Holistic Health Tip: Clean Up Your Unconsious, Become More Aware of Body Wisdom

 

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember:  Become more aware.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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Several readers of The Vibrant Moment mentioned to me within the last month that they are dealing with serious physical problems.  I recently got a common cold that lingered on for three weeks with a stubborn cough keeping me awake at night.

All of us are humbled from time to time with physical challenges.  Once the body is weak and sick, it takes much more energy to heal and become stronger than it does to stay healthy and strong in the first place.

However, never be judgmental toward your body when you are sick. It is not your body’s fault that you are sick. Remember this fact and do not forget this fact. It is not your body’s responsibility that you are sick, so do not attack your body and be mad at your body.

Instead, be kind and gentle with yourself when your body is weak, sick and not healthy. Give yourself whatever you need to become healthy, using the very best of Western, Eastern and Natural Holistic Healing approaches.

Obviously, it is essential to work at the physical level when you are physically sick. In addition, it is equally important to work at the emotional, mental and energetic levels when you are sick.  This is the reason I do not understand why physicians are booked up for weeks in advance and psychologists, body workers, energy workers and holistic health practitioners are not.

If you want to reach and maintain good holistic health, you need to rush to the people who teach you how to become more aware of the energy that is making you sick.  You need to become aware of the psychological reasons you are sick. Do not rush to physicians for treatments and medications that do not cure your physical problems.

Usually, you do not know what is making you sick.  Just as you may not know that eating tuna everyday could result in mercury poisoning that is slowing killing your body, you may not know the psychological reasons you are getting weak, sick and suffering pain.

The reason you do not know what is making you sick is that the psychological facts and truths are in your unconscious.  You are not aware of what you are doing to create disease and disharmony in your body and cells. You are not aware of what you need to be aware of in order to become healthier and stronger in the flesh. How could you be?

You cannot be aware of something you are not aware of. This is the reason you must work with others that teach you how to become more aware of what you are not aware of!  Rush to skilled, competent professionals who teach you to become more aware of what is lurking in your unconscious.

What you do not know can make you sick and could eventually kill you earlier than your natural death.  This is the reason it is important to take the time to become more aware of what you do not know.  Getting sick is based on certain facts. Getting sick does not happen out of the blue. You can learn the reasons you get sick so you can help yourself become healthier over time by addressing the cause.

So, get the physical treatments you need immediately to help yourself when you are sick. Then rush to holistic health professionals and holistic psychologists who teach you how to become more aware.  You must bring your unconscious truths up to the conscious mind so you are more aware of the inner and outer realities that are making you sick.

If you do not become aware of how you are creating disharmony in your body, cells, psyche, mind, brain, heart and energy, you cannot change and stop it. If you do not become aware of self-rejection and transform this energy into self-acceptance, you could die before your natural death process begins.  And you could suffer from physical pain and discomfort needlessly along the way.

When your body is sick, listen and learn from the physical reality that exists in the moment. Discover what is really going on deep in your unconscious.  Your body knows how to heal itself. Get out of the way and listen to your body’s wisdom.

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Keep New Year’s Resolutions, Take Action for Successful Personal Growth

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Light your fire.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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Do you know what stops you from being open, relaxed and fit?

Let us recap what you learned last week about how to keep your New Year’s Resolutions so you feel proud and pleased with yourself by the end of 2014.

How to Keep Your New Year’s Resolutions

Be realistic
Set yourself up for success, not failure
Feel proud of last year’s successes
Learn to stand in your success
Take responsibility for your actions or lack of actions
Use your intention to get energy moving forward
Take appropriate action that leads to success

Failure to keep your New Year’s Resolutions is due to one psychological factor, anxiety. For example, if you want to lose weight you must reduce your anxiety. Anxiety is what makes you eat too much. If you want to be more open, you must reduce your anxiety. Anxiety is what causes you to be distrustful of others. If you want to be more fit, it is anxiety that you must get out of your nervous system and physical body in order to become physically healthy and strong.

Apply this anxiety help to all of your New Year’s Resolutions. Anxiety makes you drink too much, push away love, not move, move too fast and defend yourself in relationships. Anxiety is what makes you stop pursuing your New Year’s Resolutions by the end of January!

