Self Help: How to Use Feelings to Make Good Decisions

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Don’t Fret.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach


You could stay home tonight or go to an event you want to attend. You do not know which one to do. Ambivalence occurs. You go back and forth, weighting the pros and cons. What DO you do?

Everyone has trouble making decisions in some area of their life. I can quickly decide to take a trip to India with Jean Houston. Yet, spent years deciding where to put the new washroom. Where, when, and how do you become ambivalent?

Some decisions are more important than others. The color you paint the outside of your house has to be tolerated for years. The event you want to see may leave town and never return. On the other hand, there could be a terrible accident about to occur and if you stay home you avoid it. Seriously.

My, my, all sorts of factors affect our decisions. No wonder the gall bladder gets upset. In Chinese Medicine, the gall bladder is the Little General in relationship to the liver, the Big General. The gall bladder gets agitated when you have trouble making all those daily decisions human beings are required to make. What paper towels to buy?

Early in my career I had trouble helping people when they were ambivalent about big decisions. To go back to school or not? I did not know how to guide them into the right decision. Finally, I began to see the Bigger Picture of what was going on. In most cases, it does not matter what you do or do not do. There is no right answer.

What matters is how you feel about your decision. It is your feelings, not your choice that matters most. As long as you feel good about your decision, it is a good one. This is wonderful news. You can relax, stop worrying, and trust your feelings.

Try on different decisions as if you are shopping for a new hat. How does it feel tonight if you stay home? How does it feel if you go out and play? Which one is the best fit? If something feels good, it is a good decision.

This means you have to know what you feel in order to make good decisions. This is the reason it is so important to have a close, loving relationship with your emotional self. No one else knows what is best for you. No one else knows how you feel.

You must find and follow your emotional self if you want to feel good and make good decisions. Learn to trust your feelings and use them to manifest the vibrant moments you want and need.
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