About Doris Jeanette

The Philadelphia Inquirer proclaimed Doris Jeanette "The Siren of Spontaneity," noting that "her co therapist is Nature." Dr. Doris Jeanette is a licensed psychologist with 30 years of clinical experience. She has been associated with top name universities, multicultural associations, diversity organizations, women's groups and humanistic, spiritual psychology. Her works and quotes have appeared in psychological journals, major newspapers, online publications and various magazines throughout the world. Doris currently resides in center city, Philadelphia, PA.

How to Improve Your Self-Esteem: Learn to be Assertive and Effective

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Learn Something New!
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Human Energy Coach, Mentor
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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Sometimes, I sit around my unique swim club with my friends and complain about all the things we do not like about it. All of our complaints are real problems. These problems seem as if they are out of our control. We feel hopeless and helpless. Are we really hopeless and helpless? Maybe yes and maybe no. When you feel hopeless and helpless the first thing you need to do is see if you really are hopeless. Often, you feel helpless and you are not. 

The Lombard Swim Club in Center City, Philadelphia is a success story of how a neighborhood community saved their outdoor swim club from greedy developers. Thirty-seven years ago our community bought the swim club from the owners. Today 400 of us own the club and 1100 of us enjoy the benefits of outdoor lap swimming in a Olympic size pool, a baby pool, art, drama, bingo, free coffee and open bars. We enjoy the city skyline, moon, sunsets and planets right in the heart of Philadelphia. This gem is half a block from my home. It is my home away from home.

So, what do we complain about? The money being wasted, the dirty bathrooms, irresponsible lifeguards and overstaffing. All of these could be corrected if the board and management were effective. But they are not effective. Can those of us who own the club be more effective in helping the board and management be more effective? We have tried and failed so we give up. We got rid of single use plastic glasses a few years ago and back they came this year. Weary from trying, what do we do? 

When I swim I obsess about all the problems instead of enjoying my swim. My obsessive thoughts tell me that I must stop complaining and take action. Instead of writing my regular letters with my same old complaints clearly explained, I tried a new approach. I crafted a list of direct, straightforward questions. My assertive questions were excellent. There was no opinion or blame. I shared the questions with my friends. Together four of us sent the questions to the finance committee, president and manager. These assertive questions are forcing the board and management to address the issues they have been ignoring and denying. 

I gave the questions to scores of members so they could be included. Last year I stood alone with my concerns at the annual meeting. This year there is a movement. Many of the other owners are taking a stand with me. Even if we do not get all the answers, we have already raised the awareness of the problems so that they cannot be ignored and denied anymore. Since I took action a month ago I have enjoyed my swim club much more. 

So, the next time you are obsessing about something, see what direct and assertive action you could take that would be effective. You may be surprised at the outcome if you remove all blame and say the truth as clearly as possible. Being assertive is often effective. Never underestimate the power of being effective.  

Being effective improves your self-esteem. I feel so much better no matter what happens or how fast.

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How to Heal Emotional Wounds in Your Body and Heart

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Love Your Emotions!
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Human Energy Coach, Mentor
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A friend shared a story with me about being at a family event when the host began to criticize and attack her. She tried to shrug off this unpleasant experience and act like it did not bother her. However, several weeks later she confessed to me in private that this experience was still bothering her. She did not know what to do with her strong feelings and emotions. 

Empathize with my friend’s emotional experience by remembering how you felt when a family member attacked you. Remember when someone in your family blamed you for something or other. For example, my brother said at a Thanksgiving gathering, “It is all your fault because you are so selfish and self-centered. You don’t care about anyone else but you.” These words, with their nasty energy, literally stung me to my core. The knife went straight into my body and emotional self where the damage was done.

People’s nasty words become like poison arrows in your body and heart. Emotional wounds are as painful and unhealthy as physical wounds. When you do not feel your pain and heal your wounds, they often manifest as physical problems. When you were a child, you were hurt frequently by unaware adults who said hurtful things to you and blamed you with shame and guilt. As a child you took these words to heart and believed them to be true.

