How to Open Up to Dating, Sex, and Love at Any Age

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Follow Your Heart.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach


Here is additional information about how to open your heart so you can enjoy dating, sex, and love at any age. If you missed part one read it here: How to Open up to Dating, Sex, and Love at Any Age.

You need to know, and learn to trust, that your strengths are in your vulnerabilities. Never forget that this is also true for the people you want to play with and attract. She or he has the same anxieties and fears you have. Her strengths are in her vulnerabilities, just as yours are.

As a matter of fact, it is your vulnerability that attracts someone to you so they fall in love with you. As Leonard Cohen, sings, “There is a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in. That’s how the light gets in.” So, sing my song, “I am open and real, that’s how the love gets in. That’s how the love gets in.”

If you are not relaxed and being yourself, you attract a person who is not relaxed and being herself. See? That’s how reality works! When people talk about the law of attraction, it is a real law. However, there are so many other laws simultaneously affecting you, never assume there is only one law creating your results!

You must always look at the Bigger Story. This is the reason holistic psychology is the only approach that makes any sense. This is the reason, the best relationship advice in the whole world of possibilities is to relax and be yourself. Your real self. Not your ego, not a controlled posture, not a perfect self. Nope, just you, being you in the moment.

The Vibrant Moment inspires you to enter your moment and be true to yourself no matter what moment it is you are living. If you did your homework assignment from last week, you are more aware of your real fear and irrational anxiety. Your fear and anxiety energies are currently blocking you from enjoying a potential playmate, loving relationship, or more success in life.

To relax with another person you must deal effectively with these two very different energies in your body in the moment in real time with a real person. To become intimate with someone, you must have new, effective relaxation skills at your fingertips. Then you are prepared.

You will know when you feel scared and anxious with a potential playmate so you can relax and respond in a new, different way. If you are not working with a holistic psychologist who is teaching you the relaxation and relationship skills needed, take the home study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally.

Keep reminding yourself that when you are relaxed is when the love gets in.


OVERCOME FEAR AND ANXIETY: Learn the difference between fear and anxiety and how differently they feel in your body. Get new, effective skills needed to unlearn your anxiety and approach your relationship fears realistically. You are correct and incorrect about many of your fears. The home study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally includes the Opening the Heart series, two additional hours of audio, PLUS ten written lessons that lead you step-by-step out of your anxiety into increasing comfort with intimacy. $199.99, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order the home study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally:


NEED LOVE MAKING SKILLS? If you have never been able to make love for hours with a loved one so you feel the love energy between you build up and up, take the BECOME A BETTER LOVER home study course. It includes all the body awareness and relaxation exercises in the Overcome Anxiety Naturally home study course AND specifically addresses the sexual situation. Learn now to become a better lover of the whole body so your nervous system is turned on and your brain is turned off. Two additional hours of audio includes the Hear Your Body Talking below. Married people have benefited from taking the course together. Seven hours of audio and ten written lessons, $249.97. Money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:


LISTEN TO YOUR BODY: Your body is the home of your heart, inner knowing, and natural born lover. Get to know your body and benefit by having better holistic health and a lot more fun. Order “3 Reasons You Have a Body: Hear Your Body Talking” a one-hour tele-seminar on body health and body awareness. $29.97, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:


If you want to experience more emotional and body awareness and do not have local workshops available please email me. I will consider doing a Nature Workshop in your area if it is a fun place to visit and if you are able to gather ten people together for the workshop.