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Personal Growth Tip: Wake Up to Your Human Potential With Relaxation

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Jump into the water! Jump into Life!

 

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember:  Get Unstuck.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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Definition of Stuck: Not moving forward. Living a mundane and ordinary life. No passion and joy.

Do you work, eat, sleep and repeat the same behaviors day after day? If so, you are going through your life without feelings and emotions.  This means you are stuck in an ordinary and mundane life.

This phrase, “ordinary and mundane,” is taken from Dr. Charles Tart’s book, Waking Up: Overcoming the Obstacles to Human Potential, which I read in the late 1980s.  “The Vibrant Moment” exists to help you wake up and do a whole lot more than just get through your day.

How Awake and Alive Are You?

It is possible that ordinary consciousness may feel normal for you because you have not experienced anything else in so long you have forgotten the delicious extraordinary feelings you were born with.  Therefore, you may not be aware that you are living the moments of your life without passion, fire and joy.

On the other hand, perhaps you have enjoyed vibrant moments, peak performances and peak experiences from time to time.  However, stress and anxiety have unconsciously taken over your waking life.  As a result, you have settled back down into ordinary consciousness without even knowing it.

Or maybe you are grieving a great loss.  It is easy to get stuck in the grieving progress and become depressed instead of moving forward.  You may have dropped down out of ordinary mundane consciousness into a deeper level of depression.

Whatever the reason, you may be stuck in routine living, depression and anxiety without even knowing you are stuck in the daily grind of the walking dead.

To have more vibrant moments, you need to know when, where, how and why you are stuck.  To know when you are stuck, you have to increase your awareness. To increase your awareness, you need outside feedback that gives you some degree of objective data.

This means you need many different kinds of feedback systems that alert you to where your mental health, emotional security and body awareness are at any given moment in time.  I use mentors, groups and holistic health practitioners to wake me up and notify me that I have gotten stuck in the ordinary and mundane.  I also have my own daily feedback barometers.

Use Daily Activities to Notice When You Are Stuck

Just getting through a swim is not the same thing as enjoying a swim.  As a swimmer, I use how I feel and how much I enjoy my swim as a barometer of my state of being in the world.  I have many different kinds of swimming experiences.  Each swimming experience gives me concrete feedback about my consciousness and state of being alive.

There is the:
1. Delicious, flowing through the sensuous water with my whole body swim
2. Enjoyable, relaxing swim, where the mind is quiet and still
3. Fun, playful, feel good swim, where there is no thinking
4. Mean and lean exercise swim
5.  So-so swim, where the thoughts distracted me more than not.
6.  Did I even swim? swim, where my brain was in charge

I love swimming so much I don’t have a bad swim or a boring swim. But you may want to add bad and boring along with other specific qualities to your own feedback list.

Create Your Own Aliveness Feedback Barometer

To create your own Aliveness Barometer, think about some experience you do daily or several times a week.  For example, if you take walks, you can use your walking experiences. Make a list of all the difference kinds of walks you have.  Describe your walks honestly so that you can use each walk to increase your awareness of how present, alive and vibrant you are in the moment.

Then use your feedback to become more awake and alive.  If your feedback tells you that you are stuck in the ordinary and mundane, this means you are anxious. The less you enjoy something, the more anxious you are.

To correct the problem you need to begin to feel your body more and feel your emotions more. These two sensory experiences will start to bring more life energy into
your daily grind.

You only have one life to live. Get unstuck and allow more passion, joy and excitement into your precious moments. Reduce your anxiety and relax your body so you can perceive
the colors that are always dancing and playing around you before it is too late.

Peak performances, peak experiences and vibrant moments do not happen by accident. They happen because you show up and allow yourself to be in your body and emotions in physical reality. They happen because you reduce your anxiety and
relax into your body.

Please share your thoughts, feelings and feedback about body awareness, emotional expression and peak performances below.

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How to Handle Emotional Distress? Achieve Emotional Health and Wellness

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember:  Weather the Storm.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
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How prepared are you for stormy weather?
How prepared are you for emotional distress?

For most of us, stormy weather will always occur somewhere in the future forecast.  There could even be a Sandy type hurricane or Oklahoma tornado, right around the corner. This is also true in terms of your emotional health.

