Relationship Advice: Delete Guilt to Enjoy Guilt-Free Holidays

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember:  Enjoy Guilt-Free Holidays.
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Do you notice when you feel guilt?
Do you know how to stop feeling guilty?

Feeling guilty is a common human experience that destroys healthy loving relationships and is often misunderstood. Guilt is a major relationship problem around the holidays because every culture and most families use guilt to try to get what they think they want and need.

Guilt is the reason holidays often result in family conflicts and relationship problems. Some family members even stop talking to each other for years! Guilt tripping is often the reason. Guilt makes you feel miserable and unworthy.

So what is guilt?

You learned to feel guilt from your parents. You learned guilty behavior simply by observing your parents feeling guilty and making decisions based on guilt. Your parents also modeled their use of guilt to manipulate and control you as well as others.

These unhealthy guilt ridden family dynamics have been going on for centuries. And the way things look, guilt is going to continue for a few more centuries unless you do something to stop its control over you. Guilt is one of the first negative energies I teach people how to get rid of because it is so sticky and wasteful.

Many people incorrectly think that guilt is an appropriate emotion which gets people to own up to or rectify something bad that they did. This is a false belief. There is a huge difference between guilt and genuine caring.

Just look at the results. Guilt produces resentment, bitterness and unloving behaviors toward family members. It makes for a lose-lose so that parent nor child gets what he or she really needs or wants.

On the other hand, genuine caring produces more loving behaviors toward family members. You want to visit when you do visit. You love your family and they love you. As a result, parent and child feel loved and cared for no matter what either does for the holidays.

Guilt is a conditioned response, not an authentic emotion. This means guilt is learned behavior and you can unlearn it. So, quickly move away from guilt and never make any life decision based on guilt.

Enjoy guilt-free holidays.

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Let the Birthplace of Rock ‘n’ Roll Inspire Your Creativity

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Welcome a Mistake.
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Do you judge your mistakes?

I never knew Memphis, Tennessee, USA was such a musical, interesting and exciting place. Last week I wrote about Memphis as the birthplace of the Blues: http://thevibrantmoment.com/?p=869

Well, did you know that Memphis is also the birthplace of rock and roll? It appears that when black music truly met white music as an equal, there was a rock and a roll! This meeting of the two cultures occurred in the Mississippi Delta.

In 1951, the very first recording of rock and roll was created in Sun Studio in Memphis. There is a plaque on the building making it official from the US government designating Sun Studio as a National Historic Landmark. Sam Phillips was a white man looking for a new sound, any new sound to record in his new recording studio.

Up comes Ike Turner’s band (yes the same Ike who later married Tina Turner) on their way to Sun Studio. The band’s car broke down and their amp fell out and broke. Using a newspaper to stuff the amp back together, they reached the studio.

Sam recorded the band playing and singing, “Rocket 88.” Featuring Jackie Brenston on lead vocals and the newspaper-repaired amp, the first rock and roll record was created on that fateful day in Sun Studio.

The band’s car accident probably helped them break loose and sing more freely. The paper distorted the music just enough to make it interesting to Sam. And the world had a new music to rock and roll their body to.

 What can you learn from this?

Welcome mistakes and accidents. Take advantage of the unexpected. Creativity is a wonderful, existing, fun experience. Add some new sounds and new body movements to your life today.

Cook something new tonight for dinner.
Walk a different path to work.
Drive a different road to your friend’s house.
Plan a new adventure for an upcoming holiday.
Sit down and do nothing.

Break loose from your rigidity, routines and habits. Do something differently than you ever have before. Being creative will give you a vibrant moment or two to enjoy.

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Music, Sound and Color Therapy Tip: Listen to the Blues and Feel

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Feel Good Vibrations.

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Sitting in the Memphis airport catching up on my email while listening to sounds of the Blues being piped throughout the Memphis airport. For those of you outside of USA, Memphis is on the Mississippi River in western Tennessee and is the birthplace of the Blues.

B.B. King, an African-American, is considered to be the King of the Blues. He performed his soulful sounds right here on Beale Street in downtown Memphis. He is 88 years old as of 2013. The Blues are a colorful expression of emotions put to music which grew out of the hard life on the Mississippi Delta.

I have been recommending color therapy and music therapy to my clients for over 30 years. For example, listening to the Blues can help you heal your heart and connect with your soul. If you allow yourself to feel the vibrations in the Blues, these vibrations provide you with a safe, effective form of color therapy and music therapy.

What can listening to the Blues do for you?

The results of listening to the Blues when you feel down and out gives you psychological benefits far beyond what most traditional talk therapy can do for you. The vibrations in music affect your physical body and your emotional body.

Sound vibrations affect your physical body. Color vibrations affect your emotional body. Therefore, listening to music helps you connect with your authentic emotions. The more you feel your authentic emotions, the more effectively you move through difficult periods in your life.

If you let yourself feel your sad feelings when you feel sad, you do not get stuck in depression. Instead, you move forward through your pain, loss and sorrow until you reach the state where you feel more alive, rich and deep. The Blues help you feel your authentic emotions, which helps you move forward.

As a result, you begin to live life more fully than you did before your loss, pain or sorrow. Listening to music is helpful but certainly not enough. If you keep moving forward by engaging in effective personal growth actions, you get to the emotionally healthy place where you don’t even experience the Blues very often anymore.

I like to listen to the African-American women sing the Blues. Ma Rainey is considered to be the Mother of the Blues. Bessie Smith, Ida Cox, Alberta Hunter and Ethel Waters are just as worthy of your attention. Of course, many of the current performers render their wonderful original tunes with heartfelt emotion.

My all time favorite Blues song is Ida Cox’s “Wild Women Don’t Get the Blues.” If you have never heard it, give it a spin. Whether you are a man or woman, you need to be free, wild and happy without needing external approval from someone else.

Feel the vibrations in the Blues and let your body move. Soon you will feel better, stronger and more alive.

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