Learn to Read Body Language, Feel Subtle Energy

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Feel Subtle Energy.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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Do colors jump out at you?
Do you smell odors others miss?
Do you know the outcome of events before it happens?

There are many differences between a holistic psychologist and a traditional psychologist. For a complete list of the differences between the old and new psychology check out the definition of the New Psychology here: http://www.drjeanette.com/newpsychology.html

One of the major differences is a holistic psychologist works with all of you. Working with all of you is what makes your psychological transformation and therapeutic process “wholistic.” This means your mind, body, and spirit are always included in how your problems are defined, addressed, and solved.

For example, if you already feel subtle energy, a holistic psychologist would teach you how to use your highly sensitive nature to move forward faster. If you did not trust your perceptions, I would teach you to feel the energy difference between your intuition and anxiety so you learn to trust and use your inner knowings to increase your self-esteem and be more successful.

After all, your intuition and inner knowing have not been damaged by your past learning history. So, no matter how much discouragement, neglect, and abuse you have experienced, you can learn to tap into your ability to sense, feel, taste, hear, see, and perceive the information and data that exists in your world.

Subtle energy means any energy that you do not normally notice. There are multitudes of inner and outer subtle energies you can become aware of and use to your advantage. Just sitting on a park bench with a completely relaxed body can expand your awareness of subtle energy if you pay attention to your feelings.

You can feel the tension in your body coming and going as you register your different anxiety levels as people come and go. You could feel and see the fear in others as they walk past you as you consciously improve your ability to read body language. You can even notice a harmful energy you need to get up and walk away from.

Being relaxed is essential if you want to sense more subtle energies. Like a good actor, you must relax your body in order to access your colorful emotions, your physical feelings, and the many other subtle realties that exist in your world.

Take time to relax wherever you are, and sense more of the subtle energy in your world. Relaxing gives you more vibrant moments, which lead to increased health and wellness, peace of mind, and good fortune.

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READ BODY LANGUAGE: If you want to be more effective and successful in your personal and professional relationships, learn to read body language. Accurate body language reading is humbling, intimate, and compassionate. My approach warns you against using formulas and other peoples’ “postures.” This body language audio was made for holistic health professionals and is rarely available for sale. Cost is $47.00, money-back guarantee.

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NOT TRUSTING YOUR PERCEPTIONS? You get a feeling in your gut and discount it. You have a dream about being sick and do not take heed. Get the professional help you need in learning how to accept, develop, and use your highly sensitive nature to your advantage. Order the special report: “7 Steps to Success as a Highly Sensitive Person.” 31-page PDF file, $19.97. Money-back guarantee.

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Mental Health Advice: Trust the Truth, Not False Beliefs

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Trust the Truth.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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Where are you stuck?
Can you tell the difference between false beliefs and truth?

Frequently, in holistic psychology sessions with my clients, I sense and feel a woman or man to be in a physical state of energy that is different from where he or she thinks they are. This is the reason it is so reliable and effective to use energy as the basis of the new, holistic psychology. The truth is easy to know when you learn to read and sense the information in physical and emotional energy.

For example, I hear a very harmonious male voice telling me that he is anxious and fearful and had a terrible week. His words do not fit his energy. His mental perception does not match up with his physical and emotional truth.

Or, I hear a woman tell me that she is doing great, everything is fine, and she sounds very depressed and miserable. Her mental perception has no basis in reality. Her energy is down and out, no matter what her thoughts are telling her, or what her words say to me.

In both these cases, the ego energy is reversing reality so the client does not know the truth. The man’s ego energy is telling him a false belief about his success in the hope of keeping him in control. The woman’s ego is telling her a false belief about her lack of success in the hope of keeping her in control.

You are full of false beliefs you learned from religions, governments, and parents. These false beliefs keep you stuck and controlled. You must know the difference between a false belief and the truth if you want to achieve self-esteem, be successful, and enjoy life.

You cannot stand in false beliefs and be successful. Only when you stand in reality can you manifest what you want in life. If you are a psychologist, coach, or therapist you need to know how to read energy so you teach your clients how to read energy. I teach my clients to read energy so they know when their ego is reversing reality and when they are standing in their truth.

