How to Let Go and Relax? Get Ready and Stay Safe.

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Let Go and Relax.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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I often get questions such as this: “Why is it that I cannot let go and relax?”

First, let’s define what letting go actually is: Letting go is relaxing, surrendering, flowing. An example is what you do or do not do in the natural river current. Do you go with the flow or resist the flow? To enjoy a vibrant moment, you are physically relaxed in the natural flow of energy around you.

The opposite of letting go is: posturing, deciding, controlling. When you fight to swim up stream or refuse to get in the water you are not letting go. You are controlling. You are trying to be in charge of what happens and make things the way you want them to be or not be.

Is it easy for you to relax and surrender? Or is it easy for you to control and decide? Unless you have engaged in years of personal growth, you probably are not comfortable relaxing and surrendering.

In order to let go of control and trust the reality around you you have to feel safe and secure with your ability to go with the flow. Is this river really safe and am I prepared and strong enough to go where it is going for the time I am in it? To reach this degree of physical and emotional security you must consciously examine and transform your real fears, learned anxieties, and mental judgments.

Therefore, the answer to the question, “Why is it that I cannot let go and relax?”is: You are afraid. Fear is what keeps you from letting go and relaxing. Anxiety is always involved, but underneath your irrational anxiety is a real fear (or real fears) that must be resolved in a way that allows you to be comfortable and secure.

Only when you are not afraid and anxious can you relax and surrender. This is a given. It would not be wise for you to let go and relax if you were in any real danger. Real fears must be taken seriously, and never denied. Real fears are nature’s way of keeping you safe and sane.

Regular readers of The Vibrant Moment know that since last Spring my mother’s health has been failing. I shared my initial panic at the thought of her death in April and some of my ensuring fears and anxieties during the summer. Right now, I am by her side, as she is moving out of sight into another form. Death is the ultimate letting go for both her and her children.

Invest in the time, energy, and effort that it takes to learn how to safely let go and relax as you move through real life events. There is no other psychological skill more important.

Learning how to let go and relax dramatically improves your experiences, adventures, and self-esteem. Do it.

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Personal Growth Advice: Put Power Tools in Your Toolbox, Learn How to Use Them!

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Use Your Tools Effectively.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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What tools do you have in your personal growth toolbox?
Do you know where and how to use each tool?

Let’s look into your toolbox and see how prepared you are for personal and professional success. You need a toolbox full of the best tools you can find. Where do you look for effective, powerful tools?

Are the available psychological offerings approved by managed care insurance enough to help you be effective and successful in reaching your personal growth goals? At the top of the current evidence based list traditional psychologists are teaching you in 2015 we find: Cognitive Behavior Therapy, Mindfulness, and EMDR

When I look at this list as a holistic psychology with thirty-seven years of experience teaching people how to successfully overcome anxiety, I see a limited list of techniques, which are tools. Before managed care, psychologists offered these evidence-based psychological tools: Relaxation Therapy, Desensitization, Assertiveness Training, Reality Therapy, Paradoxical Intention, Consciousness Raising, Sex Therapy, and meditation. Consider getting an education in some of these powerful techniques.

In addition to the above tools, my toolbox has: Body Language, Energy Awareness, Creative Meditation, Sound Therapy, Color Therapy, Music Therapy, Body Awareness, Emotional Awareness, Psycho-physical Exercises, Visualization, and High Play.

Of course you need a hammer, screwdriver, wrench, and pliers in your toolbox. Just one tool is not enough. Pick the most effective, powerful tools you can find and get your toolbox ready for personal growth. However, having the correct power tools in your toolbox is not enough.

Any technique is only as effective as the person using the tool. Do you know when, where, and how to use your CBT to be effective? Do you know when to you use your hammer and what to do with your mindfulness? You need good tools in the first place AND you must be able to use those tools effectively in real life.

For example, a friend recently complained to me that Relaxation Therapy had never helped him. He knew I studied with Joe Wolpe in the 1970’s. Dr. Wolpe, taught his students to desensitize people to anything that made them anxious using Relaxation Therapy. My friend complained to me that he had listened to so many relaxation audios and guided meditations over and over again and had never experienced any relief from his generalized anxiety.

My friend had Relaxation Therapy in his toolbox but he did not know how to use his relaxation tool effectively. To put a picture up on the wall, you have to pick up your hammer and hit the nail at the correct time, in the right way, to be effective. If you want to unlearn your anxiety responses you have to use your tool of relaxation with great precision.