When you became an adult, your emotional wounds are still in your body until you knowingly heal them. Your old wounds are triggered when you experience someone blaming you for something in the present. As a result, you have the current blame sting piled on top of many old wounds that are already stuck in your body. Your body is holding all your feelings of hurt that have not been fully experienced, expressed and received by a loving person. 

This means when you feel hurt, this is a very positive, healthy sign. You can begin the healing process that must occur for you to be whole and happy. The healing process is one of finding your little girl or boy who has been hurt and wounded. After you find your real emotional energy, it is up to you to accept, love and heal your emotional self. There is nothing special you need “to do.” What is needed is for you to stay with your emotions and feelings and accept them. Your emotional self will lead you to where you need to go if you truly listen. It is up to you to follow her lead.  

Your emotional self will tell you, verbally and nonverbally, what she needs. Mostly, what she needs is the energy of love. The healing occurs by staying with your emotional self and listening to what she needs and supplying what is needed on a daily basis. She is real and when you make a loving connection with her, your whole life expands into another dimension. When I decided to love, instead of ignore, my little girl is when I spontaneously began to have vibrant moments.

Attacks of any nature are not justified. Blame is never justified. To blame is to make someone else responsible for how you feel, think and behave. Adults blame each other all the time. Blaming yourself is as harmful as blaming another. I make the Opening the Heart audio series to guide you through your confusing maze of ego anxiety and real fear, ego self-pity and genuine hurt so you learn to recognize your true emotional self from your ego energy who is currently controlling you. Knowing this difference in energy is the essential first step.

So, sit down and get in touch with your genuine emotions right now. If you need help use the Opening the Heart audio as a loving, skillful guide to help you establish a genuine heart to heart connection between you and your wounded child. Do not let another day go by without moving closer to your emotions and True Self. 

Love feels so much better than blame. You deserve love. You do not deserve blame. You have the ability to shift out of blame into self-love.

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LOVE YOUR EMOTIONS: Put a loving voice into your ears that shows you how to move toward your wounded child so you know how to heal her emotional and physical wounds. Quickly, you will enjoy more vibrant moments. Feeling hurt is the first sign of more life, energy and power. Getting out of your thoughts into your feelings is like moving from AM radio to FM stereo! Enjoy the whole body experience of life instead of observing it from afar. Opening the Heart is three hours of audio on Feelings, Hurt and Fear. You are guided into finding, healing and loving your emotional self. Money-back guarantee.

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How to Solve Love Relationship Problems

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: You Are Not Helpless.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Human Energy Coach, Mentor
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If you have any sort of relationship problem, remember that trying as
hard as you can to change the other person, does not work. When you
are in conflict with someone outside of you, there is also an inner
conflict going on inside of you.

This means that as long as you are reactive and defensive, you are as
much a part of the problem as the other person. When you give up
being self-righteous and helpless, you become responsible. When you
are responsible you immediately disengage from blame and stand on
your own two feet with strength and sincerity.

When you become responsible for your inner conflict you immediately
feel better because you now have a viable way to move forward.

You can:
1. Become aware of the part of you that is stuck in the conflict.
2. Unlearn and deprogram unhealthy brainwashing such as guilt.
3. Learn new assertive skills.
4. Reduce your anxiety.
5. Face your real fears.

This process of successful transformation, automatically removes you
from the problem. It feels so good to be free of your inner conflict.
In this sincere and strong physical state, you automatically enjoy
lots more wonderful, exiting vibrant moments of being alive.

Therefore, putting your energy into transforming the part of you that
is involved in the conflict is extremely effective. You can transform
any relationship problem simply by showing up and being responsible
for your own reactions, inner conflicts, projections and anxieties.

When you are responsible you become effective, strong and successful.
When you are not responsible, you are ineffective, weak and a failure.
Personal responsibility is always an option if you are an adult. All
you have to do is give up seeing yourself as a victim to anyone or any
thing. Your True Self is ready, willing and able to take action.

Children are the only true victims. However, even children who
experience unpleasant, dramatic, abusive life events weather these
events more successfully when they reply on their inner strengths,
stay connected to Mother Earth and trust their relationships with
loving people.

