The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Lathe Thyself With Love.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Transformational Teacher and Mentor
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com
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“Lathe thyself with love.”
At a Jean Houston workshop in NYC in 1983, Jean shared a story about
Margret Mead. Jean was close to Margaret at the time and overheard
her talking to herself in her room as she woke up in the morning. It
sounded as if Margaret was moving and stretching as she talked to
herself. I cannot remember the exact words, but it was something
along the lines of, “I am so happy with myself. I am so glad to be
me. It is oh, so, delightful to just be me.”
This was a rare story of someone who was not only comfortable talking
to herself, but was also at ease being sincerely pleased with herself.
Unfortunately, self-love is not easy for most of us to enjoy, experience
and sustain over time. This is because loving yourself is forbidden
and even considered a sin by some religions. As a result, it is hard
to be tender with yourself without hearing judgments in your head.
If others love you, it is ok—for a bit. However, you should not love
yourself. If you do, your Inner Critic calls you selfish, narcissistic and
crazy. Tis Strange— when you really step back and look at it, isn’t it?
Very peculiar.
After all, self-love is the heart of what any good therapist, coach
or mentor teaches you. Step by step, they lead you to the pot of gold
at the end of the rainbow that lives in your heart. When you sense
your inner truths, loving energy is always present. As soon as you
feel the reality of the universal loving energy that lives in your
heart, self-love is possible.
It took me a few years after hearing this story about Margaret Mead,
to make a conscious choice that I was indeed worthy of being loved.
And it was a conscious choice. For 35 years the negative judgments I
had learned about the real me were dominant in my psyche. One by
one, as they hit me, I lay the nasty comments about the lazy, relaxed,
disorganized, selfish, creative, colorful, crazy me, dead at my feet.
My therapy, workshops and self-care were growing corn. Finally, to
myself, and in my own mind—I decided that I was indeed, good enough
as a person, that it was all right for me to let go of control and
love who I really was. Profound. I knew for sure that I could trust
my heart and follow it. My heart was wise and I would do no harm. All
I needed to do was be responsible for my actions.
Do not confuse self-praise with self-love. Praising yourself for
something is an act of the ego. You can be pleased with yourself if
you make a lot of money, have a lot of friends, have a lover, get a
degree or job and so on. This is not self-love. Self-love is
accepting who you really are inside, without having to do anything.
If you listen to your heart, you discover that you are inherently a
good person. This knowledge is the turning point. I could never go
backward after knowing that I was born lovable. From my conscious
choice forward— I was glad to be me. However, life did not stop
throwing new judgments at me.
It appears the Inner Critic does not die a permanent death. Our ego
seems to be like a virus that is out of control for a while and kills
a lot of people. Eventually, you become stronger than the virus.
However, the virus does not completely disappear, even after we get a
vaccine and medication! Antibiotics can kill the bubonic plague, yet
it is still lurking around with all the other viruses!
Thus said, you can tame your ego but cannot destroy it. The moment
you choose to love your true self, you become much stronger.
Self-love gives you a healthy immune system and lots of vibrant
moments. But you must make this choice over and over again. So, the
next time you feel down in the dumps, look around for your ego. It is
attacking you. You could choose to shift out of self-judgment and
lathe thyself with love!
Notice how much and how often you truly love yourself this week.
Notice how much and how often you judge yourself this week and for
what.
If you need help in feeling the energy difference between your sneaky
ego and your real self, study the Opening the Heart audio. In the first
thirty minutes you get a lesson you never forget.
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