No matter what your current emotional health status, emotional distress will show up on your radar.

When I was getting my motorcycle driver’s license in 1987, the teacher said, “It is not a matter of if you will fall off the bike, it is a matter of when you will fall off the bike.” He repeated this several times so that this physical reality soaked into his students’ bones.

This is sage wisdom that you could also take to heart and use to prepare for the next time you experience emotional reality.  It is not a matter of if emotional distress will occur in your life, it is a matter of when you will once again be tossed about by some outside force that you cannot control.

This means you need to be prepared so you can weather the next emotional distress storm that comes your way.  Relationships are not perfect. You are not perfect. Relationships challenge every aspect of your emotional health and wellness.

Often it is the person you love the most who behaves in ways that hurt you the most.

Other people’s behavior affects you and pushes you around.  If you have not shored up your ship ahead of time, you will have a tendency to react, drown and surrender.  In which case, you will probably experience helplessness, hopelessness, anxiety, depression and other mental health problems.

Therefore, you need to develop the ability to weather the emotional distress of others as they rage around you.  You can learn to handle your own emotional distress skillfully so that you flourish instead of flounder during relationship conflicts.

For example, when you experience the negative fallout of another person’s behavior, you could hold steady at the helm.  This means you have the ability to take care of yourself instead of reacting with a knee jerk response.  I hear some of you saying, “How can I possibility do this?  It is unrealistic and not possible.”

Trust me, there is a way and the path is true to emotional health and wellness.  The way to take care of yourself is to be in touch with and stay with your self emotionally through the storm. There are two steps that will make sure you weather the emotional distress storms of life.

The Way to Weather Emotional Distress Storms:

1.  Become aware of the emotional truths that exist as real energy in your heart and body.
2.  Act on your emotional truths as soon as you have the courage to do so.

The first step is awareness. When you know what you really feel, want and need, you are in a position where you could use your power. You have the knowledge needed to take care of yourself if you so choose.  If you don’t know what you really feel, want and need, you cannot do anything to protect yourself from outside factors.  Lack of emotional awareness results in helplessness, insecurity and low self-esteem.

The second step is to develop the assertive skills needed to act on the behalf of your emotional truths.  If you take the actions needed to take care of yourself during the storm, you will move out of emotional distress into calmer weather.  Being assertive ensures that your needs are meet and your desires are honored.

You can definitely hold the helm in a steadfast manner as others react around you. When you use your assertive relationship skills with others, you feel good.  When you are effective, you feel strong and sturdy.  The benefit is more self-confidence and emotional security.

Learn to handle emotional distress by taking care of yourself emotionally through any type of weather.

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Definition of Self-Actualization: 12 Traits of The Self-Actualized Person

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Self-actualization is when you bloom like this flower.

 

 

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember:  Realize Thyself.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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Do you long to be free, happy, healthy and fulfilled?

The original Indian Yoga masters taught people how to reach self-realization though spiritual practice.  An American psychologist, Abraham Maslow reintroduced this idea to the psychological community in the 1950’s by observing how some people had reached a healthy psychological state he called self-actualization.

As a child, I spent hundreds of hours on the long school bus ride from my farm house to school, dreaming of what I wanted my life to look like.  I did not want to work from morning till night and have very little fun like my parents. I wanted to live an exciting, interesting life full of fun.

Therefore, when I read Maslow’s description of a self-actualized person in my college psychology course, I knew I was on a definite path to be the best self I could be.  You too, can get on the pathway that leads to a self-actualized person.

Here are 12 traits of The Self-Actualized Person to inspire you to continue your personal growth, accelerate your investment in your professional development or get started on your pathway to self-actualization.

Notice which traits you already have and feel proud of your personal growth success.  Then start working on the traits that you need to develop in yourself.  Enjoy the process of adding new, healthy self-actualization traits that enhance your self-esteem and make your life meaningful and enjoyable.

12 Traits of The Self-Actualized Person

1.  Realistic and likes the unknown
2.  Accepts self and others, does not judge self and others
3.  Spontaneous, natural, genuine
4.  Happy alone and with others
5.  Independent and self-sufficient
6.  Highly ethical and moral
7.  Does not let culture, religion or government dictate actions
8.  Has a good sense of humor
9.  Lives a creative life
10. Does not have unhealthy attachments to people or ideas
11. Has a global vision, not self-centered
12. Enjoys peak experiences

The Vibrant Moment exists to help you acknowledge, use and express your unique human potential so that you reach self-actualization. When you move toward self-realization your problems, pains and blocks fall away behind you and trouble you no more.