So, the next time you are in conflict with someone, take
responsibility for your part of the problem. Do not blame the other
person. Do not blame yourself. Being responsible means you do not
blame anyone.

Instead, show up and clean up the mess.

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IS YOUR EGO BLAMING YOU? Your True Self is not who you think it is.
Learn how to read the energy of your ego vs your True Self. My
comforting, loving voice guides you into finding, healing and loving
your True Self so you let go of your blaming ego. Listen to the
“Opening the Heart” audio as it guides you into saying goodbye to
your thoughts and controlling ego. Three hours of healing audio to
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How to Cope with Real Fear, Generic Terror and Anxiety

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Feel Your Feelings
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Human Energy Coach, Mentor
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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A friend asked me how I felt last week. “Oh, nothing specific,” I
laughed, “Just generic terror!” And indeed I was telling the truth.
When the volcano on the Big Island started its flow, I knew this
energy was here to stay for a while because I could feel how strong
it was. The lack of love energy in the government of the USA is also
on my radar. I feel the pain and suffering of children when they cry.
I feel the trees when they are dying.

Feeling reality is the only way to survive reality.

Don’t waste your precious moments on the earth stuck in thinking
about what is happening around you. Instead, feel the energy that is
around you and affecting you. Feel the energy that is inside of you
and affecting you. If you want to live life fully, your goal is to
feel what is really there so you know what is really there.

Knowing the truth is not about inductive or deductive thinking. If
you want to access your inner truths, you must feel what is real. In
the early 1980’s I wrote in my dairy and on the sand in Cape May, NJ
as I was playing, “I feel; therefore, I know.” Then, I began to teach
my clients how to feel so they too could know.

Feeling makes your life easier and less stressful.

When you feel your feelings, you know the truth about inside and
outside energies. This gives you the power to begin to remove any
energies that are not harmonious with who you really are. This is the
process of transformation. You are transforming the energy of your
defensive image self into your true self.

Your true nature is composed of love and light. If something is not
harmonious, say no to it. If something is harmonious say yes to it.
When you feel your generic terror, welcome it. Your feelings are
telling you what is happening around you. It is helpful to be afraid
of that which is out of balance. When you notice something is out of
control or in control, you do not want to participate in this
disharmony.

Instead, you want to come home to your senses, authentic emotions,
body, earth and heavens. The cosmos is waiting for you. The cosmos
will give you all the help you need if you fall into wholeness and
become part of that which is real.

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NEED HELP FINDING YOURSELF? Your emotional self always knows
what you need and want. A comforting, loving voice guides you into
finding, healing and loving your emotional self. Listen to the “Opening
the Heart” audio as it guides you into saying goodbye to your thoughts
and controlling ego. Three hours of healing audio to listen to over and
over again. $97.97 money-back guarantee.

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How to Release Frozen, Blocked Energy in Your Body for Holistic Health

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: You are younger than you think.
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Human Energy Coach, Mentor
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Never forget that you are younger than you think. You are also smarter, stronger and capable of great happiness.

A few readers asked about the “chimney effect” from last months’ The Vibrant Moment because they are body workers and curious about how to help their clients release really tight, stuck energy in the physical body. You can also learn a great deal from my experience of healing the grief in my body. Think about your own body, your energy flow and how connected you are to the earth.

There is no reason you need to get so old, tired, stiff and stuck. My left lumbar was the area that massage and physical therapists, chiropractors, acupuncturists, body workers and other alternative healers could not break up. I am usually effective in relaxing my tight muscles with the help of massage and my ability to achieve deep muscle relaxation. However, for two years, I could not get my left hip to let go no matter what I did.

Jamshid, a talented body worker, on my second visit to him, knew what to do to help my lumbar muscles in my back let go and stay loose. He started at my left big toe. When I asked him the reason he was working on my big toe he said, “It is like the “chimney effect.”” From my experience with my body, I immediately knew what he was talking about. Other body workers and my massage therapist had opened the left hip for a few minutes but it always tightened back up again before I left the session or in a few hours.

