How to Improve Your Self Esteem and Self Confidence

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Self-Confidence is Sincere
Tools from the Center for New Psychology, drjeanette.com
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Transformational Coach, Mentor

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We are continuing our search for genuine self-confidence. If you did not read last month’s article on self-esteem here it is: http://thevibrantmoment.com/2019/10/23/how-to-improve-your-self-confidence-and-self-esteem/

The Self-Esteem Enhancer Exercise I gave you last month was to help you become more realistic about yourself. Being realistic automatically helps you feel more self-confident. This is because being realistic is the opposite of being defensive.

When you are defensive, you are insecure and weak. You are not accepting some truth about yourself! Therefore, being defensive is a waste of energy. Defensive energy reveals your low self-esteem and does not improve it. It is much wiser to accept your unpleasant qualities and improve them, than it is to defend against them. Or deny them. Or make excuses!

The Self-Esteem Enhancer Exercise:
Being honest, name three positive qualities you possess. Write them down.
Being honest, name three unpleasant qualities about yourself. Write them down.

The facts that you write down will help you achieve genuine self-confidence. Take a look at how comfortable you are with your strengths. They may be as hard, if not harder, to own than your weaknesses. Imagine how good it would feel to accept your True Self with compassion and understanding.

Take a good honest look at what you think of yourself. The qualities you like about yourself could be ego or True Self qualities. For example, you could think highly of yourself about an ego quality that you are always nice to people. On the other hand, you could think you are a bad person because you are assertive with people telling them the truth, which is a True Self quality.

How you think about yourself is based on mental judgments you learned from others. Judgments can be good or bad, or right or wrong. Being “good” is just as unhealthy as being “bad.” Being a “good girl” was the way I tried to achieve self-confidence for the first thirty years of my life. It was quite a wake up to realize my self-confidence was so low because it was based on a “good girl” image and not reality.

To improve your self-confidence, the first thing you need to do is stop being judgmental of yourself. It does not matter whether your qualities are ego or authentic, you need to stop hurting yourself. Remind yourself that you are human and have faults. Of course, you are not always true to yourself. Of course, it takes time to discover and unlearn all the unhealthy stuff you learned from others.

Put your energy into reducing mental judgments against yourself or anyone else.

Notice how often you think you are right or wrong, or good or bad. See if you can stop judging yourself. If not, get help from the Overcome Anxiety Naturally home study course, which teaches you how to shift out of self-judgments into self-acceptance in a realistic step-by-step fashion.

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MANIFEST SELF-CONFIDENCE: Your mental judgments made you anxious so it feels wonderful to reduce them so you relax and have more fun. Ten written lessons show you how to shift out of self-judgment into self-acceptance. The Overcome Anxiety Naturally home study course also includes the three-hour audio series, Opening the Heart, worth $97.00, which helps you love yourself and your emotions. $199.97, money-back guarantee.

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FIND YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE: Your body is the home of your self-confidence, inner strengths and truths. Get to know your body and enjoy the benefits of freedom and joy. Order “3 Reasons You Have a Body: Hear Your Body Talking” a one-hour tele-seminar on body health and body awareness. $29.97, money-back guarantee.

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How to Improve Your Self Confidence and Self Esteem

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Self-Confidence is Sincere
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Transformational Coach, Mentor

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I was discussing with some of my family members recently what self-confidence is and how to get more of it. So I thought I would put into writing what I have learned about self-esteem.

Self-confidence is based in reality. This means you cannot fake it. You can try to fake it, but those in the know are not fooled for long. The reason you cannot fake self-confidence is because your body simply does not have the ability to lie. So, no matter what you do to hide the truth, your physical form reveals the truth about how you feel about yourself.

Sure, you can puff out your chest and act self-confident. However, anyone who reads body language and feels energy knows you are acting superior. Also, if you have studied psychology, you know that arrogant behavior is due to low self-esteem. Low self-esteem is the reason people act arrogant and helpless. “Act” is the key word here.

