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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Give Thanks.

Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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How often do you say thank you?
Do you ever behave or feel above it all?

Lately, I have noticed that I sometimes forget to give thanks after asking for something and receiving it. I get so happy and excited about getting what I asked for, I forget to send the energy of thank you back to the person or energy that gave me the gift. Forgetting to say thank you is not helpful to me.

So let me say thank you from the bottom of my heart to all the wonderful people who sent me positive feedback about last week’s newsletter on the importance and power of being authentic. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Here is a link to the newsletter if you have not read it: https://thevibrantmoment.com/2013/10/16/personal-growth-tip-relax-be-authentic-and-assertive/

Being a highly non-verbal person it has always been hard for me to write and hit send. Therefore, it is extremely helpful to me to get your feedback about how my message is coming across to you. Even if the feedback is how I need to improve something or if I made a mistake, I really appreciate hearing from you.

Having spent years studying the physics and metaphysics of, “Ask and you will receive,” I am finally beginning to “get it!” As a result, I have been enjoying much more success in receiving what I ask for in the last two years. Part of my current success comes from looking back on my 36 years of practice as a psychologist to see when, where and how I got off track.

Early in my career, I had a waiting list of clients, more money than I ever imagined and people recognizing me in restaurants. Once a man stopped me on Walnut Street and wanted to ask me about something I had written in a local magazine. I just kept walking, impatiently brushing him off.

At the time, I did not know I was pushing success away when I was pushing him away. My arrogance toward him is hard to see in myself and hard to admit to you. However, as I am always teaching you, admitting the truth is extremely liberating and empowering.

After many years of observing my behaviors and consciousness, I have noticed definite patterns of success in my life. Learning from my mistakes, I am sure the next time someone recognizes me and wants to talk, I will be more gracious, respectful and grateful. I will say thank you to the person and mean it from the bottom of my heart.

Pay attention to what you do when you receive what you want and need. When you do not say thank you and mean it, you stop the flow of energy coming toward you. Give thanks to get more, and mean it from the bottom of your heart.

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Be in the moment with your feelings and emotions.

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Be in the moment.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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I just went to a funeral and had one of the best times I have had in my life with old and new friends. Amazing but true.

You have probably heard about the death celebrations, often attributed to the Native cultures, where the people left behind enjoy themselves instead of feeling so sad and blue. Most of us have never had a joyful death celebration. Well, I just did.

This funeral was a true celebration of our dear friend, Fran. She left behind a variety of interesting friends and beloved family who came together to say goodbye to her. Many of us cried and felt sad during the church service when we heard the beautiful music.

After the short and meaningful service, we walked outside into the bright sunlight and streets of Philadelphia. Her family had planned a fantastic sit down meal right next door to the church at a Center City Italian restaurant. This meant that we could all be together sitting around big round tables in comfort and style.

We spent two leisurely hours laughing, eating, drinking and sharing stories. It was a grand and glorious way to celebrate Fran’s death, life and spirit. We felt nourished, loved and grateful.

Let death be a true celebration of life, your life.

You are only here for a very short period of time. Yep, you don’t have that much time to be in the flesh. When someone you know dies, let it be a reminder that you need to live more fully.

I am talking to myself as much as to you. I just about did not go to this event today. Tuesday is my day to spend at least two hours writing this newsletter after my morning clients and before an afternoon tele-class. Wow, I am so glad I did not resist this event and let my “shoulds” dictate my day.

Ponder your life and choices.

Could it be that you need to spend some of your money on yourself and your desires and dreams? Do you need to take the time to relax in the middle of the day and do nothing? Do you need to stop everything and just be in the moment and sip your water while listening to a person you have never known before?

Being in the moment is the only way you can truly enjoy your life. Being in your head thinking about the future or the past does not satisfy the soul. Your soul needs to be nourished, fed and respected. Take time to listen to what your soul needs today and make sure you deliver the goods before you let a week go by.