Let the flow be with you.

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Learned Helplessness? Treat Depression and Sexual Problems with Baby Love

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Do you have any sensory memories of being a baby? Can you empathize with your real, in the flesh, past history of being a bundle of joy?

Once upon a time your physical reality was as a baby.  Babies are helpless. When a baby’s needs are met, they are a bundle of joy.  You can see, feel, taste, hear and smell the good vibrations coming off of human babies.

“Baby Love” became the Supremes’ number one Motown song because it reminded us of the joys and benefits of being a baby.

Being comfortable with the baby part of you means you:
Relax and receive what you need to be physically strong and healthy.
Love other people easily and sweetly.
Enjoy being in the moments of your life.

Babies are fully in the moment. Therefore, babies radiate mucho vital energy in all directions so they live in vibrant moments.  This means being able to access your baby self is good for your holistic health and wellness.  As a matter of fact, being in the moment and radiating healthy energy is essential for good physical and mental health.

How often do you allow yourself to feel helpless like a baby?  Probably not very often.  If you are like most people, helplessness is a feeling you defend against because it makes you feel very, very uncomfortable.

This week when I was joyfully moving my large house plants outside into my backyard, I found evidence of new water damage in my house. The crumbling wall was proof that the last roofer I hired to fix my slow, occasional water leak had not fixed my ongoing water problem.  I felt like crying.  I felt inadequate, impotent and helpless.

Do a Personal Growth Check Up.

When you feel helpless, sometimes you really are helpless and sometimes you are not really helpless.  It really does not matter.  You need to allow yourself to feel helpless when you feel helpless if you want to be achieve holistic health and wellness.

How often do you let go and let yourself feel helpless?  Can you remember the last time? In reality, you really are helpless about many situations, events and actions taken by other people, governments and religions.

Next, notice how often you defend against your feelings of helplessness.   Defensive behavior means you do something to avoid your feelings of helplessness. When you avoid your feelings of helplessness, you cannot access the benefits of being your baby self.

After finding my water damage, I felt helpless for a couple of hours as I went about my spring cleaning.  By dinner time I was not feeling helpless and I could talk about the problem.   After a delicious, relaxing dinner, I sat down at my computer and wrote my roofer an email telling him about the new leak and asked him to come by and help me.

If I had defended against my feelings of helplessness, my psychological experience of life would have been much different.  When you defend against something, you spend massive amounts of energy to avoid feeling what you really feel.

In a defensive state, you obsess about the problem or repress the problem.  You go to bed anxious and uncomfortable and do not know the real reason you feel so bad.  You are unconscious, numb and grey. You could become very depressed and not not want to get out of bed.

On the other hand, if you let yourself feel helpless, soon you move forward.  In my situation, I was not really helpless.  I took positive assertive action and my expert roofer came by Monday afternoon and we had a good time connecting as he did his exploratory work.

However, sometimes you really are helpless.  In some situations, your assertive actions cannot change realty because you do not have any power to effect the outcome.  When this occurs, you move forward as you feel your helplessness, let go and accept reality.

So access your Baby Love Self. Helpless or not, love your relaxed and receptive state for stellar holistic health and wellness.  Get your energy grooving by singing along with Elvis Presley, “SANTA BRING MY BABY BACK TO ME.”

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Love and Relationship Advice: Use Body Language to Improve Self-Esteem and Personal Growth

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Denial is your worst enemy.  Denial can be the difference between successful personal growth and unsuccessful personal growth. Denial lowers your self-esteem and ruins relationships.

What is Denial?

Denial is when you think one thing and another thing is real in physical form.  Denial is when you have an image of yourself that is not based in reality. This image can be a puffed up perfect image of yourself or a low self-esteem image.

In my audio series, “Opening the Heart,” I use the example of my Philadelphia trolley driver.  The trolley driver was ferociously biting his fingernails as he was driving me to the sound studio where I recorded the heart healing audio series. He did not seem to have any awareness of what his teeth were doing to the tips of his fingers.

