How to Stop Guilt From Killing Your Love Relationship

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Guilt Kills Love.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

Wow, so far, the year of the Chinese Wood Dragon is delivering a wild
energy ride for me. If you missed my confession about Dragon Envy in
January’s, The Vibrant Moment, read it here:
https://thevibrantmoment.com/2024/01/

There are many toxic thoughts that make us feel bad, wrong and
worthless. However, at the top of the list, poisonous thoughts that
make you feel guilt and guilty are the most deadly. Toxic thoughts
are learned and control you.

Guilt kills your True Self.

Your True Self is naturally loving and a bundle of joy. The innate
part of you is a package of energy composed of your emotional self,
physical body, creative mind and spiritual self. Spirit is pure,
unaltered energy that can be recognized as light, colors, love, sound
and other subtle qualities. You have the ability to expand your
perception of these powerful energies by learning how to sense and
feel them directly with your body as you go through your day and
night.

Feeling reality improves your mental health. Denial does not. Staying
busy does not. For some of you, the voice of your Inner Critic may not
be in your daily awareness. If this is true, you need to look around
in your unconscious for your toxic thoughts and notice how they make
you feel so you can break free from your conditioning.

Often, when you finally learn how to take care of yourself, instead
of putting everyone else first, you experience the nasty energy of
guilt. Being able to recognize the energy of guilt can help you get
out of and say a resounding “No, no, no.” to this sticky, dense,
dark, heavy energy. Guilt often sits on your shoulders, hangs out
around your head and lands heavy on your heart. When you are in the
middle of guilt, you feel bad, wrong and worthless.

So, the secret of living a guilt free life, which is the same thing
as living a resentment free life, is to be able to recognize when you
are being controlled by guilt so you can get out of this painful
energy faster and with more ease.

Some toxic guilt thoughts to watch out for are:
You should do…….
You must do…….or people will think bad things about you.
You should not do…….or people will think you are weird.
You are lazy…….
You are selfish…….
You are inconsiderate…….
You are crazy…….
You are narcissistic…….

And the guilty beat goes on and on about how bad, wrong and terrible
you are as a human being if you do NOT behave as a conditioned,
controlled person SHOULD do. The Guilt Trap is a very sneaky way to
brainwash you. Since we are by nature loving and empathic, we do not
want to hurt others. When the Guilt Trap is used by religions,
dictators, governments and parents, they are using our loving nature
to keep us from being free and joyful.

You reap happy rewards if you pay attention to the thoughts in your
head. Shine light on all your thoughts and take a good, long look at
them. Question if they are true or not. Get support in any place you
can find it, for being authentic, free and happy instead of living
your life burdened down by toxic thoughts and guilt. For more about
how to live a guilt free life read:
https://drjeanette.com/guilt-treatment/

Expanding your consciousness means you are learning how to sense and
feel more of your True Self vibrations. The more you expand your
awareness of the realities inside of you and outside of you, the
better your mental health. You keep depression and anxiety from
dragging you down if you stay more connected to reality as you live
each moment.

Your self-confidence and self-esteem improves dramatically, the more
you breathe in and out each real moment that is occurring in front of
you. Say no to guilt to experience more vibrant moments.

Trust your heart to lead the way with compassion.


LIVE A GUILT FREE LIFE: Get support and guidance in removing the
sticky energy of guilt when you study the holistic psychology
educational audio, “Find Peace Beyond Guilt and Judgment.”

Order mp3 “Find Peace Beyond Guilt and Judgment” self-help audio as
mp3 for $19.97. http://tinyurl.com/mcvmvxce

“That was awesome! Thank you. It was stuff that we’ve talked about
before, but for some reason it really hit me last night. Now I
understand even more why I need to remember that what my head says is
illusion, but what my heart is telling me is real. I get it!” Ermine,
Washington, DC.