Armed with this knowledge, they have the means with which they can become effective and successful. When you discover a reversal of reality that is fooling you, rejoice! You can learn how to break free from your false belief so you stand in your truth.

No matter what your truth is, you move forward immediately becoming stronger and more self-confident.

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REVERSING REALITY? This reversal of reality is often found in highly sensitive people who have been conditioned to distrust their perceptions. Could this be you or a loved one? Get the professional help you need in sorting through the confusing process of accepting, developing and using your highly sensitive gifts to your advantage. Order the special report: “7 Steps to Success as a Highly Sensitive Person.” 31-page PDF file, $19.97. Money-back guarantee.

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YOUR BODY DOES NOT LIE! The way to know the truth is to trust your body. Your body energy always tells the truth. The one-hour audio, “3 Reason You Have a Body: Hear Your Body Talking,” teaches you how to benefit from listening to your body so you become empowered by standing in your success. Cost is $29.97, money-back guarantee.

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ENERGY HEALING IN COLORADO. I will be offering private in-person energy healing sessions in Glenwood Springs, CO from Feb. 17-March 18, 2015. Sense and feel the difference between your false beliefs and the energy of truth. Learn to become more effective and successful. If interested, contact information at drjeanette.com

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When Life is Hard: Love Yourself, Stay with Emotions and Feelings

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Love Yourself.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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When life is hard and difficult, what do you do?

In early December, I wrote this: “Regular readers of The Vibrant Moment know that since last Spring my mother’s health has been failing. I shared my initial panic at the thought of her death in April and some of my ensuring fears and anxieties during the summer. Right now, I am by her side, as she is moving out of sight into another form. Death is the ultimate letting go for both her and her children.”

The reality that my mother was dying was the most difficult experience I have ever lived through. I was so sad, so often, for so long. What I felt and where I was was hard,and there was absolutely nothing I could do to make my mother’s death not be difficult.

This is the point of wise decisions. You stay with yourself when life is hard and difficult, or you go unconscious and miss wonderful vibrant moments all along the way. If you deny a hard and difficult reality, you block out everything else that is real. Your defensive wall of energy repeals light, vibrant moments, joy, pain, and love. This is a physical fact as well as a psychological fact.

Did you block out light and love as a child when life was hard without even knowing it? Most children do. This is the reason alternative therapy, emotional health coaching, energy work, and personal growth programs are essential. Working with a skilled professional teaches you how to stop blocking out the love and light that exists around you all the time.

You get much better results in life if you accept reality, accept your emotions and feelings, and love your authentic self each step of the way. The two major psychological problems that occurred when I did not love myself during my mother’s death were feeling guilty and feeling sorry for my mother.

I spent hours with my mother everyday for her last five weeks. Nevertheless, one Sunday, I felt sick, depressed, and miserable. As soon as I realized I felt guilty that I was not doing EVEN more for my mother AND feeling sorry for her, I climbed back out of the pity pit and stopped my self-judgments. You can also develop this life-saving skill to use when you get stuck in judgment and guilt.

My mother left her body Sunday, Jan. 25, 2015. Wow, is all I could say and all I can say. Wow. Conscious dying is as powerful as conscious living. There are intense, rich, deep, vibrant moments all along the way. The next time a loved one is dying, spend quality time with them. Feel them, get to know them without their mask, and trust the process of death just as you trust the process of life.

You will be richer and more alive, I promise.

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STOP JUDGMENT AND GUILT: Life is too short to make any decision based on guilt. I call Judgment and Guilt the two ugly sisters that make all of us feel bad. Judgment and Guilt make you anxious, depressed, and miserable. Learn the skills needed to stop self-judgments and say good-bye to guilt by studying “Find Peace Beyond Guilt and Judgment.” Develop self-loving skills to use when you are stuck in nasty energies! A one-hour personal growth audio, order as CD or mp3, only $29.97. Money-back guarantee.

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Anxiety, Fear, Desensitization, Relaxation and No More Nightmares!

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Relax into Fears.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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Thank you to a current client for the feedback about last week’s newsletter: “Just wanted to say I really enjoyed this one. Very informative.”

And for the question about real fears:

“I was wondering if you would consider doing a newsletter on real fears. I am often aware of real fears that pop up now that I have taken your anxiety course. I still don’t always know how to handle them, feel safe, or know how to proceed.”

