Use James Holmes Tragedy to Improve Your Mental Health

grave.jpgThe Vibrant Moment – Holistic Health Tip: Clean up your mess.
From the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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In Aurora, CO, a fantasy movie gathering turned into a real-life nightmare when a mentally disturbed man named James Holmes began to shoot at people he did not know or care about.

I do not know enough about James Holmes and his mental health to make bold statements, however I do know that a person has to be in an unconscious state in order to kill another person.

Your heart has to be disengaged in order to harm someone or something. You have to not care for the period of time that you are scolding your child, hitting your partner or torturing a person. When you don’t care, you are unaware of your emotional feelings.

Many people have frequent periods of time during a typical day when they are unaware of their body, heart and feelings.  While most of us do not kill someone else or ourselves when we are unconscious, we can deliver a generous amount of emotional damage to ourselves and others.

How often do you scold yourself or someone else during the day? How often do you call yourself stupid, weird, selfish or narcissistic? Consider how many times you say negative things to yourself when you are not aware of it because you are not paying attention to your thoughts.

When a father lashes out in verbal abuse criticizing his child, he is reacting instead of feeling.  He is defensive and unconscious, instead of open and aware. He does not feel his body or heart.
He simply does not care enough about his son to protect him. He cares more about the fact that his son clogged up the garbage drain than he cares about his son’s feelings.

When a son grows up to be a James Holmes, it forces us to pay attention to what we need to be doing to improve our own mental health.  If you are experiencing a heightened sense of negative thoughts, having trouble sleeping and feeling out of balance, begin to clear away the destructive mess in your unconscious.

It is much easier to prevent mental health problems than it is to deal with acting out behavior, psychoses, suicides and mass murder.

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Relationship Healing: Equal Relationships Create Healthy Energy Flow Called Intimacy

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The Vibrant Moment – Holistic Mental Health Tip: Equal = flow.
From the Center for New Psychology
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If you didn’t take the relationship test last week, “How Equal Do I Feel,”  you might enjoy taking it now.

If you did take the relationship test and you have questions, send them my way.  A few people mentioned they were unable to tell if they felt equal, inferior or superior because they had strong feelings of empathy and gratitude toward the person, group or object.

I will explain what feelings of empathy mean so you can more fully understand what you experienced when you took the test.  The goal of the “How Equal Do I Feel” exercise was to help you become more aware of how you feel toward the different realities that exist in your world.

For you to achieve more vibrant moments, you need to become more conscious of how you are relating to your world.  How you relate to your world is extremely important to your success in intimate relationships as well as in business, finance and spiritual transformation.

When you do not feel equal to a person, a group or an object, you get one set of results. When you do feel equal you get another set of results.

When you feel inferior or superior to another person, there is no connection.  You miss the other person.  This means there is no intimacy.  Thus there cannot be any energy exchanged between you. The results are zero energy.

This simple physical fact explains the results you get in life.  When you do not connect with your world, you do not experience the benefits that are available to you, all around you, every minute of every day. Instead, you experience a lack, a void, a disconnection, nothingness.  So your life is ordinary and mundane, if not worse.

Therefore, the best relationship advice I could give you is to learn how to feel equal to others.  When you feel equal, you relate equal.  Then you will get dramatically different results.  You will connect with others.

When you connect, there is a strong energy exchange between you and your world. This energy connection is what makes you stronger, more resilient and successful in intimate relationships as well as in business, finance and spiritual transformation.

This means that when you feel empathy with a person, groups or object you are definitely feeling equal, not inferior or superior.  Instead of zero energy, you are connecting energetically with the other person, group or object.  This means you have plenty of exciting energy which will give you many vibrant moments of being alive.

This energy connection is called intimacy.  When you are intimate with someone, you have strong emotional feelings such as love, gratitude, desire and reverence.  These are just a few of the many benefits you receive when you relate equally to your world.

Let me know your thoughts, feelings and comments. Post them below.

Relate equal to create energy flow.

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Relationship Advice: Feel Equal, Relate Equally to All, Be Assertive

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The Vibrant Moment – Holistic Health Tip: Feel equal.
From the Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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How many people do you feel equal to?

Be honest with yourself. Do you really in your heart feel equal to most people?  Probably not.  Most people feel superior or inferior to others. Very few feel equal.

You have to feel equal before you can relate equally.  Your inability to relate equally to others could be the source of many of your relationship problems.

The New Psychology is based on equal relationships. This is one of the major ways the new, holistic psychology is different from the old, traditional psychotherapy.

In a traditional psychological relationship, the therapist is the authority. The therapist supposedly knows what is best for you, the client. The therapist leads the way. The therapist knows the answers. They feel superior to you. As a result, they relate unequally to you.

It is even believed by traditional therapists that they must keep a safe emotional distance from their client.  Could this be a way for a therapist to stay in control? Yes, it could. Could this superior position be a great place to hide for a therapist who is uncomfortable being intimate? Yes, it could.

The holistic psychologist who practices the New Psychology relates equally to clients. She knows that she is modeling appropriate, healthy relationship skills to her client at all times.  She knows that how she relates to her client is how the client is learning to relate to others.

This means the new, holistic psychologist is comfortable not being in control. She is comfortable being emotionally intimate.

Get to know yourself and how you feel toward others. Write these words down on a piece of paper.

1. My partner
2. My boss
3. My employee
4. A woman dressed in a fur coat
5. A man living on the street
6.  A university professor
7.  A disabled person
8.  A janitor
9.  A farmer
10.  Plants
11. Animals
12. Trees
13. God
14. Books
15. A rock

Feel each one and honestly note how you feel toward them. Put equal, inferior or superior beside each numbered category.  Take a good, long look at how you relate to your world.

If you want to be more powerful and successful, create equal relations with all.  Relating equally allows a healthy flow of energy to move back and forth between you. This healthy flow of energy is called intimacy.

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