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FIND YOUR INNER DRAGON: Learn to feel the difference between your
defensive ego and your true self in the first half hour of the
Opening the Heart audio series called “Feelings: The challenge of our
species.” Practice sensing your natural born vibrations as you
receive loving guidance on how to recognize your controlling ego
energy. You feel better as soon as you love who you really are
instead of letting your ego tell you how bad you are! Three hours of
audio on feelings, fear and hurt, recorded in a sound studio so my
voice delivers healing, calming vibrations to resonate with over and
over again for better mental health. $97.00, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
https://drjeanette.com/shop-2/

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Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.
503 S. 21 St.
Philadelphia, PA 19146
Mentor and author of Opening the Heart

How to Manifest Your New Year’s Resolutions and Reach Personal Growth Goals

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Face Fears.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher

The beginning of the New Year is a great time to use your intention
to create more freedom and joy. Take time to write down your desires
and needs. Writing your desires down is an effective first step
toward manifestation. Using vision boards, soul collages and making
masks are also fun ways to set your intention into motion. Once set,
trust your process.

The next step is to notice and remove the blocks that are keeping
your intentions from becoming true. Most often, it is your unresolved
emotional issues that keep you from moving forward on your desire to
lose weight, save money, create more loving relationships and make
your dreams come true.

The problem is you can’t reach your emotional self in order to heal
your wounds until you get pass your egos. Yes, you have many. Your
defensive energy often blocks the gateway to your tender heart. This
means you need to get to know your sneaky ego if you want to
transform your body into more of your natural born energy.

Transformation means your ego energy literally changes form in your
body so that you become softer, sweeter and more receptive. Also,
during transformation your energy field becomes more radiant. This
energy change occurs because you are allowing more of your natural
born light to shine outward. Others can see and feel your change
because your change is physical, not just emotional or mental.

Meeting your ego as an equal is often a daunting task. You crafted
your ego to take care of yourself when you were little and didn’t
have any other way to protect yourself. This process of creating
defensive energy occurred unconsciously and automatically when you
were hurt or scared as a child.

However, the more you avoid exposing your controlling egos, the more
you experience anxiety and mundane moments. This is where so many
people are stuck on the planet right now. Egos are in charge of the
world. Egos are ruining our planet and hurting Mother Earth.
Defensive energy is keeping us from enjoying vibrant moments.

Back to your intentions. Have fun using your intentions to move
forward. Play with all the creative arts for success. Next, expose
your egos that are blocking your heart’s desires. The goal is to meet
your defensive energy as an equal. You need to stand up to your ego
so you can assert yourself effectively in the world. When your ego is
no longer in charge of you, you don’t let others control you.

In order to stand up to your ego, your adult self needs to learn how
to use your inner strengths and natural born talents to help you face
your fears and reduce your anxieties. The benefits of letting go of your
controlling ego are freedom and joy.

To learn more about the natural process of transformation, letting go
of control, finding your inner strengths and standing up to your ego
visit drjeanette.com

Please ask me any questions you have about how to get unstuck. I
will write more about breaking free and being joyful after the New
Year.


FIND YOUR INNER STRENGTHS: Learn to feel the difference between your
true self and ego in the first hour of the Opening the Heart audio
series called “Feelings: The challenge of our species.” Practice
sensing your natural born vibrations as you receive guidance on how
to recognize your controlling ego energy. You are empowered as soon
as you love who you really are. Three hours of audio on feelings,
fear and hurt, recorded in a sound studio so my voice delivers
healing, calming vibrations to resonate with over and over again for
better mental health. $97.00, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/emotionalhealthaudio.html

The three-hour Opening the Heart audio is included in the home study
course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally. Ten written lessons guide you
into a stronger relationship with your body so you relax into it and
stay grounded. When you are grounded, you cannot be anxious.
Breathing and body exercises strengthen your ability to remove
conditioned responses from your nervous system so you relax and
become more self-confident. $197.00, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/anxietyonlinecourse.html

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colleagues. It comes to you from Dr. Doris Jeanette, with over
forty-five years of experience teaching people how to read and use
energy to unlock and use their human potential. Sign up at:
http://www.drjeanette.com

Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.
503 S. 21 St.
Philadelphia, PA 19146
215-732-6197

How to Cope with Stress and Anxiety

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Get Grounded.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com


Out of nowhere the rain drops buckets of heavy water upon you. What
do you do? No protection, far away from home…

Wow, we are facing more and more events coming at us, faster than
ever before. Is time speeding up? Is the Earth speeding up? Are we
speeding up to keep up? Alas, I am not sure.