If you do not use your relaxation response at the correct time to desensitize yourself to the proper specific stimulus then of course it does not work. Having the ability to relax, be mindful, meditate are not effective in the bigger picture of transformation unless you use your tools correctly. To be effective you must unlearn your unhelpful, anxious behaviors and avoidance reactions.

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How to Keep Your New Year’s Resolutions? Practice the Proper Action Steps!

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Be successful.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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Since positive change does not just happen, this means you have to Make It happen. So, to be successful, you must set in motion the mandatory actions that lead to your goals. Losing weight, eating better, feeling more self-confident, having a good sex life, and living more fully must be purposefully programmed for success.

For starters, you must know the real, physical pathway that leads to your goal. You need to know exactly what, when, where, and how to practice what you need to learn in order to reach your goal. Practicing the wrong behaviors at the wrong time can actually makes things worse, not better!

This always reminds me of Aunt Franny. Her physician told her to practice breathing twice every day for ten minutes. Caring about her health, Aunt Franny did as she was told. During a visit with Aunt Franny, she rushed out to the patio hyperventilating. She was breathless and red faced. Since this was not like Aunt Franny, I asked her what she was doing. She replied, “Practicing my breathing exercise, like my doctor told me to do for ten minutes.”

Wow, it was immediately clear her physician had not told her how to breathe properly. She was breathing the same old way she had always breathed. As a result, she was making herself hyperventilate. Instead of reducing her anxiety, her breathing practice had given her a full-blown panic attack. As a result, Aunt Franny’s heart was being damaged, instead of calmed down. Yes, I immediately gave her a lesson on how to breathe properly so that she did not hyperventilate and get herself into a panic the next time she did what the doctor ordered.

This is the reason it is imperative that you know how to breathe, relax, and be assertive in the proven ways that work. Just going out on your own, without the proper instructions from a competent teacher does not make you successful and effective. The correct education is essential. Also, be careful and picky when choosing your teachers. A client of mine recently increased her anxiety when she did what her Yoga teacher instructed her to do.

This means you need to work with professionals who are present with you in the moment and know the pathway that leads to your goals. Make sure you pick teachers, coaches, and holistic psychologists who practice what they preach. This means they show you, by example, how to reach your goals. Good mentors model the healthy behaviors you need to practice so you see the living proof of what they are teaching you.

IMAGINE: At the end of next year, you feel proud of yourself because you received the education you need. Then you practiced the new, correct skills so much that you became effective and successful in reaching your New Year’s Resolutions. Yahoo!

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How to Keep Your New Year’s Resolutions

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Be Effective.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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Get real. Get ready. Roar!

This is my tag line. These short phrases sum up the process of transformation and successful personal growth. If you want your New Year’s Resolutions to bear fruit, you must put the natural laws of transformation into play in your own life.

Positive change does not just happen. Losing weight, eating better, feeling more self-confident, having a good sex life, and living more fully must be orchestrated. You do not achieve peak performance or have peak experiences without taking the pathway that leads to your goals.

Just imagine how much education and practice it takes for a musician to deliver beautiful sounds into your heart. Be realistic about how much coaching and practice it takes for a quarterback to throw a touchdown pass once in a while!

If you want to be effective, you also have to practice. However, before you practice, you must know what to practice! To achieve permanent weight loss you have to know what to do, how to do it and when to do it! Otherwise, you are wasting your time, money, and effort. The weight will come back in full force even after you suffer and deprive yourself.

To be effective, you need to know the exact pathway that leads to your goal. This is the reason education, coaching, and mentoring are the best investments you can make in 2015. If you invest in yourself, you will learn what, when, where, and how you need to practice, in order to be effective.

As noted in my tag line, the first general psychological state you must enter is: to get real. You cannot be in denial or exaggeration. You cannot be defensive or in an ego state. To be effective, you must sit in reality and be honest about yourself in every moment. Rose-colored, all-happiness, and everything positive realities do not work.

For example, if you are overweight, you must be honest about what your body looks like before you can lose weight. You have to look in the mirror and see what is there. It is only in reality that you can be effective. The laws of transformation and personal growth only work when you are in reality.

You cannot be effective and reach your New Year’s Resolutions being stuck in your head with positive or negative thoughts about reality. The first thing an effective coach, psychologist, or mentor teaches you is: to get real. Then, you learn what is the next step that leads directly toward your New Year’s Resolution.

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Grieving? Use the Holidays to Heal Your Heart

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Use the holidays to heal.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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It was eight days before Christmas when my heart was broken at the age of 34. I thought I would die and never get over losing my beloved.