The communication the trolley driver’s body was sending to the world was crystal clear.  An educated person could look at his behavior and see what his body was communicating.  Reading his body language it was obvious his unconscious act of biting his fingernails meant he was extremely anxious at that moment in time.

Yet, if I had asked the Philadelphia trolly driver if he was anxious, he would probably say, “No, I am not anxious. I am not afraid of anything. I drive this trolley everyday. There is nothing to be afraid of.”

However, his body was clearly communicating to an educated observer that he was in a highly anxious state as he was driving his trolley.  The driver was denying he had high anxiety, yet his nervous system was extremely upset.

Is Your Denial Destroying Your Personal Development?

If you have not been getting the results that you want or need, consider the possibility that you could be stuck in denial.  If you have not been able to relax and feel close to others so you can reach your relationship goals, look around for your denial.

Denial is a total waste of energy. It keeps you from knowing that you are anxious.  Every single human being on the planet right now has some degree of anxiety in their nervous system.  Therefore, if you are not in touch with your anxiety level, as it comes and goes on a daily basis, then you are in denial.

It is only logical that you cannot do anything to become less anxious until you admit that you are anxious! This means you need to expose your denial so your personal growth pays out big dividends. Expose your denial so you can relax, be close with others and enjoy life.

How to Expose Your Denial?

If you consider the physical information around you, your personal growth will immediately become wildly successful.  This is because feedback from the real world exposes psychological denial.

One of the first things I did when my heart was broken at the age of 34 was look in the mirror.  Mirrors give you concrete feedback that you can learn to see and use for your personal development.  The image in the mirror is reality. Reality destroys denial.

It does not matter what you think or what you tell yourself, your physical body reveals the truth. To overcome denial, begin by observing your body and pay attention to what your body is actually doing in real time.

Body Exercise to Break Through Denial:

Looking in the mirror can be extremely helpful. Look at yourself to see physical feedback about what is happening in your nervous system. See if you can tell how you are really feeling inside.

Other people look at you all the time.

It is to your advantage to see what others are seeing. Take off all your clothes and stand in front of a full length mirror.  Look at yourself in the mirror for a good five minutes. If you cannot do this exercise without your clothes, start with your clothes on.

1.  Look at your whole body from the front.
2.  Turn and look at the back of your body.
3.  Now look at both sides of your body.
4.  Pay attention to your face, what do you see?
5.  How is your face attached to your body?
6.  If your face separate or part of your body?
6.  Write down all the places you see tension in your body.
7.  Write down all the mental judgments you notice in your head.

Admitting the truth to yourself about what you see and how you feel standing naked in front of a mirror will help you begin to give up denial.  To make dramatic progress, enjoy a daily practice of stopping to look at who is in the mirror.

The faster you give up denial, the faster you will be able to accept and love yourself–just as you are, naked and real.  Say goodbye to denial and ego images, they don’t improve your self-esteem or help you make love.

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Solution to Violence in USA: Improve Mental Health, Begin with Pleasure and Native Culture

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Pleasure often has a dirty connotation.

If you indulge yourself in pleasure, some would call you a “sinner”, “hedonist”, “selfish” or “wanton”. One of the sources of judgment in the USA against pleasure is definitely the Puritan society that Americans inherited.  Unfortunately, the Puritan cover-up-your-whole-body-with-lots-of-clothes culture replaced the Native American culture who wore just the clothes that were needed.

These Puritans came from British and still have quite a bit of control over our modern day culture.  Michael Moore’s documentary, Bowling for Columbine ended with these funny dressed Puritans as a possible source of the violence in America.

How far removed are you from the thinking that made Hester Prynne wear a scarlet letter on her dress?  Have you found judgments against pleasure in your unconscious? Probably so. Quite a few nasty judgments toward physical pleasure have been exposed in my psyche as I have broken away from my Puritan conditioning.

The cross-cultural research conducted by James W. Prescott in the 1970s found that pleasure was the antidote for violence.  Dr. Prescott, a neuropsychologist found a strong direct correlation between the amount of bodily pleasure parents gave their children and the degree to which violent behavior existed in the culture.