It is as if we are always traveling and never at home. I am at home
and things are not the way I want them or like them to be. Home used
to be my haven from all the storms of life. No matter where I
traveled, I was always glad to get back to my safe, secure, clean
bed. No more is this true.

What I do know is that we are being forced to be flexible and bend
with reality as it changes and rearranges around us. If we do not
become a willow tree, we become more rigid, controlled and weaker. I
also know that when you let go of any amount of ego energy, which is
defensive energy, in your body, there is a period of time in this
natural process where it feels like your whole body is changing and
rearranging.

This feeling and period of time in the natural process of
transformation is both thrilling and scary simultaneously. The
natural process of letting go of frozen energy in your body is
explained in more detail in my audio, “Fear. The pathway to
freedom and joy.”

Since I am familiar with this feeling, I wonder if we are in the
middle of a major transformation of the planet as it is healing
itself from human abuse. If so, I suspect that our own bodies,
physical and energetic, are also in the middle of adjusting and
rearranging as we adapt in order to stay alive. Evolution is an
ongoing process. It is not just the animals that could go extinct.

If this is true, then one of the best ways to handle all the rapid
changes is to stay grounded in your body so you stay connected to
gravity and Mother Earth. Otherwise, you will be tossed around and
experience massive anxiety. The degree of anxiety will depend on how
much and how often you are securely in your body. No one is grounded
all the time so do not expect perfection.

However, when you are grounded, you go with the flow and accept the
changes that are going on inside of you and outside of you. Grounded
means your body is in the field of gravity and your feet are plugged
into the electrical system of the planet. This allows your nervous
system to function at its best.

I am always exploring more ways to get grounded and stay grounded. So
if you use other ways to stay sane and grounded, please share them with
me. I will share your suggestions in the next Vibrant Moment.


YOUR BODY GROUNDS YOU: “3 Reasons You Have a Body: Hear Your Body
Talking” is a Holistic Psychology tele-seminar that helps you live
more fully in your body. Your autonomic nervous system cannot relax
until you are grounded. Your physical body is reality, live in
reality. One hour, $29.97, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order: http://www.drjeanette.com/hearyourbody.html

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TRANSFORM EGO ENERGY: Study “Fear. The pathway to freedom and joy.”
Learn to feel energy so you know what is going on inside of you and
outside of you. Learn to transform ego energy into more of your
strong and sturdy self. This is one of three hour-long comforting
experiences in the Opening the Heart emotional healing series. The
other two are “Feelings: The challenge of our species” and “When
You’re Hurting…” $97.00, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order Opening the Heart audio:
http://www.drjeanette.com/emotionalhealthaudio.html

The three-hour Opening the Heart audio is included in the home
study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally. Ten written lessons guide
you into a stronger relationship with your body so you relax into
your skin and stay grounded. When you are grounded, you cannot be
anxious. $199.00, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/anxietyonlinecourse.html

If you have any trouble email me back or call 215-732-6197.

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If you enjoy The Vibrant Moment, please share it with friends and
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forty-five years of experience teaching people how to read and use
energy to unlock and use their human potential. Sign up at:
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Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.
503 S. 21 St.
Philadelphia, PA 19146
http://www.drjeanette.com
215-732-6197

How to Stop Judging Yourself and Others for Better Mental Health

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Care and Change.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com
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Here is an excellent holistic psychology question I got this week
from a client. She asks, “How do I stop hating myself— as in judging
myself —when I make a mess and so many mistakes over and over again.
I can’t stand it.”

This client is learning how to be responsible for all her behaviors,
thoughts and feelings without being mean to herself. Being
responsible for yourself without judging yourself is what I call the
“First Trick in Transformation.” When you master this, you move to
the wonderful place on planet earth beyond judgment. This is the
place the poet Rumi loved to write about.

When my client makes a mess, she apologizes and thinks that is all
she has to do. However, the messes continue and add up over time
because she is not learning how to be a more responsible person with
the people in her life. She is still avoiding, instead of owning and
facing her mess. You know you are still being defensive if you cannot
admit and talk about the mistakes you make with ease again and again
over time. No buttons or triggers will be there when you are
emotionally secure.