In the physical world outside of you, you are not better or worse than another. Your ego tries to convince you that you are special or worthless. This is inaccurate. To be special or worthless you have to be separate from reality. Your true self is not a separate identity hanging out in space, disconnected from Mother Earth, your body and the cosmos. To be separate is to be crazy.

If you believe the mental delusions that you are special or worthless, you create mental diseases. Mental diseases are delusions about the true self. Neither superior or inferior ego states are authentic aspects of your true self. Self-confidence cannot be achieved by being inauthentic.

Self-confidence is based on real facts and solid matter. Your feet must be standing on solid ground with gravity pulling down on your physical form to anchor you into the earth. You must be sincere and honest about who you really are. You are born with plenty of self-confidence but the adults in your world quickly conditioned your good feelings about yourself into bad feelings about yourself.

Therefore, all of us have to unlearn the negative things we learned about ourselves from outside sources. Then we have to relearn the truth about ourselves. We do this by feeling and trusting that which is real. To help you get more in touch with reality, name three positive qualities that you possess. Then name three unpleasant qualities about yourself.

Being honest with both answers helps you become less defensive and more realistic. This is the beginning of genuine self-confidence. Next, you need to become less judgmental of the real you. So take note of any snide remarks against yourself what come to your conscious mind.

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FIND YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE: Your body is the home of your self-confidence, inner strengths and truths. Get to know your body and enjoy the benefits of freedom and joy. Order “3 Reasons You Have a Body: Hear Your Body Talking” a one-hour tele-seminar on body health and body awareness. $29.97, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order: Hear Your Body Talking: http://www.drjeanette.com/hearyourbody.html

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LOVE YOUR TRUE SELF: Learn to feel the energy of your real self in the first thirty minutes of the Opening the Heart audio, which is included in the home study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally. In addition ten written lessons show you how to stop your brain from overriding your body by teaching you how to return to your physical sensations. When you touch your body you stop your obsessive, crazy thoughts from driving you crazy! $199.97, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order: How to Overcome Anxiety Naturally: http://www.drjeanette.com/anxietyonlinecourse.html

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What is a Breakthrough? A Bodyful Experience!

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Breakthroughs are Bodyful.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Transformational Coach, Mentor
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

When was the last time you had a breakthrough?

I am long overdue for one. Therefore, I have been carefully studying
my clients as they enjoy theirs. For example, a regular coaching
client just had a delightful breakthrough this week during her phone
session. She could feel it, so could I. Her energy shifted. She got
it! More of her became present.

Breakthroughs are far beyond insights. A quantum leap occurs when
you directly experience a full-bodied awareness of how you are keeping
yourself in chains and know in your heart you cannot continue to allow
this to happen to you—no matter what! Once freedom is experienced
in the body, it is difficult for the mental judgments to take you prisoner
again.

My client has a hard time doing anything if her family members
disapprove of her. Since her family is rigid, controlling and
self-righteous that makes it difficult for her to do what she needs
to do to be happy and free. Eating out of anxiety is one of the
behaviors she has not been able to transform. Since she has been
conditioned to eat what she should, not eat what she should not AND
finish her plate, she eats too fast and over eats. Starving children
come to haunt her…

I asked her to feel the part of her that controls her. The image was
her critical mother who she still answers to, even though my client
owns the company. For successful transformation, you must take full
responsibility for your ego that pleases mother and your ego that
resists mother. Notice your stubbornness, it is your worse enemy.
Your rebellious self does not listen to what is being communicated.
It acts as if the other person is wrong and bad, projecting false
beliefs outward.

My client’s awareness of both ego states has not been enough for her
to experience freedom. So, I asked her to feel the part of her that
cannot speak her truth. For example, “I am not keeping my ‘seat in
the butt’ working all day because I need to go walking to exercise.”
As we explored her real self who cannot speak up, the bottom line
real fear was: “I will lose mother’s love.” Next we helped her little
girl realize that approval is not love.

The breakthrough occurred when I asked her to feel her stomach. As a
result of being controlled by her family, my client’s natural
response of feeling when her stomach is full had been destroyed.
Therefore, my client does not feel her stomach. Instead, she listens
to her mental judgments of should and should nots for guidance. The
reality of not feeling her stomach brought her face to face with her
denial.