Jamshid worked all the way to my left knee. He was creating a pathway for the energy to move through so that when he opened up my left hip this time it would stay loose instead of tightening back up. Before, the energy hit a brick wall and had nowhere to go so it went back to where it was. Like when smoke ends up in your house if the chimney is not working properly. The smoke had to leave my body somewhere, somehow.

When Jamshid went back to my lumbar and opened it up, it stayed loose and did not tighten back up. By the time I went to sleep my leg began to feel normal and healthy again. I could get grounded to the earth and stay grounded. It was amazing to feel alive again and able to move more freely. Feeling connected to the earth again was incredible. Being grounded is the source of genuine self-confidence and self-esteem.

So, what can you learn? Certain groups of muscles act together, get stuck together and release together. It is not just your lumbar area that needs releasing like Western medicine thinks it is. It is your whole body that is frozen. You are holistic. Also, frozen energy that is stuck in the body has to have a physical pathway out of the body so it can be permanently released. Letting go is about your muscles and your energy.

So take heart and get stronger. Don’t let false beliefs about aging, your body and energy stop you from staying younger, getting stronger and being happier.

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LEARN HOW TO GET GROUNDED: Learn the steps needed to get out of your thoughts and INTO your physical body. Get the help you need to know when you are safe and sane. Take the home study course, “Overcome Anxiety Naturally.” Ten written lessons and five hours of audio that includes the comforting, relaxing “Opening the Heart” audio series on how to feel your emotions. Order now and enjoy breaking free of your irrational thoughts. $199.97 money-back guarantee.

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How to Grieve with Your Whole Body, Heart and Soul

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Move Toward Freedom.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Human Energy Coach, Mentor
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‘Free at last, Free at last, Thank God almighty we are free at last.’ Martin Luther King

The feeling is one of hallelujah! Rejoicing in the feeling of physical movement. The joyful goosebumps that run from your toes to your head of hairs. This is how I finally feel after three years, one month and a few days of being in prison. Yes, the prison of grieving the loss of my mother and two years later, the loss of my younger brother.

Yee Gads, there were times when I did not think I would ever feel free again. My body was contracted in such tight tension I could not let go and relax. All of my massage therapists, body workers, energy workers, chiropractors, acupuncturists and other skillful body experts could not put Doris back together again. All of my own knowledge and efforts to relax did not generate lasting results.

I would let go and then tighten back up again. I could not break out of this holding pattern. After two sessions with Jamshid, a most unusual bodyworker in Coloroda, my left hip broke free and my whole body became whole again. I got grounded and stayed grounded. I did not tighten up again. Hallelujah!

How much was his masterful work and how much was timing I do not know. But he was the one who freed me. He was the one who also knew about creating a pathway for the energy to flow in, “Like a chimney,” he said as he worked on my big toe. Immediately I knew exactly what he was talking about.

So, take heart, all of you stuck and not able to break through to your freedom. There will come a day when you complete your grieving and healing. You will complete your inner work, personal growth, de-programming, saying no and you too will break free.

You may need to find your own Jamshid to help you. By this, I mean that I now know the physical body can become so frozen that you need a Roto-Rooter to help you break up the physical form. Just make sure anyone who works on you, knows exactly what they are doing.

I still have plenty of tension in my body that I will continue to release as I move forward. But the process of saying goodbye to my mother has completed and new processes are in full swing that will take me to exciting adventures.

If anyone has questions about the chimney effect or anything else, feel free to email me. Bless all of us as we move toward freedom in the flesh.

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LEARN HOW TO GET GROUNDED: Learn the steps needed to get out of your irrational thoughts and INTO your physical body. Get the help you need to know when you are safe and sane. Take the home study course, “Overcome Anxiety Naturally.” Ten written lessons and five hours of audio that includes the comforting, relaxing “Opening the Heart” audio series on how to feel your emotions. Order now and enjoy breaking free of your irrational thoughts. $199.97 money-back guarantee.