Like most people in the world, my client does not want to be
responsible because if she admits she made a mess, her Inner Critic
beats her to death, just like the flagellation that was used for
punishment by the Romans. In 2023, you may not be physically
punishing yourself but you sure are beating yourself up creating as
much emotional and physical pain as if you were!

Sometimes, my client wants to kill herself to escape this pain. The
racing, mean, nasty thoughts hitting her emotional self makes her
want to run away and hide. If these thoughts are often enough,
terrible enough, people do kill themselves, as the brilliant author
Virginia Woolf did by putting rocks in her pockets and walking into
the Ouse river behind her home.

Therefore, learning how to stand up to your Inner Critic is essential
for personal growth. The lower brain needs to unlearn this nasty behavior
from the Middle Ages of attacking ourselves when we make a mess.
Making a mess and making mistakes are part of the natural process of
transformation that occurs when we self-actualize and become our true
selves.

When you make a mess you must clean it up. If you are not making a
mess, then you are not becoming a better person, you are stuck in
your ego. This means you want to make a mess, be responsible for your
mess, be compassionate toward yourself and stop making the same mess
over and over again. In other words, CHANGE YOUR BEHAVIOR! Anxiety is
usually the reason you make a mess in the fist place, so learn to
reduce your anxiety, be responsible and make better choices.

The fastest way I know to be successful learning how to stop whipping
yourself, is to FEEL how much you are hurting your little girl when you
attack her and make her bad and wrong. Feeling solves the problem for
me. Once I feel how much I am hurting myself or someone else, I
immediately want to stop being insensitive, mean or heartless.

My open heart cares and quickly stops the abuse. If you know of a
faster way to do this, please share it with me and our readers.
Caring is the result of opening your heart and solar plexus. Open
your heart to help yourself and humanity move forward.

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OPEN YOUR SOLAR PLEXUS: Learn to tell the difference between your
true self and ego in the first hour of the Opening the Heart audio
series called “Feelings: The challenge of our species.” Practice
sensing your colorful vibrations as you receive guidance on how to
recognize your rigid ego energy. You are empowered as soon as you
accept your true self. Three hours of audio on feelings, fear and hurt,
recorded in a sound studio so my voice delivers healing, calming
vibrations to resonate with over and over again for better mental
health. $97.00, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/emotionalhealthaudio.html

The three-hour Opening the Heart audio is included in the home study
course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally. Ten written lessons guide you
into a stronger relationship with your body so you relax into your skin
and stay grounded. When you are grounded, you cannot be anxious.
Breathing and body exercises strengthen your ability to remove
conditioned responses from your nervous system so you relax and
feel more self-confident. $197.00, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/anxietyonlinecourse.html

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If you enjoy The Vibrant Moment, please forward it to friends and
colleagues. It comes to you from Dr. Doris Jeanette, with over
forty-five years of experience teaching people how to read and use
energy to unlock and use their human potential. Sign up at:
http://www.drjeanette.com

Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.
503 S. 21 St.
Philadelphia, PA 19146
http://www.drjeanette.com
215-732-6197

Mentor and author of Opening the Heart

How to Experience Heaven on Earth

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Slow Down and Savor.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
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My 10 commandments are quite different from the ones I learned in the
tiny country church where I was instructed on the Right Thing to do based
on the One authority that had all the answers—the Bible. I benefit
from many of the wise lessons in the Bible as well as all the other points
of view in the world.

Here is my alternative, holistic psychology commandment: “Thy shalt
not rush.”

So many people rush through life looking for “the vibrant moment.”
They long for a peak experience, a new “high” and a wondrous moment
of joy. From drugs, to traveling, to staying busy; alas, they do not,
cannot find true happiness anywhere. Indeed, I do my share of looking
for the peak in trees: from fantastically seeking the peak of the red
trees in Vermont, like a mad woman in a rental car, to searching for
the peak cherry blooms in Philadelphia. I miss the moment.

This year, I just missed the glorious peak on the River Drive, bummer.
And, the peak in the Japanese Garden, terrible. And, due to weather
and a scheduled massage, it appears that I will miss the peak in my
Cherry Grove in Fairmount Park. So, taking myself to task, practicing
what I know— I let go of control and relaxed last night.