Look at your behaviors and see how many of them are due to the same
problem. When does your brain override your physical sensations so
that you do not directly experience reality? How often during the day
do you block your feelings? In what areas in your life are you
unconscious of your authentic sensations? Do you feel your feet and
notice you are not grounded? Do you hear your intuitive self when it
talks to you?

You are NOT who you think you are. Who are you? Your body knows.
However, your ego is invested in keeping you unconscious of how it is
controlling you, defining you and using you. This means your body is
the battleground where your false beliefs thrive, blocking the
gateway to reality. Therefore, you must be silent and listen. Your
body is the place to spend lots of time sensing and feeling reality.
If you need help, listen to the audio, “Hear Your Body Talking.”

Be bodyful. Be present for your life; do not let it slip away into
ordinary, mundaneness. Be bold, paint the canvas of your life brightly
with colors.

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FIND YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE: Your body is the home of your
self-confidence, inner strengths and truths. Get to know your body
and enjoy the benefits of freedom and joy. Order “3 Reasons You Have
a Body: Hear Your Body Talking” a one-hour tele-seminar on body
health and body awareness. $29.97, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order: Hear Your Body Talking: http://www.drjeanette.com/hearyourbody.html

OVERCOME YOUR RESISTANCE: Learn to feel the energy of your
pleasing self, rebellious self and real self in the first thirty minutes of
the Opening the Heart audio, which is included in the home study
course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally. In addition you get ten written
lessons that show you how to stop your brain from overriding your
body by teaching you how to return to your physical sensations.
When you touch your body you stop your obsessive, crazy thoughts
from driving you crazy! $199.97, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order: How to Overcome Anxiety Naturally
http://www.drjeanette.com/anxietyonlinecourse.html

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How to Say No When You Need to Say No.

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Say No to Guilt.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Transformational Coach, Mentor
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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A regular reader of The Vibrant Moment asks:

“I am a people pleaser! I learned it from my mom. I recently told
some family members “no” to an upcoming event. It felt like the right
choice for our immediate family. My Aunt was very disappointed. I
felt the disappointment. Because I am a sensitive person I felt all
of her and everyone else’s displeasure. Because they do a lot for us
I especially felt guilty. How do I STOP feeling guilty for doing
what’s best for me? I am such a caring person …it feels like I’m
not caring by not adjusting myself to meet others. I know this is not
good for me. Please help me learn this!! How do I go through life
with more ease? How can I be a caring person while not ignoring my
inner knowing?”

Saying no is extremely hard to do when you know someone you care
about will be unhappy with you. None of us want to make others
unhappy. Definitely, not those we love and care about.

Therein lies the problem; you are in a catch 22. Or so it seems. You
feel bad if you say no. You feel bad if you say yes. Yuck.

Just this week I said no and two people pressured me to say yes. I
said no again. The pressure continued and one of them said something
unkind to me, shaming me. I gave in and said yes.

The consequences of saying yes created a huge mess for me. As a
result of their poor judgment, I had to spend two days- literally
-cleaning up the mess their behavior created. Not only am I angry
with the person who pressured me with shame, I am angry at myself
for not having the courage to follow through with what was best for me.

My jaw is tight and my rage is furious like Pele, the Hawaiian
Goddess. So, what is the healthy thing to do?

Do you feel rage and not get what you want?
Or, do you feel guilt and get what you want?

The choice is yours. Keep reality in mind. Real anger at betraying
yourself will never go away. Real anger is a healthy response to
hurting yourself or being hurt by others. On the other hand, guilt is
a conditioned response. You were taught to feel guilt. This is great
news because this means you can unlearn your guilt response over
time with practice.

During my post-doc at Temple Medical School, studying with a large
group of famous behavior therapists, I learned that guilt should
NEVER be the reason for any decision or behavior. Guilt is a form of
brain washing, like shame. Dr. Goldstein told us, “Never let guilt
control you and teach this to your clients.” I took this knowing to
heart, using it to free myself from unhealthy learnings. You can do
the same.

