The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Follow Your Heart.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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Here is additional information about how to open your heart so you can enjoy dating, sex, and love at any age. If you missed part one read it here: How to Open up to Dating, Sex, and Love at Any Age.

You need to know, and learn to trust, that your strengths are in your vulnerabilities. Never forget that this is also true for the people you want to play with and attract. She or he has the same anxieties and fears you have. Her strengths are in her vulnerabilities, just as yours are.

As a matter of fact, it is your vulnerability that attracts someone to you so they fall in love with you. As Leonard Cohen, sings, “There is a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in. That’s how the light gets in.” So, sing my song, “I am open and real, that’s how the love gets in. That’s how the love gets in.”

If you are not relaxed and being yourself, you attract a person who is not relaxed and being herself. See? That’s how reality works! When people talk about the law of attraction, it is a real law. However, there are so many other laws simultaneously affecting you, never assume there is only one law creating your results!

You must always look at the Bigger Story. This is the reason holistic psychology is the only approach that makes any sense. This is the reason, the best relationship advice in the whole world of possibilities is to relax and be yourself. Your real self. Not your ego, not a controlled posture, not a perfect self. Nope, just you, being you in the moment.

The Vibrant Moment inspires you to enter your moment and be true to yourself no matter what moment it is you are living. If you did your homework assignment from last week, you are more aware of your real fear and irrational anxiety. Your fear and anxiety energies are currently blocking you from enjoying a potential playmate, loving relationship, or more success in life.

To relax with another person you must deal effectively with these two very different energies in your body in the moment in real time with a real person. To become intimate with someone, you must have new, effective relaxation skills at your fingertips. Then you are prepared.

You will know when you feel scared and anxious with a potential playmate so you can relax and respond in a new, different way. If you are not working with a holistic psychologist who is teaching you the relaxation and relationship skills needed, take the home study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally.

Keep reminding yourself that when you are relaxed is when the love gets in.

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OVERCOME FEAR AND ANXIETY: Learn the difference between fear and anxiety and how differently they feel in your body. Get new, effective skills needed to unlearn your anxiety and approach your relationship fears realistically. You are correct and incorrect about many of your fears. The home study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally includes the Opening the Heart series, two additional hours of audio, PLUS ten written lessons that lead you step-by-step out of your anxiety into increasing comfort with intimacy. $199.99, money-back guarantee.

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If you want to experience more emotional and body awareness and do not have local workshops available please email me. I will consider doing a Nature Workshop in your area if it is a fun place to visit and if you are able to gather ten people together for the workshop.

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Follow Your Heart.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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The longest journey you will make in your life
is from your head to your heart.
— Sioux Legend

Grasp this truth. This is the ultimate challenge for our species. To be healthy and happy you must move out of thinking into feeling. To enjoy vibrant moments you must move out of control into an organic, natural flow of energy. When you reach your heart, you are in full-blown, physical reality instead of your left brain.

This brings me to the question I am answering this week about relationships. “I’ve been out of the dating game for a long while, with the exception of instant intimacy, and I’m finding it awkward getting back into dating again. I’m just finding my balance and flow. How can I open myself up again?”

Instant intimacy sounds like sex without love. Sex without love is not genuine intimacy; it is mechanic. I coined the term Mechanic Sex many years ago in my Sex and Love column written for Visions Magazine. Mechanic Sex usually makes you weaker, not stronger, because it attempts to bypass your fear of intimacy.

To open yourself up to a loving relationship means you must travel this long journey from your head to your heart. Your brain, head, and mind cannot make love. Love is a palpable, powerful energy. Your body, heart, and soul make love. With the exception of spinal cord injuries, any drug used in a sexual situation is an attempt to avoid getting in your body, heart, and soul.

If you do not want to avoid the pleasure, love, and joy that can be yours, the place to start opening up is to acknowledge the fear and anxiety that is currently blocking you from feeling secure and comfortable. We all suffer from this unpleasant combination of fear and anxiety. The more vulnerable the situation, the more you feel afraid and anxious. Opening up sexually to someone is the most vulnerable you will ever be.