The Polynesian cultures were the least violent cultures and they were the ones who physically touched and loved their infants the most. It is not a surprise that he discovered that cultures who hit their children had the most violence.  Important psychological studies like this do not get the attention they need from the media, college professors, congress or clinical psychologists.

In my professional opinion, bodily pleasure is the solution to violence in America. Gun control will not improve the mental health of children who grow up and act out in violent ways at schools, marathons and theaters.  It is the mental health of America that must be improved if you want to stop violent behavior.

Until mental health is taken seriously and parents learn how to grow mentally healthy children, violence acts will continue to occur at an alarming rate. Dr. Prescott’s research is an excellent place to begin reducing violence. Pleasure is one of the alternative medicines I use to treat aggressive behavior, depression, anxiety, addictions, obsessions and general bad feelings.

If pleasure works for all these conditions, just think what adding more pleasure to your life could do for your health and wellness. Do you know what kinds of activities make you feel good?

Find Out What Bodily Pleasures You Need Exercise:

Close your eyes and take three deep breaths. Then ask your body to visually show or tell you the three pleasures it needs and wants in order to be strong, healthy and happy.  Listen carefully.  Write down the three things.

Notice any judgments you have toward these activities. Do you usually let your judgments keep you from giving these physical pleasures to yourself? Pay attention to any guilt that might be hanging around left over from those mean Puritans who wanted to see Hester suffer and hanged.

I hope you can take action and add these three pleasures to your life. Pleasure will help you reach holistic health because you will experience many vibrant moments of being alive.

Please share your thoughts, feelings and feedback about mental health, violence and pleasure by adding your comment.

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Personal Growth Tip: Get Excited, Follow Your Bliss and Heart

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Often I remind you how important it is to use relaxation therapy until you have a reliable, dependable relaxation response at your fingertips.  Yes, it is imperative that you have the ability to achieve a calm and still state so your body and nerves can receive the healthy energy you need from the outside world.

However, relaxation is not enough.

You also need to be able to get fully excited in your whole body.

You must get excited in order to charge your bodily systems with positive, vital energy.  Getting excited is what gives your body the fuel it needs to reach holistic health.  Daily doses of vital energy are essential if you want to achieve good mental health and physical strength.

However, one of the obstacles I have noticed over the 36 years I have been helping people is that many are afraid of getting excited.  As people go through the transformation process toward self-actualization, they get stuck because they do not want to get turned on and passionate about anything. It is too scary.

Take inventory of yourself.

Are you comfortable when you get excited?
Do you ignore your passions?
Are you afraid to let go of control?
Do your desires scare you?

Depression is the opposite of excitement.  Are you so afraid of your passions and excitement that you depress your energy?

Anxiety is what you feel as you become excited.  Are you able to move pass your irrational thoughts, Killjoy Monsters and Inner Critics to the open free vibrant moments of being alive?

If you want holistic health, you must allow yourself to get fully excited. When you are excited, you feel tingles of energy moving through your body.  You get goosebumps as your skin and nervous system respond to the pleasurable energy being received.

When you experience goosebumps, you are living in a vibrant moment.  Vibrant moments are full of strong, emotional energy. This potent energy automatically gives you holistic health. Happiness is the natural side effect you receive because it feels so good to be alive and full of energy.

Spring energy is exciting, fun and joyful.

In the Northern Hemisphere, use the spring energy all around you to fuel your fire so you get excited.  In the Southern Hemisphere, use your imagination to fuel your fire for holistic health.

Resonate with spring energy.  Feel the ing in the spring.  Feel the excitement of Mother Earth as she wakes up. Feel the excitement in you as you wake up.

Let spring energy put some spring in your step and joy in your heart.

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TAME YOUR KILLJOY MONSTER: You will get excited when you learn to tame your Killjoy Monster.  Take the home study course, “Stop the World From Pushing You Around: Six Weeks to Solid Self-Confidence.”   Learn to be assertive with negative thoughts from others or yourself.  Slay negative thoughts so you get excited and passionate about life. 46 pages, six lessons and six hours of audio, $149.97.

Read about Assertiveness Training the Holistic Psychology Way:
http://www.drjeanette.com/assertivenesstrainingcourse.html

Order by Monday, April 22 and get a discount coupon worth $25.00 on your next purchase. You must mention The Vibrant Moment in the check out box.