Let’s look deeper into the relationship dynamics that are occurring
when you feel guilt. For example, when your Aunt is disappointed in
you, she is making you responsible for her happiness! Making you
responsible for her happiness is an impossible, thus, unhealthy way
to relate to you. Do you really want to take on the burden of having
to make her happy? The truth is, you are sure to fail because only
she can make herself happy.

Consider the fact that if your Aunt was considerate of you, she would
be happy with whatever was best for you. She would be understanding
and loving toward you. She would be supportive of you taking care of
your large family and many responsibilities. She would not guilt trip
you. If she wants you at an event, she needs to plan it with you. Then
it would occur at a good time for you and your family.

For more about how to desensitize yourself to guilt read the library
article, “How to Live a Guilt Free Life,” at:
http://www.drjeanette.com/guilt.html

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Count Your Blessings to Create More Blessings

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Bless to Create More.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Energy Coach, Mentor
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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Just finished a session with a client and we spent the hour focusing
on the results you get when you bless something. I asked her to bless
her feet. The love energy that showed up in her feet was amazingly
strong. Yes, the result was a palpable physical energy noticeable to
her and me.

Why don’t you try blessing something? Bless any part of your body
right now that you like. Could be your hands, eyes, smile, face,
breasts, legs —you get the jest. You bless something by paying
attention to it, liking it, loving it, enjoying it. Smile at it and
send it love. Your cells receive your blessing.

Feel the results of blessing your body. Note all your senses. You
have inner senses that match all your outer senses. Write down your
results so you do not forget them. My client felt light, good and
happy. Her orange toenail polish was even more shiny than before!
Blessing is one of the universal, nature laws that operates all the
time on this planet. Blessing another person is the same as blessing
yourself.

Now contrast the results of blessing something with the results of
what happens when you curse something. Cursing does not mean “bad
words.” Cursing means paying attention to something with judgments
against it. Just noticing something is just noticing something. You
can just notice your extra fat or wrinkles. Noticing reality is
healthy. Cursing is not.

When you curse something, you send it disharmonious energy that
sensitive people can feel. This unhealthy energy can be verbal or
non-verbal. When you curse something, you dislike it, hate it, avoid
it and make it wrong. Wrong and bad are the means by which we curse.

Now, curse some part of your body that you do not like and notice
what happens. Are your results dramatically different? When my client
cursed her body she felt heavy, bad and sad. Her cursing created a
grey, black feeling throughout her body and around it. Her cells did
the opposite of lighting up and shining.

You can improve your personal growth success by increasing your
awareness of what you curse and bless. The next time you curse
yourself or someone – stop it. Do not be dismayed or judgmental
of yourself. You can correct your actions immediately. All you have
to do is shift into blessing something. Anything will do, such as two
trees that are growing in harmony. Bless them. And then find
something else to bless as soon as you can; such as your strong
and sturdy feet.

Yes, two blessings to one curse is the goal. To make the universal
law work toward positive energy instead of negative, all you have to
do you is bless more than you curse. This will keep more blessings
coming your way.

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WHAT ARE YOU CURSING? If you do not know, increase your awareness
by learning how to read energy. Learn the difference between
exaggerating, denying and knowing. To flow toward more health, you
need to know what your real emotions are and accept them. Study and
use the Opening the Heart audio until you know the difference between
healthy energy that blesses and unhealthy energy that curses. Three
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RELAX AND BLESS MORE: Learn to stop panic immediately and reduce
your anxiety over a ten week period. Ten written lessons teach you how
to bless your true self who is not anxious. Take the home study course
Overcome Anxiety Naturally. This drug-free course has helped hundreds
of people reduce anxiety and find better health. Ten written lessons and
five hours of audio including the Opening the Heart series. Money-back
guarantee. $199.97.

Read more and order:
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If you already own the above products, order one of these audio
seminars and get another one free. Order one and tell me the second
one you want for free.