Boom, vibrant moments are all around me. I had a great night’s sleep,
yummy. I woke up early and am enjoying each moment as I move through
space and write my newsletter to you, my beloved readers. Thank you for
reading me, some of you, for many years. I turn 75 tomorrow and am
grateful I have enjoyed so many vibrant moments through out my life.

Bless you. The more you slow down and savor the moment you are living
in, the more vibrant moments you will have. Rush not through your life
looking for something. You will not be fulfilled. You enjoy the feeling
of being in “heaven on earth” when you stop looking outside yourself.
What you are doing in the moment, washing the dishes, is where you
find true happiness.

Letting go of control and relaxing your physical body is the key.
Become like melted butter becoming one with gravity and the cosmos.
Boom, you enter the giant flow of energy that feels wonderful, whole
and delicious.

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STOP RUSHING YOUR BODY!! Your body hears every thought you have and
responds. Your autonomic nervous system cannot relax your muscles if
you rush and scare it with thoughts of what you have to do. Study the
information in the tele-seminar, “Hear Your Body Talking,”
to become more relaxed and in the moment. Your physical body is
reality. One hour, $29.97, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order: http://www.drjeanette.com/hearyourbody.html

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REMOVE GUILT ENERGY: Learn how to say NO to guilt and judgment by
listening to this one-hour personal growth audio, “Find Peace Beyond
Guilt and Judgment.” Order mp3, only $29.97, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order: http://www.drjeanette.com/guiltbuster.html

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Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.
503 S. 21 St.
Philadelphia, PA 19146
http://www.drjeanette.com
215-732-6197

Mentor and author of Opening the Heart

What is an Emotion? What is a Feeling? Use Energy to Know Truth

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Research Your Emotions.

Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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What is an emotion? What is a feeling?

The misinformation about emotional energy is abundant online. Many websites do not know the difference between a depressed mental state and a true emotion, like sadness. Because of this confusion, medical practitioners quickly give you medication to avoid the natural grief process. The natural grief process is essential for your mental health.

Unfortunately, I have also found incorrect information about emotional energy in research studies conducted by academic people for decades. Researchers do not know the difference, even though psychologist’s studies prove otherwise, that a conditioned response like guilt is learned. Guilt is not an emotion. Guilt is a conditioned response, often used to control you. When you feel guilty do you please others and create resentment? 

Emotions are not learned, they are innate. Yet, positive psychologists tell you that joy is a mind set. All you have to do is choose to be happy. Joy is not a mind set. Joy is an emotion. Emotions are physical. They are real, honest to goddess, energy in motion. Emotions are not rigid and still, they move as soon as you allow yourself to feel them. Research your own emotions and fall in love with your emotional self.

Your emotions have a “mind” of their own. You do not get to choose what you feel. You only get to choose whether or not to feel what is real. What you feel will be based on reality. When you are not in touch with reality, you become anxious. The more you avoid your emotions, the more anxious you become because your emotions are real.

Instead of trying to control your emotions and force them to behave as you want, let their colorful energy take you on exciting journeys into physical and metaphysical realities. Open your solar plexus and heart so you can experience the earth adventures your soul longs for. Allow yourself to experience the emotional energies on planet earth so you can relax and enjoy more vibrant moments.

All emotions are colorful. All colors are equal. All emotions are equal. All emotions are healthy. All colors and emotions are necessary for mental health and well-being. Your emotions operate on the laws of physics.

When you face your real fear of emotional energy, the natural process of transformation automatically takes you to freedom and joy. All you have to do is stop trying to control the outcome. The second hour of “Opening the Heart” is called, “Fear. The pathway to freedom and joy.” Your real fear keeps you safe and sets you free.

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RESEARCH YOUR EMOTIONS: Know the truth by learning how to feel the energy difference between your emotions and your learned, conditioned behavior. The Opening the Heart audio teaches you how to recognize these difference energies in the first half hour. Say no to guilt, judgments and mental states. Say yes to your authentic emotions, which lead you to your heart, body and soul energy. When you love your emotional self, vibrant moments are common experiences and bring you great joy, even in your sorrow. Experience heaven on earth as your soul longs to do in everyday life.