The holidays are much more difficult if you have suffered a major relationship loss. If a loved one has died this year or is in the process of dying, the joy of the season is hard to find. If you were divorced this year or had a break up with your lover, the emotional pain in your broken heart may feel like its more than you can bear.

Currently, my mother’s health is failing and the anguish I feel in losing her is hard to be in. It helps me to remember the unexpected benefits I experienced when I was 34. I decided to stay with myself in my emotional pain, instead of running away or becoming more closed. My life was magically transformed by the natural process of feeling my authentic emotions.

The wide gaping hole in my heart, which I thought was delivered by the loss of my beloved, was just the tip of the iceberg. The loss revealed many long-time emotional hurts that where screaming at me because they needed to be healed. If I did not heal them, I could not grow as a person, become a better psychologist, and live a life of rich meaning and deep purpose.

What would happen if you opened up to your emotional wounds? You could also leave your ordinary and mundane life behind. You could discover that experiencing your hurt is the first sign of a more vibrant, meaningful life. Look at your loss from afar. Look up high or down deep to see how your suffering and pain can have meaning and purpose this holiday season.

Hurts create cracks in your heart. Cracks are the only way you can become more loving and receive more light. See your current hurt as the first sign of more life, vitality, and the beginning of many more vibrant moments.

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Holistic Psychology Solutions To Being Impatient, Irritable and Frustrated

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Become powerful.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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I trust you are looking forward to the third holistic psychology newsletter article about how to deal with impatience and irritability. If you missed the reversal of reality information about impatience read it here: http://thevibrantmoment.com/?p=1348
If you missed the description of exactly what impatient energy is read this:   http://thevibrantmoment.com/?p=1354

Solutions to being impatient and irritable.

To move from impatience to patience, the first thing you need to do is pay careful attention to your thoughts. If you have not been in effective therapy or taken personal growth courses that help you reveal your unconscious thoughts, you may not be aware of your nasty thoughts.

However, if you have been in successful therapy, you know you have mean thoughts stuffed in the dark recesses of your unconscious mind. If you do not know exactly what your nasty thoughts are saying to you, take the home study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally to find these buggers and expose them to the light of the conscious mind.

Last week I told you about my racing, out of control thoughts that were attacking me when I got my hand stuck in a very tight yellow glove. When you are impatient, your irrational thoughts are always making you wrong, rushing you to do something different and complaining about the results you are getting.

It is these attacking, irrational thoughts that affect your body, heart, and automatic nervous system. First you experience anxiety in your nervous system, then your anxiety creates feelings of impatience and irritability. Note that being irritable is what causes irritable bowel syndrome and other unpleasant physical diseases.

It stands to reason, if you catch your irrational thoughts making you anxious, you have an excellent chance to tame them. If the problem is inside your head, not outside in the world, you can certainly be effective. All you have to do is learn what, when, where, and how to tame your thoughts.

Yes, I know, sometimes other people really do attack you. In this case, you may think other people are causing you to be impatient. In some ways, they are! However, if you do not agree with what they are saying, they cannot continue to be the source of your anxiety and impatience. This is the secret to how you can become powerful and effective.

Thus, the way to stop your impatience and irritability is to take responsibility for your own nasty thoughts. Taking responsibility for your thoughts is not the same thing as changing your negative thoughts to positive thoughts, which is what Cognitive Behavior Therapy teaches you to do.

Taking responsibility is a bigger, more inclusive way to become effective and powerful. When you take responsibility, you have the power to change your impatience to patience. Taking responsibility puts you in the drivers’ seat.

If someone else is attacking you, you do not, and never will have the power to stop him or her. However, if you are the one attacking you, you can stop when you learn how and decide to stop. When you take responsibility you move from being a victim to being master of the situation.

Back to my burning hand stuck in the tight yellow glove with bleach inside of it. Do not compare yourself to my response, which is based on 32 years of practice being patient with myself. Instead, learn from my example how your default can move from patience to impatience with enough practice.

Looking at the sight of my hand stuck in the yellow mess, all tangled up and wet, I suddenly laughed at myself. “Yelp,” I said to myself, “This is just like me.” The right glove was much tighter, at least a size smaller than the other glove when I put it on. The right glove was probability packaged incorrectly. But that had not stopped me from struggling to put it on in the first place.

Now, I was stuck in a bleached filled glove due to my own undoing. Seeing the humor in the situation, I quickly shifted my point of view bringing newfound energy. Without thinking about it, I yanked the glove off and was free. Relief!

