How to Deal with Frustration and Helplessness

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Bend with the Wind.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Transformational Coach, Mentor
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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Major worldwide events, one after another, are adding more and more
stress every day to your nervous system. How to cope? What can you
do? Are you riding the ups and downs so you are moving forward?
Or are you stuck in denial?

External stress is triggering our chronic and acute anxieties. When
you cannot control the events in your world, it is normal to feel
helpless. Helplessness is our current worldwide human feeling. An
unhealthy, ineffective way to deal with helplessness is to become
frustrated. When you are frustrated you often become hostile. When
you are hostile you often act out your feelings on others or objects.
Such as— rape, physical abuse and looting.

Instead of acting out how you feel, which is not effective, you could
feel how you feel and do nothing. Strong emotions and feelings give
you information about external and internal realities. Information needs
to be absorbed and processed. It does not need to be reacted to with
knee jerk responses. Reactions are not effective. You could receive,
accept and use information to move out of helplessness into
assertiveness.

This simple, basic choice is yours at any moment of the day or night.
You feel helpless, like a child. You feel helpless, like a woman. You
feel helpless, like a black man. You encounter “city hall,” as I like
to call it. You hit the rigid structures of your government, society
and parents. You hit energy that will not bend, move or adjust. Rigid
structures are everywhere in our world.

It is not helpful for you to be rigid and join this unhealthy,
ineffective energy. Instead, choose to bend with the wind. You can
move out of helplessness into assertiveness. First, you need to take
responsibility for how you feel. No matter what you feel, own it. The
healthy way to deal with your feelings is to be kind and understanding
with yourself. Knowing you feel helpless alerts you to the fact that you
need to change or learn something new in order to become effective.

You can let go of your rigid behaviors and become flexible. You can
let go of your obsessive thoughts and learn new ways to do things. I
know, letting go of control is not easy. It is scary. Probably the
scariest thing you will ever have to do. However, the consequences of
holding on to your rigid ego are much worse than the benefits you
gain from learning new skills and ways to cope and get through the
stressful day.

The two new skills you need to learn, relearn or improve are:

  1. Being assertive
  2. Reducing anxiety naturally

To feel more of your personal power, learn to be effective when you
feel helpless, even if being effective means being in touch with your
feelings and emotions and doing nothing. Usually when you are kind
with yourself your inner strengths, intuition, and creativity pop up
to help you. Sit still and listen to the wisdom that comes into your
conscious mind that guides you into the next vibrant moment.

Maybe some of the rigid world structures are falling apart. I am
trusting this is true. Do your part and get rid of your rigidity to
help the forward movement keep going. Rigid human behaviors must
be replaced with creative, flexible behaviors. Then humans will be back
in balance with Mother Earth and have excellent mental health.

Be safe and sane.

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loved it. I learned that I was often being aggressive or passive or
passive-aggressive rather than being assertive. Now I know the
difference. The difference is huge, both in regard to my actions and
the results I get.”  Kevin from the UK

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How to Feel Real Fear and Keep Safe

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Look Inward.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Transformational Coach, Mentor
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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“Getting to know you, getting to know all about you.” These words
from the musical “The King and I” are playing though my mind. Long
ago, the Greek temples encouraged people to look inward with the
words “Know Thyself.” Perhaps getting to know who you really are and
letting others get closer to you will produce positive results that
occur from our current scary world reality. 

You are being forced to slow down. You could distract yourself or you 
could look inward. Becoming more intimate with yourself and with 
others will empower you and make you stronger. You will face
your real fears and reduce your irrational anxieties. Then, you will
increase your ability to relax and become more comfortable in your 
body on the blue planet and soar! 

With so many real fears and irrational anxieties around us, we need
all the help we can get. One of the most important scientific,
energetic facts you need to know is the difference between real fear,
panic and denial. If you do not know this information, you do not
possess the means to take good care of yourself. You will over or
under react to real fears and put yourself in danger.

Naturally, you will sometimes panic; you will be secure and you will
deny. This is normal. However, you must have the ability to come back
to center so you are feeling your real fears without panic or denial.
If you need help in knowing the difference in the energy between
these important states, study and use the Overcome Anxiety Naturally
home study course that includes the Opening the Heart audio. To know
how to take care of yourself, you must take one step at a time
through the real fears until you reach the place where you are not
afraid. 

As you make your way through the real fears, you need to look inward
to your innate strengths and look outward to the love that is always
all around you. Your inner strengths are always there. You need to
trust them, feel, and use them. They help you succeed. Love is always
there. Most of the time you block this powerful energy out and do not
receive it. Or trust it. Or feel it. 

Right now, you need to know that you are loved and feel loving energy 
to help you get through these rough times. Reach out to all the love
around you and receive it in your heart. Love will charge you, your 
body and energy field with strong, radiate energy.

When your authentic self is in charge, you feel love coming and going 
between you and others. When you love and accept yourself as you 
really are, you feel good. When your ego is in charge, you do not feel 
love coming and going between you and your world. When you 
disapprove of yourself or others, you feel bad.

Love yourself as you are. You are not perfect, you make mistakes. Let 
go of control and allow what you need to come to you. Ask for help 
as needed. When you are sincere and modest, the cosmos and other 
human beings are there to help you.  

You know you are in the flow when you get what you want and need
without effort. 

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RELAX INTO FEAR: Learn to feel the difference in energy of your
denial, hysteria and real fear by taking the home study course,
Overcome Anxiety Naturally. Get ten written lessons that guide you
into supporting and reassuring your body and emotional self so you
stay sane and safe. Learn how to stop your obsessive, crazy thoughts
from driving you crazy! $199.97, money-back guarantee.

SUPER DUPER SPECIAL: Order the home study course Overcome 
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If you enjoy The Vibrant Moment, please share it with friends and
colleagues. It comes to you from Dr. Doris Jeanette, with over forty
years of experience teaching people how to read and use energy to
unlock and use their human potential. Sign up at:
http://www.drjeanette.com.