Read more and order, Opening the Heart audio: http://www.drjeanette.com/emotionalhealthaudio.html

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How to Open Your Heart and Follow Your Bliss

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Be Present.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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Do you know the difference between your super responsible ego energy
that is dictated by the “shoulds” your brain insists you must do AND
the glow of warmth living in your heart that calls out to you to
follow and express?

Many people have the belief that when they grow up they must be
responsible by being polite, good and right. This kind of
responsibility is heavy on your shoulders and does not lead to
vibrant moments. Ego energy is flat, heavy, rigid and makes you
anxious and insecure.

Even though my clients learn that it is their ego that makes them
anxious, they are afraid of letting go of their Perfect Selves. They
are sure they will be out of control and do the wrong thing if they
relax and stop taking care of others. Are you afraid of letting go of
control? Do you think you need your super responsible ego energy to
make you do the right thing?

If you want to experience freedom, joy and vibrant moments, you need
to challenge this false belief everyday. Even though I know my
defensive ego, Dr. Tight-ass, is what makes me unhappy, anxious and
helpless, I sometimes get fooled by her loud, bully voice in my head.
Every morning when I wake up I explore what is in my consciousness.
Shifting out of any ego energy hanging around me into my real
feelings immediately improves the knot in my stomach.

In the real, physical world you can trust your heart. Your heart is
tender, loving and kind. Its energy is like the sun, it radiates
energy outward and makes you strong, secure and sturdy. Your heart is
amazingly wise because it is connected to your body, Mother Earth and
the Cosmos. When you follow your heart, it leads you to freedom, joy
and a responsibility that is far more effective than that of your
ego.

Your heart does not blame, like your brain. When you follow your ego
you blame yourself and others. When you follow your heart you are
responsible for what you are experiencing. Compassion pours out of
you toward people and things. You do not deliver harsh judgments to
yourself or others. You stand in the batter’s box and show up —no
matter what.

With an open heart, you live in reality, instead of your thoughts
about reality. What this means is that you are aware of your body,
earth and cosmos as real energies that you interact with. When you
are in your thoughts, beliefs and ego, your body awareness is absent.
Use your body awareness was a reliable test to know if your ego is
present or not!

With an open heart and body awareness you accept and adjust to what
exists. You do not have expectations of how things should be. You
dive into your unconscious and come up with yucky stuff to transform.
No matter what society judges you about, the amount of
self-confidence you gain from living with an open heart is profoundly
comforting.

The bottomline is that the more you avoid letting go of your
controlling ego, the more you experience helplessness, anxiety and
victimhood. So, step up to the plate and get ready to hit the ball.
It does not matter if you hit a home run or strike out, either is
just fine. You did your best. Whatever you do is good enough when
your heart is in charge.

Love yourself as you are right now in this moment. Reap the rewards
of being physically strong, relaxed and self-confident by putting
your heart in charge. The next time you feel down in the dumps, let
go of your defensive ego energy and see what happens. Email me your
results. I love to get feedback about your explorations of becoming
more self-aware.


FIND YOUR INNER STRENGTHS: Learn to tell the difference between your
true self and ego in the first hour of the Opening the Heart audio
series called “Feelings: The challenge of our species.” Practice
sensing your colorful vibrations as you receive guidance on how to
recognize your blaming ego energy. You are empowered as soon as you
accept yourself. Three hours of audio on feelings, fear and hurt,
recorded in a sound studio so my voice delivers healing, calming
vibrations to resonate with over and over again for better holistic
health. $97.00, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/emotionalhealthaudio.html

The three-hour Opening the Heart audio is included in the home study
course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally. Ten written lessons guide you
into a stronger relationship with your body so you can relax into it
and stay grounded. When you are grounded, you cannot be anxious.
Breathing and body exercises strengthen your ability to remove
conditioned responses from your nervous system so you can relax and
be self-confident. $197.00, money-back guarantee.

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Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.

Mentor and author of Opening the Heart
503 S. 21 St.
Philadelphia, PA 19146
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How to Stop Addictive Behaviors

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Have fun!
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

After studying the psychological dynamics causing addictive behavior
since 1976, I suspect that the root cause has been found. If you want
to lose weight, stop impulsive buying, no longer need legal or
illegal drugs, the solution is to have more fun. Yes, it appears that
people become addicted to “treating” themselves to unhealthy
behaviors because they are not allowing themselves to experience
enough pleasure in everyday life.

