How to Flourish During a Pandemic and Psyche Attack

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Lathe Thyself With Love.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Transformational Teacher and Mentor
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“Lathe thyself with love.”

At a Jean Houston workshop in NYC in 1983, Jean shared a story about
Margret Mead. Jean was close to Margaret at the time and overheard
her talking to herself in her room as she woke up in the morning. It
sounded as if Margaret was moving and stretching as she talked to
herself. I cannot remember the exact words, but it was something
along the lines of, “I am so happy with myself. I am so glad to be
me. It is oh, so, delightful to just be me.”

This was a rare story of someone who was not only comfortable talking
to herself, but was also at ease being sincerely pleased with herself.
Unfortunately, self-love is not easy for most of us to enjoy, experience
and sustain over time. This is because loving yourself is forbidden
and even considered a sin by some religions. As a result, it is hard
to be tender with yourself without hearing judgments in your head.

If others love you, it is ok—for a bit. However, you should not love
yourself. If you do, your Inner Critic calls you selfish, narcissistic and
crazy. Tis Strange— when you really step back and look at it, isn’t it?
Very peculiar.

After all, self-love is the heart of what any good therapist, coach
or mentor teaches you. Step by step, they lead you to the pot of gold
at the end of the rainbow that lives in your heart. When you sense
your inner truths, loving energy is always present. As soon as you
feel the reality of the universal loving energy that lives in your
heart, self-love is possible.

It took me a few years after hearing this story about Margaret Mead,
to make a conscious choice that I was indeed worthy of being loved.
And it was a conscious choice. For 35 years the negative judgments I
had learned about the real me were dominant in my psyche. One by
one, as they hit me, I lay the nasty comments about the lazy, relaxed,
disorganized, selfish, creative, colorful, crazy me, dead at my feet.

My therapy, workshops and self-care were growing corn. Finally, to
myself, and in my own mind—I decided that I was indeed, good enough
as a person, that it was all right for me to let go of control and
love who I really was. Profound. I knew for sure that I could trust
my heart and follow it. My heart was wise and I would do no harm. All
I needed to do was be responsible for my actions.

Do not confuse self-praise with self-love. Praising yourself for
something is an act of the ego. You can be pleased with yourself if
you make a lot of money, have a lot of friends, have a lover, get a
degree or job and so on. This is not self-love. Self-love is
accepting who you really are inside, without having to do anything.

If you listen to your heart, you discover that you are inherently a
good person. This knowledge is the turning point. I could never go
backward after knowing that I was born lovable. From my conscious
choice forward— I was glad to be me. However, life did not stop
throwing new judgments at me.

It appears the Inner Critic does not die a permanent death. Our ego
seems to be like a virus that is out of control for a while and kills
a lot of people. Eventually, you become stronger than the virus.
However, the virus does not completely disappear, even after we get a
vaccine and medication! Antibiotics can kill the bubonic plague, yet
it is still lurking around with all the other viruses!

Thus said, you can tame your ego but cannot destroy it. The moment
you choose to love your true self, you become much stronger.
Self-love gives you a healthy immune system and lots of vibrant
moments. But you must make this choice over and over again. So, the
next time you feel down in the dumps, look around for your ego. It is
attacking you. You could choose to shift out of self-judgment and
lathe thyself with love!

Notice how much and how often you truly love yourself this week.
Notice how much and how often you judge yourself this week and for
what.

If you need help in feeling the energy difference between your sneaky
ego and your real self, study the Opening the Heart audio. In the first
thirty minutes you get a lesson you never forget.

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How to Improve Your Self Esteem and Self Confidence

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Self-Confidence is Sincere
Tools from the Center for New Psychology, drjeanette.com
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Transformational Coach, Mentor

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We are continuing our search for genuine self-confidence. If you did not read last month’s article on self-esteem here it is: http://thevibrantmoment.com/2019/10/23/how-to-improve-your-self-confidence-and-self-esteem/

The Self-Esteem Enhancer Exercise I gave you last month was to help you become more realistic about yourself. Being realistic automatically helps you feel more self-confident. This is because being realistic is the opposite of being defensive.