I recommend these alternative psychology audios to help you become
stronger.
Hear Your Body Talking:
http://www.drjeanette.com/hearyourbody.html
Say Goodbye to Guilt:
http://www.drjeanette.com/guiltbuster.html
Tame Your Thoughts:
http://www.drjeanette.com/tameyourthoughts.html

If you enjoy The Vibrant Moment, please share it with friends and
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years of experience teaching people how to read and use energy to
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How to be Interesting to Your Therapist, Friend and Lover

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Share Your Feelings.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Energy Coach, Mentor
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

I answer questions on the online website, Quora, from time to time
such as “What do therapists do during a boring session with a client?”

This is a great question because it applies to all relationships. What
do you do when your partner, friend or sibling is talking on and
on and you are bored? Are you polite and just keep listening? If so,
this could soon drain your energy and move your relationship into an
unhealthy dynamic. Once a relationship becomes dishonest, that
relationship is no longer healthy for you because you have lost your
integrity.

Early in my career I discovered that when I was bored listening to
someone there was a high probability that other people were also
bored when listening to this person. This was a great help to me as a
therapist because now I knew one of the reasons my client did not
have close relationships with others. Their defenses were keeping them
from connecting with people. Surface talking leads to surface
relationships.

Therefore, as soon as I experience a client as boring, I intervene. I
stop them and redirect them. Often I do this by asking them what they
are feeling. The feeling level of communication is interesting and
immediately connects us even if they are not aware of what they are
feeling. What someone is thinking can entertain you for a while if their
thoughts are not irrational or obsessive. Stories can also be interesting
for a while especially if they are funny or heart warming.

However, after a while just listening to anyone is boring no matter
what they are saying. Interactions and connections are needed for
people to have fun and be close to each other. You will never be
bored with yourself if you ask yourself what you are feeling. Do this
often. Listen to your emotional self until you get the honest
answers you need to be authentic and interesting.

When you get bored with others, quietly redirect the conversation to
something you are interested in. Or ask them what they feel about so
and so. Some people will follow you into a more intimate connection.
Others will not and you can kindly excuse yourself and go to the
bathroom or join another conversation.

To be interesting, you need to know what you are feeling and be able
to share your feelings with others.

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WHAT ARE YOU FEELING? If you do not know, find out what your real
emotions are and accept them. Study and use the Opening the Heart
audio until you know the difference between your thoughts and your
feelings. Three hours of emotional health audio. $97.00 Money-back
guarantee.

Read more and order: Opening the Heart audio: http://www.drjeanette.com/emotionalhealthaudio.html

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RELAX AND FEEL GOOD: Learn to stop panic and reduce anxiety
immediately. Ten written lesson teach you how to be yourself so you
are interesting. Take the home study course Overcome Anxiety
Naturally. This drug free course has helped hundreds of people reduce
anxiety and find their true self. Ten written lessons and five hours
of audio including the Opening the Heart series. Money-back guarantee
$199.97.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/anxietyonlinecourse.html

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If you already own the above products, order one of these
teleseminars and get another one free. Order one and tell me the
second one you want for free.

I recommend these alternative psychology audios to help you become
more interesting.

Hear Your Body Talking:
http://www.drjeanette.com/hearyourbody.html
Say Goodbye to Guilt:
http://www.drjeanette.com/guiltbuster.html
Tame Your Thoughts:
http://www.drjeanette.com/tameyourthoughts.html

Email me back with any problems or questions.

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7 Steps to Overcome Attacks from Others

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Use Your Inner Strengths.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Energy Coach, Mentor
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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“You are the bully.” “I am the victim.” “It’s your fault.”

How many times this year has someone said things like this to you?

Blame. Shame. Name calling. Judgments against you are real. Big or
small, attacking energy can fly toward you anytime from anyone. This
nasty energy is extremely painful and hurtful to your heart and body.
Your emotional self is wounded to the core. Your body takes the bunt
of attack energy and holds on to emotional pain until you consciously
release it.

