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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Get to Know Your Bliss.

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Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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Do you want what you want?
Do you follow your heart?

Or as Joseph Campbell, scholar and researcher of universal myths, suggested, “Follow your bliss.” Valentine’s Day is a perfect occasion to pay more attention to love. Real love; love for yourself and love for all of humanity.

Take St. Valentine’s lead and get to know your heart. Look inward and find the golden treasures that lie within its deep canyons of sorrow and mountains of lofty feelings. Your heart holds the answers to your unique needs and absolute desires.

What you want and need is not what you have been taught that you want and need. Who you are inside is not what you have been taught that you are. Pleasing others will never lead you to the promised land of heaven on earth.

Yesterday, while cross country skiing on McClure Pass, Colorado, I was in heaven as I stood still to soak in the giant energy hug from my beloved tall trees covered with snow. When you enter a vibrant moment you are in heaven on earth. These moments are freely available anytime you get out of your head and drop down into your feelings.

Your body feelings and emotional feelings connect you with that which is around you. When you relax, you become part of the whole. Thus, you feel whole because you are whole. You are not isolated, separated, thinking, or out of touch with reality. Anxiety and depression are not possible.

To follow your bliss, sit in silence and get to know what is in your heart. What do you really want right now to eat? What do you really feel like doing this moment? What do you need to accomplish before you die to feel fulfilled? Who are you?

This is when a loving relationship with your emotional self becomes the most important relationship in all the world. Your emotional self knows the answers to everything you need and want. She or he is the one you need to find, heal, protect, and follow if you want to follow your bliss.

Your emotional self leads you to your true purpose in life. You feel bliss when you do that which feels good to you. Love is always the result of taking steps toward your purpose in life. Love for yourself. Love for others. Love for life on earth.

Give yourself a Valentine’s Day gift that feels good forever. Like the Colorado sunshine that made John Denver high, there is plenty of love for you all along the way as you follow your bliss. Let every day be Valentine’s Day.

Spend some of your precious time each day getting to know who you really are and love that which you find.

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The Definition of Ego by a Holistic Psychologist

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Get to Know Your Ego.
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What is this “identity” I call ego? The current definition of ego has evolved since Freud first labeled the ego, super ego, and id. Since then, years of scientific research have successfully explained the details of how we learn and unlearn behaviors, thoughts, and ideas.

As a result, the true nature of the ego is becoming clearer and more obvious. There is a huge difference in who you are and what you learned. Psychologists cannot help you change who you are, we can help you unlearn things you learned that are not helpful to you.

Thus, your ego is the part of you that you learned; it is not your innate self. Of course, you learned millions of helpful things from your parents as well as quite a few unhelpful things. Therein lies the reason you must examine what you have learned in your conscious mind so you can make sound decisions about what you want to unlearn.

As a holistic psychologist, I do not like psychiatrist labels and psychobabble. Therefore, I define the ego in terms of energy. You can learn how to feel, sense, and know the different energies and how they feel in your body. This knowledge, if used, can put the real you in the driver’s seat, replacing your ego.

Your ego is that wall of dense energy you can feel around you from time to time when you feel misunderstood and alone. This wall is located around your authentic, flowing self and is trying to protect you from outside hurts and pain. You created this persona. It is composed of learned behaviors, automatic reactions, conditioned responses, and false beliefs that control and define your “reality.”

When you are in your ego you are not directly experiencing reality. When you do not directly experience reality, you are defensive, rigid, weak, flat, isolated, anxious, helpless, and ineffective. Even the best crafted egos, which we can call your Mr. or Ms. Perfect are weak and make you sickly.

If you want to achieve holistic health, you must separate from your ego which is composed of dense, stagnant, dark, heavy energy and choose to live in your authentic self, which is composed of strong, loving, effective, and vital energy. The choice you make is, truly — a matter of life and death.

Practice sensing your own ego and name it so you can tame it. My Dr. Tight-ass is not a warm, fuzzy lover of humanity. Your Ms. Never Satisfied is not either!

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How to Improve Your Mental Health with Mind Body Therapy

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Words affect matter.
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We are rethinking the way psychologists use the word judgment and honoring the power of words.

A psychological study revealed that a shocking 90% of the thoughts in university student’s heads were attacking words against themselves. Just imagine if you do not already know, how many attacking thoughts live in your head!