When I was a little girl, living on a rural farm in North Carolina I had nightmares about big monster snakes chasing me. In reality, I lived with snakes all around me. Some were good snakes my father never killed because they ate the rodents. Some were bad snakes my father always killed because they could kill us.

My real fear was of putting my hand into the tomato patch to pick a delicious tomato where a copperhead snake might be taking a nap, this happened to my mother, or of stepping on a huge snake that was much longer than me in the grass as I ran to my favorite maple tree to play. This almost happened, but I stopped short of stepping on the snake because I saw a bit of black move in the deep grass just in time!

Real fears are everywhere and they never go away. As humans, we have to learn a great deal of essential information in order to survive. This means you must learn how to take care of yourself in relationship to many real dangers. If you want to be free and happy, learning how to stay safe needs to be your primary goal.

As a child, I did not know the difference between a bad and good snake even though my father was teaching me. When a snake was sighted, my father used a hoe to put it into a large plastic bucket with a lid. Containment kept the snake from hurting anyone. Then, he got the encyclopedia to identify the snake for himself and educate me. After he was sure it was a good snake, he let it go. If it was a bad snake he killed it.

My nightmares continued because the small picture in the book did not look anything like the real snake in the bucket. Besides, those little details on the head of the snake could only be seen when you were so close to the snake it could bite you. Ye gads!

When I was in the third grade, I checked a large, picture book out of the library about snakes. Somehow, I knew I needed to get closer to snakes. If I wanted to relax and feel safe, I had to stop being terrified of the cottonmouths that lived around the pond. It was clear they were not going to move out of the neighborhood!

So, slowly, a little bit at a time, I opened my library book and closed it. I looked at the different snakes over and over again until I could see them and not be terrified. I also read about snakes and studied their habits. Honestly, to this day, I still have trouble telling the difference between a good and bad snake on my adventures into nature.

Nevertheless, I learned enough about snakes to protect myself no matter where I find them. I trust myself to be wise and respectful to all creatures as I enjoy myself in nature. This same step-by-step desensitization process is what you must do until you relax into your fears.

Also, make sure you have the necessary education about the facts, habits, and realities of your real fear. Next, develop the abilities and self-confidence you need to take care of yourself in relationship to your fears.

When your out-of-control nightmares stop, you are no longer afraid.

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How to Let Go and Relax? Get Ready and Stay Safe.

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Let Go and Relax.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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I often get questions such as this: “Why is it that I cannot let go and relax?”

First, let’s define what letting go actually is: Letting go is relaxing, surrendering, flowing. An example is what you do or do not do in the natural river current. Do you go with the flow or resist the flow? To enjoy a vibrant moment, you are physically relaxed in the natural flow of energy around you.

The opposite of letting go is: posturing, deciding, controlling. When you fight to swim up stream or refuse to get in the water you are not letting go. You are controlling. You are trying to be in charge of what happens and make things the way you want them to be or not be.

Is it easy for you to relax and surrender? Or is it easy for you to control and decide? Unless you have engaged in years of personal growth, you probably are not comfortable relaxing and surrendering.

In order to let go of control and trust the reality around you you have to feel safe and secure with your ability to go with the flow. Is this river really safe and am I prepared and strong enough to go where it is going for the time I am in it? To reach this degree of physical and emotional security you must consciously examine and transform your real fears, learned anxieties, and mental judgments.

Therefore, the answer to the question, “Why is it that I cannot let go and relax?”is: You are afraid. Fear is what keeps you from letting go and relaxing. Anxiety is always involved, but underneath your irrational anxiety is a real fear (or real fears) that must be resolved in a way that allows you to be comfortable and secure.

Only when you are not afraid and anxious can you relax and surrender. This is a given. It would not be wise for you to let go and relax if you were in any real danger. Real fears must be taken seriously, and never denied. Real fears are nature’s way of keeping you safe and sane.

Regular readers of The Vibrant Moment know that since last Spring my mother’s health has been failing. I shared my initial panic at the thought of her death in April and some of my ensuring fears and anxieties during the summer. Right now, I am by her side, as she is moving out of sight into another form. Death is the ultimate letting go for both her and her children.