Your body and inner emotional self needs protection when attacking
energy hits your body and energy field. This is when your Inner
Mother and Inner Father need to show up and protect you. Here are
seven steps to help you find your inner strengths when attacked by
others.

Seven Steps that Make You Stronger After Being Attacked:

  1. First become conscious and aware that you are being attacked.
    Get outside validation if needed from someone you trust. Make sure
    it is not your projection.
  2. Remind yourself that attack energy is NEVER justified. Attacking
    yourself or others is abusive.
  3. Do not blame or judge the person attacking you. Your goal is to stop
    your defensive reactions so you become stronger.
  4. Feel your genuine emotions without making what you feel wrong or
    bad. Writing is a safe, effective tool. Genuine anger is not attacking.
  5. Say no, no, no to all internal or external attack energy.
  6. Say yes, yes, yes to your true self who possesses your inner
    strengths.
  7. Feel and use your inner strengths to stand tall with integrity.

A helpful action I learned from an attachment workshop I attended
twenty years ago is to say: “I am big enough, strong enough, smart
enough and willing enough to take care of myself.” This mantra is
helpful to say out loud over and over again as needed to affirm your
ability to stand up for yourself. Don’t be afraid to use it, I use it all the
time. My clients have benefited enormously from using it during any
kind of stress.

When you say these words to yourself, it reminds you that you are
not hopeless and helpless in this moment. In reality, your true self is
much stronger than the attack energy, which is ego based. However,
when first attacked, you do not know this to be true. But after taking
these seven steps you know you are strong and sturdy because you
can feel your true energy. You are not defending yourself; you are
being yourself.

Try these seven steps that make you stronger after being attacked
and let me know how they help you become more self-confident.

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DEFENSIVE VS. TRUE SELF ENERGY: If you do not know the difference
between your defensive feelings and your real feelings, you must learn
to feel the difference so you know truth vs. fake. Study and use the
Opening the Heart audio until you know the difference between your
ego and your true self. Three hours of emotional health audio.
$97.00 Money-back guarantee.

Read more and order: Opening the Heart audio:
http://www.drjeanette.com/emotionalhealthaudio.html

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FIND YOUR INNER STRENGTHS: Learn to stop panic and reduce
anxiety immediately. When you are anxious you cannot access your
inner strengths. Ten written lessons teach you how to reject your ego
and love yourself. Take the home study course Overcome Anxiety
Naturally. This drug-free course has helped hundreds of people reduce
anxiety and find their strengths. Ten written lessons and five hours of
audio including the Opening the Heart series.
Money-back guarantee. $199.97

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/anxietyonlinecourse.html

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I recommend these alternative psychology audios to make you
stronger:

Say Goodbye to Guilt:
http://www.drjeanette.com/guiltbuster.html

Tame Your Thoughts:
http://www.drjeanette.com/tameyourthoughts.html

If you enjoy The Vibrant Moment, please forward it to friends and
colleagues. It comes to you from Dr. Doris Jeanette, with over forty
years of experience teaching people how to read and use energy to
unlock and use their human potential. Sign up at:
http://www.drjeanette.com.

How to Stop Overthinking and Overcome Insomnia

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Give Your Brain a Break.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Energy Coach, Mentor
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I know a lot of you suffer from insomnia. The world around us seems especially scary right now. These external irrational vibrations make us feel unsafe. In addition, your individual stresses keep you awake at night worrying about nonsense. 

So, how can you let go, trust and sink into the incredible delicious state of heavenly sleep? 

Your brain desperately needs sleep, yet it insists on keeping you awake! The irrational behavior of overthinking is a common problem with the Homo sapiens. We do it in the waking and sleeping state. Could it be that your brain really does not want you to relax and enjoy life? It does appear to be the case. Therefore, you must rise above your conditioned, brainwashed brain and take charge of what you do and do not do.

To stop your obsessive thoughts from keeping you awake at night, you must not be the fool. The solution to insomnia is to take decisive action that moves you forward. You must consciously choose to shift out of thinking and move into feeling that which is real. You must stop believing your thoughts when they tell you that you should do this or that or the other. Your Inner Critic often masquerades as God, putting you in chains so you cannot move your body. Your thoughts give you misinformation, belief based ideas and fake news.

