Anxiety Missing? New Year Resolutions for Relaxation

See yourself at the end of 2008:

Looking in the mirror you see a difference between last and this year. You are proud of yourself and feel all warm inside because you have less anxiety.  You look much more relaxed.

You did take action and you got results. You feel good and look strong, happy and secure in the mirror.

You know you deserve to be strong, happy and secure.

Now it is the beginning of 2008:

If your physical body and emotional body do not reflect back to you
–a big difference from the body and emotions you had last year–
this means you are not becoming stronger.

Each year needs to be a step forward toward your purpose in life.

Self improvement is not permanent until your physical body reflects
changes in the mirror.

You may think you have changed, but if you cannot see a difference in
the mirror, the energy is not there. You must see your body
radiate out more love and light when you look in the mirror or
you have not changed.

In addition, you want to feel better, not just look better!

Take a loving look at yourself in the mirror.

Do not waste your precious life another moment in
mundaneness and ordinary consciousness.

You have innate talents, skills and abilities
which need to be used for the highest good.

If you are not using them, they are being wasted.

Emotional health is not achieved until your body relaxes to
allow more vibrant energy to flow though your flesh.

You are incarnate after all!

The way to get more juicy energy flowing
through your body is to let go of old, thought patterns,
false beliefs, projections and conditioned responses.

Then peak experiences and vibrant moments happen au natural.

Your body reveals the truth about your thoughts, feelings and emotions.
Your body does not have the ability to lie. Listen to
“Hear Your Body Talking” for more information.

Review this last year with love, laughter and kindness toward the self.

Do not judge what you see.
Judgment takes you nowhere!

Review 2007, without judgment.
Order the Cd on Judgment and Guilt
to shift out of judgment into self acceptance.

Amp up your life with some serious self improvement
so you are stronger next January.

Specific suggestions:

1. Follow the free advice available on the internet radio shows,
in the library at Live at the Edge. If you take action on the suggestions,
next year this time, you are sure to notice a huge difference in your
body and feelings when you look in the mirror.

2. Let something touch your heart and soul. A person, a moment,
a color, a feeling, a sound. Be open to being affected. Open your
heart and energy field–really…
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3. Take action on the things you read in The Vibrant Moment newsletter.
Don’t just read about something, do something. Order something,
buy something, take action. Get education in the areas you need to
know more about so you succeed. Use any of these Self help products to
become stronger, happier and more secure.

4. Use your mind to set in motion this year’s intentions.
Imagine your desires, see them and put some energy behind them.
Energy follows intentions.

Become your authentic, real, vibrant self.

Doris

Doris Jeanette, copyright, January, 2008

Doris Jeanette, Psy.D. is a licensed psychologist with 30 years of experience
helping people self actualize. If you need a speaker, coach or consultant
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Family Stress, Holiday Blues?

Unpleasant Family Interactions, Stress and Holiday Blues…..

are due to experiencing yourself as controlled by outside factors,
family members, guilt or judgment.

How much attention do you pay to how you control yourself?

If you want to be secure, joyful and have more fun–pay attention
to how you control yourself.

The following information about control is taken from the
ebook, “Opening the Heart.” To get the whole package in
ebook form or audio, click on this link and order tapes, cds or
ebook.
Your ego will never ruin your fun again!
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Control is anything you use to avoid reality at any given moment in time.
You may have the best intentions in the world, such as becoming healthier
and happier, and still end up controlling yourself.

For example, if you are in therapy or some healing process, you might say
to yourself, “I have to heal myself. I have to become healthy. I have to
do it this way, to do it the right way.”

You end up doing the things you “should” do or are “supposed” to do,
to heal yourself. Whether your goal is to be more spiritual, or to control
your diet, or control your exercise. The result is you are making yourself
be a certain way. You are in a state of unhealthy control when you must
exercise a certain way or eat in a certain way.

You begin to recognize control by the energy behind your words, actions
and behaviors. You cannot recognize control by the content. The content
is full of lies, which your ego tells you. Words lie. Energy does not.