When you are defensive, you are insecure and weak. You are not accepting some truth about yourself! Therefore, being defensive is a waste of energy. Defensive energy reveals your low self-esteem and does not improve it. It is much wiser to accept your unpleasant qualities and improve them, than it is to defend against them. Or deny them. Or make excuses!

The Self-Esteem Enhancer Exercise:
Being honest, name three positive qualities you possess. Write them down.
Being honest, name three unpleasant qualities about yourself. Write them down.

The facts that you write down will help you achieve genuine self-confidence. Take a look at how comfortable you are with your strengths. They may be as hard, if not harder, to own than your weaknesses. Imagine how good it would feel to accept your True Self with compassion and understanding.

Take a good honest look at what you think of yourself. The qualities you like about yourself could be ego or True Self qualities. For example, you could think highly of yourself about an ego quality that you are always nice to people. On the other hand, you could think you are a bad person because you are assertive with people telling them the truth, which is a True Self quality.

How you think about yourself is based on mental judgments you learned from others. Judgments can be good or bad, or right or wrong. Being “good” is just as unhealthy as being “bad.” Being a “good girl” was the way I tried to achieve self-confidence for the first thirty years of my life. It was quite a wake up to realize my self-confidence was so low because it was based on a “good girl” image and not reality.

To improve your self-confidence, the first thing you need to do is stop being judgmental of yourself. It does not matter whether your qualities are ego or authentic, you need to stop hurting yourself. Remind yourself that you are human and have faults. Of course, you are not always true to yourself. Of course, it takes time to discover and unlearn all the unhealthy stuff you learned from others.

Put your energy into reducing mental judgments against yourself or anyone else.

Notice how often you think you are right or wrong, or good or bad. See if you can stop judging yourself. If not, get help from the Overcome Anxiety Naturally home study course, which teaches you how to shift out of self-judgments into self-acceptance in a realistic step-by-step fashion.

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How to Improve Your Self Confidence and Self Esteem

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Self-Confidence is Sincere
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Transformational Coach, Mentor

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I was discussing with some of my family members recently what self-confidence is and how to get more of it. So I thought I would put into writing what I have learned about self-esteem.

Self-confidence is based in reality. This means you cannot fake it. You can try to fake it, but those in the know are not fooled for long. The reason you cannot fake self-confidence is because your body simply does not have the ability to lie. So, no matter what you do to hide the truth, your physical form reveals the truth about how you feel about yourself.

Sure, you can puff out your chest and act self-confident. However, anyone who reads body language and feels energy knows you are acting superior. Also, if you have studied psychology, you know that arrogant behavior is due to low self-esteem. Low self-esteem is the reason people act arrogant and helpless. “Act” is the key word here.

In the physical world outside of you, you are not better or worse than another. Your ego tries to convince you that you are special or worthless. This is inaccurate. To be special or worthless you have to be separate from reality. Your true self is not a separate identity hanging out in space, disconnected from Mother Earth, your body and the cosmos. To be separate is to be crazy.

If you believe the mental delusions that you are special or worthless, you create mental diseases. Mental diseases are delusions about the true self. Neither superior or inferior ego states are authentic aspects of your true self. Self-confidence cannot be achieved by being inauthentic.

Self-confidence is based on real facts and solid matter. Your feet must be standing on solid ground with gravity pulling down on your physical form to anchor you into the earth. You must be sincere and honest about who you really are. You are born with plenty of self-confidence but the adults in your world quickly conditioned your good feelings about yourself into bad feelings about yourself.

Therefore, all of us have to unlearn the negative things we learned about ourselves from outside sources. Then we have to relearn the truth about ourselves. We do this by feeling and trusting that which is real. To help you get more in touch with reality, name three positive qualities that you possess. Then name three unpleasant qualities about yourself.

Being honest with both answers helps you become less defensive and more realistic. This is the beginning of genuine self-confidence. Next, you need to become less judgmental of the real you. So take note of any snide remarks against yourself what come to your conscious mind.

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