Therefore, the action step you must take if you want to be successful with any New Year’s Resolution is to reduce the anxiety that currently exists in your body and nervous system. Anxiety is like static on the radio, it interferes with your ability to perform at your best in any situation. Anxiety is never helpful. Anxiety is a maladaptive conditioned response.

Maladaptive conditioned response means you learned to be anxious in a past learning experience and this response is not helpful. Period. This is the definition of anxiety. A little bit of anxiety is never good for you. Real fear, on the other hand, is helpful. Fear keeps you safe and sane.

Rest assured there are real solutions to any and all psychological problems and relationships issues. If you want to be open and trust people, you can learn to be open and trust people. If you want to reduce your anxiety, you can learn, step by step, exactly how to reduce your anxiety.

Do not sit in helplessness, thinking you cannot reduce your anxiety. Anxiety is learned, and you can unlearn it. Light some fire underneath your butt to make sure you take the positive action steps that take you directly to your New Year’s Resolutions.

Get excited and take some baby steps into more pleasurable moments in 2014.

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Two Home Study Courses Lead to Success

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Read more and order:
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If this sounds exciting to you, order the Assertiveness Training online course, “Stop the World From Pushing You Around: Six Weeks to Solid Self-Confidence,” 47 pages, over six hours of audio, cost $149.97, money back guarantee.

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Both courses include essential body awareness information that make sure your New Year’s Resolutions come true because you are transforming your anxiety energy into effective energy.

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How to Keep Your New Year’s Resolutions? Feel Proud

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Feel proud.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com
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Like removing dirty clothes, it feels good to let go of 2013. Like putting on fresh, clean clothes, it feels fantastic to walk into the brand new year of 2014. It is exciting to know that this new year offers new possibilities and promises that you could embrace if you so choose.

It is always helpful to take stock of your personal growth and review the successes you achieved over the last year. If you want to permanently improve your self-confidence, it is essential to take the time to celebrate your successes and feel proud of yourself. You need to make the successes yours.

To help you own your successes, write down the personal growth and professional achievements you accomplished in 2013. No matter how small your success, write it down and know that baby steps are the way you learn to dance in the world. Your written material will give you concrete data you can use the next time your ego starts to find fault with everything about you!

Next, you need to celebrate your successes in some way that feels good to you. Reward yourself with something that you love. It is also important to not forget about your successes. Instead, remember your successes as you walk into the New Year. Take time each day to feel proud of yourself and feel good about yourself.

Body Awareness Exercise

To help you anchor your successes into the physical plane, think of your successes as you feel your body and stand up tall with pride. Then continue to stand in your success as you walk around inside your house. If you have attended one of my workshops or phone sessions, you know these body awareness exercises are effective and fun. Next, take your new body posture outside in the world and enjoy your new body self-confidence.

Body awareness exercises help you own your power to make sure you learn a new physical sense of self-confidence that no one can take away from you. The addition of this body awareness factor is what makes my new psychology approach and home study courses more effective than traditional personal growth courses.

Take Responsibility

You must also remind yourself that you took specific actions that lead to your successes; they did not just happen to you. You are the one who took the proper actions that led to reaching your goal. It does not matter how good your teachers, mentors and coaches are, you are the one who did the work that led your to accomplishments. Like it or not, you are responsible for your successes and failures.

Intend to Make 2014 Even Better.

Write down your New Year Resolutions, goals, desires and needs. Choose to be part of the 12% of people who successfully reach their New Year’s Resolutions. It would be a waste of energy for you to be part of the 88% who drop the ball by the end of January!

You can lose weight, make more money, have more fun, improve your sex life, become healthier and attract more loving relationships by the end of 2014. If you take yourself seriously and make a definite plan on how to reach your New Year’s resolution, you will be successful. There is no reason for you to drop the ball and fail.

To succeed, you must be realistic. Do not set yourself up for failure. Set yourself up for success. Set a goal that you know you will reach. If losing weight is your New Year’s Resolution, plan to lose one pound a week. And know that some weeks you will not even lose one. That is reality and reality is the path that leads to success.