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GET EXCITED:  Attend the Spring Nature Workshop in Cape May, NJ, Saturday, May 4.  Enjoy full body exercises made to help you get excited and feel safe while being turned on. The theme will focus on helping you experience more pleasure and joy in life without judgment and guilt.  $200.00 fee.  Limited to 12 men and women.

Read more and sign up:
http://www.drjeanette.com/natureworkshops.html

Bring a friend discount. Two for $300.00
To get the friend discount you must mail a check to:
Doris Jeanette
503 S. 21 St.
Philadelphia, PA 19146

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Holistic Health and Wellness Treatments that Make You Healthy and Happy

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember:  Love yourself.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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How many times a day do you say kind things to your body?
Do you check in daily to see what your emotional self needs?

If you ignore, reject and hate your body, you will get one set of results. If you love your body and take care of it, you will get another set of results.

If you hate your emotions when they surface and wish you did not feel that way, you will get one set of results.  If you take positive actions as a result of the vital information you receive from your emotional self, you will get another set of results.

Health and wellness are not accidents. Disease and sickness do not occur as random acts of probability.  Health and wellness are direct results of certain well-defined factors.
One of the most important factors, and a factor that you have complete mastery over is how much you love yourself.

If you listen to your emotions, you will discover exactly what you need to do differently in order to meet your emotional needs. If you don’t meet your emotional needs, there is no way you can achieve health and wellness or happiness and self-actualization.

Loving yourself is often considered hokey, unfashionable, silly or down right sinful.  Yes, most religions and many judgmental parents teach you to hate your body and ignore your emotional needs.

You have been taught that:
“You are a terrible sinner.”
“Your body is dirty.”
“Sex is sinful.”
“Your emotional needs are not important, get over it.”
“Just stop being afraid and do it.”

However, no matter what others have taught you, natural law prevails. Self-acceptance is the only way you will ever reach holistic health and wellness.  Self-rejection will always result in a lack of mental health and emotional health.

If you do not love your body and take care of it, there is no way you can have a strong and sturdy body.  An unloved body is sick and moving toward mental illness or physical disease.
If you do not love your emotional self and take care of your emotional needs, there is no way you can achieve mental health and wellness.  You will never be happy or experience the joy of self-actualization.

Self-love is the best drug you can find anywhere in the world. Self-acceptance will take you directly to health and wellness. You can even get immediate results when you self-administer this natural treatment in the moments of your life.

Self-love is the most potent medication you can buy at any price.  An investment in learning how to love yourself is worth your life.  So take a dose of self-love today if you want to move toward health and wellness.

Holistic Health and Wellness Natural Treatments:

1.   Say something kind to your body at least three times today and notice the effect.  See if you can feel how self-love energy feels in your body as opposed to self-rejection.  Notice how your nervous system, cells, muscles, stomach and organs respond when you say something kind.

2.  Spend 5 minutes twice a day slowing down and tuning into your heart. Look around and see if you can find your emotional self. This part of you is keeping your vital energy alive so you can use it as needed for health and wellness.  Establish a loving connection with your emotional self. Listen to the feedback she or he gives you about what you need to do differently today in order to feel emotionally good today. Take action on the feedback you receive and see how good you feel all over.

If something is in your way or making it difficult for you to connect in a loving way with your emotional self, use the “Opening the Heart” emotional health audio guide.  Or get a teacher to show you how to find, accept and follow your potent emotional self.

What do you feel is the direct pathway to health and wellness?  Please share your thoughts, feelings and feedback on this blog.

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LOVE YOUR BODY:  Stop hating and rejecting your body. Learn more about the reasons you have a physical body in the first place.  Get holistic psychology support and guidance about how to take care of your body for more health and wellness. One hour personal growth audio, “Hear Your Body Talking,” $29.97, money back guarantee.

Read how to love your body and order: http://www.drjeanette.com/hearyourbody.html

Order by Monday, April 15 and get a discount coupon worth $30.00 on your next purchase. Must mention “The Vibrant Moment” to get discount.

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GET A LESSON IN SELF-LOVE:  Attend the spring Nature Workshop in Cape May, NJ, Saturday, May 4. Enjoy fun body and emotional health exercises made to help you love your body and emotional self. Get practice feeling emotionally safe and physically secure.  As a Vibrant Moment reader, sign up early and get a discount off the $200.00 fee.  Limited to 12 men and women.

