Prevent Sexual Abuse by Catholic Priests and Coaches: Show Children How to Be Assertive

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The Vibrant Moment – Holistic Health Tip: Help prevent abuse
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Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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In the Philadelphia area this week we had two major sex abuse trials come to an end.  The priests in Philadelphia have been found guilty of sexually abusing our children for decades. This occurred and continues to occur with full permission from the Catholic bishops and Catholic cardinals.

Assistant Coach Jerry Sandusky was found guilty of sexually abusing the children in his own charity both at his home and on the campus at Penn State for decades. He also had permission to continue his behavior after it was brought before law enforcement officers and university officials years earlier.

All of these precious children are now adults. They were betrayed by their religion, school authorities, parents and conditioning.

The men who have been found guilty are only a tip of the iceberg.  Do not be surprised if you know someone who has sexually abused a child or is currently sexually abusing a child.

What can we do to stop sexual abuse?

After 35 years of successfully helping men and women who have been sexually abused reclaim their self-confidence, self-respect and sexuality, I have some answers.

Let’s look at how we are conditioned.

Did your parents:
1.  Give you the right to speak truthfully to them about sex?
2.  Encourage you to be honest about adults you did not like?
2.  Teach you to be polite and kind to everyone?
3.  Scare you into being submissive with adults?
4.  Tell you to obey priests and authorities?
5.  Teach you to follow orders?

Conditioning plays a huge role in sex abuse, not only for the victim, but also for the abuser and those that allow the abuse to continue.  None of the people involved in sex abuse are assertive.  They are scared and passive.

It may come as a surprise to you that the abuser is scared and passive.  Sex abusers are unable to have equal adult relationships.  That is the reason they prey on vulnerable children.

The bottom-line is that if your parents did not model assertive behavior for you, then you did not learn to be assertive.  You will respond as you were conditioned to respond.

What behavior do you model for your nephews, nieces and the children of the world? To stop sexual abuse, children need to see adults being assertive in real life events.

You could learn to be assertive no matter what you were conditioned to be.  As an adult, you can take courses and classes in assertive behavior. You do not have to be stuck with ineffective ways of being in the world.

Then you would model assertive behavior for all the children in your world.  One of them just might bump into a coach or priest who starts to abuse them.  They would have a positive, assertive image in their mind of how to get help and stop adults from hurting them.

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LEARN TO BE ASSERTIVE: Take the online course, “Stop the World From Pushing You Around: Six Weeks to Solid Self-Confidence.”  I just finished this assertiveness training course which is peppered with my new, holistic psychology point of view. Guaranteed, 47 page manual, six hours of audio, $149.97.

Read more and order:
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Grandmother’s Bullies Bullied at Home?

If you have not read about the verbal abuse a group of young children dumped on the 68-year-old grandmother on the school bus read about it at CNN with Anderson Cooper.

Bullying is learned behavior.  The 68-year-old grandmother who was bullied by insensitive children on the school bus where probably bullied at home.

The answer to overcoming bullying in our society is to teach our children how to respect, love and care about themselves so that they will respect, love and care about others. Then they will be assertive, not bullies.

Grandmothers, children and parents do not know how to be assertive and take care of themselves. They are passive or aggressive.  Bullying is a form of aggression, coming from a place of feeling powerless.

Assertiveness, on the other hand, comes from feeling powerful.  Assertive behavior is a spontaneous expression that is strong, brave, and courageous, and it comes from someone who feels self-respect.

The act of posting the video on youtube was an assertive act. The responses of compassion toward the Grandmother are acts of assertiveness.

For a more detailed definition of assertive behavior visit drjeanette.com

Relationship Advice: Be Assertive, Stand Tall, Learn Assertiveness

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The Vibrant Moment – Holistic Health Tip: Be assertive.
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Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com
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“My wife will not hug me anymore.”  “My partner does not pay any attention to me romantically, he has one excuse after another.”

These are the type of comments I often hear from my clients who are in relationships.  The love, sex and closeness fade away and people settle into a boring and mundane coexistence.  Or they get divorced, break up, are always fighting and one of them has an affair.

Prevention does not seem to be on anyone’s mind. When it comes to relationships, prevention is just as important as it is with your physical health.

You could prevent relationship problems by addressing them when they first occur instead of avoiding them or hoping they will get better.  As soon as you start to feel unhappy, accept this information as a signal.  This is a red flag message that could be heeded.

Addressing your issues in a relationship will empower you and make you feel better no matter what has happened or will happen in your relationship.

Instead of feeling helpless, get the help you need to face your problems.  One of the first and most powerful things you can do is learn to be assertive.

If you can be assertive in your relationship, you will get what you want and need. Your personal growth will pay off and you will be happy and fulfilled no matter what the other person does or does not do.

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LEARN TO BE ASSERTIVE: Take the online course, “Stop the World From Pushing You Around: Six Weeks to Solid Self-Confidence.”  I just finished this assertiveness training course which is peppered with my holistic psychology point of view. Guaranteed, 47 page manual, six hours of audio, $149.97.