Honor both life and death as they occur. Feel the experience in your body, heart and soul. Otherwise, your time on Earth will be over and you will have missed the reason you were born.

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Move and play in your body.

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Have fun.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com
Live at the Edge: http://www.ladybuglive.com/edge.htm

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What do you do for fun?
How often do you let go and play?

This free holistic psychology newsletter exists to show you how to have more vibrant moments.  Vibrant moments are when you stop thinking and drop down into physical reality. This means you get out of the mental thoughts in your head and directly experience the physical energy that exists inside and outside of your body.

Physical reality includes the:
1.  Field of gravity that keeps you safe and sound on planet earth.
2.  Trees that inhale your carbon dioxide and exhale oxygen for you to breathe.
3;  Space where all the other animals and insects breed, play and die.
4.  Ocean and sky.
5.  Body that you sit, walk and sleep in.

Mental Health Definition

The degree to which you are in physical reality is the degree to which you are mentally healthy.  The degree to which you live in your own, isolated mental thoughts is the degree to which you have some sort of so-called mental illness. This could be a small case of obsessive thinking, a need to be perfect or a huge case of psychosis.

A Fun Exercise

Letting yourself have more fun this week could help you enjoy more vibrant moments.  Having more vibrant moments improves your holistic and mental health. The idea is to trick yourself into letting go of control by paying attention to some physical activity that you really enjoy doing.

Also, make sure you do not continue to do the activity past the point where it is fun. Your sneaky ego often controls you by turning your fun activity into work!

So write down three physical activities that are fun for you. Nothing that feels like work or exercise, just fun. Then do the one that is easiest and most convenient.  Or if you have time and it is possible, do all three!

For example, I love to swim, dance and do artwork. My outdoor swimming pool just closed so I cannot swim a half a block around the corner anymore until next spring. Therefore, I have to find another fun activity to do or another place to swim. I could go dancing with some friends or I could dance in my own living room.

Since the weather is so glorious here in Philadelphia, I could go to the beach and swim in the ocean.  Ah, and there is that wet clay in my backyard that has been waiting and waiting for someone to pay attention to it. I could treat myself to putting my hands in the clay and have a great deal of fun expressing my soul’s desire.

Pick at least one fun physical experience and give yourself the free time to relax and enjoy doing it.  See if per chance you stop thinking and drop down into your physical energy.  If you do, take notice and return to this vibrant moment again and again.

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HAVE FUN WITH DORIS:  Join a small group in the forest at the fall Nature Workshop near New Hope, PA.  You get to play with your own human energy, express your creativity and practice effective, assertive behaviors.  Near New Hope, PA, NYC and Philadelphia in the lovely fall trees.  Oct. 12, $200.00. Limited to 12 people to ensure you get what you need.

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Slay Your Inner Critic
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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Does your Inner Critic still have the upper hand?
Do you let your brain tell you what you should and should not do?

In 2005, a published writer and teacher listened to my tele-seminar, “De-fang Your Inner Critic to Find Your Voice.”  During this holistic psychology tele-seminar, I interviewed my dear friend Emily Hanlon, author of the best-selling book, Petersburg.  Yesterday, the published writer shared this story with me in an e-mail.

“I still remember that call, and I use it for myself and when talking to other writers. I have two thirteen-year old cousins who are writers, and we have our own mini-retreats. Yes, that is a pure joy for me. 🙂 Your approach to the Inner Critic is SO good for them in writing and in life. I wish I’d had that at their age.”

What is so wonderful about this feedback is that it proves you can learn to stand up to your Inner Critic.  It also proves that once you know how to stand up to your Inner Critic, you can teach others to do the same.

So many people, especially parents, do not even know they are being controlled by their Inner Critic.  They go through life automatically listening, following and obeying the negative thoughts in their head.  Consequently, they teach their children to obey the should and should nots that have been handled down for centuries by rigid, controlling, unconscious thought patterns.