To be successful, you also need to make sure your weight loss program is not based on controlling yourself and your diet. Control is not successful with any New Year’s resolution because it is not pleasurable. Never try to make yourself do something or not do something if you want to reach your New Year’s resolutions. If the activity is not fun and enjoyable, you will quickly drop the ball and fail.

More next week on how to keep your New Year’s Resolutions. For this week, stand in your successes and feel proud. Then write down realistic New Year’s Resolutions outlining a successful personal growth pathway.

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Two Home Study Courses Help You Reach Your New Year’s Resolutions.

INCREASE BODY AWARENESS: Enjoy more relaxation, fun and self-acceptance. Take the home study course, “Overcome Anxiety Naturally.” In the first lesson learn how to stop anxiety attacks and increase body awareness so you successfully overcome your anxiety response. Since anxiety is the source of all failure, this course ensures you reach your New Year’s Resolutions and keep improving as the year goes by. 10 written lessons and 5 hours of audio which, includes the best-selling “Opening the Heart” series. $149.97, money back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/anxietyonlinecourse.html

USE YOUR POWER: Assertiveness Training is an essential skill that you must have to be effective with loved ones, your boss and your own ego. Even if you have taken an Assertiveness Training course before, benefit from the body and energy awareness approach included in this course that is not included in other AT courses. You also get a much needed tune up! Just like a piano, you go out of tune if you do not keep tuning yourself.

If this sounds beneficial to you, order the Assertiveness Training online course, “Stop the World From Pushing You Around: Six Weeks to Solid Self-Confidence,” 47 pages, over six hours of audio, cost $149.97, money back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/assertivenesstrainingcourse.html

NEW YEAR SPECIAL: Order one home study course and get the other one half off. Ask for your discount coupon when you place your first order. Must order course by Monday, Jan 13, 2014.

Both courses include essential body awareness information that make sure your New Year’s Resolutions come true because you are transforming your anxious energy into effective energy.

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Relationship Advice: Open Your Heart to Increase Natural Health and Wellness

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: To connect with others.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
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Were you able to explore, find or plug into another person this week? Better than before? Or with a new person?

Last week I explained the magic that happens between you and another person when both of you are open and let each other close. The extra energy that you experience when you are plugged into another person is amazingly strong. This is the reason opening your heart is so beneficial to your health and wellness.

When you connect with another person, you literally have more healthy energy available to you to use as you please. This automatically makes you stronger in body and mind. Just being close to one other person gives you many natural health and wellness benefits. You feel better about yourself, have more self-confidence, feel saner, more grounded and loved. This is just for starters.

This energy exchange between you and others is potent. Do not just think of romantic love; that is of course, potent. However, the mother and child relationship and the friend relationship are equally potent. The mother and child relationship is the first and most potent relationship.

Therein lies the problem most people have with intimacy. Not to blame mothers, my wish is to make you more aware of how important it is to be attached to your mother in a healthy way. If your mother was not good at attachment or you have an unhealthy attachment with your mother, then you need to correct this relationship problem now.

As an adult, you can learn to be emotionally and physically attached to others in a healthy, emotionally mature fashion. There is no reason to blame yourself or your mother. There is nothing missing from your learning that you cannot supply yourself. You can learn to feel safe and comfortable being open so others can connect with you.

Take the time to invest in yourself so you experience the natural health and wellness benefits of being connected to other human beings.

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Relationship Advice: How to Get Close to Others? Plug in!

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The Vibrant Moment – Plug In to Connect.

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Do you long to be close to others emotionally?
Do you want to give and receive hugs with ease?

I used to watch other students at East Carolina University, a very long time ago, hug each other with comfort and ease. As a freshman psychology student, I desired to have the closeness I saw between my fellow classmates. Yet, I did not have a clue how the boys and girls I saw connected so effortlessly with each other.

During my sophomore year, my desire to be close to people outside of my family gave me the courage to allow my friends to move closer to me. Slowly, I relaxed into the comfort of sitting closer to friends in the dorm and at the student center. I shared my feelings with them by writing poetry and letting them read it, especially when the poem was about them. As I let my friends see who I really was inside, the magic happened – we connected.

After studying the emotional and energy dynamics of relationships for 37 years, I know that being intimate is a fact that is supported by solid physical data. This is the reason I base my new holistic psychology approach on energy and the laws of physics. It does not matter what you think; if you want to be close to others, you must allow a physical connection to take place.

