are being unkind to others or think others are being unkind to you, notice how you are relating to yourself. Your nastiness is occurring in your own head or lurking in your unconscious!

Being unkind is not the same thing as being honest and assertive. Meanness has a very different energy from assertiveness. Highly sensitive people can feel the barbs that come with nasty, attacking energy. Attacks on yourself or others are never justified–no matter what.

So, notice the words you say to yourself.

Bring up your nasty comments to your conscious mind so they do not hurt you anymore. Own your meanness and stop projecting it out on others. Taking responsibility for your thoughts is the only way you can unlearn this unkind way of relating to yourself.

Next, shift into saying kind, positive, and loving words to yourself out loud. This quickly improves your mood, day, and self-confidence. Your cells smile and your whole mind body benefits.


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Stress Management Tip: Become Emotionally Healthy by Feeling Your Feelings

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Handle Stress Effectively.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach


Do you want to handle stress with more ease and grace?

Tina Gilbertson, says in her book, Constructive Wallowing, “For all of us, how we deal with our feelings has an impact on how quickly we’re able to bounce back from setbacks large and small.” Sometimes life throws us difficult events. Whether it is a wet basement, fleas on your pets, or a mother nearing the end of her life, you handle these events much more effectively when you handle your feelings in an emotionally healthy fashion.

What is an emotionally healthy fashion?

When you allow yourself to feel your feelings instead of making them wrong or bad, you become emotionally healthy. So, no matter what you feel, “Feel, baby feel!” This emotional health fact, is one of the major reasons Talk Therapy is so limited.

Stress happens often to everyone. When you do not feel good, you do not need to talk about your feelings. Instead, you need someone to teach you how to feel your feelings so you move forward toward the light at the end of the tunnel.

You need to learn how to move through the realities of life without being overwhelmed by the energy of stress. This will help you feel better, and you become an emotionally healthy role model for your children, relatives, and friends.

Therefore, the best use of your time, energy, and money is to learn how to feel your body feelings and emotional feelings as they occur. Do not put your emotional needs on the back burner. Feeling your feelings is the successful way out of any stressful event.

Here is a list of things you can do to help you feel your feelings.

1. Write out your feelings without censorship.
2. Dance how you feel.
3. Take boxing lessons.
4. Take an acting class.
5. Draw how you feel.
6. Listen to music, especially opera.
7. Dress up for Halloween as needed.

It does not matter what you feel, what matters is admitting the truth about HOW you feel. You may feel like the Wicked Witch of the West or the Fairy God Mother. Whether you are the Tin Man without a heart or the Lion without courage, admit the raw truth of how you feel deep down inside.

Let your body tell you the truth about how you feel. Your body knows the truth, it cannot lie. If you stop your bully brain from controlling you, your body automatically reveals how you feel. Let go of control and allow your body to express how you truly feel.

When you admit the truth of how weak you feel deep down inside, a marvelous event occurs. You gain more strength, courage, and emotional health. Tis true. Mother Nature is not a fool.

You must fall down into the deep unconscious of your truths, to rise up to the wonderful person you are.  Try being the person you hate the most for a day and own this part of you. Start planning your Halloween costume based on the part of you, you find distasteful.

What happens when you admit unconscious truths?

You suddenly handle stress more effectively. You do not get stuck in the mess of your own mental judgments making you a bad person. You heal some past wounds. You reach the light at the end of the darkness.

Breaking free, you join the human race. You are no longer better or worse than another.


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Feel and Express Love for a Healthy Heart and Loving Relationships

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Feel and Express Love.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach


Perhaps you are beginning to feel the difference between your healthy, authentic emotions and an unhelpful conditioned response after last weeks’ The Vibrant Moment. If you missed it, I defined and differentiated feelings, emotions, thoughts, and conditioned responses from each other:

Something you learned is very different from something you did not learn.

A conditioned response is something you learned. An authentic emotion is something you did not learn. An example of an authentic emotion is love. You did not learn to love, you were born loving. And a matter of fact, I would say you were born TO love. If your heart feels love for something or someone you feel love and that is that.

The reason you were a bundle of joy as a little baby is because you felt and expressed so much love. Now, as an adult, you feel the energy of love bubbling up in your heart from time to time. This feeling happens organically in your heart and solar plexus, without any thoughts or reason.

Once your heart is full of love, this energy naturally radiates outward away from you. This powerful energy is exactly what you need to be healthy in heart, mind, and body. Love is what you need to be happy and effective. Love connects us to each other and makes life worth living.

