The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Learn to Relax at Will.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
A person requested an answer from me on Quora that you may resonate with:
“Why do I keep rubbing my eyebrow? I can’t make myself stop. People around me notice it. Should I share this with my therapist? I find it embarrassing.”
Did you become more aware of how you express your anxiety during the pandemic? I sure did. Maybe you noticed you touched your face more often than before? Or perhaps you already knew you touch your face every few minutes? Nervous habits were abundant before the pandemic and now they are even more obvious to the people who notice their environment.
How often have you been sitting beside a person who is pounding his leg up and down? He does not know his leg is moving up and down and you do. If he is sitting beside you on an airplane there is no way to escape. Other places, you can get up and sit somewhere else. Sometimes, it is a good friend and you do not know what to do.
Here is my answer to the Quora person who is already aware of his nervous habit:
“Anxiety makes us do the strangest things. Anxiety is the source of nervous habits such as yours. You will be able to stop rubbing your eyebrow when you reduce your anxiety. Please use natural, effective relaxation techniques so you can relax when you need to. After you learn to relax at will, then you need to desensitize yourself to the things that make you anxious.
Perhaps being close to people makes you nervous? If so, you are not alone. Have you ever noticed how most people stop breathing in an elevator? People hold their breath when they are anxious. You need to tell your therapist about anything you care about. She is there to help you become comfortable being close to people.”
Here is additional psychological information for The Vibrant Moments readers:
If you are a therapist, parent or client, not only do you need to relax at will, you also need to be able to read body language. You and your therapist will get better results if you pay attention to what your bodies are communicating in the moment to each other. Reading body language is an essential skill for doing effective therapy and for staying sane. To help you become more aware of your environment pay attention to your body and the energy that is moving through it. Then begin to pay attention to other people’s body and the energy that is moving through their physical form.
If you do this exercise often, as you are sitting, walking and being in your world, you develop the ability to read body language. Observe people on TV and the internet and see what jumps out at you. Do not pay attention to the body language experts who tell you, “this posture means that and so on.” Postures tell you little about yourself or others. Being alive in the moment is so much more interesting. You discover that being alive, even when you are nervous, is powerful and real.
Body language is a fluid, dynamic state, like your blood pressure. Human relationships are fluid, dynamic creations that you need to allow to move and change so you maintain real relationships during and beyond everyone’s nervous habits. Bless us all.
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