Wow, isn’t that wonderful? How delightful it is to give yourself
permission to add more genuine fun and pleasure to each day so that
you do not need to sneak your fun and pleasure in the back door. When
you feel deprived because your Inner Critic is making you wrong for
not working all the time, you become addicted to unhealthy things,
like food, drugs and gambling. Sex addiction would also be included
because sex addicts do not really enjoy the fantastic pleasure that
true lovemaking gives your whole body and soul.

So, my dear readers, please make sure you give yourself enough fun
and pleasure each day. Your emotional self needs fun; your body needs
pleasure. Create a holistic healthy practice each morning before you
get out of bed. Check in with what your emotional self and body need
to make you happy and satisfied.

If you do not have a loving relationship with your emotional self,
the Opening the Heart audio series is an effective guide. If you do
not have a loving relationship with your body, the Overcome Anxiety
Naturally home study course guides you into a physical reality that
reduces anxiety and depression.

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STAND UP TO YOUR INNER CRITIC: Learn to listen to your emotional self
with the first hour of the Opening the Heart audio series called “Feelings.
The challenge of our species.” Practice sensing your true colorful
vibrations as you receive guidance on how to recognize your Inner Critic
energy. This knowledge is also very helpful in getting along with
other people. Three hours of audio on feelings, fear and hurt. Recorded
in a sound studio so my voice has healing, calming vibrations to resonate
with over and over again for better holistic health. $97.00, money-back
guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/emotionalhealthaudio.html

The three-hour Opening the Heart audio is included in the home study
course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally. Ten written lessons guide you
into a stronger relationship with your body. Breathing and body
exercises strengthen your ability to remove conditioned responses so
you are assertive. $199.00, money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/anxietyonlinecourse.html

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If you enjoy The Vibrant Moment, please share it with friends and
colleagues. It comes to you from Dr. Doris Jeanette, with over forty
years of experience teaching people how to read and use energy to
unlock and use their human potential. Sign up at:
http://www.drjeanette.com

Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.
503 S. 21 St.
Philadelphia, PA 19146
http://www.drjeanette.com
215-732-6197

Mentor and author of Opening the Heart

How to Open Your Heart and Let Love in

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Receive Love.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher

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Love energy exists outside of you in many forms. Consider the
possibility that you are actively blocking this sweet nectar so it
does not penetrate your heart. How much love do you allow into your
heart? Probably not nearly as much as you could. Could it be that
your ego is stopping you from receiving love?

One of my large social networks is a center city, Philadelphia
outdoor olympic size pool club where I have been a member since 1980.
Being half a block from my home, I go and come all day long. I enjoy
coffee in the morning, a swim in the afternoon and dinner looking out
over the cityscape. Due to the pandemic, The Lombard Swim Club was
not able to open last year.

Five hundred of us own the club and it is a heart-warming story of
how the community saved this precious outdoor space from being
developed into townhouses. As we cautiously gather this year, my
socks keep getting knocked off at how much love energy is coming
toward me. I feel like a bag of bones, withered and weak. Like I have
aged a decade. Curiously, the comments from others do not match my
perception. As I creeped across the pool deck yesterday with lower
back pain, a new member that I do not even know said, “You look
fantastic!” Gee, what is going on?

People are seeing something that I do not feel. Could I be projecting
my judgment of myself onto others and not even know it? Probably.
Always allow yourself to notice and question your perception. If you do,
you become more grounded and realistic. It is often the case, that
others are more loving of you than you are of yourself. So, it pays to be
present enough with yourself and others to experience what is really
going on in physical and emotional reality. This is the reason it is so
important to be able to read body language.

When we only listen to the thoughts in our head, it is easy to forget
that reality is full of love. My Judgmental Self does not receive love
from others. Or give it to others! My True Self takes in it and keeps
it forever in my heart. My True Self freely gives love as a way of life.
Open your heart and allow love to come and go without your Ego
acting as the suspicious guard.

It feels wonderful to feel loved and to know that you are loved. You
deserve this feeling often. Love is knocking on your door. Open your
heart and let it in. To open your heart learn to recognize your Ego
when it is getting in your way.