Read more and sign up:
http://www.drjeanette.com/natureworkshops.html

Sign up before April 15 for $175.00.
To get the $25.00 discount you must mail a check to:
Doris Jeanette
503 S. 21 St.
Philadelphia, PA 19146

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VIRTUAL GROUP RELAXATION THERAPY:  Join a small group on Skype once a month for four months.  I will help you fine tune your relaxation response so you can sense and feel more color.  The group will take place on the first Wednesday night of each month beginning at 6:30 PM, ET, in May.  Cost will be $149.00 for four-hour sessions, limited to six people. Email me about your interest. Group times and dates can be changed if members need them changed due to prior commitments.

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Earth Day 2013, Free Relaxation Workshop for Holistic Health, Near PA and NYC

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember:  Love Mother Earth
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com
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What are your feelings toward Mother Earth?
How intimate are you with her?

We have a U.S. Senator, Gaylord Nelson, to thank for raising the consciousness of Americans about their relationship to Mother Earth.  Gaylord’s continued environmental efforts finally paid off in 1970, when his nationwide protest called National Earth Day, received amazing support.  An estimated 20 million people took to the streets and parks willing to stand up for Mother Earth.

Since I grew up on a self-sustaining, 300 acre farm in North Carolina, I was not aware that so many Americans were disconnected from nature. Therefore, I did not realize how important Earth Day was until five years later when I ended up in Center City, Philadelphia surrounded by anxious people rushing to and from work every day.

The anxious people that came to my office to receive Relaxation Therapy and Assertiveness Training slowed down. I taught men and women how to stop rushing to and from their work so their blood pressure could return to normal. The clients who received the most positive results, were the ones who learned to relax their physical body and feel their emotional feelings.

The more I researched what worked and what did not work in terms of anxiety, depression and other mental health problems, the more I realized how disconnected most humans were from their own physical body. Everyone was in their head, thinking.

Therefore, my goal as a clinical psychologist and sex therapist became clear:  getting people out of their heads into their body.  That was when my new holistic psychology approach began to really take off.  I began to work in nature, exploring more effective ways of helping people.  I did my first Nature Workshop in 1984.

It is a fact that people are more relaxed in nature. The only exception is someone with a history of abuse that is associated with nature.  Forest, river or beach scenes are always picked as relaxing, by both men and women.  I began to understand how essential a physical connection to Mother Earth is for humans.

Some traditional psychologists understand that it is unhealthy for a child to be disconnected physically from his mother.  This is called “Attachment.” Without a healthy attachment to your mother, you cannot grow into an emotionally mature person who can connect and be close to other people.  Without a healthy attachment to some loving adult, you have trouble with relationships, intimacy, love making and self-esteem.

Therefore, I can say, with absolute certainty, that any type of mental health problem is the direct result of being disconnected.  To feel emotionally secure, you must have a physical connection with your human mother or some other loving person.  To feel physically secure, you must have a physical connection to Mother Earth.

Being disconnected causes mental, emotional and physical health problems.  An attachment problem can be overcome by learning how to connect with Mother Earth.  Holistic health can be achieved as an adult–no matter what was lacking in your past learning history.

Come meet me April 27, at Core Creek Park’s Free Earth Day Celebration In Langhorne, PA, just north of Philadelphia.  From 11:15 till noon,  I will be conducting a free relaxation workshop with Earth lovers. For more about this free relaxation workshop visit: http://www.drjeanette.com/earthday.html

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GET CLOSE TO MOTHER EARTH:  Attend the spring Nature Workshop in Cape May, NJ, Saturday, May 4. Enjoy fun body exercises made to connect you with your body and Mother Earth. Get real live practice feeling emotionally safe and physically secure.  As a Vibrant Moment reader, sign up early and get a discount off the $200.00 fee.  Limited to 12 men and women.

Read more and sign up:
http://www.drjeanette.com/natureworkshops.html

Sign up before April 15 for $175.00.
To get the $25.00 discount you must mail a check to:
Doris Jeanette
503 S. 21 St.
Philadelphia, PA 19146

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VIRTUAL GROUP RELAXATION THERAPY.  Join a small group on Skype once a month for four months.  I will help you fine tune your relaxation response so you can sense and feel more color.  The group will take place on the first Wednesday night of each month beginning at 6:30 PM, ET, in May.  Cost will be $149.00 for four-hour sessions, limited to six people. Email me about your interest. Group times and dates can be changed if members need them changed due to prior commitments.

