Self-Esteem Tip: Say Thank You and Mean it

orange

 

Follow Doris Jeanette on Twitter

 

Orange is a good color for courage.

 

 

 

 

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Give Thanks.

Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

==========================

How often do you say thank you?
Do you ever behave or feel above it all?

Lately, I have noticed that I sometimes forget to give thanks after asking for something and receiving it. I get so happy and excited about getting what I asked for, I forget to send the energy of thank you back to the person or energy that gave me the gift. Forgetting to say thank you is not helpful to me.

So let me say thank you from the bottom of my heart to all the wonderful people who sent me positive feedback about last week’s newsletter on the importance and power of being authentic. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Here is a link to the newsletter if you have not read it: http://thevibrantmoment.com/2013/10/16/personal-growth-tip-relax-be-authentic-and-assertive/

Being a highly non-verbal person it has always been hard for me to write and hit send. Therefore, it is extremely helpful to me to get your feedback about how my message is coming across to you. Even if the feedback is how I need to improve something or if I made a mistake, I really appreciate hearing from you.

Having spent years studying the physics and metaphysics of, “Ask and you will receive,” I am finally beginning to “get it!” As a result, I have been enjoying much more success in receiving what I ask for in the last two years. Part of my current success comes from looking back on my 36 years of practice as a psychologist to see when, where and how I got off track.

Early in my career, I had a waiting list of clients, more money than I ever imagined and people recognizing me in restaurants. Once a man stopped me on Walnut Street and wanted to ask me about something I had written in a local magazine. I just kept walking, impatiently brushing him off.

At the time, I did not know I was pushing success away when I was pushing him away. My arrogance toward him is hard to see in myself and hard to admit to you. However, as I am always teaching you, admitting the truth is extremely liberating and empowering.

After many years of observing my behaviors and consciousness, I have noticed definite patterns of success in my life. Learning from my mistakes, I am sure the next time someone recognizes me and wants to talk, I will be more gracious, respectful and grateful. I will say thank you to the person and mean it from the bottom of my heart.

Pay attention to what you do when you receive what you want and need. When you do not say thank you and mean it, you stop the flow of energy coming toward you. Give thanks to get more, and mean it from the bottom of your heart.

============================

SHY AND SENSITIVE? The reason I was arrogant is because I am shy and sensitive. Perhaps you are a highly sensitive person or have a HSP in your family. If so, learn how to transform your sensitive nature into a strength instead of a liability. Order the Special Report: “7 Steps to Success as a Highly Sensitive Person.” 31 page PDF file, $19.97.

Read and order “7 Steps to Success as a Highly Sensitive Person”:
http://www.drjeanette.com/HSP2.html

===============================

MANIFESTATION TELE-CLASS IN JANUARY. Learn more about natural laws and how to use them to your advantage. Learn to feel, sense and affect the flow of energy toward you, away from you and around you.

Four week course on manifestation taught in one hour sessions with practice in between for all students. Learn to use the laws of physics and metaphysics to manifest what you want and need. From money to friends, master the flow of your own energy so you interact with reality in ways that empower you and support you. Cost for four weeks is $97.00.

Beginning Tues. night, 6:00 ET, Jan 7. Sign up for the course: http://tinyurl.com/lqm6fac

===============================

Personal Growth Tip: Relax, Be Authentic and Assertive

Autosave-File vom d-lab2/3 der AgfaPhoto GmbH

 

This is me enjoying a giant cornucopia in the Philadelphia countryside. I am a little crooked.

 

 

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Be Authentic.

Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

==========================

Do you know the difference between your learned behavior and your authentic behavior?

As a lowly human being, you must learn a great deal of information to survive on planet Earth. You have to use your learned behavior many times a day in order to get through your necessary chores and routines. Otherwise, society could reject you, imprison you and declare you insane.

Unfortunately, your high degree of learned behavior also means you are easy to control. For example, yesterday I had to stand in a long line at a pharmacy and once I got to the counter, I was told I had to sit down and wait for my name to be called and get back in the long line.

Do you wait in long lines at the bank or post office? Do you pay a lot of money to physicians and hospitals without questioning the health advice they give you and how they treat you? Do you let therapists and partners define you?

I did not sit down when I was told to sit down. I walked around the store feeling what I really wanted to do. Given the reality of the situation, I decided I was not going to wait any longer. So, I walked up to the man who told me to sit down and asked him for other options. After considering each one, one of them was better than waiting. Therefore, I told him I would come back after they called me to tell me everything was ready.

If you follow instructions without considering what your authentic self needs and wants, you are controlled. When you are controlled, you become weak and sick and miserable. As a holistic psychologist, I know the source problem of anxiety, depression and other mental illness is from years of not turning to your authentic self for healthy, effective answers and solutions.

The reason you do not listen to your authentic self is because your parents taught you to be scared of so many things that are not really scary or dangerous. This is the definition of anxiety. Anxiety is being scared of things that are not really scary or dangerous. Real fear is when you are afraid of things that are really dangerous.