There is a specific point, spot, physical place where you must plug into another person. There are no words or topic that allows a connection to occur. However, you can use words and topics to find a way to get into another person’s world. You must find a point of entry into the other person’s reality. You must be an emotionally safe person in order to be successful. Otherwise, you are not trustworthy. Once you plug into the other person, they must receive you.

When there is an energy exchange between two people, the magic happens.

Most people miss each other. They live their lives on the surface bouncing off each other. They think they are close to others and yet their body is not relaxed enough to make a physical connection. Neither is their heart open enough to allow a genuine emotional intimacy to occur.

Do you let others close?

Your image, which is your ego, is composed of frozen energy, which does not allow a genuine physical connection to occur. Therefore, if you relate, image to image and ego to ego, you do not experience a genuine closeness because you are not literally plugging into another person. Images and egos bounce off each other and do not connect energetically with each other.

Therefore, if you share your image and ego with others you feel empty, isolated and void. On the other hand, if you share the emotional truth in your heart and the physical truth in your body, there is a chance another person will receive you. If they do, you experience a delicious, exciting, comforting vibrant moment. You feel full of life because your real self has connected with another real self and there is the magic of intimacy.

In order to share yourself with others you have to know yourself. So the first step is to connect with your real emotional and physical self. You must be connected with yourself before others can connect with you. Otherwise there is no real place for others to plug in.

Plug into yourself to connect with others.

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Relationship Advice: Expose Self Pity to Find Assertive Behavior

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Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com
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Continuing our pursuit of happiness, we are on a mission to discover if and when we are whining.

Last week you learned that it is essential to notice process and not content if you want to know the psychological truth of anything. Otherwise you are fooled by the words that are inside your head or being said by others.

You also learned that it is better to whine when you feel like whining than it is to depress, repress and deny your whining.  Here is last week’s free holistic psychology article if you have not read it.

I also promised to give you a clear definition of whining and healthy emotional expression this week so you know for sure if you are whining or not.

Huge Difference Between Whining and Emotional Expression

Definition of Whining

Whining is a high-pitched, out of control behavior that keeps you stuck in the victim role. Whining occurs when you feel helpless, hopeless, weak and miserable.  Your energy goes around and around in a circle repeating itself. You hear and say the same words, notes and tones over and over again.

When you whine, you are stuck. This means you do not move forward into positive or healthy energy.   You are in a psychological place that is similar to what physicists call a black hole.  You are stuck in a bottomless pit that is sucking energy from the outside in toward you. Your energy is black, dark, dense, grey, heavy and unhealthy.

Whining is only one of many ways that you feel sorry for yourself.  You also complain, blame, criticize and hide behind the “poor me” image.

I felt sorry for myself for years and my talk therapist never once mentioned this behavior to me. Therefore, I never stopped feeling sorry for myself because I did not know that I was feeling sorry for myself.

Definition of Healthy Emotional Expression

Healthy emotional expression is revealing the truth about how you feel emotionally. Emotional expression is not out of control or unconscious.  You are aware of your body and physical surroundings as you express your emotions and feelings.

As soon as you begin to express how you feel, your emotional state changes and shifts.  You are not stuck in the victim role.  Instead, as you continue to express your real emotions, you move forward so that you experience emotional relief.  You are more aware and alive.

Not only do you feel better when you express your emotions, you have more energy.  Emotional expression immediately adds vital energy to your body and energy field. Naturally, this makes you physically stronger.  Your energy is moving outward and you are not pulling energy toward you into a bottomless pit.

Your energy is colorful, moving, lighter and healthy. Different tones and pitches occur as you continue to express yourself through your natural process until the emotional issue is resolved. Then you feel emotionally stronger and more self-confident.

Notice When You Feel Sorry for Yourself

Awareness is the first step in transformation and successful personal growth. No one likes to admit we are feeling sorry for ourselves; it is just so uncool.

Nevertheless, everyone on the planet feels sorry for themselves from time to time. We learned it from our parents, religions and cultures.