On the other hand, your feelings help you perceive, cope and deal with reality so that you are not fooled by your irrational thoughts. When you choose to trust your feelings, you know that you get accurate feedback about reality. You know you have good common sense, inner strengths and excellent intuition. Your know your heart knows best. Your heart is the powerful one with light and fire energy that connects you with external and internal reality. 

There are many ways to help you sleep better at night and many factors involved in keeping us awake. I will post a list of suggestions to help you on my website in a few weeks. In the meantime, there is one sure way you can get back to sleep. It is not easy to do at first and takes practice. But try it and see how much success you get. It is simple, direct and effective.

When you find yourself thinking, take yourself to task and choose to put your attention on your breath and not on your thoughts. Bring your awareness back again and again to your breathing. Breathe in slowly and out slowly. Breathe in slowly and out slowly. I have tried several versions of this until I found one that works well for me. The simple, direct way for me is to say internally to myself “In”……..and I breathe in. I say to myself “Out” and I breathe out. When I can do this for a few minutes, I fall asleep.

Focusing on you breath will keep your thoughts from keeping you awake. Whenever you are thinking, bring yourself back to breathing. Try it again and again. You will discover just how much control your thoughts have over you! Let me know how successful you are in breathing and sleeping.

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Feel Spring Around You.
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I often stress the importance of being able to relax because
relaxation is the pathway to physical, mental and emotional health.
However, relaxation is not the only energy you and your body need if
you want to have lots of vibrant moments and holistic health. You
also need to get excited! Spring is here to help you break free.

As I was consciously trying to break free from the chains that bound
me, in the early 1980s, I was out with two friends at a fancy
Philadelphia restaurant enjoying myself. I started to laugh about
something we were talking about at our small, elegant table. It was
so funny and I felt so relaxed that my whole body laughed. Pretty
soon, I was on the edge of my seat and almost fell out of my chair. I
stopped laughing, looked at the people next to me and sat up straight
in my chair feeling embarrassed.

In the natural process of transformation, being relaxed naturally
leads to excitement and joy. So, your natural state is awe. What
stops you from feeling wonder more often? Are you too afraid to let
go of the control thoughts have over you? You may not want to relax
because you are afraid you will embarrass yourself with your
excitement of being alive.

Take a look in the mirror:
Are you aware of your inhibitions?
How do you feel when you get excited?
What judgments do you have in your head about laughing freely?
Are you afraid of making a fool of yourself?

I call my second audio in the three hour Opening the Heart series,
“Fear is the pathway to freedom and joy.” This is because feeling
your real fear naturally leads to your real joy. Real fear grounds
you and keeps you safe. Whereas, feeling anxious leads to no joy and
constant insecurity. Feeling anxious is the state your Killjoy
Monster loves to put you in. Anxiety is precisely how your Inner
Critic keeps you in your chains.

Judgments from your ego create the anxiety in your body that makes
you uptight and insecure. I was extremely judgmental of myself about
being relaxed and letting go of control in a public restaurant. My
Killjoy Monster was telling me I was “loud, inappropriate, rude, out
of control, impolite.” Can you think of any other ways to criticize
my behavior? This incident helped me discover the reason I controlled
myself in the first place: I was afraid of what I would do if I were
free and uninhibited. I would get excited and do something bad, wrong
or embarrassing. Was this true? Was I dealing with a real fear or was
it my irrational anxiety?

Let’s look at the reality of the situation. As I settled back into my
table of friends, I could feel they where not judgmental of me, they
were enjoying me; maybe even envious of my spontaneity and freedom.
My enthusiasm was one of the reasons they liked being with me. The
other people in the restaurant did not appear to be concerned, they
were enjoying themselves. So, my belief was false. My behavior was
not inappropriate. Your Inner Critic could say, there may have been an
Old Grouch somewhere in the restaurant that thought I was, “loud,
inappropriate, rude, out of control, and impolite.”

