Sexual Health Tip: Pleasure and Feeling Good is Best Holistic Health Medicine

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Relaxing in nature gives me a great deal of pleasure.

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The Vibrant Moment – Remember:  Feel Good.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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How often do you let yourself feel good?

Virginia Johnson, of Masters and Johnson fame, died at the age of 88 last week.  Reading the story of her life in the NY Times on Sunday sure did bring back some fond memories of being trained as a sex therapist at Temple Medical School in 1976.

1976 was a wonderful time to be alive and studying psychology on the East Coast.  Masters and Johnson had studied the physiology of human sexual behavior in a laboratory in Missouri. Their sex research was the basis of our training as sex therapists.

I had the physical facts:
1.  The size of the penis does not affect the pleasure a man can give a woman.
2.  Intercourse is not necessarily the best way to have an orgasm for a woman.
3.  A vaginal orgasm is exactly the same as a clitoral orgasm.
4.  Old people enjoy sex just as much as young people.
5.  Some women can have an orgasm without any physical stimulation at all.

At the Behavior Therapy Unit, we cured premature ejaculation in almost every man who walked in our door.  Premature ejaculation was easy to treat by reducing a man’s anxiety in the sexual situation. Using similar methods we dramatically improved every woman’s sexual response with and without a partner.

I became known as the sex therapist who was effective with the more difficult to treat erectile dysfunction clients and thus began my private practice. 1976 was an exciting time to be alive in Philadelphia, USA.

Controlling your body and emotions are in vogue in 2013.

In sharp contrast, today’s psychologists label you and physicians drug you for sexual problems, anxiety, depression and normal grieving.  Pleasure seems to be a no-no.  Feeling good seems to have gotten a very bad reputation.

Drugs diminish your feeling ability instead of enhancing your feeling ability. Medications impair your ability to have whole body, sensual, delicious orgasms. Please remember, sex is only one of several ways you can experience pleasure and have an orgasm.

If you want to enjoy more vibrant moments and holistic health in your daily life, stay away from drugs and medication. Drugs mask problems, cure nothing and stop you from feeling good.

Do you avoid pleasure in your daily life?

Notice how often you stop yourself from having pleasure this week. Little pleasures, big pleasures. Mental pleasures, body pleasures, heart pleasures.  If you do not let yourself feel good and experience pleasure, you are sure to become weaker and weaker until you get sick.

Before you know it, your mind wanders away, your behavior becomes addictive, your body atrophies and your heart attacks you.  All of these physical results are trying to get your attention. Your real self is screaming at you, “Let me feel good!”

You need pleasure to achieve holistic health, happiness and a sustainable future. Give yourself time every day to receive pleasure in any form. Choose your pleasures based on your personal needs and desires.

Tell me about your favorite pleasures and psychological blocks to feeling good below.

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Holistic and Mental Health Tip: Let Your Body and Energy Move

 

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Body inhibition starts at a very early age. Notice my little hands and face. I was not happy all dressed up for Sunday.  I felt out of place and was holding a great deal of energy back in my hands.

 

 

 

 

The Vibrant Moment:  Let Your Body Change.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
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What interesting body experiences did you have with the Change Your Mind Exercise last week?

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Rigidity is not natural.  Living in a box is not normal.

According to quantum physics, you never have to be stuck in anything.  The only way you get stuck is when you control yourself in such a way so that you are forcing yourself to stay rigid. Your own inhibition is what keeps you locked in a boring box.  Inhibition is learned behavior.

This means your brain has to work really, really hard to keep your body and your energy from doing what it automatically wants to do.  Your body and your energy want to move, change and rearrange all the time, all day long.  This natural movement of energy happens inside of every cell in your body and outside in every space around you if you do not actively DO SOMETHING to stop it from happening.

The negative result of trying to keep everything under control is a dramatic depletion of your energy.  Energy depletion is what makes you tired, sick and depressed.  You are using up most of your available energy just to keep yourself in a box.

This is in sharp contrast to using your available energy for fun, pleasure and accomplishing your goals in life.  Let this physical fact soak into your bones so you know how important it is to be aware of your own human energy in everyday life. You can change anytime you are ready to change. You can use the laws of physics to help you enjoy life more fully.

Ask yourself:
Do you really want to use your energy to stay in a box?
Or are you just conditioned to “not move” without the means to stop this from happening?

Since you have to exert a great deal of effort and energy in order to stay stuck in one form, one behavior, one identity, one ego, you can stop putting your energy in this direction.  If you stop controlling yourself and inhibiting yourself, you naturally become your best self.