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A GUIDE TO OPEN YOUR HEART: Learn to recognize your Ego when it
shuts your heart. The Opening the Heart audio series teaches you the
energy difference between your True Self and your Egos. Once you
know the difference, you heal your emotional wounds by choosing self-
acceptance in stead of self- judgment. Your heart receives and gives
love with confidence after you heal your emotional wounds from the
past. Three hours of audio on Feelings, Fear and Hurt.
Money-back guarantee. $97.00

Read more and order Opening the Heart:
http://www.drjeanette.com/emotionalhealthaudio.html

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LEARN TO READ BODY LANGUAGE: Perceive reality by questioning your
perception often. This audio was made for therapists. It is now
available at a reduced fee for all Vibrant Moment readers:
Introduction to Body Language: Authentic Communication. Instead of
$47.00, you pay $29.99. Money-back guarantee.

Read more and order:
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Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.
503 S. 21 St.
Philadelphia, PA 19146
http://www.drjeanette.com

Author of Opening the Heart and 14 other self-care products.

You are Not Broken and Do Not Need to be Fixed

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Find Your True Self
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Dr. Doris Jeanette, Body-Emotions-Energy Teacher
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

A man who has been suffering from a life experience, which left him
traumatized, requested an answer from me on Quora. So far, therapy
has not helped him. “Is there any reason to go to therapy if you
cannot be fixed.”

Unfortunately, he has the belief that he is broken and cannot be
fixed. Fortunately, I had an epiphany after a few years of helping
people who had been severely sexually and physically abused. Sitting
on the floor showing a client how to feel her emotions, body and
energy I suddenly realized that there was no bottomless pit inside of
her that could not be fixed. This awareness dramatically changed my
behavior; and thus, therapeutic results.

As I kept my attention on my new awareness that a person was not
permanently sentenced to a life of being damaged goods, I began to
relate to them differently without even knowing it. My intuitive self
began to relate more and more to their innate, real self instead of
to their wounded self.

I knew the difference between a conditioned response and a person’s
true nature because I had studied and used learning research for
years. Now, in addition to showing my clients how a conditioned
response is learned behavior, I showed them that their innate
strengths were different. Their true self was intact and ready to be
used as needed to help heal wounds.

Mother Nature made sure that nothing could destroy our real self,
which includes our intuitive self, instincts, heart, energy and inner
core. What a difference my shift in consciousness made in our
therapeutic success. There was a dramatic forward movement into
faster, stronger positive results. Thus said, here is the answer I
wrote for this man who asked if he could be fixed.

“So, the best news in the world is: You are not broken. You are not
permanently damaged. Let this reality soak into your cells and heart.
No matter what has happened to you, you can unlearn unhealthy
conditioning and heal real life trauma.

Your Inner Core, True Nature is waiting for you. Your Real Self is
undamaged and intact. Your job is to find, accept and follow your
True Self back into wholeness. This is the journey for everyone. All
of us are wounded.

Seek out teachers who show you the difference between your
Conditioned Self and your Real Self. When you learn how to recognize
your unloving ego, you have the power to make better choices in the
moments of your life. Learning to read body language and energy
rapidly increases your learning.”

Learn the difference in the energy between a conditioned response and
your Real Self. The first thirty minutes of the Opening the Heart audio
series teaches you how to feel this energy difference.

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GET HELP FEELING REAL SELF: The first thirty minutes of the
three-hour Opening the Heart audio series teaches you the difference
between your real self and your fake, ego self. The next thirty
minutes helps you discover your true emotional self so you are not as
easily fooled by your ego. Learn to be more compassionate toward
yourself. Just the sounds of my voice are healing, relaxing and
comforting to your heart and soul. 100% guaranteed. $97.00.

Read more and order Opening the Heart:
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Email me if you have trouble with your order.

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If you enjoy The Vibrant Moment, please share it with friends and
colleagues. It comes to you from Dr. Doris Jeanette, with over forty
years of experience teaching people how to read and use energy to
unlock and use their human potential. Sign up at:
http://www.drjeanette.com

Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.

Author of Opening the Heart and 14 other self help products.