Therefore, do not waste money, time and energy trying to keep the fact that you feel sorry for yourself in your unconscious.  Do not depress, repress or deny your whining.  The consequences of keeping your whining behavior in your unconscious are:

You:
Are unhappy and do not know the reason why.
Are unsatisfied in your relationships with others.
Feel like others do not love you.
Feel like others do not understand you.
Feel alone and isolated.
Think you are better than others.
Think you are worse than others.
Think everyone else is the problem and not you.

Finally, I left talk therapy and began to pay attention to process, my body and energy.  Soon, I noticed that I repeated the same behavior over and over again and this behavior did not bear fruit.

It dawned on me, while sitting in a comfortable chair in my living room, that I was feeling sorry for myself. Oh horrors of horrors! Reading energy, I discovered I was stuck in a black hole feeling sorry for myself and there I was going to stay until I learned a more effective way to get what I needed and wanted.

This awareness turned into an amazing relief.  At last I knew something I was doing that I could actually change.

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Assertiveness Moves Beyond Talk Therapy into Nature, Energy and Power

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember:  Assert Your Truth.
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A reader of The Vibrant Moment expressed how she was feeling about some medical problems she just found out about in a recent email to me. Then she abruptly called herself out on “whining. ” Of course, as soon as she judged herself as whining, she immediately stopped sharing how she was feeling and changed the topic.

Do you block your emotional expressions by calling yourself names?

If you do, you are making sure you do not move forward into new, unexplored emotional territory.  If you want to do transformational work, which means you physically change your energy, you must express your truths no matter what they are at any given moment in time.

Of course, I do not encourage whining. However, are you really whining? Maybe yes and maybe no.   If you want to get to the heart of what is really going on with you psychologically, do not stop your truths at any point in time.

Even if you are whining, stopping yourself in this fashion keeps you from getting down to your unconscious truths.  While knowing the difference between expressing your authentic feelings and whining is important, it is even more important not to block self-expression in the moment it is happening.

This means it is better to whine so you can see that you are whining, rather than stop yourself from whining before you can tell if you are whining or not!  The act of controlling your energy is the oppressive psychological problem, not the whining.

Just imagine if you stepped back and look at your process instead of your words. As a holistic psychologist, I teach you to notice your process so you discover what is really going on inside of you and outside of you.  If you do not let your unconscious material surface, it continues to control you.  The only way to claim your power is to expose your truths.

If you stay stuck in the content, you quickly sink into psychobabble, which is what often happens in regular talk therapy.  You also reinforce your controlling behavior of trying not to whine.  You think that you are whining, complaining and being negative, but are you really?  And if you are, “So what?”

How much power would you have if you learned to notice the how, what, when, where and why behind your words?  When you pay attention to process, you quickly move beyond your thoughts and conditioned reactions into more physical data. Noticing your process gives you the energy needed to master yourself.

It does not matter if you are whining or not.  When you pay attention to your process, you may discover that you were not whining in the first place.  Or you may see that you are whining.  If so, you can learn a more effective way to get what you need or want.

Here is my clinical observation about whining and whiners.  When you judge yourself as whining, there is a high probability that you are not whining.  The whiner usually has no awareness of the fact that she or he is whining.  The whiner does not notice how she is being received by others because she is not conscious of it.

I will explain the energy difference between whining and expressing your authentic feelings and emotions next week.  In the mean time, help me do some research about what I just said about whiners. Observe yourself this week and observe other people. Is my clinical observation correct? Do whiners judge themselves and stop? Or do whiners keep whining?

Please post your feelings, thoughts and comments about self-awareness, emotional expression and whining below.

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Relaxation and Anxiety Help: Get Rid of Judgment and Live a Guilt Free Life

pillowThis pillow is waiting for you to relax. Rest easy and dream with the angels.

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Enjoy the moment.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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August 7, 2013 is National Play Day. This is a great reminder for adults and children to get outside and have fun moving and grooving.

National Play Day is a wonderful follow up to my recommendation last week to the regular The Vibrant Moment readers. I suggested for good mental health you need to enjoy some pleasure every single day.  Here is the link if you did not read it: https://thevibrantmoment.com/?p=688

So, were some of you able to add more pleasures this week? I sure did. I call vibrant moments being in heaven on earth.