Of course, you can deny, repress, stop, and block your authentic feelings of love. Unfortunately, this is exactly what a large number of human beings do. In addition, you may love someone and something and cannot fully express the love you feel. Therefore, millions of people have learned to inhibit their natural feelings of love. When you inhibit your natural feelings of love, you feel lonely, isolated, sad, and unloved.

In this painful reality, your unhelpful conditioned response is how you learned to deny, repress, stop, and block your authentic feelings of love. Begin to notice what behaviors you do that control and inhibit your natural loving feelings. Notice what muscles tighten up and what happens in your nervous system. What are you squeezing and hurting when you inhibit the energy of love?

It is quite interesting that western medicine finds that the thymus on most adults has atrophied. Yes, this means your thymus may have dried up and stopped working properly. Could this be because your heart was not allowed to fully feel the love it feels? Consider the possibility.

It has been well established by western medical research that the thymus regulates the immune system. According to eastern medicine, the thymus regulates the heart charka. The research in applied kinesiology, which uses the strength of your muscles to determine if something is healthy for you or not, reveals that an alive thymus does indeed improve your immune system and immediately makes your whole energy field stronger.

So, it is true that a few thumps on the thymus immediately makes your muscles stronger and thus, healthier. This is the reason I use and teach my students and clients the Thymus Thump! Get to know your thymus and bring it back to life with physical touch and emotional love.

Inhibiting love is a conditioned response; unlearn this unhelpful behavior as quickly as you can.

Love is an authentic emotion; let it flow, so you glow!


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Emotional Health Advice: Learn the Difference Between Thoughts, Feelings and Emotions

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Feel Your Feelings.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach


I received an interesting question this week from an international seeker of truth. By that I mean, someone who is interested in exploring inner and outer realities by developing his human potential. Even though he has listened to many popular teachers’ audios and read their books, he did not discover the difference between thoughts, feelings, and emotions.

This is an important question because so many teachers, authors, and researchers do not know the difference. They do not understand how conditioned responses and mental judgments create emotional distress. Therefore, they lump thoughts, feelings, and emotions all together with conditioned responses and confuse their data and information.

Emotional distress is not the same experience as emotional health.

To understand emotional health, you must experience your own emotions and allow these colorful energies to take you to a new and different place. It is like traveling to a place you have never been before. You open up to new experiences so you discover how your vital, emotional energy naturally leads to holistic health and wellness.

To become emotionally healthy, you must recognize, thoughts from feelings, and emotions from conditioned responses. Knowing these different states is necessary because you need to act differently when you experience them in order to achieve better results. Emotional health knowledge plus positive actions moves you successfully through the maze of confusion into clarity.

Theory, words, and books do not transform emotional distress into healthy energy. The only way to transform unhealthy energy into healthy energy is by directly experiencing these different states within yourself and behaving differently when they occur.

This is the reason my private sessions, workshops, and home study courses show you how to directly experience your own energy. When you feel the different energies in your own body, you know when you are experiencing a thought, feeling, emotion, or conditioned response. They feel very different from each other.


A thought originates in your brain and/or mind. Your brain and mind are not the same instrument. Your brain is the organ in your body. Your mind is the bigger, governing mental master behind your thoughts, and thus, your identity.

Thoughts can be composed of low vibrations or high vibrations. Thoughts can be rational or irrational. Irrational thoughts create the symptoms of all mental illnesses from anxiety, to depression, to bi-polar, to psychosis.

Energy follows thoughts so you create your reality with your thoughts. This means your reality could be based on false beliefs, misinformation, or on outside facts and valid information. This is the reason you need to engage in personal growth, with outside feedback, so you unlearn your false beliefs and replace them with reality-based facts.


Feelings occur in your heart, guts, whole body, and energy field via vibrations. Feelings are sensations that you experience which give you feedback about inner and outer realities. Your body feels what is happening all the time. All you have to do is pay attention to your feelings. Your feelings are an effective way to know the truth and experience the truth.

You can feel cold and hot, love and fear, nonverbal communication and danger. You can feel gross energy and subtle energy. Thus, you have the ability to feel thoughts, emotions, and conditioned responses. Knowing what you feel and acting appropriately on your feelings leads to self protection and survival.

When you trust your feelings, you know what is going on inside of you and outside of you. When you act on your feelings you have a better chance of being safe and sane. This is the reason a Highly Sensitive Person has many advantages over someone who is highly insensitive. If you are a HSP, you pick up and perceive data that is in your environment before others do.

