Family Stress, Holiday Blues?

Unpleasant Family Interactions, Stress and Holiday Blues…..

are due to experiencing yourself as controlled by outside factors,
family members, guilt or judgment.

How much attention do you pay to how you control yourself?

If you want to be secure, joyful and have more fun–pay attention
to how you control yourself.

The following information about control is taken from the
ebook, “Opening the Heart.” To get the whole package in
ebook form or audio, click on this link and order tapes, cds or
ebook.
Your ego will never ruin your fun again!
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Control is anything you use to avoid reality at any given moment in time.
You may have the best intentions in the world, such as becoming healthier
and happier, and still end up controlling yourself.

For example, if you are in therapy or some healing process, you might say
to yourself, “I have to heal myself. I have to become healthy. I have to
do it this way, to do it the right way.”

You end up doing the things you “should” do or are “supposed” to do,
to heal yourself. Whether your goal is to be more spiritual, or to control
your diet, or control your exercise. The result is you are making yourself
be a certain way. You are in a state of unhealthy control when you must
exercise a certain way or eat in a certain way.

You begin to recognize control by the energy behind your words, actions
and behaviors. You cannot recognize control by the content. The content
is full of lies, which your ego tells you. Words lie. Energy does not.

This is the reason I teach you to pay attention to your
energy and to learn to tell the difference in healthy energy and controlling
energy so you can stand in your power with your family and friends.

For the rest of this article taken from “Opening the Heart” visit modernsage.com.
I am an expert at modernsage.com. Please ask me a question on their web site
and I will answer it in the next newsletter.

Enjoy your holidays by freeing yourself from control.

Stand in your power with family and friends.

For an empowering article and radio show for
Singles on How to Enjoy the Holidays visit Live at the Edge.

Keep warm, love yourself and laugh,

Doris Jeanette

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Is It Healthy Emotional Flow or It Is Unhealthy Ego Control?

Excepted from ebook, Opening the Heart, Chapter 1, Feelings: The Source of Authentic Love. Available at http://www.drjeanette.com/tapes.html

Let me say more about control so you begin to see control for what it is. Control is anything you use to avoid reality at any given moment in time. You may have the best intentions in the world, such as becoming healthier and happier, and still end up controlling yourself.

For example, if you are in therapy or some healing process, you might say to yourself, “I have to heal myself. I have to become healthy. I have to do it this way, to do it the right way.”

You end up doing the things you “should” do or are “supposed” to do, to heal yourself. Whether your goal is to be more spiritual, or to control your diet, or control your exercise. The result is you are making yourself be a certain way. You are in a state of unhealthy control when you must exercise a certain way or eat in a certain way.

You begin to recognize control by the energy behind your words, actions and behaviors. You cannot recognize control by the content. The content is full of lies, which your ego tells you. Words lie. Energy does not.

Control is a mechanism you use to force yourself to go too fast or too slow. Or in a certain direction you don’t really want to go. You begin to notice control by the feel of the energy and not by the content.

Your ego may say to you,” Let’s go swimming tonight.” You think to yourself, “Do I feel like going swimming tonight? “ Your ego says, “You know how much you love to go swimming.” “Yes, I love swimming more than anything else in the world.” Yet, when you pay attention to yourself, you notice, “ I don’t feel like going swimming tonight.” The ego insists,” Oh yes, you do!”

As you can see, the way you control yourself can be very subtle and insidious. Begin to notice your ego by its controlling energy so you stop letting it ruin your life. Another example is when you pretend your feelings are not hurt when they really are hurt. Or you pretend you are not afraid, when you really are afraid.

In addition, you can exaggerate you are more upset than you really are. You can react to something as if it was the worst thing in the world and it really isn’t the worst thing in the world. You just act like it is the worse thing in the world. This is your ego over reacting.

When I was developing an equal and loving relationship with my mother, she turned whatever I bought up to her about my past hurt feelings against herself. She said, “Oh, what a terrible mother I am. What a horrible mother I was to you,” which, of course, was not true. I was not saying she was a terrible mother, I just wanted to express how I felt to her and be listened to. My mother’s behavior completely avoided the real situation with me.

What I needed was a real mother to relate to me as a real child. When my mother attacked herself, she was copping out on me. She was not taking responsibility for herself. She was saying what a terrible mother she was, instead of meeting me as an equal and dealing with how I had felt hurt and betrayed by her.

