How to Be Happy and Full of Joy

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Bring Back Your Joy.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Human Energy Teacher, Mentor
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Last month I shared how to relax into stress by trusting yourself and your natural processes. Read about how to transform overwhelming energy if you missed it: https://thevibrantmoment.com/2017/07/19/how-to-live-in-process-and-relax-into-stress/

Thank the cosmos, I was able to follow my own advice. For the last two weeks, I have been able to enjoy my daily swim and relax in the shade afterwards, while looking up at the beautiful blue sky. What a joy!

I was stuck in a defensive response to stress. Nothing kills joy faster than defensive energy. This is the reason I am highly motivated to get rid of defensive energy as fast as possible. How often do you get stuck in a defensive reaction?

“No one understands me. No one cares about me,” my client said after the end of a story about how an unkind person related to him. He didn’t say it, but I could feel that he included me in with all the rest of the people in his life. He did not think that I understood or cared about him either.

After forty years of experience working with defensive energy, I know that when someone is defensive, they do not trust me. I also know that when someone does not trust me, there is nothing I can do to help them. Therefore, if I cannot find a way to help my client return to his senses so he can trust me again, he is on his own.

This means he will stay stuck in his false beliefs, reacting as if they are true, when in reality they are false. This is the emotional health dynamic when many people end an important relationship with their friend, family or psychologist. You can currently see millions of people all over the world acting as if their irrational thoughts about reality are true, when they are false.

This is an excellent definition of mental illness. When you, or someone you know and love, is stuck in a false belief that no one understands you, you are out of touch with reality. Of course, it is true that people are sometimes unkind, mean and attacking. Yes, the person in my clients’ story was unkind.

However, it is also true that my client is being unkind to his friend and himself. The bottom line is, when you stop being unkind to yourself is when unkindness stops hurting you. When I stopped criticizing myself, I stopped being defensive about all my problems. Once I was kind and loving toward myself, my pleasure in living returned.

The next time this emotional health dynamic occurs in your life, you could transform your defensive energy into flowing healthy, energy. Instead of making yourself or the other person wrong, you could return to your senses. If you feel, instead of think, you return to your body and reality. Common sense, reality and truth are the ingredients needed to cultivate joy and vibrant moments.

Bring back your joy by being kind to yourself—no matter what is going on in your life.

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How to Enjoy Life and Say Goodbye to Your Ego

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Be True to Yourself.
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Thanks for the wise comments and questions about the psychology article on ambivalence. Catch it here if you missed it: https://thevibrantmoment.com/2016/06/17/how-to-make-good-decisions

A reader wants me to go deeper into the ambivalence state of mind for more personal growth help:

“I think it would be helpful to speak on the reason behind the ambivalence, because that is what is so frustrating.”

Indeed, you are correct. The reason behind your ambivalence is the conflict between your ego and your authentic self. You do not know what you really need and want because you are conditioned and controlled so successfully that you only know what you “should do” and “should not do.” You are not able to find and fearlessly follow your authentic self.

Instead, you are listening to your brain tell you the shoulds and should nots of the situation. To break free from your conditioning, you need to become aware of this everyday struggle between your ego energy and your authentic self energy. This is the major work of all personal growth and transformation. To be happy and satisfied you must not allow your ego to win these frequent conflicts that put you in the ambivalence state of mind. Or in the lose-lose state of mind which is another favorite of the Almighty, Reigning Ego.

The goal is to move away from your conditioned self and move toward a reality state that is free, responsible, and joyful. When you are in reality is when you automatically have a vibrant moment or two. When you are in the moment, you have successfully traveled the long distance from your controlling brain into your loving heart.

You are letting go of your brainwashing and literally dropping down into your heart so you access your authentic self. Your authentic emotional self has been wounded. This is the reason you have trouble finding, accepting, and following your little girl or boy into bliss. You are rejecting yourself because you learned to reject your true self. You were never good enough. Thus, as an adult you are afraid to listen to yourself because when you do, you experience a great deal of anxiety about doing so.

To win your everyday battles between your ego and authentic self, you must reduce your anxiety, slowly, step by step as you live your life. The home study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally leads you successfully through this reconditioning process. You must learn how to listen to your authentic fear from your emotional self and not listen to your irrational anxiety from your brain, your conditioned self.