This is when it is helpful to know, and remember often, that your “Strength is in your vulnerability.” My talk therapist is the first one who told me this because her therapist told her. Word of mouth is often the way valuable information is communicated. Take this lesson to heart. Your inner strengths are in your vulnerabilities. Thank goodness.

So, try this homework assignment. Become more aware of your real fear and irrational anxiety. Get to know how they feel in your body. To enjoy dating and opening up to a potential playmate or future partner, you must deal effectively with these two very different energies in your body in the moment.

If you have not listened to the Opening the Heart audio, this is a good place to begin. You learn the difference between fear and anxiety and meet your emotional self. Your emotional self is the one who feels insecure and needs some extra attention from you in order to feel more secure.

More next week about how to open up to dating and love at any age.

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FEAR AND ANXIETY HELP: Learn how fear and anxiety feel differently in your body. Get the tools needed to unlearn your anxiety and keep your real fear. Your real fear keeps you safe and sane at all times in all situations, never bypass this helpful energy. The home study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally includes the Opening the Heart series, two additional hours of audio PLUS ten written lessons that lead you step by step out of your irrational anxiety. $199.99, money-back guarantee.

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Trust Reality.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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Take a deep breath and feel what is really going on around you. Take another deep breath and feel what is going on inside of you. Wow, the world’s energy is very intense right now.

And yes, you are affected and effected by the world events. You have your own story you are living. The USA has its story. And our blessed earth has hers. Yes, this planet is abuzz with plenty of energy and most of it does not support life.

Take another deep breath and continue to feel that which is real. Reality is the place you want to get to if you want peace of mind and genuine self-confidence as you move through crazy, blaming, out of control, attacking energy.

You could be happy right now or you may need to do some personal growth to move toward happiness. You may be struggling with physical problems, deep in debt, or happily engaged. It does not matter where you are. All that matters is you need to know where you are and stay in touch with your reality. Reality is the only safe, sane place to be.

Are you the sort of person who easily joins the energy of those around you? Do you get caught up in other’s dramas and crises? If so, you may be a highly sensitive person who needs extra special help staying with herself. Holding on to reality is harder for you.

Nevertheless, whoever you are, you need to stop and acknowledge your physical and emotional reality. You need to consciously and actively get in your body and connect to gravity until you succeed in feeling anchored into earth. Think of a boat that must be anchored in order to hold on to it. You must be anchored to stay sane.

Breathe, get anchored, and do your best to stay anchored. This means getting into your body and keeping your feet attached to the earth. Then you have a good chance of staying with yourself instead of getting swept away into the madness.

Reality is the only energy you can trust. Notice any energy that is too fast or too slow and stay away from it. If you are too fast or too slow, get anchored. Then feel the difference in your body between being in reality and thinking that you are in reality!

Wow, hold on to reality for another life adventure. It is crazy out there!

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Say Hello to Your Cells.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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Continuing to answer this difficult question, “Any wise words to help me deal with recurring cancer.” The answer started last week and applies to any disease or disharmony that you have now or in the future. Part one is here: http://tinyurl.com/h5tlupe

Magdalena Ball in her book review says, “It would be a mistake to view Raymond Francis’ Never Fear Cancer Again as a book solely about preventing cancer. What the book is really about is health and how to maintain it. Right from the start, Francis makes it clear that all disease originates in the cells, and that the only path to health — whether that’s curing cancer or any other disease — is to heal the cells.”

Indeed, no scientist would disagree with this fact. I like the simple way Francis explains the disease process. He tells us that disease occurs in the cells due to deficiency (the lack of something the cell needs to function properly) or toxicity (the presence of something that interferes with normal cell function). This is simple, clear, and useable.

You can take this information and say hello to your cells. Ask them what they need that you could immediately give them that would make them healthier. You can also notice what you are giving your cells that are making them weak, confused, and sick.