So? The price you pay for staying in your chains is that there maybe
someone who judges you, somewhere, sometime. Does this fear
outweigh the benefits of breaking free from your chains? Spontaneous
people enjoy enormous benefits! They have health, wealth and
happiness. They do not suffer from depression and anxiety. Relaxed
people connect with others and enjoy healthy relationships, including
good sex.

The best things in life come to you when you are not a Grouch. Get
rid of your Inner Grouch and outside judgments cannot keep you in
your chains. All you have to do is break free of your conditioning
and unlearn your mental judgments. Give yourself permission to get
excited and express your enthusiasm without making yourself wrong.
Fear not, the skill to deal with people who judge you can be learned.
Assertiveness is a necessary skill for personal growth success and
healthy relationships. It is easy to say you are sorry if you unknowingly
step on some toes.

Feel spring and let its exciting energy put a spring in your step.
Breathe in the wonder of spring so your cells laugh with joy. Bloom
like a flower and enjoy the consequences of saying no to your Killjoy
Monster and yes to your True Self. Be in love with life.

You will be smiling all over as a result of all those vibrant moments you spend with bright, yellow daffodils.

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and joy. Learn how to ride your real fear energy like a surfer rides a
wave so your fear turns into excitement and joy. The second audio
in the Opening the Heart series, “Fear, the pathway to freedom and
joy” teaches you how to do this. The first audio is “Feelings, the source
of real love,” which teaches you about love. The third is “When You
’re Hurting…,” which heals your past emotional wounds. All three come
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My Valentine’s wish to you this year is to give yourself permission
to relax and have fun. Genuine love is full of genuine fun.

I did not feel like doing anything last week. No energy, tired, just
wanted to rest, and so I did. Remembering how important it is to stay
connected to Mother Earth as she changes with the winter days and
cold temperatures, I slept like a bear. Being one with the
hibernating season of the earth felt divine. I savored being cozy in
my flannel sheets and not pushing myself to do anything. Deep sleep
is a heavenly experience! It is a rejuvenating sensation that you
deserve when needed.

After a couple of days of having fun and resting, my Inner Critic
became quite loud and unpleasant. It attacked my behavior, calling me
lazy. After a few minutes, I felt really, really bad. My fun and
enjoyment disappeared. Instead, I felt anxious and insecure.
Thankfully, all my years of personal growth paid off because I knew
exactly what was happening to me. Ding, dong!

Lazy was one of the first judgments I became conscious of back in my
twenties. I learned the lazy judgment from my father who could never
relax. Since I was conscious of what was going on in my psyche, I
quickly took responsibility for my own mental judgments and said no
to them. No, no, no! Soon, I was relaxing and feeling good again.

Nevertheless, I took note of how much my sense of self is tied to
doing something and accomplishing something every day. The more you
accomplish, the better person you are— so says the Puritans. This
superiority complex is what I learned and this is what I want to
completely and totally unlearn. No thank you, Puritans. I do not buy
or want your ethics; your way of living is extremely controlling,
judgmental and depressing.

In reality, my worth is not based on what I do or do not do. Like you,
the bears and everything else in the cosmos, I am worthwhile simply
because I exist. Thus, the Spanish way of living is my choice, which
says, “How beautiful it is to do nothing, and then rest afterward.” If
you want a happy and healthy life give yourself permission to do
nothing and rest when you feel like it. Do not wait until you get sick
and your body forces you to stop and receive the relaxation and fun
you need.

Open, free time gives you a chance to be creative. Creative living is
naturally and automatically fun. And the best news of all? Creative
living is prosperous because you are part of the whole. I did not miss
any appointment that I was responsible for while enjoying myself.
Trust and know that you will have all that you need if you stop trying to
control reality. It is only your separated ego that suffers and does not
succeed because it is anxious and depressed.

You do not have to do anything to be valuable and precious. You are
valuable and precious. No matter what anyone else says. Love yourself
and have fun being in the moment. Say no to your mental judgments
so you enjoy sleeping deeply until it is time to s-pring forward into
spring!

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