Read more and order:
http://www.drjeanette.com/assertivenesstrainingcourse.html

Pay for your course online using a credit card or PayPal
or mail your check for $149.97 to
Doris Jeanette, 503 S. 21 St.
Philadelphia, PA 19146

Questions? Concerns?  Call 215-732-6197.

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Listen at:
http://www.ladybuglive.com/edge.htm

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Body Language Communication Skills Give You An Edge

Never too young or old to start reading body language.

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“How can you teach body language skills to someone on the
phone?” a member of my mentoring group asked.

I was a bit taken aback at this question.  However, after
a few seconds, I realized she was thinking that you could not
learn to SEE something in a medium where there is nothing
visual.  Perhaps you are also thinking it would be difficult
to teach body language on the phone for this reason.

Consider the fact that you have inner vision which you can use
at any time, anywhere for many things.  You can imagine,
remember and look to see what is there.  You can look to see
what was there, is there or could be there with your eyes
closed.

If I had to pick just one human potential skill that is
underutilized it would be your inner vision.

The US military had a project called Stargate, which used
remote viewing from the 1970s through 1995.  Remote viewing is
the ability to see without looking.  As we evolve we will be
learning how to use our inner vision to know much and do much.

For now, you can use your inner vision to learn body language.
So for the first class in body language you will be using your
inner vision, along with your body awareness and other senses
to see and feel the material I will teaching you.

After the class you will go out into the world with new eyes
and new ways of looking at people.  You will begin to notice
how people move through space.  You will see many things you
have never noticed before.

You will have fun as you begin to see with your eyes and senses
open.  You will observe the multitudes of non-verbal
communications that are bouncing all around you.  And if you do
know someone who is blind they probably already know how to
read body language without looking.

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LEARN TO READ BODY LANGUAGE: Sign up for a one hour
tele-class, “An Introduction to Body Language” for personal
and professional development.  This tele-class will give you
the basic information you need to begin to observe people
accurately.  If there is enough interest, we will follow this
class with a four week body language tele-course over the
summer or in the fall.

Sign up for  “An Introduction to Body Language” tele-class,
Monday, June 18 at 6:00 PM, ET. Get the recording even if
you cannot attend the live event. $29.97.

Read more and sign up:
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Questions? Concerns? Ask me by hitting reply or
call 215-732-6197.

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Psychology Mentoring Program to learn more about
body language, human energy and ways to read people.
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you need to improve your clinical and business skills.

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A Non-Verbal Communication Skill for Professional Development: Learn Body Language

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The Vibrant Moment – Holistic Health Reminder: Be alert.
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Publisher: Doris Jeanette, Holistic Psychology Mentor, Coach
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Psychological research has found that almost 80% of the
communication between people is nonverbal. There is even
a Journal of Nonverbal Communication being published in
California.

This means the most valuable communication skill you could
possess is the ability to read body language. Body language
is real and this concrete data is here to be reckoned with
as long as you are in the physical plane.

Just image how much it would help you in your life if you
paid more attention to body language.   Your communication
with others would dramatically improve.  You would have a
definite advantage over your competitors no matter what
business you are in.

Reading body language will give you a definite edge in
your personal and professional life.  For example, if you
are a psychologist, holistic health coach or massage
therapist, just think of all the benefits you would gain
from being able to read body language.

Body language cuts through to the bottom line immediately
so you can help your clients move forward more quickly
and effectively.

Benefits of Reading Body Language

You know instantly without words:
1. When your client is in a bad mood.
2. When he is defensive and closed.
3. When she is open and loving.
4. When he is depressed or anxious.
5. The moment he relaxes and feels better.
6. The moment she tightens up and feels sad.
7. How secure he really is no matter what he said.

A skillful massage therapist or holistic health
practitioner can use body language feedback to adjust
their touch, change the topic, hold back what they were
going to say or take another approach.

There are not many people who can read body language and
there are not many qualified places to learn how to read
body language.

You could be one of the first to learn this valuable
communication skill and use your knowledge to create
better results in your personal and professional
relationships.

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LEARN TO READ BODY LANGUAGE: Sign up for a one
hour tele-class, “An Introduction to Body Language”
for personal or professional development.  This
tele-class will give you the basic information you
need to begin to observe people accurately.  If there
is enough interest, we will follow this class with a
four week body language tele-course over the summer
or in the fall.

Sign up for  “An Introduction to Body Language”
tele-class, Monday, June 18 at 6:00 PM, ET. Get
the recording even if you cannot attend the live
event. $29.97.

Read more and sign up:
http://www.drjeanette.com/bodylanguage.html

Pay for your class online using a credit card
Or paypal
Or  mail your check for $29.97 to
Doris Jeanette, 503 S. 21 St.
Philadelphia, PA 19146

Questions? Concerns? Ask me by hitting reply
or call 215-732-6197.

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Professional Development:  Join the Holistic
Psychology Mentoring Program to learn more about
body language, human energy and ways to read people.
Classes and discussions take place online and on
the phone.  For as little as $69.00 a month, get
the help you need to improve your clinical and
business skills.

Read more and sign up:
http://www.drjeanette.com/mentorprogram.html

Questions?  Email me at drjeanette@drjeanette.com
or call 215-732-6197.

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