Look for toxins in your environment as well as your past learning history. This means you need to make sure you do not eat mercury filled tuna more than once a week and are consciously unlearning false beliefs you learned from adults when you were little.

Next, Francis highlights six pathways that he thinks lead to health or disease. I added a few comments to explain them more fully.

1. Nutrition: chronic deficiency of a single nutrient could cause
a disease
2. Toxins: toxins in your environment damage cell chemistry
3. Mental: the thoughts in your mind affect every cell in your body
4. Physical: exercise and movement improves your body’s metabolism
5. Genetic: genes are not a guarantee that something will happen,
just a possibility along with other possibilities
6. Emotional: when you block your authentic emotions it makes you weak

The value of any book about healing cancer is to remind you that you can relate equally to cancer. This helps you create the possibility that you can overcome cancer in your psyche. However, it is not helpful if you use this book or anything else to make yourself wrong or bad about your current or past behavior.

I part company with Francis when he offers his health solutions later in his book. They are too rigid and controlling for me. However, what works for one person does not work for another. The good news is that each of us has a unique Inner Healer who knows what we need to move forward.

Therefore, find your Inner Healer and listen to her. She is the one who holds your authentic, straight from the source, inner knowing that perceives what is best for you. No one else knows. No one has our answers. All power is within the light in your heart.

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OVERCOME YOUR INNER CRITIC! To find your Inner Healer you must get past your Inner Critic. Getting past your fears, anxieties, and doubt becomes a reality when you are aware of your body and let it lead the way. Your body adds the strength and security you need that your brain does not have for good holistic health. Step by step, learn to relax and take better care of yourself. Ten written lessons show you how to be effective taming your thoughts plus five hours of audio including the three-hour Opening the Heart series adds the emotional depth needed to make sure you become more self-accepting. $199.97, money-back guarantee.

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Be Kind to Yourself.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
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My most recent question, “Any wise words to help me deal with recurring cancer.”

Cancer is the scariest diagnosis you can currently receive. My friend, a famous German scientist, has spent his life studying cancer. He has published hundreds of articles. As a world ambassador he shares cancer research with universities in Japan and Switzerland as well as Harvard and Jefferson Medical School here in USA.

Unfortunately, when we are enjoying each other’s company, he has to admit, science still does not know what causes cancer or know how to cure it. Physicians know how to treat cancer, to give you more time to live, but they do not know how to cure this dreaded disease.

Holistic Psychology can show you how to take charge of your health so you can find your Inner Healer–the wisest of the wise. It is possible that your Inner Healer could cure your cancer. Any good psychologist knows, the why does not matter. Why this is happening to you does not matter. However, the what, when, where, and how do matter.

What you are doing is important. Therefore, the first helpful psychological action you can immediately take when you get a cancer diagnosis is to stop all mental judgments against yourself. As an accident prone Aries, the first thing I used to do when I landed on the concrete, once again, was make myself wrong for falling.

Immediately, I cursed myself and found fault with what I was doing or thinking that made me fall. I was obviously doing something wrong or I would not have lost my footing, or so I thought. However, finding fault with myself did not help me when I was bleeding, hurting, and on the ground.

This applies to you. The first healing action you need to take is to cease any act of making yourself wrong for having recurring cancer. Maybe you are unconscious that you are blaming yourself? However, I am almost 100% sure you are making yourself wrong or bad in some way for some reason. So, look round for the telltale signs of your Inner Critic. Your Inner Critic is the opposite of your Inner Healer.

As soon as you stop making yourself wrong, you instantaneously release healthy energy you can use for healing. Use this healthy energy to become responsible for your health without making yourself wrong and get to work finding your wise Inner Healer.

Stop everything, sit down, and look inside of your body, especially explore the area where your cancer is showing up. What is going on inside of you? Spend time becoming more aware of anything you are doing that does not feel good to you or your cells.