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NEED HELP FEELING YOUR EMOTIONS? Your emotional self always knows exactly how you feel, what you need and what you want. Listen to the “Opening the Heart” audio as it guides you into saying goodbye to your thoughts and controlling ego. A comforting, loving voice guides you into finding, healing and loving your emotional self. Three hours of healing audio to listen to over and over again. $97.97 money-back guarantee. Read more and order: http://www.drjeanette.com/emotionalhealthaudio.html

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Give Yourself Love for Valentine’s Day

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Love Has No Strings.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Human Energy Teacher, Mentor
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

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Are you seeking love? Or are you afraid of love?

Love is spontaneous energy that rises up and radiates outward from
your heart like a natural spring of delicious water. You cannot make
yourself love something your heart does not love. You cannot make
someone love you who does not love you.

Your heart does not complain, blame or criticize. Neither does real
love want to control you or define you. Unfortunately, this is the
problem with “love” as most of us have experienced it. Love is often
associated with someone trying to control you. This means, if you are
afraid to surrender to love, there is a good chance you have not
separated from your parents. Love for you means being controlled and
defined by other people.

If you are seeking love, you need to unlearn the control issues that
you learned to associate with love. These control issues are the
usual problems that come up in relationships after a few years.
Instead of love flowing between you and your beloved, disharmony
and distrust surface and interfere with the flow of love. It is ego to
ego. Instead of heart to heart.

The only way out of your ego is to continue to unlearn the unhealthy
relationships behaviors you learned from your parents and other
sources. Instead of pleasing others or expecting others to please
you, you must learn to take care of yourself and stand on your own
two feet. This means self-love must increase and become so secure
that you are not dependent on someone else to love you.

Not easy to accomplish, since most of us were taught to feel guilt if
we liked ourselves! Your Inner and Outer Critics will be eager to call
you selfish, narcissistic and crazy. So, let me give you permission
to love yourself. You must love yourself in order to reduce the
problems in your relationships and life. Poor mental health and poor
physical health are caused by a lack of self-love.

I would go so far as to say all the problems in the world today are
caused by a lack of self-love. To help clean up the world, start by
loving yourself. Embrace the Greek love, Philautia, which means love
of the self. Then your heart will be free to love.

Love feels good to all your cells. Enjoy as much love energy as you can.

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ACHIEVE SELF-LOVE: The Opening the Heart audio leads you
deep into your heart so you find, heal and follow your True Self.
Three hours of audio that teaches you how to love yourself.
1.  Feelings. the challenge of our species.
2.  Fear. the pathway to freedom and joy.
3.  When You’re Hurting…

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Feel Reality Instead of Reacting to Fake Ideas

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Feel Reality Instead of Reacting to it.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Human Energy Teacher, Mentor

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A reader wants to know more about what I mean when I say, “You are acting out your fear, instead of feeling it.”

There are many real fears everyone must face as we go through the process of living our life. Real fears can be overcome in life-affirming ways, making us stronger and more secure. Facing your fears is the pathway that consistently leads to successful personal growth. The results of personal growth are effectiveness, holistic health and happiness.

Having the courage to become more of who you are is scary, exciting, fun and empowering. Your real fears do not go away because you deny them or exaggerate them. They live in your unconscious doing much harm until you bring them out of the darkness. With conscious awareness you can take an honest, sincere look at your fears and address your real concerns.

Anxiety is not a real fear. Anxiety is a maladaptive response. Being anxious is irrational because there is really nothing to be afraid of. Anxiety is Chicken Little screaming, “The sky is falling. The sky is falling.” When you are anxious, this means you have been conditioned to response in certain ways to certain stimuli and you do so automatically. You can unlearn anxiety responses.

Anxiety is never helpful because it shows up as static in your nervous system, tension in your body and interference in your energy field. When you are anxious, you react to situations, as in– a knee jerk response. Anxiety bypasses your genuine feelings and goes straight into an automatic reaction. Reactions are learned. They are of your ego and not helpful.

The effective way to deal with real fear is to feel it. The effective way to deal with irrational anxiety is to feel it. When you feel your physical and emotional realities, you do not react. When you react to realty instead of feeling it, you often create exactly what you are afraid of. You make your real fears and irrational anxieties come true by behaving in ways that make them come true.