Just as a beginning therapist must learn to listen to the words their clients say, you need to learn to listen to the words you say so you know where you are stuck. Your attacking thoughts are one of the primary factors that generate the static energy that becomes anxiety in your nervous system.

A Japanese researcher, Masaru Emoto, did hundreds of experiments where he photographed the damaging physical effects that nasty, mean words have on water and the beautiful effects that loving, kind words have on water. What do your words do to your nervous system and body?

Words are not magical, they affect matter because of the energy in, of, and around the words. Take this to heart, the words you say to yourself and others dramatically affects your matter and the matter around you.

To be happy and healthy, you need to be conscious of the words you think and say. The words you use can be against you or for you. If judgment is not the correct word to use for negative “shoulds” and “should nots,” what do we call the self-righteous, high and mighty thoughts you learned from your parents, religions, and governments?

Your parents used certain words to shame you. Guilt-trip you. Inhibit you. Make you “do the right thing.” These words are in your head now and you say them to yourself. These words of right and wrong, good and bad, bundled together, over time, became false beliefs.

Such as:
Work is better than play.
Suffering is superior to pleasure.
Jews are better than gentiles.
Baptists are better than sinners.
Men are superior women.
Whites are better than blacks.
Adults are wiser than children.

Words change, just like people. The word judgment lost it’s “e” during the course of my long career. This happened while psychologists were discovering how to help clients stop their brutal, constant self-judgments that make them nervous, ineffective, and anxious.

New words come into the language and old ones leave. What word can we use to describe these inner nasty words you use against yourself that are unconscious until you make them conscious?

If judgment is not the correct word, maybe it is time for a new word. The Beatles called nasty words the “Blue Meanies.” Let me know what you think and feel.

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How to Open Your Mind for Better Relationships

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Open Your Mind.
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How often do you accept something new into your mind? An open mind is clear; therefore, effective. Clear thinking means you do not block out information or ideas that challenge you. You welcome a different point of view.

A reader of The Vibrant Moment sent me an interesting, humorous challenge to my constant psychological use of the word judgment. She even introduces a new concept piggybacking on an old one.

As you read her comments, think for yourself about the word judgment, how words control you, and the importance of logical, clear thinking.

Marcia Spires, an accomplished NYC editor, speaks for herself:

“I’m a long-time Doris fan and language arbiter who doesn’t want words (or ideas) to get muddled. (Here, I am advocating for the positive meanings of “judging.”)

“I’ve been meaning to write to you since your “judging the concrete” article. It’s taken me a while to sort out my thoughts and gut reactions. You were so down on yourself for “judging” the city concrete. And the PC (psychologically correct) stance these days seems to be that “judging,” or disliking, anything is forbidden. Why? To show that we’re open-minded, I gather. Or to prove that we’re loftily indifferent to whatever crosses our path, with no opinions, pro or con? That doesn’t sound so positive, put in that light. It almost hints of “dissociation,” doesn’t it? Or “loss of affect.” Both are big no-no’s, I thought.

Anyway, I squish a bit internally (couldn’t find a better description) whenever I come across what seems like a misuse of a very useful word. What is “wrong” with noticing, assessing, and responding to something? That’s how I define “judging.” Personally, I don’t think it’s a law that we have to “like” everything we encounter. Or that it’s healthy to “accept” everything. (My, aren’t I the little rebel!) We get to pick and choose. And “judging” is the method we use.

Anyway, you got to the real nitty-gritty (no pun intended) when you differentiated between the gritty concrete under your feet (ugh) and the fine bridges and highways that make urban life feasible (smile). That’s what I call making realistic “judgments.” Assessing all factors.

In good humor,
Marcia Spires

Here is a link to The Vibrant Moment issue Marcia was referring to: “How to Get More by Blessing More with Universal Law”: http://thevibrantmoment.com/2015/11/25/how-to-get-more-by-blessing-more-with-universal-law/

Please share your responses to Marcia’s comments with me via email.

Words do matter. Words definitely control us. I am very picky about words and often help clients change how they talk to themselves to get different results. Pay attention to the words you say to yourself and how they affect you and effect you.

Marcia is correct about the first definition of judgment. Sound judgments are extremely important; they make your life easier and richer. Use your brain to make clear judgments that lead you to success. Be rational and logical so your mind is effective.

Next week I will discuss the type of judgments that hurt you and make you anxious, as well as the universal law I want you to understand so you can use it to your advantage.

This week, think new thoughts, keep your mind open, and be creative. Avoid obsessive thoughts, closed minds, and the ordinary. Disagree and let others disagree.