Anxiety is nothing weird or unusual. It is learned behavior that is maladaptive. Maladaptive means that it hurts you and does not help you. Anxiety keeps you from being self-confident, physically healthy and emotionally happy.

Your parents taught you to be scared of many, many things, people and situations that are not really dangerous or scary. It is not dangerous to stop waiting in long lines or reject the health advice of a physician or say no to your partner. As a matter of fact, you will be respected and valued much more when you are authentic because you are strong, self-confidence and sturdy.

Thank goodness you can unlearn any learned behavior that is not helpful for you. You are not stuck with your conditioning forever and ever. You can learn how to turn to your authentic self for vital energy, strength and courage any time of the day in any situation. Then your ineffective behaviors will become effective and powerful.

You just need to know the difference between what you learned and who you are so you can move rapidly toward holistic health and enjoy lots more vibrant moments. Otherwise you are confused, controlled and stuck.

Please share your comments about relaxing and being yourself below.

============================

NEED HELP? Learn to feel the difference between your learned behavior and your authentic behavior by developing energy awareness. Energy is also the way to know if you are experiencing anxious, which is unhelpful, or real fear, which is extremely helpful. The 3 hour audio, Opening the Heart, teaches you how to find, accept and follow your authentic self so you can move toward holistic health and vibrant moments. Discover your real self, learn the difference between fear and anxiety energy and become braver for only $97.00, fully guaranteed.

Read more and order:  http://www.drjeanette.com/emotionalhealthaudio.html

Bonus: Get a 15 minute e-mail session with me worth $50.00 for free when you order before Saturday, Oct. 19 and mention The Vibrant Moment.
===============================

BE YOURSELF WITH OTHERS: You have to be authentic before you can make love with another person. Making love is fun and playful. If you are a man who wants to improve your love making skills, take the home study course, “For Men: Become a Better Lover.” You need to love and be loved. 10 written lessons and 7 hours of audio, $199.97.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/becomeabetterlover.html

ENJOY MAKING LOVE: If you are a woman who wants to improve your relationship and sexual health, take the home study course, “Overcome Anxiety Naturally.” You learn to be comfortable with your authentic self so you open like a flower when it is emotionally safe to do so. 10 written lessons, 5 hours of audio, $149.97.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/anxietyonlinecourse.html

================================

NEED ASSERTIVENESS TRAINING?  Take an Assertiveness Training home study course that is top notch with the added benefits of holistic psychology principles and energy awareness.  Read more and order:  http://www.drjeanette.com/assertivenesstrainingcourse.html

=========================================

Personal Growth Tip: Celebrate Life and Death with Body, Heart and Soul

friendsFollow Doris Jeanette on Twitter: https://twitter.com/DorisJeanette

Be in the moment with your feelings and emotions.

 

 

 

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Be in the moment.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com

==========================

I just went to a funeral and had one of the best times I have had in my life with old and new friends. Amazing but true.

You have probably heard about the death celebrations, often attributed to the Native cultures, where the people left behind enjoy themselves instead of feeling so sad and blue. Most of us have never had a joyful death celebration. Well, I just did.

This funeral was a true celebration of our dear friend, Fran. She left behind a variety of interesting friends and beloved family who came together to say goodbye to her. Many of us cried and felt sad during the church service when we heard the beautiful music.

After the short and meaningful service, we walked outside into the bright sunlight and streets of Philadelphia. Her family had planned a fantastic sit down meal right next door to the church at a Center City Italian restaurant. This meant that we could all be together sitting around big round tables in comfort and style.

We spent two leisurely hours laughing, eating, drinking and sharing stories. It was a grand and glorious way to celebrate Fran’s death, life and spirit. We felt nourished, loved and grateful.

Let death be a true celebration of life, your life.

You are only here for a very short period of time. Yep, you don’t have that much time to be in the flesh. When someone you know dies, let it be a reminder that you need to live more fully.

I am talking to myself as much as to you. I just about did not go to this event today. Tuesday is my day to spend at least two hours writing this newsletter after my morning clients and before an afternoon tele-class. Wow, I am so glad I did not resist this event and let my “shoulds” dictate my day.

Ponder your life and choices.

Could it be that you need to spend some of your money on yourself and your desires and dreams? Do you need to take the time to relax in the middle of the day and do nothing? Do you need to stop everything and just be in the moment and sip your water while listening to a person you have never known before?

Being in the moment is the only way you can truly enjoy your life. Being in your head thinking about the future or the past does not satisfy the soul. Your soul needs to be nourished, fed and respected. Take time to listen to what your soul needs today and make sure you deliver the goods before you let a week go by.

Honor both life and death as they occur. Feel the experience in your body, heart and soul. Otherwise, your time on Earth will be over and you will have missed the reason you were born.