My mother did not say, ”I didn’t know you felt this way. I am sorry. Let’s deal with this. Let’s relate to each other and come to know each other.” Thanks goodness, we were able to cry together and see each other’s point of view in a year or so.

Healthy emotional flow is the result of resolving your past hurts and traumas. You achieve health by giving up control. Instead, accept and be your real self. Your real self has plenty of vital, colorful energy flow. More than enough, to jump up and down, with joy.

Study with Dr. Doris Jeanette in the convenience of your home. Choose audio, e books, phone consultations or the popular multimedia e -course “Overcoming Anxiety Naturally” which includes the audio version of “Opening the Heart”, a guide on feelings, fear and hurt, plus 6 written lessons and 2 “Thought Taming” CDs. Order by clicking here http://www.drjeanette.com/anxietycourseonline.html

Doris is a licensed psychologist with 30 + years of experience helping people love more, feel better and self actualize. She is pioneer in creating a new psychology which embraces healthy emotional and physical energy flow as sign of mental health, emotional health and physical health. For more tips and tools sign up for her free weekly newsletter: http://www.mcssl.com/app/join.asp?MerchantID=61376

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“Edutainment in Energy, Emotions and Effectiveness ”
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In This Issue
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1. Overcoming Anxiety Naturally In time for Valentine’s Day
2. Name the Podcast Contest – You could win!
3. New Body Feelings Anxiety Reduction Class in Philly
4. Blog defined, where to go for what
5. Creative,online marketing workshop in Center City
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1. Overcoming Anxiety Naturally Tips
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I cannot seem to totally eliminate this nasty energy
called anxiety out of my body and energy field.
Too much nervous energy around me to ever get it rid of
all anxiety– all the time………

But I can reduce my anxiety so it does not bother me
and get in the way of my self actualization and
personal transformation.

So can you!

Just cause everyone else is anxious does not mean
you have to be anxious! Get your life long overcoming
anxiety tools now.

Read my article on Overcoming Anxiety in Time for
Valentine’s Day
at http://www.drjeanette.com/blogger.html
I can use the S word there without getting blocked.
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2. Name the Podcast Contest
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A podcast has been on my “To Do” list ever since my
dear neighbor Matt mentioned it to me two years ago.
He sent me all the information and I am a mac person
with all the needed gear………

A year ago a man found me online by searching for
anxiety help…….yea google. He suggested I do a
podcast on anxiety so he could learn more…..2007
is here and still no podcast….

I am going to buy a new laptop and get my podcast
in iTunes now. I need your help.

Name my podcast.

My radio show is called, Live at the Edge
My newsletter is called The Vibrant Moment.
My blogs are called Enjoy Life,
Live at the Edge and The Vibrant Moment.

What is the niche my podcast needs to fill?

What keywords do I need to use to
attract the people who need holistic psychology?

What words describe the unique information I offer?

Come on marketing geniuses, creative geniuses and
other such souls–
have fun,
name my podcast.

The Winner gets a free set of the tape series,
“Opening the Heart” or your pick from the
10 holistic psychology lectures on CD’s or
get my Overcoming Anxiety Naturally online e course.
Use your creativity and help me name my podcast.
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3. New Overcoming Anxiety Class in person in Philly
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My current class has been so much fun,
two men and two women.

Men are not usually so abundant so it has been a joy
to interact with their sensitive nature and teach men
how to relax and feel safe.

The classes are small to make sure you get the mind body
tools you need to succeed. You can use these tools
for the rest of your life. Then you can stop anxiety
attacks, chill out, relax and enjoy life more whenever
you want to. Get in the drivers seat, pull over and
stop for a breath.

New Class is forming. Anxiety Natural class is
like an intro to my approach or to your own Personal Self Help Success.
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4. Blogs defined, where to go for what
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I go all confused so I have to clear up and clean up…

Enjoy iIfe Blog – visit for travel, articles on ADH
and other holistic psychology articles
https://www.thevibrantmoment.com

The Vibrant Moment Blog – visit for your newsletter
or past issues.
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Live at the Edge Blog – visit to read about the guest
interviews, radio shows and post your comments.
Please post your comments on all of the blogs.
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5. Feb. 24, Creative, online marketing workshop
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Sign up for this fun, creative marketing workshop to
grow your holistic health business or
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books or
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Call 215-732-6197
February 24, 2007.

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