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How to Get More Vital Energy by Feeling Your Emotions

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Accept What is Real.
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Thank you, readers, for your feedback and questions. Keep them coming. Here is an important question about how to reach good mental health from a kind hearted reader who is stuck in confusion and intense mental anguish.

“I have enjoyed your emails for 5 years! Wow! Please write about how to learn to live in the HERE and NOW! And acceptance. I am a mom who is both blessed with two adult kids but I feel rejection about living here in North America … Them and my loving husband is what keeps me here. I am too attached to my past, because that’s what I know best and that is what made me “grow”! Somebody told me, your heart has to be in one place. What does it mean? I am from EU and live here more than half of my life!! I can’t either go back or stay. And the HERE and NOW is filled with tears and sadness … Unshared … because I am ashamed of not being able to enjoy the many blessings around me!”

For all of you, always remember that no matter what is going on inside of you there is a rational reason for what you feel. You have real problems that have real solutions. Your feelings and emotions are real. Never doubt reality.

Mother Nature knows what she is doing. Evolution knows what she is doing. As Einstein said, “God does not play with dice.” There is sanity in the universe; there is sanity inside of you. It is up to you to find your sanity!

Thank you for your question. Even though I may not hit the bullet mark with so little information about you, I know for sure that your feelings and emotions are not wrong or bad. It is only your thoughts about your feelings and emotions that are confused and irrational.

You are stuck in depression and dense energy because you tell yourself everyday that your feelings and emotions are WRONG and BAD. They are not. What you feel is what you feel. No more or less. Simple and profound. Feelings are real.

The reason you are stuck in such unpleasant, never-ending pain is because you are making your feelings and emotions wrong at every turn. Every day, all day long, your self-judgment is killing your heart, body, and soul. Your thoughts are irrational and unkind, creating your mental anguish.

You are hurting your real self every time you find fault with yourself. To feel better, you must stop finding fault with what is real. Instead of making your feelings and emotions wrong, accept them and let them move. The vital energy of your emotions is the potent energy that will move you forward into vibrant moments.

I assume you are too afraid to feel your strong emotions and feelings on your own. This is often the case because children are taught to control their feelings and emotions instead of feel them. Nevertheless, trying to control your feelings and emotions creates mental health problems.

Therefore, I recommend that you work with an emotionally safe professional who can help you unlearn your fear of your emotions so you can break free and enjoy life. If you do not have access to an emotionally safe professional you can receive emotional guidance and support by using the self-help “Opening the Heart” audio series.

The way to enter the Here and Now is to feel what you feel. Physical and emotional feelings put you squarely in the moment of that which is real. It does not matter what you feel. Just accept and love your real feelings and you enter the here and now.

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How to Make Your New Year’s Resolutions Come True

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: You Can Do it.
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Do you believe you can do what you want to do?
Do you know you have a right to live the life you desire?

There is no reason you cannot follow your heart and enjoy more vibrant moments. Even though the pathway to freedom and joy is full of real fears and irrational anxieties, never give up or think you cannot face your real fears and overcome your anxieties.

If your life is not what you want it to be, if your health is puny, if you feel deep sorrow, know there is hope. At any moment in time you can begin the process of transforming your dense, defensive energy into more love and light. You have the power to shift, change, transform, unlearn, and learn whenever you decide to take action.

The pathway to your goals is clear. You must stay true to yourself. As you move forward you will learn many new skills, behaviors, and habits that empower you and make you innately happy. The journey to self-actualization is fun, you do not have to wait until you get to the end of your life to enjoy yourself.

Here is a list of lessons learned in 2015 from a regular client who is willing to share her successes with you. She had a very hard year full of relationship, financial, and stage four cancer problems. Yet, she stayed true to herself and is now happier and healthier than she has ever been.

May her list inspire and motivate you to keep learning and growing. She said, “If I distilled my list down, it would pretty much be learning to love and care for myself.”

Lessons Learned in 2015

I am the most important being in my life.
I am very, very strong emotionally, physically, and energetically.
I have gifts and I can explore them at my own pace.
No one knows about me better than I know about myself.
Energy leaks are critical to fix.
My Higher Self is me. My Little Girls are me.
Align with authentic self, not ego.
We heal ourselves.
Reality is the only safe place.
Love is more powerful than anything; love makes everything alright.
I am not alone. Ever.
I am deeply loved.
I am brave.
I let go of so much and I am ok.
I face my biggest fears and walk through them.
I always get back home.
We have to choose to receive in order to receive.
We always have a choice.
My truth feels like goose bumps on the inside.
Greater compassion for self and others.
Only I can make myself happy. I can only make myself happy.
Feeling grateful makes every situation ok.
Look for the lesson. There is a lesson in everything.
I am living a bigger life and learning how to keep growing it.