Invest in the time, energy, and effort that it takes to learn how to safely let go and relax as you move through real life events. There is no other psychological skill more important.

Learning how to let go and relax dramatically improves your experiences, adventures, and self-esteem. Do it.

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Personal Growth Advice: Put Power Tools in Your Toolbox, Learn How to Use Them!

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Use Your Tools Effectively.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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What tools do you have in your personal growth toolbox?
Do you know where and how to use each tool?

Let’s look into your toolbox and see how prepared you are for personal and professional success. You need a toolbox full of the best tools you can find. Where do you look for effective, powerful tools?

Are the available psychological offerings approved by managed care insurance enough to help you be effective and successful in reaching your personal growth goals? At the top of the current evidence based list traditional psychologists are teaching you in 2015 we find: Cognitive Behavior Therapy, Mindfulness, and EMDR

When I look at this list as a holistic psychology with thirty-seven years of experience teaching people how to successfully overcome anxiety, I see a limited list of techniques, which are tools. Before managed care, psychologists offered these evidence-based psychological tools: Relaxation Therapy, Desensitization, Assertiveness Training, Reality Therapy, Paradoxical Intention, Consciousness Raising, Sex Therapy, and meditation. Consider getting an education in some of these powerful techniques.

In addition to the above tools, my toolbox has: Body Language, Energy Awareness, Creative Meditation, Sound Therapy, Color Therapy, Music Therapy, Body Awareness, Emotional Awareness, Psycho-physical Exercises, Visualization, and High Play.

Of course you need a hammer, screwdriver, wrench, and pliers in your toolbox. Just one tool is not enough. Pick the most effective, powerful tools you can find and get your toolbox ready for personal growth. However, having the correct power tools in your toolbox is not enough.

Any technique is only as effective as the person using the tool. Do you know when, where, and how to use your CBT to be effective? Do you know when to you use your hammer and what to do with your mindfulness? You need good tools in the first place AND you must be able to use those tools effectively in real life.

For example, a friend recently complained to me that Relaxation Therapy had never helped him. He knew I studied with Joe Wolpe in the 1970’s. Dr. Wolpe, taught his students to desensitize people to anything that made them anxious using Relaxation Therapy. My friend complained to me that he had listened to so many relaxation audios and guided meditations over and over again and had never experienced any relief from his generalized anxiety.

My friend had Relaxation Therapy in his toolbox but he did not know how to use his relaxation tool effectively. To put a picture up on the wall, you have to pick up your hammer and hit the nail at the correct time, in the right way, to be effective. If you want to unlearn your anxiety responses you have to use your tool of relaxation with great precision.

If you do not use your relaxation response at the correct time to desensitize yourself to the proper specific stimulus then of course it does not work. Having the ability to relax, be mindful, meditate are not effective in the bigger picture of transformation unless you use your tools correctly. To be effective you must unlearn your unhelpful, anxious behaviors and avoidance reactions.

IMAGINE: You get your toolbox full of effective, power tools. You learn how to use your tools effectively so you hit the nail on the head, thereby reaching your personal and professional goals in 2015.

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How to Keep Your New Year’s Resolutions? Practice the Proper Action Steps!

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Be successful.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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Since positive change does not just happen, this means you have to Make It happen. So, to be successful, you must set in motion the mandatory actions that lead to your goals. Losing weight, eating better, feeling more self-confident, having a good sex life, and living more fully must be purposefully programmed for success.

For starters, you must know the real, physical pathway that leads to your goal. You need to know exactly what, when, where, and how to practice what you need to learn in order to reach your goal. Practicing the wrong behaviors at the wrong time can actually makes things worse, not better!

This always reminds me of Aunt Franny. Her physician told her to practice breathing twice every day for ten minutes. Caring about her health, Aunt Franny did as she was told. During a visit with Aunt Franny, she rushed out to the patio hyperventilating. She was breathless and red faced. Since this was not like Aunt Franny, I asked her what she was doing. She replied, “Practicing my breathing exercise, like my doctor told me to do for ten minutes.”