For example, you are afraid your girlfriend is cheating on you. If you do not feel your fear and deal with it directly and sincerely you will act your fear out. You act your fear out by behaving in jealous, possessive ways that push your girlfriend away. As a result of your acting out behavior, your girlfriend may leave you or cheat on you.

Acting in is the opposite of acing out. It is when you turn inward, against yourself with an automatic reaction. The bottom line is your reactive behaviors manifest your fears and anxieties. This appears to be a natural law, not a theory. If you do NOT feel your fears and overcome them in reality, they are manifested as reality by your own behavior.

Take a look at your life and notice when, where and how you may have acted your fears out instead of facing them. When you feel your fear and anxiety, you can tell the difference between your real fears and irrational thoughts. You could take responsibility for your irrational thoughts and stop projecting them on others. If you use learning research to help you, you can unlearn your anxiety response. If you take an Assertiveness Training course you can “lay your fears dead at your feet,” like a brave warrior.

Fear is an energy you can ride toward freedom and joy. With successful personal growth, you become closer to your girlfriend and get real about what she feels and who she is. You are honest about what you feel and who you are. You become more secure and self-confident so you are happy with or without your girlfriend.

When you use your feeling ability to know the truth, you are grounded and enjoy more vibrant moments. For more self-empowerment, feel reality instead of reacting to it.

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LEARN HOW TO FEEL REALITY: You become more self-confident as soon as you learn how to feel what is real and expose your irrational thoughts and anxiety. Fear is an energy you ride toward freedom and joy. Learn how to get grounded and enjoy more vibrant moments instead of letting your brain criticize you. Order the anxiety help package that includes what you need, the home study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally.

The home study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally includes:
1. Ten written body lessons that lead you step-by-step out of thinking into feeling         what is real.
2. The audio “Fear is the pathway to freedom and joy,” in the three-hour “Opening the Heart” series
3. The audio “Tame Your Thoughts” and “Break Free From Anxiety”

In ten weeks, learn how to feel, relax and enjoy the moment. Order the home study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally, which includes the Opening the Heart audio three-hour series plus two additional educational hours PLUS ten written lessons that lead you out of anxiety. $199.97, money-back guarantee. Read more and Order the Overcome Anxiety Naturally home study course:
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How to Transform Obsessive Thinking with Education, Not Medication

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Transform Obsessive Thoughts.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Human Energy Teacher, Mentor
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A reader is interested in learning more about obsessive thinking.
Overthinking is connected to anxiety, depression, eating issues, low
self esteem, poor relationships, sexual dysfunctions, insomnia and
not reaching your goals in life.

What is obsessive thinking?

My rule of thumb is a bit strict. However, I use this Obsessive
Thinking Test to drive home the seriousness of your overthinking
problem. If you think the same thought for more than three times, you
are obsessing. Yes, we all obsess sometimes! Mine come and get me in
the middle of the night.

Nevertheless, anytime you obsess, you are stuck. This means your
energy is not freely moving so you are in a healthy and alive state.
Just think of all the rotten thoughts hanging out in your head. Yuck,
they smell bad. These decaying thoughts need to be thrown away as
soon as possible because they make you sick in mind and body.

What is the reason for your obsessive thinking?

In terms of learning research, obsessive thinking is an avoidance
response. This means you are using your repetitive thoughts to avoid
your authentic feelings. Therefore, the way to get your energy moving
in a healthy direction is to stop avoiding the feelings that are
really inside of you. It is to your advantage to go ahead and admit
you are scared and anxious. There may be other feelings hiding inside
of you but certainly fear and anxiety are lurking underneath your
obsessive thoughts.

Once you stop denying the nervousness in your nervous system, you
can get the help you need to calm your whole body down. You can
learn effective ways to deal with anxiety and fear so you stop going in
circles. To help you get started, the next time you are obsessing, write
down all of your thoughts on a piece of paper. Your thoughts may be
positive or negative. Many people obsess about positive things to avoid
their feelings of low self esteem. This is the reason the approaches
that teach you to change your thoughts from negative to positive, such
as Cognitive Behavior Therapy, Affirmations and Mindfulness are not
always successful.