Take some of her lessons and make them your lessons for 2016. Stay true to yourself and you will definitely move forward. Open your heart and send love to yourself and then to others.

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How to Keep Your New Year’s Resolutions and Benefit

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Take Stock of Your Personal Growth.
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Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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The stock market is flat for the year, are you?
How are you different this year from last year?

The end of 2015 is a great opportunity to take stock of your professional and personal growth. Personal growth does not happen on its own anymore than your retirement fund increases when you ignore it.

You must invest in yourself by spending time, money, and effort on yourself if you want to reap the fantastic benefits of successful personal growth. What would motivate you and excite you so much you would make and follow through with your New Year’s resolutions? The benefits of course!

10 Benefits of a Personal Growth Plan

You Enjoy:
1. Getting what you want
2. Having what you need
3. Guilt-free living
4. Peace of mind
5. Freedom
6. Joy
7. Good health
8. Healthy relationships
9. Self-actualization
10. Exciting adventures

Just as your business needs a good marketing plan, you need an effective personal growth plan in order to be successful with your New Year’s resolutions. First, you must be honest with yourself about how successful your personal growth was for 2015.

Are you more relaxed and comfortable with yourself at the end of 2015 than at the beginning? Notice if your body and heart are unhappy with your past behavior? Do not find fault with your results, just notice the facts and write them down so you can be rational and objective.

As you take stock of 2015, notice what you learned from your mistakes and successes that can help you improve your performance for the new year. Being rational is the only pathway to personal growth success. Just like a good marketing plan, be realistic; do not bite off more than you can chew. Allow room for error and mistakes.

Next, write down a fresh list of your heart’s desires and physical needs for 2016. With your New Year Resolutions on paper, take a long look at your goals and be realistic about what you must unlearn and learn in order to manifest your heart’s desires. Anxiety and not knowing how to do something are the two major reasons people do not follow through with personal growth plans.

With your required personal growth education in mind, write down the specific action steps that will lead to your New Year’s Resolutions for 2016. Make each step clear. If you take these steps, you reach your goals. Finally, as each new day of the young 2016 unfolds, put your action steps into place one step at a time. No rushing, no anxiety.

Do not miss this opportunity to make a fresh personal growth plan for the new year. Then, follow through with your New Year’s Resolutions so you reap some of the ten benefits of personal growth listed above. Make your personal growth fun, effective, and rewarding.

Visualize yourself enjoying the benefits of your hard work next year at the end of 2016. See yourself eagerly celebrating a brand new year with even more opportunities for vibrant moments.

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How to Live a Guilt Free Life

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Jenna enjoying Guilt Free Living in the Grand Tetons, October 2015, photo by Doris Jeanette

 

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Take Care of Yourself.

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Do you take care of yourself?
Do you take care of others?

During this holiday season when families get together, unhealthy relationship dynamics often block the love, fun, and joy.

This is because you learned to take care of others and you did not learn how to take care of yourself. One of the most important relationship dynamics that I teach new therapists, my mentees, and clients is how to master the vicious victim cycle that destroys loving relationships.

If there is one single thing you could teach your child that would improve her self-esteem immediately, it would be how to take care of herself. If you want healthy relationships, you do not want to teach your son or niece to take care of you because he will resent you, find you to be a burden, and not enjoy your company.

When you teach a child to take care of you, you are teaching her to feel guilty and bad about her own needs and desires. If you want healthy, strong, equal, loving relationships you must respect and relate equally to the other person. This applies to all your relationships.

Beginning therapists struggle with learning how to be helpful and loving toward a client without feeling sorry for him or rescuing him. When you try to save another person you are not taking care of yourself and you have what psychologists call the Messiah Complex.

In recovery circles, rescuing another person is called “enabling” the person who is addicted. You are helping the drug, sex, or food addict stay a victim because you are doing for him what he must do for himself. Only he can step out of the victim role, take responsibility for himself, and learn what he needs to learn to take care of himself.