Wow, it was immediately clear her physician had not told her how to breathe properly. She was breathing the same old way she had always breathed. As a result, she was making herself hyperventilate. Instead of reducing her anxiety, her breathing practice had given her a full-blown panic attack. As a result, Aunt Franny’s heart was being damaged, instead of calmed down. Yes, I immediately gave her a lesson on how to breathe properly so that she did not hyperventilate and get herself into a panic the next time she did what the doctor ordered.

This is the reason it is imperative that you know how to breathe, relax, and be assertive in the proven ways that work. Just going out on your own, without the proper instructions from a competent teacher does not make you successful and effective. The correct education is essential. Also, be careful and picky when choosing your teachers. A client of mine recently increased her anxiety when she did what her Yoga teacher instructed her to do.

This means you need to work with professionals who are present with you in the moment and know the pathway that leads to your goals. Make sure you pick teachers, coaches, and holistic psychologists who practice what they preach. This means they show you, by example, how to reach your goals. Good mentors model the healthy behaviors you need to practice so you see the living proof of what they are teaching you.

IMAGINE: At the end of next year, you feel proud of yourself because you received the education you need. Then you practiced the new, correct skills so much that you became effective and successful in reaching your New Year’s Resolutions. Yahoo!

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ALREADY TAKEN THE ANXIETY COURSE? Want to be effective in getting more money and a better job? Get more of what you want from loved ones, supervisors, and strangers. The best investment you can make is becoming more assertive. Learn what is assertive behavior. Then, learn how to use your new skills in real life situations so you stay on the pathway to success. 46 pages, six hours of audio, $149.97, money-back guarantee.

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How to Keep Your New Year’s Resolutions

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Be Effective.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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Get real. Get ready. Roar!

This is my tag line. These short phrases sum up the process of transformation and successful personal growth. If you want your New Year’s Resolutions to bear fruit, you must put the natural laws of transformation into play in your own life.

Positive change does not just happen. Losing weight, eating better, feeling more self-confident, having a good sex life, and living more fully must be orchestrated. You do not achieve peak performance or have peak experiences without taking the pathway that leads to your goals.

Just imagine how much education and practice it takes for a musician to deliver beautiful sounds into your heart. Be realistic about how much coaching and practice it takes for a quarterback to throw a touchdown pass once in a while!

If you want to be effective, you also have to practice. However, before you practice, you must know what to practice! To achieve permanent weight loss you have to know what to do, how to do it and when to do it! Otherwise, you are wasting your time, money, and effort. The weight will come back in full force even after you suffer and deprive yourself.

To be effective, you need to know the exact pathway that leads to your goal. This is the reason education, coaching, and mentoring are the best investments you can make in 2015. If you invest in yourself, you will learn what, when, where, and how you need to practice, in order to be effective.

As noted in my tag line, the first general psychological state you must enter is: to get real. You cannot be in denial or exaggeration. You cannot be defensive or in an ego state. To be effective, you must sit in reality and be honest about yourself in every moment. Rose-colored, all-happiness, and everything positive realities do not work.

For example, if you are overweight, you must be honest about what your body looks like before you can lose weight. You have to look in the mirror and see what is there. It is only in reality that you can be effective. The laws of transformation and personal growth only work when you are in reality.

You cannot be effective and reach your New Year’s Resolutions being stuck in your head with positive or negative thoughts about reality. The first thing an effective coach, psychologist, or mentor teaches you is: to get real. Then, you learn what is the next step that leads directly toward your New Year’s Resolution.

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Grieving? Use the Holidays to Heal Your Heart

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Use the holidays to heal.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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It was eight days before Christmas when my heart was broken at the age of 34. I thought I would die and never get over losing my beloved.

The holidays are much more difficult if you have suffered a major relationship loss. If a loved one has died this year or is in the process of dying, the joy of the season is hard to find. If you were divorced this year or had a break up with your lover, the emotional pain in your broken heart may feel like its more than you can bear.

Currently, my mother’s health is failing and the anguish I feel in losing her is hard to be in. It helps me to remember the unexpected benefits I experienced when I was 34. I decided to stay with myself in my emotional pain, instead of running away or becoming more closed. My life was magically transformed by the natural process of feeling my authentic emotions.