Ah, I returned to my default of being loving and patient with myself. Patience is self-love and self-acceptance. Not only does it feel better to accept all my mistakes, accidents, and foibles, it makes me stronger and more effective!

It was learning to be patient with myself so many years ago that allowed me to enter my first vibrant moment as an adult. The whole world changes when you become patient with yourself. You drop down in the moment, clean up your mess, and continue onward and upward

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Mental Health Advice: Notice and Admit Your Impatience

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Admit You are Impatient.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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How often do you get impatient? And with whom?
How often to you get irritable? And with whom?

Here is part two of the answer to the question from a reader about how to deal with impatience and irritability. Last week I exposed the fact that sometimes you think you are impatient and you are not. If you missed this reversal of reality holistic psychology information please read it here: Mental Health Relationship Advice.

Ok, I was just impatient and irritable. For real. Right this moment, before I sat down to write.

I had to bleach clothes that had e coli on them in the washing machine. As a highly sensitive person, I hate bleach, it burns my eyes. Even wearing a pair of yellow rubber gloves I was concerned I could get the toxic chemicals on my shirt or pants. But I was being very, very careful.

After diluting the bleach in the water so it would not totally ruin my clothes, some of the e coli clothes I put in floated up to the top of the water. While pushing the yucky clothes back down into the bleached water, some of the heavily bleached water in the machine got on my right sleeve and dripped down into my right glove. Yee, gads!

Rushing up my steep Center City basement stairs to wash off the bleach, I tripped at the top of the stairs. Back on my feet, I reached the kitchen sink. Pulling at the right glove, to get it off as fast as I could, it would not come off. Yanking at it, pulling and pulling with all my might, I could not get the glove off my hand.

My hand was stuck in the glove with bleach inside and outside of it. This is the moment it happened. Never having gotten my hand stuck in a very, very tight yellow rubber glove before I did not know what to do. My eyes were burning, my hand began to burn due to a cut on my finger. I was trapped. I experienced helplessness.

So, the conditions for impatience, frustration, and irritability are:

1. Something does not go right or turn out like it is suppose to. Your expectations of the outcome are not the results.
2. Your actions to change the results and make them do as you want do not work. You are not being effective.

There you have it. When these conditions exist, you are ripe for getting impatient.

So, you need to notice and admit to yourself that you are impatient. It is you and you alone. No one else is to blame.  If you are blaming someone else for your impatient energy, stop blaming them or any other outside factors. You are the one with the impatient energy and that is that!

Notice your body and how tight it is. What do you feel? What are you experiencing? Notice your thoughts and how fast they are moving and what they are saying to you. Do you want to make any sounds?

I growl, “Erg, Erg, Erg,” clinch my teeth and experience being overwhelmed. My racing thoughts are attacking me, making me wrong, rushing me to do something different and complaining about the results I am getting.

Oops! Sorry, this answer is now too long so you must wait until next week to get the solutions to being impatient and irritable! If you feel impatient as a result, please notice.

Do take note this week of when you are impatient and the factors that make you irritable. Awareness is the first step toward positive change.

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Relationship Advice: Learn to Read Energy and Look Deeper into Your Heart

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Look Deeper.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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I received a question this week from a reader about how to deal with impatience and irritability.

How often do you get impatient? And with whom?
How often to you get irritable? And with whom?

It is always helpful to notice the energy of what you are experiencing first before you take action steps to change the energy. Using energy as a feedback tool is what sets the New Psychology apart from all the other psychological approaches. If you want to know more about who you are and what you are experiencing you must become more aware of your energy.

Are you really impatient or do you just think you are impatient?

Sometimes, the sneaky ego tells you that you are impatient and you are not. I notice this quite often with my clients. For example, this is what I hear, “Please, help me today with my meanness. I was so impatient with my mother this week.”

Because I read energy, even on the phone, I immediately distrusted my clients view of herself being “mean.” My client is highly sensitive, so, I asked her to tell me more details about what happened and what she did that was so unkind to her mother.

Sure enough, after I heard the whole story, it was clear she had not been impatient and mean with her mother. She was reserving reality. Her mother had been insensitive to her.

It is conceivable that you have the same misperception about your behavior. Perhaps you do not really feel impatient but think that you do. Maybe you are not behaving in an irritable way with people. Instead of impatience, you may feel resentment, anger, fear, or hurt.

Maybe something really important is going on underneath the energy you call impatience. Perchance your irritability is a sign you are not taking care of yourself. Could it be you need to be more assertive?

So, the first thing you need to do is notice the energy of what you are experiencing. It is mental or physical? Or emotional? Is it too fast, too slow? Is it weak, strong? Dark or light? Notice the weight, color, and texture. Are you in your ego or in your heart?