Do you have thoughts that are unkind, impatient, and attacking? Become aware of anytime your brain says things to you that feel bad. Your cells and body react and respond to all your thoughts, even the unconscious ones. So, bring in the light and look in the dark.

The bottom-line is the facts about what you are doing or not doing to make cancer recur is outside of your awareness. Just as science does not know, you do not know. Being unconscious does not make you wrong or bad. Not knowing the factors that are involved do not make you helpless either.

You can take action immediately. Begin to bless yourself. Bless your health and other people’s health. Bless all your cells and tell them you love them — no matter what. Let all the different parts of you know you are going to listen to them and take better care of them.

Your Inner Healer lives in your body. This means you must put your awareness into your body to find your Inner Healer. Your body knows how to be healthy if you can just get your brain out of the way so your body can do its job.

Your body is a marvelous wonder. It knows how to be healthy and wants to be healthy. Trust your body and listen to what it is telling you. Your pathway to wholeness will be unique and special to you. Your body knows your pathway to health.

It is helpful to get inspiration and hope by reading how others have successfully overcome their cancer diagnosis in books like Radical Remission, by Dr. Kelly Turner. However, you must follow your own wise, Inner Healer. She is the only one who knows how to integrate your body, mind, heart, and spirit into wholeness.

Next week we will continue to explore how to become equal to cancer and achieve better holistic health.

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OVERCOME YOUR INNER CRITIC! To enjoy the many benefits of relaxing, including better mental and physical health, you must learn to get past your Inner Critic. Getting past your inhibitions is successful only when you become more aware of your body and let it lead the way. Your body adds the strength and security you need that your brain does not have for good holistic health. Step by step, learn to relax and take better care of yourself and find your Inner Healer. Ten written lessons show you how to be effective taming your thoughts plus five hours of audio including the three-hour Opening the Heart series adds the emotional depth needed to make sure you become more self-accepting. $199.97, money-back guarantee.

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Get to Know Your Bliss.

Tools from the Center for New Psychology
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Do you want what you want?
Do you follow your heart?

Or as Joseph Campbell, scholar and researcher of universal myths, suggested, “Follow your bliss.” Valentine’s Day is a perfect occasion to pay more attention to love. Real love; love for yourself and love for all of humanity.

Take St. Valentine’s lead and get to know your heart. Look inward and find the golden treasures that lie within its deep canyons of sorrow and mountains of lofty feelings. Your heart holds the answers to your unique needs and absolute desires.

What you want and need is not what you have been taught that you want and need. Who you are inside is not what you have been taught that you are. Pleasing others will never lead you to the promised land of heaven on earth.

Yesterday, while cross country skiing on McClure Pass, Colorado, I was in heaven as I stood still to soak in the giant energy hug from my beloved tall trees covered with snow. When you enter a vibrant moment you are in heaven on earth. These moments are freely available anytime you get out of your head and drop down into your feelings.

Your body feelings and emotional feelings connect you with that which is around you. When you relax, you become part of the whole. Thus, you feel whole because you are whole. You are not isolated, separated, thinking, or out of touch with reality. Anxiety and depression are not possible.

To follow your bliss, sit in silence and get to know what is in your heart. What do you really want right now to eat? What do you really feel like doing this moment? What do you need to accomplish before you die to feel fulfilled? Who are you?

This is when a loving relationship with your emotional self becomes the most important relationship in all the world. Your emotional self knows the answers to everything you need and want. She or he is the one you need to find, heal, protect, and follow if you want to follow your bliss.

Your emotional self leads you to your true purpose in life. You feel bliss when you do that which feels good to you. Love is always the result of taking steps toward your purpose in life. Love for yourself. Love for others. Love for life on earth.

Give yourself a Valentine’s Day gift that feels good forever. Like the Colorado sunshine that made John Denver high, there is plenty of love for you all along the way as you follow your bliss. Let every day be Valentine’s Day.

Spend some of your precious time each day getting to know who you really are and love that which you find.

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