Unfortunately, most people do not trust their feelings. If you want to live a happy, healthy, effective life, a good investment is an education in learning how to feel, trust, and act appropriately on your feelings.


Emotions originate in your heart and solar plexus. Energetically, they hang out in your emotional body about a foot and a half away from your body. Emotions are energy in motion. They are colorful, quick, flowing, and expressive. Emotions cannot be negative, positive, or toxic. They simple are … they exist, change, and rearrange continuously.

If you do not inhibit your emotions, they change instantly from one colorful emotion into another colorful emotion. Even anger is experienced quickly and changes into something else if you do not stop yourself from feeling anger when it first comes up. Or stop your child from feeling her anger with it first occurs.

Unfortunately, the entire human race has been conditioned into repressing, denying, and inhibiting their emotions. This self hate of our emotions has been taking place over the last two millennium. Consequently, it is rare for anyone to be emotionally healthy. You have been brainwashed into thinking your emotions are dangerous and out of control, when they are not.

As a holistic psychologist, with over 36 years of clinical experience, I am convinced that the major cause of premature mental and physical disease is inhibited emotions. Therefore, the best use of your time, energy, and money is to seek out teachers who show you how to feel your emotions. Allowing your vital energy to flow creates a healthy mind-body and gives you lots of fun, vibrant moments to boot!

Conditioned Responses

A conditioned response is something you learned. It is not an authentic part of you. Emotions are not learned, they are a naturally occurring part of you, like your automatic nervous system. Do not confuse a conditioned response with an authentic emotion.

What you learned could be helpful or unhelpful.

Knee jerk responses are often unhelpful. They occur when you are conditioned to react defensively to a certain stimulus. For example, someone gives you feedback and you hear it as criticism based on your past learning experience with your critical mother or father. The feedback is object and factual, you hear the message as negative, terrible, and against you.

This is because you learned to response to all feedback as if it was criticism of you. When you hear feedback as criticism, you react in inappropriate ways to your boss and lose your job. Or block out the love your partner is sending when she is helping you develop a more realistic view of yourself.

Defensive reactions are often called “an emotional reaction.” Nevertheless, when you are defensive you are not allowing your emotions to change and rearrange. Your body is tight, tense, and rigid. Your energy is dark, dense, black, and grey. You are unpleasant to be around.

When you react with a conditioned response you are avoiding your authentic emotions, instead of feeling your emotions. As a matter of fact, if you felt your emotions you would not be defensive and unpleasant. You would be open and approachable.

An emotionally healthy person is a joy to be around.

You express yourself, love yourself, and others. Move toward more healthy emotional expression every single day and make planet Earth a safe, joyful place to live.


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Holistic Heart Health Treatment: Open Your Heart by Healing Emotional Distress

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Open Your Heart.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach


How does an open heart chakra feel?

A closed heart, does not feel. It blocks all emotions and feelings. Read last week’s The Vibrant Moment about how anxiety affects your nervous system and heart physically: This week we are looking at how a closed heart chakra affects the health of your heart.

A chakra is a place on your body where more energy goes and comes than in other places on your body. Think of a chakra as a pathway, a door, vortex, or hole. It is an energy center; where energy is suppose to move in and out of your body naturally and normally to maintain good holistic health.

A closed heart is one that inhibits the natural flow and blocks the energy from coming in or from going out of your body. An open heart allows energy to freely move in and out without being stopped. Unfortunately, you cannot choose the energy that comes in and out.

This means that whatever type of energy that is occurring outside of you at any moment in time comes in. Thus, the anxiety your parents experienced came into your open heart as a child, without either you or them knowing this was occurring. As a child, you were not equipped with the psychological tools needed to deal with your parents’ anxiety.

Anxiety is unpleasant, naturally you wanted to move away from it. Consequently, as a child, you closed your energy centers whenever someone’s anxiety hurt and wounded you. This occurred automatically over time. You were unconsciously opening and closing your energy centers because you were trying to protect yourself from being hurt.

The stimuli that made you close your heart could be your mother hurting your feelings or your father throwing you against the wall. Little and big, emotional and physical hurts, all create the same result: a closed heart chakra. Usually, the more you were hurt, the more you close your energy centers and the harder it is to open them.

I group the solar plexus, which is right underneath your breasts, with the heart chakra. These two energy centers work together to help you become a more loving, caring, sensitive, emotionally healthy person. If you want to be happy and healthy, you must re-open your energy centers so healthy energy can move in and out of you.