This is the reason I teach you to pay attention to your
energy and to learn to tell the difference in healthy energy and controlling
energy so you can stand in your power with your family and friends.

For the rest of this article taken from “Opening the Heart” visit modernsage.com.
I am an expert at modernsage.com. Please ask me a question on their web site
and I will answer it in the next newsletter.

Enjoy your holidays by freeing yourself from control.

Stand in your power with family and friends.

For an empowering article and radio show for
Singles on How to Enjoy the Holidays visit Live at the Edge.

Keep warm, love yourself and laugh,

Doris Jeanette

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Is It Healthy Emotional Flow or It Is Unhealthy Ego Control?

Excepted from ebook, Opening the Heart, Chapter 1, Feelings: The Source of Authentic Love. Available at http://www.drjeanette.com/tapes.html

Let me say more about control so you begin to see control for what it is. Control is anything you use to avoid reality at any given moment in time. You may have the best intentions in the world, such as becoming healthier and happier, and still end up controlling yourself.

For example, if you are in therapy or some healing process, you might say to yourself, “I have to heal myself. I have to become healthy. I have to do it this way, to do it the right way.”

You end up doing the things you “should” do or are “supposed” to do, to heal yourself. Whether your goal is to be more spiritual, or to control your diet, or control your exercise. The result is you are making yourself be a certain way. You are in a state of unhealthy control when you must exercise a certain way or eat in a certain way.

You begin to recognize control by the energy behind your words, actions and behaviors. You cannot recognize control by the content. The content is full of lies, which your ego tells you. Words lie. Energy does not.

Control is a mechanism you use to force yourself to go too fast or too slow. Or in a certain direction you don’t really want to go. You begin to notice control by the feel of the energy and not by the content.

Your ego may say to you,” Let’s go swimming tonight.” You think to yourself, “Do I feel like going swimming tonight? “ Your ego says, “You know how much you love to go swimming.” “Yes, I love swimming more than anything else in the world.” Yet, when you pay attention to yourself, you notice, “ I don’t feel like going swimming tonight.” The ego insists,” Oh yes, you do!”

As you can see, the way you control yourself can be very subtle and insidious. Begin to notice your ego by its controlling energy so you stop letting it ruin your life. Another example is when you pretend your feelings are not hurt when they really are hurt. Or you pretend you are not afraid, when you really are afraid.

In addition, you can exaggerate you are more upset than you really are. You can react to something as if it was the worst thing in the world and it really isn’t the worst thing in the world. You just act like it is the worse thing in the world. This is your ego over reacting.

When I was developing an equal and loving relationship with my mother, she turned whatever I bought up to her about my past hurt feelings against herself. She said, “Oh, what a terrible mother I am. What a horrible mother I was to you,” which, of course, was not true. I was not saying she was a terrible mother, I just wanted to express how I felt to her and be listened to. My mother’s behavior completely avoided the real situation with me.

What I needed was a real mother to relate to me as a real child. When my mother attacked herself, she was copping out on me. She was not taking responsibility for herself. She was saying what a terrible mother she was, instead of meeting me as an equal and dealing with how I had felt hurt and betrayed by her.

My mother did not say, ”I didn’t know you felt this way. I am sorry. Let’s deal with this. Let’s relate to each other and come to know each other.” Thanks goodness, we were able to cry together and see each other’s point of view in a year or so.

Healthy emotional flow is the result of resolving your past hurts and traumas. You achieve health by giving up control. Instead, accept and be your real self. Your real self has plenty of vital, colorful energy flow. More than enough, to jump up and down, with joy.

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Doris is a licensed psychologist with 30 + years of experience helping people love more, feel better and self actualize. She is pioneer in creating a new psychology which embraces healthy emotional and physical energy flow as sign of mental health, emotional health and physical health. For more tips and tools sign up for her free weekly newsletter: http://www.mcssl.com/app/join.asp?MerchantID=61376