This is the reason the brilliant philosopher Nietzsche talked about the herd mentality of humankind.  The masses are controlled by their rigid, controlling thought patterns.  Millions of people are stuck in this mass consciousness, which Nietzsche called the herd.  The herd mentality follows false beliefs and negative conditioning without breaking free from the chains that have them locked in the dark prison of their own unconscious.

Everyone on the planet has an Inner Critic. This is a given.  Your Inner Critic is located in your brain and is fueled by judgmental thoughts. The judgmental thoughts that your Inner Critic spews out on you and others are learned from outside sources. The results of letting your Inner Critic dominate your personality are relationship problems, emotional distress, depression, anxiety, mental health problems and physical disease.

If you cannot recognize the voice of your Inner Critic in your own head, the first thing you need to do is expose its nasty comments to your conscious mind.  You need to know when your Inner Critic is talking to you or you will always be controlled by its judgmental energy.  Your left brain is very clever and often a bully.  Therefore, your Inner Critic has the power to confuse you, fool you and even reverse reality on you.

After you learn to recognize the voice of your Inner Critic, then you must learn the assertiveness skills needed to stand up to its constant fault finding.  Once you become strong enough, smart enough and willing enough to stand up to your Inner Critic, you break free from its irrational thoughts, find your authentic voice and walk your truth.

If you have children in your life, please teach them about their Inner Critic and show them how to stand up to its judgmental thoughts.  Do not teach your children to obey rigid, false beliefs and please do not condition your children into the herd mentality.

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STAND UP TO YOUR INNER CRITIC:  Join a small group in the forest at the fall Nature Workshop near New Hope, PA.   We expose our Inner Critics and have fun standing up to its irrational thoughts.  You get to play with energy, express your creativity and practice effective, assertive behaviors.  Near New Hope, PA, NYC and Philadelphia in the lovely fall trees.  Oct. 12, $200.00. Limited to 12 people to ensure you get what you need.

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Enjoy learning about yourself.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com
Live at the Edge: http://www.ladybuglive.com/edge.htm

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If you love to listen to audio, catch some of my 30 minute radio shows on Live at the Edge, free Internet radio. In the library are interviews with famous people like the transpersonal psychologist Dr. Charles Tart and the quantum physicist Dr. Amit Goswami.  Fascinating interviews with spiritual teachers Chris Chrisom, Laura Kamm and Lynn Andrews educate you about the subtle energies that surround you.

Interested in anxiety, depression and the process of transformation?  Listen to some of my solo shows where I share my new holistic psychology approach.  Suffering with emotional distress is not necessary.  These short audio radio shows educate you about real solutions to real problems.  You can even listen to a sample holistic psychology session with a woman who is getting a divorce.

Do you have goosebumps everyday? Many of the Live at the Edge radio shows are so exciting and enjoyable you could allow yourself to experience goosebumps right along with me!  My dear friend Harold Mesibov was a student of Dr. Barnes in Philadelphia when he was collecting his masterpieces from Picasso, Renoir and Matisse. My Live at the Edge interview with Harold turns into an inspiring, creative, art piece.

Not sure how much longer the Live at the Edge shows will be available on newvoices.com because my producer Georgia Jones is passing over. The Live at the Edge audio will be available until the end of the year at http://www.ladybuglive.com/edge.htm

I need help publishing my international Heart to Heart Columns, which were originally published by an English psychologist living in France. If you have editing skills and the time to work on a book project, please email me and let me know.

I am blessed to be hanging out with my mother this week as she turns 85.  Speaking of blessings, notice how often you bless something.  Then, notice how often you curse something.

You want to bless more things than you curse if you want to manifest positive energy in your life.

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TRANSFORM YOUR ENERGY:  Join a small group in the forest at the fall Nature Workshop near New Hope, PA.   You play with energy, express your creativity and practice effective, assertive behaviors.  Near New Hope, PA, NYC and Philadelphia in the lovely fall trees.  Oct. 12, $200.00. Limited to 12 people to ensure you get what you need.