This is because closed energy centers create stagnate energy. Stagnant energy is the source of disease and disharmony. When energy is blocked, you become a cesspool of nasty, unhealthy energy. This stagnant energy is what fundamentally makes you mentally and physically sick.

Therefore, if you want to be healthy, you must return to a more open, healthy flow of energy so your cells get the vital energy they need to be strong and vibrant. This is the reason opening your solar plexus and heart can dramatically, and quickly, improve your mental and physical health.

Let’s look at the scientific research on the Broken Heart Syndrome. Even though most physicians who treat the heart do not pay attention to the emotional health of their patients, you can educate yourself about heart research. Researchers have directly observed the fact that emotional distress immediately leads to physical damage to the heart.

Emotional distress occurs when you inhibit your authentic emotions. Therefore, the solution is to become emotionally healthy so you do not damage your physical heart. Since emotional distress leads directly to physical damage to the heart, your emotional wounds must be healed, just as physical wounds must be healed.

If you want to be healthy in mind and body, heal your current and past emotional wounds so you do not experience emotional distress. Healing your emotional wounds is what automatically opens your solar plexus and heart chakras.

To Open Your Heart:
1. Feel your authentic emotions and feelings.
2. Learn to love yourself.
3. Learn to love others.

When you feel your authentic emotions, vital energy is released, which automatically nourishes the cells in your body. When you learn to love yourself, instead of reject yourself, this opens your solar plexus. When you learn to love others, instead of reject others, your heart opens.

An open heart and solar plexus allows healthy, harmonious energy into your heart and breasts. This flow of vital energy creates holistic health and wellness.

Open your heart so it can be the True Master that it is!


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Heart Health Advice: Use Holistic Health Approach and Reduce Anxiety

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Heal Your Whole Body.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach


Do you notice your physical heart during the day?
Do you know what an open heart chakra feels like?

The health of your heart, out of all your organs, is the one most closely related to your emotional health. Since my mother was diagnosed with atrial fibrillation in the winter I have been paying much more attention to the physical heart and how it malfunctions.

Most physicians miss the bigger picture of what is going on in your body, and therefore, with your health. When one part of your body is having trouble the holistic point of view looks at your whole body, not just the troubled spot. The holistic approach makes sure you have the opportunity to prevent disease before physical damage is done. It also gets to the source of the physical problem for a more effective whole-body treatment once the damage is done.

For example, numerous research studies reveal that people who have been diagnosed with anxiety are two to three times more likely to die from a heart attack. This is a diagnosed, labeled anxiety disorder by a psychiatrist. These statistics do not include the low-grade anxiety all of us have. Every human has some degree of always-there anxiety in their body that comes from childhood conditioning which flares up under stress.

Anxiety is one of the major factors that cause heart disease and it could be the source of arial fibrillation. Your nervous system sends signals to your heart so it beats with the proper rhythm. This occurs automatically via the automatic nervous system so you do not need to think about making your heart beat correctly.

When you are anxious your nervous system becomes very upset. As a result, this static energy, which is called anxiety, sends erratic signals to your heart, instead of harmonious signals. Your heart can become so upset it cannot pump blood fully to all the proper places. This malfunction can occur for a moment in time or become chronic.

Anxiety does not kill you directly, it does so indirectly. Another example is acid reflux, which is not serious in and of itself. However, over time acid reflux can seriously damage your heart and scar your esophagus. When you are anxious, the acid build up in your stomach pushes the acid rapidly up your tense tube. Each time the acid flies up into your mouth, it pushes against your heart. Over time, the chronic bangs to your heart can result in a heart attack.

Even though the scientific research on anxiety has been well established physicians do not pay attention to the emotional health of their patients. They do not refer you to a holistic psychologist to help you reduce your anxiety naturally. Neither do they explain to you about how one part of your body is affected by the other. They treat the heart directly with medication and surgery, ignoring the dramatic reality that is taking place in your whole mind-body.

However, you can discover what upsets you by paying attention to your body during the day. You can begin to notice how much anxiety interferes with how your heart beats and keeps you alive. Anxiety affects your whole body, not just your heart, so pay attention to your stomach, colon, and other organs.

Anxiety can be just a little nervousness or a full-blown panic attack. Anxiety can be chronic, completely paralyzing, or occasional flare-ups under stress. Anxiety is any time you are thinking, not breathing correctly and your body is tight or not in your awareness. You could be one of the lucky ones because you are aware of your anxiety. Or you could be completely unconscious of your anxiety even though the people who sit beside you see your leg jumping up and down, notice your clinched jaw, and hear your high-pitched voice.