Take the time to learn how to successfully reduce your anxiety and you will be healthier and happier. Good mental health is directly related to knowing what you really need and want and being able to manifest your desires and needs without letting your ego ruin your life.

Several readers also want to know how to deal with the unpleasant ambivalence that occurs in relationships. Oy vey! Relationships are a hard, complicated issue. However, we will take a shot at helping you with relationship ambivalence for the month of August.

In the mean time read the free psychology articles in the holistic psychology library at http://www.drjeanette.com/ to help you find your strengths and be at peace — no matter what!

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REDUCE YOUR ANXIETY: Imagine: By the end of the summer you are making better decisions and feeling relaxed, secure, and happy. These are some of the benefits of knowing and getting what you really want. Learn how to find, accept, and follow your emotional self by moving past your controlling ego. Take the home study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally to reduce your anxiety about being true to yourself. The home study course guides you step-by-step out of your ego into your body where you have the strength to know the difference between real dangers and irrational thoughts. Five hours of audio and ten written lessons for $199.97 with a money-back guarantee.

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How to Use Patience to Enter the NOW

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Be Patient.
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In my new Center City house, at the age of 33, I sat in total frustration on the floor surrounded by a mess of fabric, wood, and dozens of tiny nails. My attempts to cover the ugly pink and green striped wallpaper in my hallway with the beautiful black and red flowered fabric I had bought in the fabric district was failing.

The professional look I was guaranteed by the designer magazine did not manifest. What was I to do? The unsightly stripes had to removed. I could not afford to pay someone else to do it. This meant another long, irritating walk back to the lumberyard on Washington Avenue. This would be my third.

Feeling my feelings, suddenly, my disgust with my efforts turned into patience and understanding. It occurred to me that there was no hurry to get this project completed. I had all the time in the world to walk back and forth to the lumber store on Washington as many times as needed to get whatever supplies it took to keep the fabric on the wall and make it look great.

The only person rushing me was me. I decided to give myself the luxury of taking as long as I needed to make the wall look beautiful. I could relax and enjoy the process instead of feeling rushed. Wonderful. This was my first act of being patient with myself.

The moment I decided to be patient with myself, was the moment I dropped down into a newfound sense of self-love and self-acceptance. Visualize how, when, and where you could use patience to become more effective and happier. Patience is a long way from anxious.

After this break through, I read that Edgar Cayce, the sleeping prophet, said, “Time, space, and patience are those channels through which man as a finite mind may become aware of the infinite.” What this means is that you enter the reality of the infinite universe when you are patient with yourself instead of critical of yourself. Wow!

Patience takes you into a place far away from your brain and thoughts. Your thoughts are the problem. It is your critical thoughts about yourself that cause you to feel frustrated and unhappy. An old Dutch proverb says, “A handful of patience is worth more than a bushel of brains.” Indeed.

Patience is power in its purest form. It is not passive, it is acceptance of that which is. Patience works magic on the moment. Try being patient with yourself and see what results you get. Take Patience for a walk, she is good company.

Let me know the results you get. I bet you quickly get a smile on your face because you are more relaxed and happier.

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How to Grieve and Avoid Depression and Anxiety

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Grieve When Sad.
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Have you lost a job, your youth, money, or lover?

A reader asks, “The one year anniversary of my mother’s passing is
coming up soon. What do I do?”

When you feel sad you need to grieve. You may have lost a pet, a
friend, or a house. If you do not grieve when you have feelings of
sadness, your emotional energy gets stuck in your body because you
are holding on to your unexpressed grief. When you hold on to your
unexpressed feelings you suffer much more misery than needed.

According to Chinese Medicine, your lungs take on the disease of your
unexpressed grief. Although, I am sure your grief could get stuck in
many other places in your body. Nevertheless, you need to do
everything you can to help yourself feel sad when you feel sad so
this energy does not take hold in your body.

Sounds simple. However, since you have been conditioned to stop
feeling your feelings and emotions as soon as they occur, you need to
notice the means by which you stop yourself from feeling sad. I am
sure you have a lot of clever, effective defense mechanisms to
overcome. Pay attention to distractions and thoughts.

To counter condition your inhibitions you must learn how to stay with
your body feelings and emotional feelings. Your feelings of sadness will
surface naturally as you go about your day. When sadness occurs, take
a breath and exhale. When you exhale, relax your body and allow
yourself to feel your emotions.