Unfortunately, getting out of the vicious victim cycle is not easy for therapists or clients. The conditioned responses are in your autonomic nervous system and in the lining of your stomach. You learned to feel guilty and bad when you abandon taking care of others and begin to take care of yourself. This creates an unhealthy lose-lose guilt trap.

You must unlearn this lose-lose relationship response and replace it with a healthy win-win way of relating to others. However, you were not born knowing how to take care of yourself. You have to learn many new social, communication, and assertive relationship skills in order to take care of yourself.

Get the assertive education you need now by taking the appropriate action steps before the end of the year. Then, relax and feel good about yourself, knowing you will reap the rewards of your guilt free living education in time for the 2016 winter holiday season.

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Relationship Advice: How to Get Joy in Your Heart as a Single Person

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Get to Know Yourself.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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Are you single for the holidays?
Are you missing someone you love?

Some of you may be single for the holidays. Others may be missing a
loved one who has passed over. Relationships are extremely important.
However, the most important relationship you have, or ever will have,
may be one that you are neglecting and ignoring.

How do you relate to yourself? Do you love or reject your body? Do
you accept or find fault with your emotions? How close are you to
your soul? Do you accept your age? Loving yourself never gets to an
end point of satisfaction. There is always more to accept and
something new to embrace.

Being single for the holidays is a challenge. Living through the
first holidays without a loved one is painful. However, if you spent
time being grateful for what you have and turn your attention to your
own personal growth, the holidays can be enjoyable and bear fruit for
the new year.

Here is a list of ten action steps to help you feel better and enjoy
your holidays if you are single or feel alone.

1. Send your inner critic out in the cold.
2. Get to know your personal desires and needs.
3. Express your feelings creatively.
4. Enjoy little things about your own company.
5. Indulge yourself in simple pleasures.
6. Spend time with people who love you.
7 Do some serious personal growth.
8. Listen to harmonious music that makes you feel good.
9. Spend time in nature relaxing, walking, and breathing.
10. Read self-help material to feel good about yourself.

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Give yourself joy in your heart to enjoy more vibrant moments during
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How to Stop Your Addiction by Receiving More Pleasure

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Feel Good More Often.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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How much pleasure do you allow yourself to enjoy?

’Tis Sunday morning, I am feeling divine, sipping my tasty Starbucks coffee. I love strong flavors and their Christmas Blend really “hits the spot!” That is, if I “hit the spot.” All week long I did not “hit the spot” with my coffee making. Gratefully, I am savoring this vibrant moment with my A+ coffee, which tastes like chocolate, wine, and other spicy notes I cannot label.

Simple pleasures like sipping a divine cup of coffee remind me of the sweet, precious moments of love I shared with my mother over coffee. Love moves back and forth between people when they feel safe and open with each other. When trust and respect are present in your relationships, loving vibrant moments are sure to happen.

However, feeling good does not require another person. Nope. All that is required is giving yourself some simple pleasures. I noticed a couple of weeks ago that I was depriving myself of a delightful pleasure. Finally, I “broke down” and made a fire one night in my cozy little home in center city, Philadelphia.

The pleasure of listening to Joanne Shenandoah, a Native American singer, send her beautiful sounds into my soul as I lost myself into a blazing fire was “over the moon!” As is often the case in consciousness, I was not aware that I was depriving myself of enjoying a fire, until I gave myself the pleasure that had been denied.

You will notice this as you move forward with your personal growth. Try lathering yourself in more pleasures to help you illuminate your self-deprivation, self-rejection, and self-punishment.

Years ago I read an article in Sierra Magazine that wood burning fires, which I grew up with in rural NC as the only heat in the house, were not good for the environment. Since then, I rarely burn fires because I want cleaner air to breathe.

However, like all sweet things in life, you can enjoy them in moderation. I bought this house in 1979 because it had two fireplaces. I do not own a car, hardly ever use air conditioning and never waste energy. I can enjoy a few fires without feeling guilty.

Yes, guilt is usually the nasty energy that keeps you from giving yourself more pleasure. It is better to overcome guilt and stop this sticky energy from ruining your life. Otherwise you will suffer the consequences of self-deprivation.

Yes, never forget that pleasure puts at bay anxiety, depression, violence, addiction, and disease. Yes, various forms of unhealthy energy is what happens to people who are controlled by guilt and do not give themselves enough pleasure in their daily doings.

Go ahead, give yourself more pleasure, then stand up to your Inner Critic and lay your fears dead at your feet.

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