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Time to go see Monarch butterflies hanging out at Cape May Point, NJ on the their way back to Mexico. Nature is a great place to experience your emotions.

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Use feedback.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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Thank you for all the interesting questions and positive feedback about The Vibrant Moment articles on whining, feeling sorry for yourself and the sneaky way your ego blocks your healthy emotional expression.

You can apply the same psychological dynamics to other behaviors such as talking too much, not sharing enough about yourself, being impatient and listening with your mind instead of your heart. You can use the same awareness of psychological processes with any other unpleasant relationship behavior you may be afraid that you engage in.

For those of you who missed last week’s information on the Definition of Whining and the Definition of Healthy Emotional Expression catch it here:
https://thevibrantmoment.com/2013/08/21/personal-growth-tip-expose-self-pity-to-find-effective-behaviors/

Several of you mentioned that you are concerned when others tune you out or run away from you with their hands over their ears!  In other words, the other person does not want to hear what you are saying. You may be whining or you may be expressing your authentic emotions. It does not matter. This is when you need to use other people’s feedback to your advantage.

A very important relationship skill is the ability to pick up other people’s nonverbal and verbal clues.  So if someone tunes you out, stop talking. It does not matter if you are whining or expressing your emotions, if others do not want to hear you, stop talking. To continue to talk would not be fruitful.

You can discover if the block in communication is you or them by noticing your own behavior.  Remember, if you really are whining, there is a high probability you do not know that you are whining.  This means this unhelpful behavior is in your unconscious.

To be more intimate with others, you need someone to tell you when you are whining.  When others tune you out, this is a helpful indication to you that you may be whining or engaging in some other ineffective relationship behavior. This is not always true but it could be true.

It is up to you to find the proper place to expose your whining and get the help you need in transforming this ineffective relationship behavior into an assertive behavior.  Coaching, mentoring and therapeutic relationships were created to help you with all your ineffective relationship behaviors.

A good holistic psychologist does not reinforce your whining behavior by sitting there and listening to you feel sorry for yourself.  Nor does she react with judgment or discomfort. She is comfortable with your whining because she has learned to notice, accept and deal with her own whining.

Therefore, she gently helps you become aware of your whining, in an emotionally safe and nonjudgmental manner.  With kindness she teaches you how to stop judging yourself about the fact that you feel sorry for yourself. Next, she teaches you effective assertive behaviors that allow you to be closer to yourself and to others.

Let us come full circle back to the beginning example of how your ego tells you are whining when you are not whining. For those of you who missed it: https://thevibrantmoment.com/2013/08/14/assertiveness-moves-beyond-talk-therapy-into-nature-energy-and-power/

When you say to yourself, “You are whining and you must immediately stop whining,” there is a high probability that you are blocking your own authentic emotional expression. The other person is not tuning you out, you are inhibiting yourself. You learned to do this when you were a child.

When you pay attention to the emotional energy dynamics you discover the deeper psychological truth. The irony, the twist of reality, the truth is that you are inhibiting your healthy emotional expression when you accuse yourself of whining.

To transform this behavior, tame your sneaky critical ego and stop her from raining on your parade.  Learn to stand up to your Ms. Perfect and find healthy ways to express your authentic emotions. The presence of other people is not necessary.

Please post your feelings, thoughts and comments about self-awareness, emotional expression, personal growth and assertiveness below.

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NEED TO EXPOSE YOUR EGO?  Take the fall Nature Workshop near New Hope, PA.  I provide a safe place in the forest to become aware of your sneaky ego, the feeling sorry for yourself energy and other annoying relationship behaviors. We play with our unhelpful energy and shift it into effective, assertive energy.  Near NYC and Philadelphia in the lovely colored trees.  Oct. 12, $200.00. Limited to 12 people to ensure you get what you need.

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