Learning to read energy is an essential skill for a holistic psychologist, therapist, coach, parent, and successful person. Ok, you are paying attention to your energy. Now what?

Next, you must look underneath the surface energy. Look deep into your heart. You want to see, hear, smell, taste, feel what is going on with your emotional self. You do not want to accept what your head and brain tell you without getting the concrete data you need to know your truth.

You want to feel the authentic energy directly so you know what is really going on inside of you. You could be upset about something that is really occurring. What if you became aware of an unhealthy relationship dynamic that you need to do something about?

That was the case with my client who thought she was mean to her mother. Underneath her perception that she was being mean to her mother was a mother who was judgmental toward her daughter’s new, healthy, assertive behaviors.

When you look under the surface you find your inner truths. Also, you learn how you are defined, controlled, confused, and manipulated by others. Most people and parents do not consciously define, control, confuse, and manipulate you. They are just passing on what they learned from their parents.

Nevertheless, it certainly empowers you if you know you are letting others define, control, confuse, and manipulate you! Then, you can learn to be assertive which results in healthier relationships and increased self-confidence. Next week, I will talk more about how to deal with impatience if you are really being impatient.

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The Power of Thank You, A Natural Law and Universal Truth

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Thank the Universe.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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Sometimes, I ask for directions on the street. After, I get the answer, I have been known to walk away without thanking the person. Sometimes, I ask the universe to send me something I need. After, I get what I need, I do not always remember to thank the universe for sending me what I need.

The universe does respond to what you need if you ask and stay open to receiving what you need. Recently, I needed a person to hold me accountable for working on the final stages of my book manuscript. I could not think of anyone who was perfect.

Unexpectedly, while catching up with an old friend of mine … she became the person I needed to help me. We have always encouraged each other’s creativity. She is an artist who needed help getting around to her drawing each week. Bingo!

Perfect! Win-win. I am holding her accountable for drawing each week while she holds me accountable for working on my manuscript. Ok, so I got what I needed. Now what?

Have I thanked the universe? No, not yet and I better! If you do NOT thank the universe for sending you what you need, it will not send you anything else! I discovered this during my early professional years of being very successful and then wondering what happened to my success!

If you want success to continue, thank the universe for your success. Take some time each day during this Thanksgiving week, to give thanks for all that you have. Be grateful and give thanks.

Thank your reliable mailman. Thank the UPS woman who knows your schedule and where you are so well she makes sure you get your package. Thank your family and friends.

Notice how you feel when you give thanks. Notice the results you get when you thank the universe for all that you have. Notice how the universe engages with you.

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Metaphysical Law: Bless What You Want and Need to Manifest Goal.

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Bless Your Heart.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
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My mother signed every card she sent me with “Bless you.” Sometimes, it was even “God bless you.” As a young psychologist, I did not like her religious tones and words. I threw her blessings into the trash in my Center City, Philadelphia home with irritation and disapproval.

As an older, wiser, holistic psychologist I write “Bless you.” and “Bless your heart” at the end of some of my emails. My 86-year-old mother has heard me say many times to her in the last decade, “Thank you mother for blessing me all those years. It finally paid off!”

“Mother, I am so grateful for your blessings. You are so smart. How did you know blessing me was the thing to do?” Mother gently replies, “I don’t know, I just knew to bless you and all that I love.”

Indeed. How wise my mother was and is. She still blesses me in each phone call and encounter we have. It is one of the many things I will miss when she passes. Her ever presence love and blessings will be sorely missed.

Huna psychology from Hawaii also teaches the power of blessing. Whatever you bless increases. This increase occurs because you give positive energy to that which you bless. There may be some other metaphysics magic that occurs that I do not know about, but I know for sure blessing something empowers me and that which I bless.

Try it yourself. If you want more money, bless those that are rich. Bless money in any and all forms. Bless paper money, real estate, stocks, and gold. Bless money to get more money. Notice if you judge and curse the rich. Cursing simply means that good old fashion disapproval I blasted upon my mother’s blessings.

I used to also curse money and the rich. My disapproval of money blocked me from having a good relationship with money. Finally, after years of rejecting money, I am close and loving with money. What a shift and what a joy to be in harmony with money!

Bless anything you want to receive. Bless healthy people to become healthy. Bless loving couples to become more loving. Thanksgiving is a wonderful holiday to remind you to use the power of blessing. Bless all that you love and want.

Start by blessing the Native American people for giving life and food to white man when he landed upon their shores.

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