The wide gaping hole in my heart, which I thought was delivered by the loss of my beloved, was just the tip of the iceberg. The loss revealed many long-time emotional hurts that where screaming at me because they needed to be healed. If I did not heal them, I could not grow as a person, become a better psychologist, and live a life of rich meaning and deep purpose.

What would happen if you opened up to your emotional wounds? You could also leave your ordinary and mundane life behind. You could discover that experiencing your hurt is the first sign of a more vibrant, meaningful life. Look at your loss from afar. Look up high or down deep to see how your suffering and pain can have meaning and purpose this holiday season.

Hurts create cracks in your heart. Cracks are the only way you can become more loving and receive more light. See your current hurt as the first sign of more life, vitality, and the beginning of many more vibrant moments.

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Holistic Psychology Solutions To Being Impatient, Irritable and Frustrated

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Become powerful.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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I trust you are looking forward to the third holistic psychology newsletter article about how to deal with impatience and irritability. If you missed the reversal of reality information about impatience read it here: http://thevibrantmoment.com/?p=1348
If you missed the description of exactly what impatient energy is read this:   http://thevibrantmoment.com/?p=1354

Solutions to being impatient and irritable.

To move from impatience to patience, the first thing you need to do is pay careful attention to your thoughts. If you have not been in effective therapy or taken personal growth courses that help you reveal your unconscious thoughts, you may not be aware of your nasty thoughts.

However, if you have been in successful therapy, you know you have mean thoughts stuffed in the dark recesses of your unconscious mind. If you do not know exactly what your nasty thoughts are saying to you, take the home study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally to find these buggers and expose them to the light of the conscious mind.

Last week I told you about my racing, out of control thoughts that were attacking me when I got my hand stuck in a very tight yellow glove. When you are impatient, your irrational thoughts are always making you wrong, rushing you to do something different and complaining about the results you are getting.

It is these attacking, irrational thoughts that affect your body, heart, and automatic nervous system. First you experience anxiety in your nervous system, then your anxiety creates feelings of impatience and irritability. Note that being irritable is what causes irritable bowel syndrome and other unpleasant physical diseases.

It stands to reason, if you catch your irrational thoughts making you anxious, you have an excellent chance to tame them. If the problem is inside your head, not outside in the world, you can certainly be effective. All you have to do is learn what, when, where, and how to tame your thoughts.

Yes, I know, sometimes other people really do attack you. In this case, you may think other people are causing you to be impatient. In some ways, they are! However, if you do not agree with what they are saying, they cannot continue to be the source of your anxiety and impatience. This is the secret to how you can become powerful and effective.

Thus, the way to stop your impatience and irritability is to take responsibility for your own nasty thoughts. Taking responsibility for your thoughts is not the same thing as changing your negative thoughts to positive thoughts, which is what Cognitive Behavior Therapy teaches you to do.

Taking responsibility is a bigger, more inclusive way to become effective and powerful. When you take responsibility, you have the power to change your impatience to patience. Taking responsibility puts you in the drivers’ seat.

If someone else is attacking you, you do not, and never will have the power to stop him or her. However, if you are the one attacking you, you can stop when you learn how and decide to stop. When you take responsibility you move from being a victim to being master of the situation.

Back to my burning hand stuck in the tight yellow glove with bleach inside of it. Do not compare yourself to my response, which is based on 32 years of practice being patient with myself. Instead, learn from my example how your default can move from patience to impatience with enough practice.

Looking at the sight of my hand stuck in the yellow mess, all tangled up and wet, I suddenly laughed at myself. “Yelp,” I said to myself, “This is just like me.” The right glove was much tighter, at least a size smaller than the other glove when I put it on. The right glove was probability packaged incorrectly. But that had not stopped me from struggling to put it on in the first place.

Now, I was stuck in a bleached filled glove due to my own undoing. Seeing the humor in the situation, I quickly shifted my point of view bringing newfound energy. Without thinking about it, I yanked the glove off and was free. Relief!

Ah, I returned to my default of being loving and patient with myself. Patience is self-love and self-acceptance. Not only does it feel better to accept all my mistakes, accidents, and foibles, it makes me stronger and more effective!

It was learning to be patient with myself so many years ago that allowed me to enter my first vibrant moment as an adult. The whole world changes when you become patient with yourself. You drop down in the moment, clean up your mess, and continue onward and upward

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