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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Weather the Storm.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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How prepared are you for stormy weather?
How prepared are you for emotional distress?
For most of us, stormy weather will always occur somewhere in the future forecast. There could even be a Sandy type hurricane or Oklahoma tornado, right around the corner. This is also true in terms of your emotional health.
No matter what your current emotional health status, emotional distress will show up on your radar.
When I was getting my motorcycle driver’s license in 1987, the teacher said, “It is not a matter of if you will fall off the bike, it is a matter of when you will fall off the bike.” He repeated this several times so that this physical reality soaked into his students’ bones.
This is sage wisdom that you could also take to heart and use to prepare for the next time you experience emotional reality. It is not a matter of if emotional distress will occur in your life, it is a matter of when you will once again be tossed about by some outside force that you cannot control.
This means you need to be prepared so you can weather the next emotional distress storm that comes your way. Relationships are not perfect. You are not perfect. Relationships challenge every aspect of your emotional health and wellness.
Often it is the person you love the most who behaves in ways that hurt you the most.
Other people’s behavior affects you and pushes you around. If you have not shored up your ship ahead of time, you will have a tendency to react, drown and surrender. In which case, you will probably experience helplessness, hopelessness, anxiety, depression and other mental health problems.
Therefore, you need to develop the ability to weather the emotional distress of others as they rage around you. You can learn to handle your own emotional distress skillfully so that you flourish instead of flounder during relationship conflicts.
For example, when you experience the negative fallout of another person’s behavior, you could hold steady at the helm. This means you have the ability to take care of yourself instead of reacting with a knee jerk response. I hear some of you saying, “How can I possibility do this? It is unrealistic and not possible.”
Trust me, there is a way and the path is true to emotional health and wellness. The way to take care of yourself is to be in touch with and stay with your self emotionally through the storm. There are two steps that will make sure you weather the emotional distress storms of life.
The Way to Weather Emotional Distress Storms:
1. Become aware of the emotional truths that exist as real energy in your heart and body.
2. Act on your emotional truths as soon as you have the courage to do so.
The first step is awareness. When you know what you really feel, want and need, you are in a position where you could use your power. You have the knowledge needed to take care of yourself if you so choose. If you don’t know what you really feel, want and need, you cannot do anything to protect yourself from outside factors. Lack of emotional awareness results in helplessness, insecurity and low self-esteem.
The second step is to develop the assertive skills needed to act on the behalf of your emotional truths. If you take the actions needed to take care of yourself during the storm, you will move out of emotional distress into calmer weather. Being assertive ensures that your needs are meet and your desires are honored.
You can definitely hold the helm in a steadfast manner as others react around you. When you use your assertive relationship skills with others, you feel good. When you are effective, you feel strong and sturdy. The benefit is more self-confidence and emotional security.
Learn to handle emotional distress by taking care of yourself emotionally through any type of weather.
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