Next week, I will address your heart health by paying attention to your heart chakra. You will learn how an open heart improves your physical, mental, and emotional health. In the meantime, become more aware of your anxiety. Notice how anxiety is different from fear so you can successfully reduce the unhealthy static energy in your nervous system.

My mother is an older woman at the end of her long life. I am very sad as I deal with her declining health. Making her comfortable, keeping her safe, and loving her are my major concerns. However, everyday, I remind her to relax, take a deep breath, and breathe fully into that “Ticker” as she calls it, so more oxygen and love can comfort her heart.

Please, relax, take a deep breath and breathe fully into your heart. Take the time to feel your heart everyday and love your ticker by reducing your anxiety.


REDUCE ANXIETY FOR BETTER HEART HEALTH: Take the original, well-crafted “Overcome Anxiety Naturally” home study course. Learn how anxiety is different from fear. 10 lessons guide you step by step into body awareness so you reduce the static energy in your nervous system. Learn to breathe properly, relax, and enjoy being calm. Improves physical health. 10 written lessons, 5 hours of self-help audio, including “Break the Grip of Anxiety: An Overview” and the best selling “Opening the Heart” audio series. $149.97, money-back guarantee.

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FREE BONUS: Get guidance on how to use writing for personal growth and permission to slay your Inner Critic’s voice so you can find your own. Emily Hanlon, best-selling author of Petersburg and Dr. Jeanette enjoy each other as they teach you about writing and your Inner Critic. “De-fang Your Inner Critic to Find Your Voice” one hour, CD or mp3, cost, $29.97.


NEED HELP WITH ANXIETY? “Break the Grip of Anxiety: An Overview,” gives you holistic psychology information about how you learned to be anxious and how to unlearn this unhealthy nervous reaction. One hour, $29.97, money-back guarantee.


Physical and Mental Health Advice: Move for Joy

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Ani on her new tricycle, Ruby.


The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Move for the Joy of it.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach


Thank you readers for responding to last week’s newsletter with so many personal stories.  When I reminded you to get up and move for better physical and mental health, you resonated. For those who did not read The Vibrant Moment last week here it is:

Some of you gave me permission to share your personal stories with others.  So here are a few examples from fellow readers who might inspire you to move even more this week than you did last week.

From a Cat Lover: “Thanks. I am frequently criticized for the number of pets I have (not a hoarding situation), but they get me up in the morning and walking them, cleaning up after them,…keeps me moving. Otherwise, I would be parked in front of the TV.”

From Austin, Texas: “My son bought me a trike for Christmas.  He was very excited that he’d really found a great present and YES it is.  I could name the many ways…but what Doris writes about in her newsletter is another way of describing what I feel…it is movement, not just exercise, seeing more of my neighborhood and by chance other folks.  People love my trike: named Ruby. I get asked about it all the time.  Just tonight again at a community deal at a nearby bar.  Drinks on the Frost Band.  I love my Ruby Rides…in my body is the joy of those times on a trike as a girl who wanted to express and get away from the conventions and conditioning of the early1940’s. And what a ride live is.”

From Afar: “Dear Dr. Doris Jeanette~ Hello. It has been about four years since the atrial fibrillation diagnosis.  About a year ago was when the back pack + the morning walk around the block began.  It allowed opportunity to meditate while up moving and to give thanks that I am not homeless and having to use that back pack for a pillow in all types of weather. Gratitude!  A recent sonogram revealed the heart problem has improved so that it went from 30% to 50%.”

From NYC: YES..absolutely true!!!  I discovered this during a vacation where I was doing a lot of exercise and I had an epiphany, which was exactly what you stated below.  It was during  a Qi Gong session that I realized I could get the same or better results with this than the `exercise classes.’ The anxiety produced by those classes works ironically against the body creating more stress and thereby having a worse effect.  There should be a flow where everything works together harmoniously not in opposition of each other, especially if you don’t like exercising and are forcing yourself to do it. One doesn’t needed to even do a lot of it.  Just 10 minutes of Tai Chi or Qi Gong is sufficient.  Thanks!”

What About You?

Did you move more this week? If not, notice the reasons, excuses and resistances. Best to overcome your psychological blocks to movement before your health declines and depression settles into being your new normal.

Move for the JOY of it!


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