Here is a list of some of my heavenly moments:

Swimming in a beautiful blue pool cleaned and softened by rain water
Swimming slowly on my back looking up at the glorious blue sky
Strolling in Rittenhouse Park while giving and receiving smiles
Cooking walnut crusted trout, Swiss shard and corn on the cob
Eating walnut crusted trout, Swiss shard and corn on the cob
Relaxing in a lounge chair outside looking at green trees and insects flying around
Sipping coffee with bits and pieces of pound cake underneath a canopy of trees
Gently resting my head on my buckwheat pillow in clean sheets
Taking a warm, long shower after hard housework

If you were not successful in enjoying more pleasurable moments this week, ask yourself, “What stopped me?”

In the USA, our Puritan and Germanic backgrounds rewards hard work and staying busy.  If you work hard, you are rewarded.  If you do not stay busy, you are punished.  This means that if you want to avoid punishment you have to keep working and stay busy all the time.  This is what most people do.

Resting, doing nothing, relaxing and enjoying life is a sin. Yes, a sin.

This Puritan Ethic conditioning is hard to break free from once it takes hold in your body and psyche.  If you do not pay attention to how your conditioning stops you from enjoying pleasure, you cannot put into practice the action steps needed to break out of the bad habit of not relaxing.

At the age of 34, I consciously let go of control and relaxed.  Immediately, the most painful guilt experiences crippled me again and brought me back into control.    Every time I relaxed, I felt like a sinner. Every time I experienced pleasure, I felt like I was sinning.

No wonder I had such trouble learning how to relax in the first place! Every time I relaxed, I judged myself as lazy. Or to be more precise, I heard my father’s voice in my head calling me, “Lazy.” His judgment stopped me dead in my tracks and tightened up every muscle in my body.

Later in life when my father was dying, he confessed to me that he desperately wanted nothing more in life but to be able to put his feet up, kick back and relax. But he couldn’t. He just could not relax, no matter what he tried to do.

I suggested to him that he could stop making himself wrong when he relaxed. However, he was never able to rest, do nothing and enjoy just being in the moment. My father died an anxious man. While it is too late for my father, it is not too late for you.

If you listen, you can hear the exact judgments you learned from your parents, teachers and priests.  These mental judgments keep you from relaxing and being in the moment.  You must get rid of your mental judgments if you want to kick back and enjoy the moments of your life.

Of course, when you break free, you experience guilt.

Guilt is a given. This is when you really have to pay attention so you eliminate the irrational judgments in your head and keep moving forward.  If not, guilt puts you right back into darkness, anxiety and depression.

So, using learning research, I felt like a lazy person for a while and continued to relax my body.  I felt like a sinner over and over again, as I continued to enjoy the pleasures of living in the body.

Soon the control guilt had over me began to vanish and I could kick back and enjoy the moment without any guilt what so ever.

Share your feelings, thoughts and comments about guilt, guilt-free living, control, workaholics, Puritan conditioning and relaxation therapy below.

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Sexual Health Tip: Pleasure and Feeling Good is Best Holistic Health Medicine

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Relaxing in nature gives me a great deal of pleasure.

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember:  Feel Good.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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How often do you let yourself feel good?

Virginia Johnson, of Masters and Johnson fame, died at the age of 88 last week.  Reading the story of her life in the NY Times on Sunday sure did bring back some fond memories of being trained as a sex therapist at Temple Medical School in 1976.

1976 was a wonderful time to be alive and studying psychology on the East Coast.  Masters and Johnson had studied the physiology of human sexual behavior in a laboratory in Missouri. Their sex research was the basis of our training as sex therapists.

I had the physical facts:
1.  The size of the penis does not affect the pleasure a man can give a woman.
2.  Intercourse is not necessarily the best way to have an orgasm for a woman.
3.  A vaginal orgasm is exactly the same as a clitoral orgasm.
4.  Old people enjoy sex just as much as young people.
5.  Some women can have an orgasm without any physical stimulation at all.

At the Behavior Therapy Unit, we cured premature ejaculation in almost every man who walked in our door.  Premature ejaculation was easy to treat by reducing a man’s anxiety in the sexual situation. Using similar methods we dramatically improved every woman’s sexual response with and without a partner.

I became known as the sex therapist who was effective with the more difficult to treat erectile dysfunction clients and thus began my private practice. 1976 was an exciting time to be alive in Philadelphia, USA.