Sometimes your feelings will be stronger and more intense than at
other times. It is helpful to know that holidays, anniversaries, and
new adventures are often triggers for a renewed wave of feeling sad.

Rituals are wonderful ways to honor the loss of your mother,
especially on her death anniversary. You can create any ritual that
means something to you to mark the occasion. Simple silent times
alone as well as being with loved ones are both helpful.

Be creative and honor your mother in anyway that feels good to you.
The essential ingredient is helping yourself move through the sadness
so you avoid getting stuck in heavy, dense, depressed energy. Neither
do you want to act like you are all over your loss and it does not
bother you anymore, which is denial.

Anytime you feel stuck in heavy energy sit down and put your hand on
the part of your body that feels tight. You also need to do this when
you are anxious and feel like you are in the spinning cycle of a
washing machine. Breathe into your tightness. When you exhale, let
go, and feel the emotion that is being held there.

When you feel your sadness you may cry and express your feeling in
some other fashion. Music, memories, photos, nature, and cooking help
me stay with myself in sadness. When I am cooking, I feel especially
close to mother. She is there with me as I slice a tomato, make a
delicious meal, or burn my finger.

Now that she has passed, the sadness of not having her to visit, in
the flesh, when I go to my North Carolina high school reunion this
spring is very, very sad.

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The Definition of Ego by a Holistic Psychologist

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Get to Know Your Ego.
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What is this “identity” I call ego? The current definition of ego has evolved since Freud first labeled the ego, super ego, and id. Since then, years of scientific research have successfully explained the details of how we learn and unlearn behaviors, thoughts, and ideas.

As a result, the true nature of the ego is becoming clearer and more obvious. There is a huge difference in who you are and what you learned. Psychologists cannot help you change who you are, we can help you unlearn things you learned that are not helpful to you.

Thus, your ego is the part of you that you learned; it is not your innate self. Of course, you learned millions of helpful things from your parents as well as quite a few unhelpful things. Therein lies the reason you must examine what you have learned in your conscious mind so you can make sound decisions about what you want to unlearn.

As a holistic psychologist, I do not like psychiatrist labels and psychobabble. Therefore, I define the ego in terms of energy. You can learn how to feel, sense, and know the different energies and how they feel in your body. This knowledge, if used, can put the real you in the driver’s seat, replacing your ego.

Your ego is that wall of dense energy you can feel around you from time to time when you feel misunderstood and alone. This wall is located around your authentic, flowing self and is trying to protect you from outside hurts and pain. You created this persona. It is composed of learned behaviors, automatic reactions, conditioned responses, and false beliefs that control and define your “reality.”

When you are in your ego you are not directly experiencing reality. When you do not directly experience reality, you are defensive, rigid, weak, flat, isolated, anxious, helpless, and ineffective. Even the best crafted egos, which we can call your Mr. or Ms. Perfect are weak and make you sickly.

If you want to achieve holistic health, you must separate from your ego which is composed of dense, stagnant, dark, heavy energy and choose to live in your authentic self, which is composed of strong, loving, effective, and vital energy. The choice you make is, truly — a matter of life and death.

Practice sensing your own ego and name it so you can tame it. My Dr. Tight-ass is not a warm, fuzzy lover of humanity. Your Ms. Never Satisfied is not either!

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How to Improve Your Mental Health with Mind Body Therapy

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Words affect matter.
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We are rethinking the way psychologists use the word judgment and honoring the power of words.

A psychological study revealed that a shocking 90% of the thoughts in university student’s heads were attacking words against themselves. Just imagine if you do not already know, how many attacking thoughts live in your head!

Just as a beginning therapist must learn to listen to the words their clients say, you need to learn to listen to the words you say so you know where you are stuck. Your attacking thoughts are one of the primary factors that generate the static energy that becomes anxiety in your nervous system.

A Japanese researcher, Masaru Emoto, did hundreds of experiments where he photographed the damaging physical effects that nasty, mean words have on water and the beautiful effects that loving, kind words have on water. What do your words do to your nervous system and body?

Words are not magical, they affect matter because of the energy in, of, and around the words. Take this to heart, the words you say to yourself and others dramatically affects your matter and the matter around you.