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Assertiveness Training Improves the Sounds in Your Voice for Better Holistic Health

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Use your ears to hear and listen.

The Vibrant Moment – Remember:  Hear your emotions.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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What does your voice say about you?

Do you listen to other people’s voice for information?
Do you listen to your own voice for feedback?

The power of sound starts early in life. Babies can recognize their mother’s voice in the womb. Canadian and Chinese researchers documented this bit of data in 2003 with a publication in Psychological Science. This means you recognize the voice of people you know without even thinking about it.

The exciting news is that you can also learn to read the data and information that is in the voice moment by moment.  Just think of the knowledge and wisdom you would have if you took the time to listen to the tones in the sounds of the voice.  You would know a great deal about what is really going on with yourself and with others.

Yesterday, while I was working on my income taxes, I received a call from a woman asking if I was accepting new clients. She had very flat tones in her voice and many of the pitches were missing.  The few pitches that she had in her voice were very heavy and dark.

As soon as I heard her voice, I knew that depression was her major problem.  I immediately sensed the depth of her depression and how heavy her body energy was from the vibrations in her voice. The sounds in her voice helped me guide her into the important issues in her life right away so that we did not waste time on surface, superficial conversation.

As soon as I shared with her what I needed to teach her in order to turn her heavy, depressed energy into healthy, moving energy, she was ready to take action. As a result of using the data from her voice to connect with her intimately on the phone, our first session will be extremely productive.  We will get right to work on the source problem and not waste any time getting to know each other and taking a long drawn out history.

The tones in your voice are audible and palpable. There are computers programs that measure the pitches in your voice to see if all the normal pitches are present or not.  If pitches are missing, there is a high probability that some sort of disease process is going on with your physical body.

Holistic psychology is an effective, safe way to treat any missing tones in your voice.  Your mind and body cannot be separated.  You are a whole, full body human energy system. The sounds in your voice are vibrations. Your voice tones reflect physical matter.  Your voice tells you the truth about your mental, emotional and physical health.

You can learn to recognize your own emotional state simply by listening to your voice. You can use the data in your voice to help you achieve personal growth, effective communication, better relationships and holistic health.

No one else sounds like you. Listen to your sounds, moment by moment, to discover more about yourself.  Do this with love, not judgment.

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NEED HELP IMPROVING YOUR VOICE TONES? Take the holistic psychology Assertiveness Training home study course, “Stop the World From Pushing You Around: Six Weeks to Solid Self-Confidence.”  Your voice immediately reveals how strong, sturdy and assertive you are to others.  Assertiveness Training gives you the essential communication skills you need to speak up for yourself.  Becoming more assertive will quickly improve the tones, pitches and power in your voice. This Assertiveness Training Manual is a pdf file with 46 pages and over six hours of audio with real live coaching sessions.  $149.97 and money back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/assertivenesstrainingcourse.html

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PRACTICE BEING ASSERTIVE WITH OTHERS:  Attend the spring Nature Workshop in Cape May, NJ, Saturday, May 4. Enjoy fun body exercises made to help you assert and express yourself effectively to others. Get the real live Assertiveness Training practice you need to stand up for yourself and speak your truth.  As a Vibrant Moment reader you can sign up early and get a discount off the $200.00 fee.  Limited to 12 men and women.

Read more and sign up:
http://www.drjeanette.com/natureworkshops.html

Sign up before April 15 for $175.00.
To get the $25.00 discount you must mail a check to:
Doris Jeanette
503 S. 21 St.
Philadelphia, PA 19146

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VIRTUAL GROUP RELAXATION THERAPY.  Join a small group on Skype once a month for four months.  I will help you fine tune your relaxation response so you can sense and feel more color.  The group will take place on the first Wednesday night of each month beginning at 6:30 PM, ET, in May.  Cost will be $149.00 for four-hour sessions, limited to six people. Email me about your interest. Group times and dates can be changed if members need them changed due to prior commitments.

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