Controlling your body and emotions are in vogue in 2013.

In sharp contrast, today’s psychologists label you and physicians drug you for sexual problems, anxiety, depression and normal grieving.  Pleasure seems to be a no-no.  Feeling good seems to have gotten a very bad reputation.

Drugs diminish your feeling ability instead of enhancing your feeling ability. Medications impair your ability to have whole body, sensual, delicious orgasms. Please remember, sex is only one of several ways you can experience pleasure and have an orgasm.

If you want to enjoy more vibrant moments and holistic health in your daily life, stay away from drugs and medication. Drugs mask problems, cure nothing and stop you from feeling good.

Do you avoid pleasure in your daily life?

Notice how often you stop yourself from having pleasure this week. Little pleasures, big pleasures. Mental pleasures, body pleasures, heart pleasures.  If you do not let yourself feel good and experience pleasure, you are sure to become weaker and weaker until you get sick.

Before you know it, your mind wanders away, your behavior becomes addictive, your body atrophies and your heart attacks you.  All of these physical results are trying to get your attention. Your real self is screaming at you, “Let me feel good!”

You need pleasure to achieve holistic health, happiness and a sustainable future. Give yourself time every day to receive pleasure in any form. Choose your pleasures based on your personal needs and desires.

Tell me about your favorite pleasures and psychological blocks to feeling good below.

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Depression Help: Sing the Blues to Keep Moving Through Your Grief and Grieving

whitelakeA fun time at White Lake, North Carolina

Notice the little girl playing with the water instead of looking at the camera. That’s me. My love affair with water began at an early age.

 

 

The Vibrant Moment – Remember:  Sing Your Blues.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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It seemed like nothing mattered anymore. I didn’t care if I went swimming or not, even though swimming is my favorite activity. I did not care what I ate, even though looking forward to delicious food and yummy tastes used to be a daily pleasure.

How often to you feel blah, blue or bored?

I mentioned two weeks ago that it is easy to get stuck in depression during the natural grieving progress.  Take note of the losses you have suffered recently that you need to grieve so that you can move forward instead of getting stuck in depressed energy.

Have you lost your:
Job?
House?
Partner?
Youth?
Health?
Freedom?
Best friend?
Beloved animal?
Beloved trees?

When grieving any type of loss, the natural process of feeling your authentic emotions takes many turns and twists until you begin to feel better and heal your heart.  Anywhere along the natural, normal stages of the grieving process, you can become blue, melancholy or depressed.

To heal your heart, you need to feel sad and not get stuck in depression.

This means you need to feel blue and keep moving through your grief as your emotional energy carries you along your own unique emotional healing process.

If you begin to feel melancholy, this means you are slowing down. If you are slowing down, this means you are inhibiting some of your authentic emotions and feelings as they surface.  If melancholy lingers too long, you are slowing down your energy so you become blah and stop enjoying life.

If you enter the mental health state called depression, you have inhibited your healthy emotional energy so much that you are stuck. Depression means you are not moving forward at all.   Depression is a dark, heavy state where you are numb and nothing matters.  You have stopped feeling blue and as a result you do not enjoy anything anymore.

Your vital emotions keep you moving forward in the natural grieving process.

The Indians call the emotional body, which is part of your energy field, the vital body.  This is because your vital body is full of colorful, strong, potent emotional energy when you are healthy and emotionally strong. When you are stuck in depression, your vital body is dark, grey and dense.

When you inhibit your healing emotions of grief you get stuck in depression.  Losses are natural and normal life experiences.  The feelings of sadness about your loss are also natural and normal no matter what medical authorities or friends tell you.

Give yourself permission to fully experience your loss.

Allow your grief and grieving to be natural and normal so that you heal your heart and become emotionally stronger.  When I noticed I was depressed, I decided to get back into my grief and grieving.  To help me get out of the dumps, I began to sing and hum the blues.

I put my comforting audio in my ears to help me stay in the hurt so I transformed my loss into more vital energy and aliveness.  Thank goodness, swimming is pleasurable again.

Please share your thoughts, feelings and feedback about grief and grieving, emotional health, the stages of grief, hurt and loss below.

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