All you have to do is learn to recognize when you are controlling yourself, when you are out of control and when you are in reality.  Then you have the means to shift out of rigidity when you want to do so. You can let go of control and enjoy the natural movement of reality.

You automatically move into a new place where something changes. It does not matter what changes. Any change is positive, good and healthy. Let your body and energy move.

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Natural Health and Wellness Tip: Use Quantum Physics and Metaphysics

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Greek Temples Elevated the Human Body, Heart and Spirit with Beauty and Knowledge.

 

 

The Vibrant Moment – Remember:  Seek Knowledge.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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Are you interested in the nature of reality?
Do you explore the essence of the world around you?

If so, you are interested in metaphysics. Metaphysics is a traditional philosophy that literally means that which follows physics.

Aristotle wrote 14 books on metaphysics during the time in history when seeking guidance at Delphi was routine practice.  The most educated leaders and generals respected the answers received from the Priestess of Apollo.

So much so that Alexander the Great made sure to visit Delphi, which is a lovely, peaceful place, before he left to go conquer the world. He was relieved and encouraged with the answers he received.  I am sure the energy from Delphi gave young Alexander extra self-confidence so he could follow his destiny.

Today if President Obama or Hilary Clinton visited a woman who received answers from Universal Energy about their next move, she or he would be considered ridiculous, superstitious and crazy.

However, common sense tells you that there has to be a great deal of information and knowledge that exists beyond your tiny, little conscious brain.  Scientists know for sure many universes exist beyond our planet and there are huge amounts of space in between the cells of your own human body.

Quantum Physics helps you understand the scientific nature of metaphysics.

Here are a few truths about Quantum Physics to help you explore the “stuff” that is in between the matter you relate to, the inner knowing that exists inside of you and the outer knowledge that you can tap into anytime you choose.

The Five Main Ideas of Quantum Physics:

1. Energy is not continuous, but comes in small, discrete units.
2. Elementary particles behave like both particles and waves.
3. The movement of these particles is inherently random.
4. It is physically impossible to know both the position and the momentum of a particle at   the same time. The more precisely one is known, the less precise the measurement of the other is.
5. The atomic world is nothing like the world we live in.
Source material at:  http://library.thinkquest.org/3487/qp.html

Another way to say this is that the real world is nothing like you think it is.  As a holistic psychologist, I can tell you this is exciting mental health news! Holistic health and vibrant moments are a definite possibility for everyone–no matter what.

What this means for you is that you:
1.  Can let go of your false beliefs about what reality is.
2.  Can let go of your conditioning about what you should and should not do.
2.  Perceive new, more helpful information directly from reality.
3.  Can change anything you want to change within the laws of physics and metaphysics.
4.  Have the power to affect matter and create new forms.

You do not have to hold on to what you think is true, because what you think is true is probably not true at all!  Or if it is true, it is only true because you continue to hold on to your false beliefs. This means you behave in such a way that you reinforce your rigid thoughts and make them come true for you.

Niels Bohr said, “Anyone who is not shocked by quantum theory has not understood it.”  Reality blows your mind.   Once your mind is blown, you can move away from your rigid thoughts into more effective, creative thoughts.

Change Your Mind Exercise

When something upsets you this week, write it down on a piece of paper.  Any problem or situation that you start obsessing about goes on your piece of paper.

After you write your problem down, then read it out loud. This is what you think is true. Next, say out loud, three times, “This can change.” “This can change.” “This can change.”

Notice how your whole body feels when you say, “This can change.”

Share your thoughts and feelings about quantum physics, reality, mental health, holistic health and metaphysics below.

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Depression Help: Sing the Blues to Keep Moving Through Your Grief and Grieving

whitelakeA fun time at White Lake, North Carolina

Notice the little girl playing with the water instead of looking at the camera. That’s me. My love affair with water began at an early age.

 

 

The Vibrant Moment – Remember:  Sing Your Blues.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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It seemed like nothing mattered anymore. I didn’t care if I went swimming or not, even though swimming is my favorite activity. I did not care what I ate, even though looking forward to delicious food and yummy tastes used to be a daily pleasure.

How often to you feel blah, blue or bored?

I mentioned two weeks ago that it is easy to get stuck in depression during the natural grieving progress.  Take note of the losses you have suffered recently that you need to grieve so that you can move forward instead of getting stuck in depressed energy.

Have you lost your:
Job?
House?
Partner?
Youth?
Health?
Freedom?
Best friend?
Beloved animal?
Beloved trees?

When grieving any type of loss, the natural process of feeling your authentic emotions takes many turns and twists until you begin to feel better and heal your heart.  Anywhere along the natural, normal stages of the grieving process, you can become blue, melancholy or depressed.