============================

THINKING TOO MUCH? If you worry too much to enjoy the moment, get the help you need to begin the process of taming your thoughts. Without obsessive thoughts you will be able to relax and have more fun. One hour personal growth audio, $29.97, money back guarantee.

Read more about order: http://www.drjeanette.com/tameyourthoughts.html

BONUS: Free audio, “Break the Grip of Anxiety: An Overview” if you order “Tame Your Thoughts” by Monday, Oct. 14. One hour, $29.97. http://www.drjeanette.com/anxietyaudio.html

===============================

ENJOY MAKING LOVE: Making love is fun and playful. If you are a man who wants to improve your lovemaking skills take the home study course, “For Men: Become a Better Lover.” Your body needs to love and be loved. 10 written lessons and 7 hours of audio, $199.97.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/becomeabetterlover.html

ENJOY MAKING LOVE: If you are a woman who wants to improve your sexual health take the home study course, “Overcome Anxiety Naturally.” You learn how to relax, stop thinking and get in your body. 10 written lessons, 5 hours of audio, $149.97.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/anxietyonlinecourse.html

================================

Stress, Anxiety Help: Have More Fun and Play in Nature

 

beach

 

Follow Doris Jeanette on Twitter: https://twitter.com/DorisJeanette/

Move and play in your body.

 

 

 

The Vibrant Moment – Remember: Have fun.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com
Live at the Edge: http://www.ladybuglive.com/edge.htm

==========================

What do you do for fun?
How often do you let go and play?

This free holistic psychology newsletter exists to show you how to have more vibrant moments.  Vibrant moments are when you stop thinking and drop down into physical reality. This means you get out of the mental thoughts in your head and directly experience the physical energy that exists inside and outside of your body.

Physical reality includes the:
1.  Field of gravity that keeps you safe and sound on planet earth.
2.  Trees that inhale your carbon dioxide and exhale oxygen for you to breathe.
3;  Space where all the other animals and insects breed, play and die.
4.  Ocean and sky.
5.  Body that you sit, walk and sleep in.

Mental Health Definition

The degree to which you are in physical reality is the degree to which you are mentally healthy.  The degree to which you live in your own, isolated mental thoughts is the degree to which you have some sort of so-called mental illness. This could be a small case of obsessive thinking, a need to be perfect or a huge case of psychosis.

A Fun Exercise

Letting yourself have more fun this week could help you enjoy more vibrant moments.  Having more vibrant moments improves your holistic and mental health. The idea is to trick yourself into letting go of control by paying attention to some physical activity that you really enjoy doing.

Also, make sure you do not continue to do the activity past the point where it is fun. Your sneaky ego often controls you by turning your fun activity into work!

So write down three physical activities that are fun for you. Nothing that feels like work or exercise, just fun. Then do the one that is easiest and most convenient.  Or if you have time and it is possible, do all three!

For example, I love to swim, dance and do artwork. My outdoor swimming pool just closed so I cannot swim a half a block around the corner anymore until next spring. Therefore, I have to find another fun activity to do or another place to swim. I could go dancing with some friends or I could dance in my own living room.

Since the weather is so glorious here in Philadelphia, I could go to the beach and swim in the ocean.  Ah, and there is that wet clay in my backyard that has been waiting and waiting for someone to pay attention to it. I could treat myself to putting my hands in the clay and have a great deal of fun expressing my soul’s desire.

Pick at least one fun physical experience and give yourself the free time to relax and enjoy doing it.  See if per chance you stop thinking and drop down into your physical energy.  If you do, take notice and return to this vibrant moment again and again.

============================

LIVE IN YOUR BODY: Your body knows how to play and have fun. Your body knows how to be healthy and strong. Drop down into your body and enjoy life. Order the audio “Hear Your Body Talking” to learn more about holistic health and mental health. One hour, $29.97.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/hearyourbody.html

=============================

HAVE FUN WITH DORIS:  Join a small group in the forest at the fall Nature Workshop near New Hope, PA.  You get to play with your own human energy, express your creativity and practice effective, assertive behaviors.  Near New Hope, PA, NYC and Philadelphia in the lovely fall trees.  Oct. 12, $200.00. Limited to 12 people to ensure you get what you need.

Sign up at:
http://www.drjeanette.com/natureworkshops.html

===============================

MAKE LOVE: Making love is fun and playful. If you are a man who wants to improve your love making skills take the home study course, “For Men: Become a Better Lover.” Your body needs to love and be loved. 10 written lessons and 7 hours of audio, $199.97.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/becomeabetterlover.html

MAKE LOVE:  If you are a woman who wants to improve your sexual health take the home study course, Overcome Anxiety Naturally.  You learn how to relax, stop thinking and get in your body. 10 written lessons, 5 hours of audio, $149.97.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/anxietyonlinecourse.html

================================

Please share this blog with anyone who is interested in learning how to be happy, healthy and effective. Smile.

==================================