To be happy and healthy, you need to be conscious of the words you think and say. The words you use can be against you or for you. If judgment is not the correct word to use for negative “shoulds” and “should nots,” what do we call the self-righteous, high and mighty thoughts you learned from your parents, religions, and governments?

Your parents used certain words to shame you. Guilt-trip you. Inhibit you. Make you “do the right thing.” These words are in your head now and you say them to yourself. These words of right and wrong, good and bad, bundled together, over time, became false beliefs.

Such as:
Work is better than play.
Suffering is superior to pleasure.
Jews are better than gentiles.
Baptists are better than sinners.
Men are superior women.
Whites are better than blacks.
Adults are wiser than children.

Words change, just like people. The word judgment lost it’s “e” during the course of my long career. This happened while psychologists were discovering how to help clients stop their brutal, constant self-judgments that make them nervous, ineffective, and anxious.

New words come into the language and old ones leave. What word can we use to describe these inner nasty words you use against yourself that are unconscious until you make them conscious?

If judgment is not the correct word, maybe it is time for a new word. The Beatles called nasty words the “Blue Meanies.” Let me know what you think and feel.

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How to Get More Vital Energy by Feeling Your Emotions

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Accept What is Real.
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Thank you, readers, for your feedback and questions. Keep them coming. Here is an important question about how to reach good mental health from a kind hearted reader who is stuck in confusion and intense mental anguish.

“I have enjoyed your emails for 5 years! Wow! Please write about how to learn to live in the HERE and NOW! And acceptance. I am a mom who is both blessed with two adult kids but I feel rejection about living here in North America … Them and my loving husband is what keeps me here. I am too attached to my past, because that’s what I know best and that is what made me “grow”! Somebody told me, your heart has to be in one place. What does it mean? I am from EU and live here more than half of my life!! I can’t either go back or stay. And the HERE and NOW is filled with tears and sadness … Unshared … because I am ashamed of not being able to enjoy the many blessings around me!”

For all of you, always remember that no matter what is going on inside of you there is a rational reason for what you feel. You have real problems that have real solutions. Your feelings and emotions are real. Never doubt reality.

Mother Nature knows what she is doing. Evolution knows what she is doing. As Einstein said, “God does not play with dice.” There is sanity in the universe; there is sanity inside of you. It is up to you to find your sanity!

Thank you for your question. Even though I may not hit the bullet mark with so little information about you, I know for sure that your feelings and emotions are not wrong or bad. It is only your thoughts about your feelings and emotions that are confused and irrational.

You are stuck in depression and dense energy because you tell yourself everyday that your feelings and emotions are WRONG and BAD. They are not. What you feel is what you feel. No more or less. Simple and profound. Feelings are real.

The reason you are stuck in such unpleasant, never-ending pain is because you are making your feelings and emotions wrong at every turn. Every day, all day long, your self-judgment is killing your heart, body, and soul. Your thoughts are irrational and unkind, creating your mental anguish.

You are hurting your real self every time you find fault with yourself. To feel better, you must stop finding fault with what is real. Instead of making your feelings and emotions wrong, accept them and let them move. The vital energy of your emotions is the potent energy that will move you forward into vibrant moments.

I assume you are too afraid to feel your strong emotions and feelings on your own. This is often the case because children are taught to control their feelings and emotions instead of feel them. Nevertheless, trying to control your feelings and emotions creates mental health problems.

Therefore, I recommend that you work with an emotionally safe professional who can help you unlearn your fear of your emotions so you can break free and enjoy life. If you do not have access to an emotionally safe professional you can receive emotional guidance and support by using the self-help “Opening the Heart” audio series.

The way to enter the Here and Now is to feel what you feel. Physical and emotional feelings put you squarely in the moment of that which is real. It does not matter what you feel. Just accept and love your real feelings and you enter the here and now.

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How to Make Your New Year’s Resolutions Come True

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: You Can Do it.
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Do you believe you can do what you want to do?
Do you know you have a right to live the life you desire?

There is no reason you cannot follow your heart and enjoy more vibrant moments. Even though the pathway to freedom and joy is full of real fears and irrational anxieties, never give up or think you cannot face your real fears and overcome your anxieties.