To heal your heart, you need to feel sad and not get stuck in depression.

This means you need to feel blue and keep moving through your grief as your emotional energy carries you along your own unique emotional healing process.

If you begin to feel melancholy, this means you are slowing down. If you are slowing down, this means you are inhibiting some of your authentic emotions and feelings as they surface.  If melancholy lingers too long, you are slowing down your energy so you become blah and stop enjoying life.

If you enter the mental health state called depression, you have inhibited your healthy emotional energy so much that you are stuck. Depression means you are not moving forward at all.   Depression is a dark, heavy state where you are numb and nothing matters.  You have stopped feeling blue and as a result you do not enjoy anything anymore.

Your vital emotions keep you moving forward in the natural grieving process.

The Indians call the emotional body, which is part of your energy field, the vital body.  This is because your vital body is full of colorful, strong, potent emotional energy when you are healthy and emotionally strong. When you are stuck in depression, your vital body is dark, grey and dense.

When you inhibit your healing emotions of grief you get stuck in depression.  Losses are natural and normal life experiences.  The feelings of sadness about your loss are also natural and normal no matter what medical authorities or friends tell you.

Give yourself permission to fully experience your loss.

Allow your grief and grieving to be natural and normal so that you heal your heart and become emotionally stronger.  When I noticed I was depressed, I decided to get back into my grief and grieving.  To help me get out of the dumps, I began to sing and hum the blues.

I put my comforting audio in my ears to help me stay in the hurt so I transformed my loss into more vital energy and aliveness.  Thank goodness, swimming is pleasurable again.

Please share your thoughts, feelings and feedback about grief and grieving, emotional health, the stages of grief, hurt and loss below.

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Transformation Tip: Fear is Good for You, Anxiety is Bad for You.

anxietyThe Vibrant Moment – Remember:  Feel your fear.
Tools from the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychologist
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A reader of The Vibrant Moment wrote me this week and asked a very important question about fear. Below you will find information about how to deal with fear effectively so that you do not live your life with regrets.

“Dear Dr. Jeanette,

I wanted to thank you for your Vibrant Moment newsletter. It always seems to deliver a key message that somehow manages to enlighten whatever I am going through in that moment.

I appreciate what you have written about peak performance and the importance of relaxing. I am wondering though how you approach fear? Sometimes I feel fear is so important. When I look back on my life, the most terrifying moments have also been the most rewarding. I do not ever regret doing a scary thing, but I often regret not trying a scary thing.

What role does fear play and how might we negotiate with it to go for what we want? Can it be useful or is it a hindrance? Can fear be positive?”

This question goes to the heart of why fear must be properly addressed if you want to enjoy more vibrant moments, relaxation, peace of mind, holistic health and peak performances.  You do not want fear to stop you from living fully, richly and with meaning and purpose.   However, if you deny your fear and pretend like you are not afraid, you fool yourself into thinking you are fine and you are not fine.

The authentic emotion of fear is always helpful, positive and good.

One of the major ways my new holistic psychology approach is different from others is that I teach you how to use fear effectively.  Fear is real and helps you move safely through real dangers so that you are on solid ground as you go along the pathway of transformation and personal growth.

Anxiety is not helpful, good or positive.

Anxiety is not the same energy as fear.  If you deny or exaggerate your fear, you upset your body and your emotional self so much you become anxious.  The more you deny or exaggerate your real fear, the more anxious you become.

Anxiety is an unhealthy response to any situation.   Anxiety is like static on the radio; it interferes with anything you do.  This is the reason your anxiety must be reduced if you want to experience peak performances and peak experiences.   You cannot make love, ace the putt or fulfill your dreams if you are anxious.  Anxiety tightens your body, making you physically and emotionally sick.

On the other hand, fear is your ticket to freedom, joy and getting what you want. This means you must learn to feel your real fear so you use its authentic energy to safely move toward your desired goal.  The title of the second hour of audio in my Opening the Heart series is called, “Fear: The Pathway to Freedom and Joy.” This title expresses the physical truth that the real energy of fear leads you directly and safely to that which you desire.

Making friends with your fear allows you to negotiate a safe pathway so you do what you want with your life with mastery and success.  If you deny or exaggerate your fear, you will not get what you want because you will be too anxious even if you think you are just fine.

Therefore, it is very important to feel your real fear because it keeps you safe so you know when you are secure enough to let go of control and enjoy whole body relaxation, peak performances and joy.

Please share your thoughts, feelings and feedback about fear, anxiety, holistic health and peak performances below.

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