Let your thoughts sit for twenty-four hours on a piece of paper. Then
come back and take a good look at each one. Your thoughts tell you
about your beliefs. Your task is to find out which thoughts are false and
which ones have merit. Having a good coach is helpful if they know
how to sort through your thoughts so you identify the false beliefs you
learned from your past. Again, a false belief can be positive, such as
“I am better than other people because I am good, smart, rich and so
on.”

Dump any false belief as soon as you find it. Unfortunately, many of
the things we learned as children are really hard to dump. If seeing
that a belief is false is not enough to dump it, you must deprogram
your false belief over time in real life. To be successful unlearning
beliefs, you need an education that is based on learning research and
teaches you how to increase awareness of your body and emotional
feelings.

Next time you find yourself obsessing, shift into effective, creative
thinking. If you cannot, you need to get back to work on
deprogramming your irrational anxieties. Stress and obsessive thinking
are facts of life. You can learn how to cope and flourish by saying no
to medication and yes to education.

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BREAK FREE FROM OBSESSIVE THINKING: Obsessive thinking drives
you crazy. Imagine how good you will feel you when you learn how to kick
back and relax. For your sanity, learn seven ways to stop your
obsessive thoughts on the Tame Your Thoughts audio. Get the
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WANT TO BE SUCCESSFUL? You become more self-confident as soon
as you learn how to effectively stand up to your thoughts and come
back home into your body. Learn how to get in your body and enjoy
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The Benefits of the home study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally:
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3. Ten written lessons that lead you step-by-step out of thinking too
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Learn each week a new lesson in how to overcome your false beliefs.
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Mentor and author of Opening the Heart

How to Be Happy? Play Everyday.

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Play Everyday.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Human Energy Teacher, Mentor
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How many minutes a day do you play?
How free do you feel to just relax and be yourself?

Playshops were my first creative attempt at outdoor experiences in
the early 1980’s. My goal was to teach people how to let go of
control and trust their natural process. I knew play was the driving
force in a happy life. Working, with pushing and pulling at yourself,
did not make for a happy life.

In my early 30’s I was very successful with a waiting list, and
unhappy. A NYC workshop and trip to India with Jean Houston revealed
my problem. Dr. Tightass, my ego, was in charge of my daily
experience. As I slowly began to let go of Dr. Tightass, and become
my Real Self, the result was spontaneous play.

When I relaxed into being alive in my body, magic seemed to happen.
My state of consciousness was not ordinary and mundane anymore. I
was exuberant. Being free felt wonderful. Work was fun and vibrant
moments began to occur much more frequently.

When I stayed with my real fear, the frozen energy in my body
transformed into flowing energy. The result was freedom and joy. My
fears did not manifest. I DID get up on Monday morning and meet my
clients as needed. My work was more effective, not less. Play could
be a new way of living.

You can also trust your natural process of living in the moments of
your life. Let yourself play and stop pushing and pulling. Play
engages your body and emotional self. Play allows you to experience
the many pleasures that life on planet earth offers you. From humor
to sex, play brings you more vitality and better holistic health.

Do not go to sleep tonight before letting yourself play. Even for
five minutes. Just let go and be playful with something in your
environment. Move, dance, feel, look around and pick up an object
and talk to it. Dance with it.

Play a little more each day until you feel comfortable being instead
of doing. You will enjoy more vibrant moments and much better
mental and physical health.

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BREAK FREE FROM YOUR EGO. Being in your body instead of letting
your brain overreact is effective, powerful and fun. Learn how to
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Order Opening the Heart, three hours of emotional health audio.
You learn who to trust and who not to trust. Be alive and healthy by
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to enjoy yourself and your family more than ever before.

Below is a list of each audio in the Opening the Heart series.

Fear. the pathway to freedom and joy, Feelings. the source of
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OVERCOME FEAR STEP BY STEP: Order the home study course,
Overcome Anxiety Naturally which includes the Opening the Heart
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obsessive thinking PLUS ten written lessons that lead you out of
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