If your life is not what you want it to be, if your health is puny, if you feel deep sorrow, know there is hope. At any moment in time you can begin the process of transforming your dense, defensive energy into more love and light. You have the power to shift, change, transform, unlearn, and learn whenever you decide to take action.

The pathway to your goals is clear. You must stay true to yourself. As you move forward you will learn many new skills, behaviors, and habits that empower you and make you innately happy. The journey to self-actualization is fun, you do not have to wait until you get to the end of your life to enjoy yourself.

Here is a list of lessons learned in 2015 from a regular client who is willing to share her successes with you. She had a very hard year full of relationship, financial, and stage four cancer problems. Yet, she stayed true to herself and is now happier and healthier than she has ever been.

May her list inspire and motivate you to keep learning and growing. She said, “If I distilled my list down, it would pretty much be learning to love and care for myself.”

Lessons Learned in 2015

I am the most important being in my life.
I am very, very strong emotionally, physically, and energetically.
I have gifts and I can explore them at my own pace.
No one knows about me better than I know about myself.
Energy leaks are critical to fix.
My Higher Self is me. My Little Girls are me.
Align with authentic self, not ego.
We heal ourselves.
Reality is the only safe place.
Love is more powerful than anything; love makes everything alright.
I am not alone. Ever.
I am deeply loved.
I am brave.
I let go of so much and I am ok.
I face my biggest fears and walk through them.
I always get back home.
We have to choose to receive in order to receive.
We always have a choice.
My truth feels like goose bumps on the inside.
Greater compassion for self and others.
Only I can make myself happy. I can only make myself happy.
Feeling grateful makes every situation ok.
Look for the lesson. There is a lesson in everything.
I am living a bigger life and learning how to keep growing it.

Take some of her lessons and make them your lessons for 2016. Stay true to yourself and you will definitely move forward. Open your heart and send love to yourself and then to others.

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Relationship Advice: How to Get Joy in Your Heart as a Single Person

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Get to Know Yourself.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
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Are you single for the holidays?
Are you missing someone you love?

Some of you may be single for the holidays. Others may be missing a
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How do you relate to yourself? Do you love or reject your body? Do
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How to Feel Safe in an Unsafe World

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Feel Reality.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
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Terror, anyone?

A reader who just listened to the Tame Your Thoughts audio asks a question, “The audio did help. I was recently overcome with a lot of paranoid thoughts, insomnia and was able to come out of the paranoia with medicine. But I don’t believe in taking medicine for the rest of my life. I think it usually gets brought on from a stressful social situation. Do you think it’s just heightened anxiety?”

Yes, you are experiencing heightened anxiety which is called terror. Most people walk around without being aware of what they feel. Instead, they defend against fear, anxiety, and terror so they do not have to feel the reality of fear, anxiety, and terror.

As a result, millions of people live in an illusion of safety. Meaning you think you are safe because you control yourself and reality but you are not really safe because you cannot control yourself and reality. Control creates an ego energy, which is weak and brittle. Your ego crumbles in a gentle breeze of reality because it is based on false beliefs.

When you do not feel your real feelings, you create mental illness, emotional distress, and physical disease. In the flesh terrorists are one of the many results. Inside all our raging terrorists is a young child who grew up not feeling his fear, anxiety, and terror. As a result, he acts out his feelings on the world stage like an actor.

What happens when terrorists terrorize the world in Paris? It can trigger your unconscious, inner terror. When any young child does not have a way to get in touch with reality and get rid of her false beliefs she can become paranoid.

A child trapped in heightened anxiety, without effective help, often leads to paranoia. Paranoia leads to bad decisions and unhealthy behaviors. You can see paranoia in action right now in some of the United States’ political leaders as they react to the events in Paris.

Does this make sense to you? Some real terror in the outside world probably triggered your unconscious, inner terror. Outside terror brought your inner feelings up to the surface so it was harder to keep your denied terror unconscious. This is a good thing. You want to be aware of your anxiety, fear, and terror.

The other good news is that you knew you were paranoid. Thank goodness. Paranoid thoughts are especially hard to deal with if you do not know you are paranoid. To get rid of paranoid thoughts, you must trust someone to help you correct your misperceptions.

Therefore, the antidote for paranoid is reality. Not only do you need to tame your thoughts. You need to get touch with your body feelings and emotional feelings and use this data to help you stay in reality where sanity exists.

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